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>>18087318
what kind of age gap are we talking about here?

>>18087318
She is going with her friends. Stop spazing pedo.

She'll let you have your way when you graduate too bud. Hang on tight :)

>>18087313
You must be over 18 to post here.

That said. Talk to counselor at school or google kids help phone for advice.

>>18087313
jesus christ tell someone. Someone at your school probably has training on how to handle this.

>>18087313
You might want to try to figure out the possibilities of what's going to happen or who is going to take care of you should the police or child protective services get involved. You do NOT want to go into the foster care system.

Your mom's behavior is a big problem though, and it's not something that you are likely to be able to deal with on your own.

It's very possible that you're going to get banned here. You might want to ask for help on another advice forum like reddit's r/relationships.

>>18087311
>What do you do when you've noticed how boring and repetitive life is?
Do something different. Get on a bus and visit somewhere for a day. or take up a new hobby. Humans naturally get depressed if their live gets stale.

Move over here to Brazil then. You'll never complain about boredom again, in one way or the other.

Do something different? Get a new hobby?

>>18087299
http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

>>18087299
make a kick ass sandwich. Or do some craft, lift or shit.

Basically throw yourself into something to keep your mind busy. Its the tried tested and true method.

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OP, please remember that your brain is an organ. In addition, your feelings are a series of chemicals reacting to your thoughts.

Please try your best to stay mindful of your thoughts. Grow them like a little flower. Try to cultivate them. Eventually your thoughts will grow into the shape you desire. Yes, it will take a lot of time. Yes, it will be hard. However, you'll eventually bloom and you'll have more life in your heart and soul.

I followed Buddhism for a while. It's correct if you apply it as a philosophy. They say to spend time observing your thoughts, and then let them go without judgement...I don't do it that way if I have a problem like yours, OP. Suicide is serious. If I find myself thinking about something I don't want to think about, I say "NO' out loud or in my mind as loud as I can. Then I consciously change the direction of my thoughts to something more pleasant.

Honestly, this advice change my life. I spent a lot of time learning how to apply this skill, and it has worked wonders for my mental health. When I was 15-17 I almost killed myself, I was very close to it. I had the pills ready, and everything was put into place. I never did it because I tried to find a new dream, and force my mind into the direction of my new dream. I believe in you, OP.

Don't they sell like $20 burner phones in pharmacys? I have no idea about personal info associated thougg

>>18087283
not sure, I will check it out though

>>18087272
If you need user-to-user anonimity, download burner app and enjoy.
If you want to do something illegal, don't. But buy a burner phone, they're not so hard to find. In most countries.

it's like it's 2010 all over again
it'll pass in time, just keep it out of your mind
i was convinced when i first watched 2 girls 1 cup at 13 that i had ruined my brain forever lol

>>18087229
not even 2010 man mr hands happened in 2005

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>>18087211
Am I on the right 4chan?

I used to smoke weed and drink, stopped thinking it would make me happy, 5 years later, now I just have nothing to calm me down and it sucks ass

>>18087145
make other people happy.

>>18087149
i don't really like other people
>>18087148
that stuff never really calmed me down anyway so i don't regret quitting. it's been about 5 years for weed and 2 for alcohol

I think it's called autogenyphilia. I don't recall if that's exclusive to people who think themselves as the opposite sex or not though.

I have fapped to videos of my dick before, or got turned on just looking at myself masturbating, so I'd say it's common.

>>18087123
googled that, and it's the attraction to yourself if you were the opposite sex, yes. not what i'm feeling i don't think.

i don't know. i like to feel sexy. i wear tight clothes, i bend over teasingly when i'm in public (every girl i've been with has said I have a really nice butt). when i'm with girls i like to put on a show a little bit. i'll take pictures of myself and get turned on by my own body. when i'm jacking off, i'll touch my body. never finger-in-ass stuff, i'll just like fondle myself. i don't know if that's weird or not

>>18087146
>Never seen a girl play with her own tits

Don't worry man, we're all turned on by ourselves to some extent

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>>18087027
You look tired thats all

Take vitamin D3 pills, 1,000 IU every couple of days

Less booze
Less smokes
More nutrients in your food
Less greasy/carbs like pizza

2-3 weeks you'll look much better.

Also you're pretty cute already.

I've got a fleshlight I love.


Definitly curious about this line also.

>>18087021
>onahole
If they made one of those which could cook my wife would be fucking homeless in an instant

>>18087021
/jp/ has a general for onaholes with a handy FAQ. Check it out.

Psychiatrist does what you are looking for. Therapist does what you do not.

>>18087008
>I don't want to sit on a couch and talk about my problems

That's not really how it works. The psychologist (very probably a psychologist at first and not a psychiatrist) is way more trained at picking out your symptoms than you are, and that's going to take some sitting on a couch and talking. after some sessions (probably like 2-3 tops for insurance reasons) the psychologist is going to have a diagnosis.

IF that is something that needs medication, then you'll go to a psychiatrist for the 15 minute meeting you're hoping for, since the psychiatrist is the one doling out meds, and they usually don't have the time to see everyone they need to see all the time. Usually you'll be on meds and see the psychologist once a week or month as you adjust to them, and psych meds take about 2-3 weeks to even see if they have an effect, since they're basically magic and we have no clue how they work. so you need regular appointments. Especially since the bad side effects of some of these meds include your problems getting way worse or you wanting to kill yourself or others.

Hope this helps.

>>18087028
>usually don't have the time to see everyone they need to see all the time
for the long drawn out weekly meetings for diagnosing, that is.

>>18086980
as a psychology student I can tell you that psychology itself doesn't know how to help you yet.

That being said, as a veteran hitchhiker I can advise getting some completely new perspective in life. New experiences, especially new people. At some point you may come across a person you won't be able to disasseble this way, and it may make you find another way of interacting with them.
Or possibly they may offer you their way of seeing things

>>18087050
I have met quite a broad range of people, and shared my inner workings, cards openly on the table style, but to no avail, it emphasizes the disconnect, being fundamentally opposed or disconnected from that kind of mindset, out of reach, it leaves me with an affirmative bitter taste which turns to disdain and a sense of hostility or alienness if I let that go unchecked and don't just put it out my mind.
The problem with perspectives of others is that no matter what, it can always be reduced to either a strength or a weakness, the primordial perspective is transcendent over all, the value template is always there no matter how it is filled in, not everything can be solved or relegated into a matter of perspective, no matter what, it will have vulnerabilities unless it values nothing.

Do you think changing the environment completely for a life alone on the road for a while might be good? Perhaps force myself out of my own control and away from any lasting social interaction, only transient encounters.

>>18087129
I don't really have enough context to advise pro or against any drastic measures. It may help, indeed. It definitely managed to change my view of many things in life. The advantage was, that I always had to rely on other people - I've thus seen them valuable, strong and kind to me. Thus I could always trust them and value them.
Remember that you haven't tried every possible worldview at this point. There still may or may not be a person you won't be able to cope with using your tools.

There is a situation that comes to my mind:
I have always been ruled by my head. What my brain wanted was being done, what the body needed could be neglected at any time for any period. I loved (and still love) absolute control. For the same reason - even though I tried them - I don't like drugs.
Anyway - when I was 19 or 20 yo I accidentally
came into my gf (falling condom issue). While the problem was being processed and we were looking for a solution (neither of us wanted to have a child at that point), I got invited by my friend to join some yoga workshop in the mountains. I was really depressed heavily all the time then.
I was ordered to perform some kind of exercise I didn't knew how to complete. The teacher told me then:
"no, anon, it won't be the way you want it. You will bow your head." I did and it worked.
That experience broke me, but in a positive sense. I've seen then that there indeed may be a situation in one's life, with which they aren't able to cope using their usual ways. It has taught me some humility. Since then I managed to feel better.


So some experience of this kind may prove very beneficial and if you are willing to try it I see no harm in this. Just remember, that if you try and achieve nothing it doesn't necesserily mean this approach is wrong.


That being said, keep in mind - your case is way more severe then mine. It very well may be you have some kind of mental condition with which only a doctor may help you.

>>18086959

id honestly kick him out and say that you spoke to the landord and since hes not on the lease, that he will evict you, but you convginced the landlord to give him thirty days notice.

then find a new roomie or two.

you could also consider saying 'ill float you this ONCE but you need to sign this sublet agreement (which says he will have thirty days to leave if he cant pay rent by the first of a month) and that you will also orgnaize his finances for him.

if he cant agree just kick him out

>>18086959
>What should I do?
ask him calmly to shape up, give him a 2 months to do so, if he doesn't, give him 30 days notice to vacate.

I don't want to be a downer, but he has rights, unfortunately. You can skipp the giving him time to shape up and go straight to the notice to vacate if you want, but in the US you very probably in most states have to give him the 30 days. You may need to go to the city hall for an official document.

>>18086970
during the 30 days you'd be looking for a new roommate, obviously.

I had the really crazy dreams. I hate prozac.

>>18086933
my experience was the opposite, i was on a couple different types of antidepressants (including prozac at one point) and i just felt overly tired and sluggish all the time. 12 hour sleep cycles, etc. apparently feeling sleepy is pretty common, i dunno about anxiety attacks though, so i'd definitely bring it up to your doctor next time you see them, they'll probably be willing to switch you to a different medication.

this are all pretty average side effects. almost all of them have them in the warnings (mine even includes "uncontrollable bowel movements"). i get pretty bad jitters, talk rapidly a lot, and typically sleep in 2-3 hour cycles 3 or so times with gaps between them.

i think it's worth talking to your doctor about, but it's worth considering how it affects you and if you've tried other meds and this one otherwise works for you. chances are you might swap and it'll do the same thing and you might get meds that won't. i would definitely talk to your doctor because they might be able to adjust the dosage. if it otherwise works be really adamant about it.

good luck, man.

Just print out your bank statements man, holy fucking shit.

>>18086854
What good would that do?

>>18086868
It proves that you never received your mom's life insurance money.