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Any /adv/ice to deal with depression? This week has been especially trying -- unwanted revelations deciding to come to light during one of my more demanding weeks, only adding onto my stress and furthering my depression. I want to take time off from uni, but my parents are so uptight about status and school (maybe because they came from the typical "from rags" Mexican family) that they'll cut me off if I even take a single day for myself. I can't even focus on my assignments because my head is just filled with conflicting thoughts and emotions.

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Im a very calm guy, 19yo, studying economics at uni... im somewhat sociable when im outside, i laugh and everything as normie like as i can, feels very natural, i do snap from time to time; when i go back home, i become a totally different person,dont want to talk to anyone, feel exhausted from all the acting ive been doing during the day at the uni, i dont really like other people but feel the need to have them for later use(assistance with studies or anything else), i used to suffer mild deppression when i was a kid, i remember one day i felt like a bitch and now im like this, it might sound very edgy but i do want others to suffer, i like it when they do.

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Is it possible to run away to the ghetto and sell drugs and sleep on floors?

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I wanna become a police officer on, anyone that is one/has been one or knows anything that might be good to know? Am I making the right choice? And what should I do to go about it (in my last year of school and eventually want to become a detective)

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Hello everyone! I am looking for advice because of a post that was recently shared from Dailywire.com. They have made a high school band (that I was apart of) that was trying to diversify the music selection in their band by choosing black composers AND composers of other races racist! They claim that the band is racist because they chose to use black composers in their repertoire. The news site twisted the words of the band director and claims how he is a racist against whites for choosing only black composers (keep in mind that the director is white himself). This article is ruining the reputation of a wonderful school and I would appreciate any advice on how to help them and possible get the article removed. I have the DailyWire article down below and the original article that was featured by NPR as a praise for the bands choice. Dailywire: http://www.dailywire.com/news/13631/school-band-wont-use-music-white-composers-robert-kraychik NPR: http://www.npr.org/sections/ed/2017/02/18/509133975/why-this-high-school-band-is-only-buying-music-from-composers-of-color

Please if theres anything that I, or You can do to help expose these liars, please help. Thank You.

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Why do we turn to such a morbid and unstable place in the internet? Why did we turn to the Internet at all? Is it because we believe we have a purpose to serve something or someone? and the only way to get an idea or your emotions out is by using the one thing that can connect millions? I'll never really understand. I myself am one who looks for new things in life. It's funny, because most of the great things discovered were not shared to millions, only to the people around that discovery. We lose a little bit of what we were meant to do with the internet. You see something and you become discouraged and instead of building on it you give up because someone else thought of it. No great person thought of if another person had already taken their idea when they came up with it. Instead they ask how can I make it better if in fact it already exists. Even so, why ponder on if it exist in the begining if we thrive in advancement? If you can get so far as to thinking of it that you need to stop yourself and think of the negatives then are you truly advancing? Maybe I'm just crazy, but I'm tired of the Internet. I'm tired of people in general. We are not so great anymore. We have become a hermit of our true selves. A thing that craves attention yet fears it when it is time for it. This is where ideas die, where ideas, where humility idolized, where pride is protected but morals cast of, And It is all in the wrong place. For such a rich and plentiful area of existence, it has become the biggest graveyard of the human population. I guess being a hypocrite is needed sometimes.

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Doing an audition for this in two days. I need a song with a karaoke version with a similar feel to those of the musical, but I can't actually be from the musical. What do you guys recommend?

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When the manufacturer replaced my hard drive, they kept the old one to wipe and recycle. (I got a discount if I let them do this.)

Are they going to find all my horrible fetish porn when they do this?

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So I met this girl or should I say woman (she's 32) two months ago on okc. Shes kind of amazing and everything ive ever dreamed of. Shes beautiful, wants a lot of sex, reminds me how much she likes me all the time and texts me constantly about how she misses me, and cant wait til the next time we can be together. She's a dream come true for me and i cant believe i met her on a shitty dating site like okc. i never expected i would find the perfect girl for me and so easily but it's happening and its surreal.

We both have kids but here's the thing that sucks. Her son's dad is dead and he's only two. She was upfront with me about how she's been grieving his death since it happened two years ago, right after the kid was born. There's posts on her fb from the past two years clearly showing it took her a long time to get over his death, and the dead day's family is a big part of her and the kid's lives.

The worst part is she's been talking about the kid to me a lot and how she wants me to meet him and sending me pics of him and everything. She hasn't met my daughter yet, but I've tried to make it clear that I've got my own parental responsibility but at the same time there's something telling me that its an important thing that she's looking for in the relationship. I don't want to be this kids dad, and that's what it would be if things got serious because I would be the kids only father figure. I don't know what to do because I'm in love with her, but I don't know if I want to take all that on. For one thing the dead dads family are the opposite of me. They are rich and super religious and kind of stuck up according to her so they're going to hate me. I also fear meeting her family for a lot of the same reasons.

Am I over thinking or getting ahead of things? Maybe she doesn't want me to replace the dead dad but its really starting to feel that way.

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Should I stay single for life because I am unable to love myself? I have had treatment resistant depression for 15 years, have been through three therapists and eight medications.

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Hey guys, I don't come to advice very often, but here it goes.

So, I've been married for almost 5 years, with 1 kid with her (she is easily the best part of my marriage). We got married pretty quick, within less then a year, mainly because I'm in the military, and I knew I loved her. I didn't want to lose her, so I just went for it.

Anyways, here we are and we have this fairly consistent set of motions we go through. I say something that I feel is taken out of proportion, she gets defensive, and she goes quiet.

She will leave the house, sleep downstairs, or just basically stay away from me without letting me know what is up. So naturally, this is very frustrating for me, as I just want to fix the problem and move on.

The other night, we were talking about what would happen if we did divorce in regards to our kid. Basically we both agree no courts would be involved, which is good. But she came across as that she would be "allowing" me to see her whenever she wanted to.

I pointed out I didn't really appreciate that wording, and that we are both her parents, not just her as in the mom, you know? I don't say things in an attack kind of way, as I'm pretty quiet for the most part.

But she took that as that's what I thought of her, like she was that low. That's not what I meant, at all. So she disappeared that night, and I confronted her about it all, as I'm more of a quiet but explode when past my breaking point kind of guy. I basically demanded her to tell me what is going on, and I was yelling pretty damn loud outside the house while she smoked.

She still refused, and obviously got mad at me for blowing up like that. Today, she still didn't really say much of a word to me. I just tried to keep it cool, and not press it. So here we are, and I just got this really shitty feeling in my gut, like this time it isn't going to work out, you know?

Anyways, I can provide more backstory if needed, just let me know what you all think of the situation.

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I am constantly reminded that I live with morons but I couldn't feasibly do what I am doing and also make a living enough to become independent of said morons, especially since what I'm doing is training to become employable in the first place. Is there anything I can do besides learn to grin and bear it until I finish the program in a matter of months?

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I know this get asked very often here.
but How do one enjoy life again?

I'm 26 this year.
I have no goal in life,
nor am i in a good state in life.

I don't enjoy life at all.
it seems to me everybody is doing some kind of escapism from this meaningless life.
they tried to fulfill their life with materialism.
or they try to convince themselves they are meaningful and impactful in this world.

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Two nights ago the girl i love told me she loved me, so of course i responded with an I love you too. Last night we did nothing but talk all mushy to eachother and swap compliments. Didn't get a message from her until 3pm today which is kinda odd, then at like 9 she removed me as a friend from her snapchat. I'm so confused as to what she's thinking, did I fuck up?

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I had faith in girls after I met my friend, I thought she was different, I thought she could make me believe not all girls are attention based creatures who only follow people who increase their own popularity. Turns out I was wrong, she fell madly in "love" with a guy who's popular on the Internet and looks good. They had nothing in common but she claimed they were perfect, all she would do is brag about him and snapchat about them and all this shit. Turns out he cheated on her like 2 months in. I now have without a doubt and fully believe that all girls care about and the main factor for finding a boyfriend is the image they have. If your famous then all girls just want you to say hey you know that famous guy? Yeah we're dating. Like it even got to the point I saw her texts online one time at her house and she was talking to a new guy saying how she was the popular guys ex and how she can get autographs if he wanted. Like totally blew me away seeing how wrong I was about her