I need some advice on something somewhat childish.
My brother and I are roomies on an apt., each one's got a room for our own. Our uncles got us a Roku (a streaming device for non-smart TVs; like a Chromecast or Apple TV) for both of us.
We have no living room TV, so the thing has to go on either of our rooms. I offered my brother buying a Chromecast for myself, he would pay ONLY 33% of it and then he could keep the Roku for himself, but he said he wasn't willing to spend so much on it and rather share.
The thing is that he uses this shit too much, and he's suggesting that whenever one of us wants to use it we have to go to the other's room to unplug it and shit... just because he wants to save some buck. And not just that, it's not his case, but in my room the outlets for the TV are on the fucking ceiling, so each time I'd like to plug/unplug the thing I'd need to go get a ladder.
I have two options but none of them are fair:
>A) Buy the Chromecast myself and he keeps the Roku for free
>B) Accept to do what he suggests and get fucked
What the fuck do I do?
If you're that bothered just buy yourself a chromecast
Then the chromecast is yours. But the roku still belongs to the both of you so you can still go and steal it back half the time and he can't complain unless he pays towards the chromecast
The obvious thing to do would be to pay half each for a new one and then keep one each.
>>18090392
>purposefully go steal the Roku just to mess with him
You're technically right. But just because my brother can be an ass, doesn't mean I enjoy being one.
>>18090394
That's what I offered him! I even told him he only had to pay 1/3 of the price and still said no.
Hey guys I think my roommate might have depression.
We're not friends or anything but I feel bad for him. I tried talking to him when the school year first started in September but all of the conversations were shallow and anytime I said something of substance he didn't have any response. As far as I can tell, he doesn't talk to anyone on campus and stays in all weekend, every week.
Full disclosure: I don't want to be his friend. He is actually super weird. Only showers every 2-3 days. Wakes up early and sits at his desk on his phone with the lights out. Chews with his mouth open and smacks his lips together so I have to wear headphones if he's eating anything. Turns off the TV when I come back to the dorm, even if it's just sports on. He makes these odd noises a lot, almost as he's clearing his throat and saying something under his breath at the same time. He pisses all over the toilet seat so often that me and my other roommates keep a spray bottle of bleach right on top of the tank so we can clean it every time we have to go. He closes the door any time he enters the room. When he and I are both there, I feel uncomfortable/unable to relax. I actually dislike him.
Still, he seems really lonely and I've been through that, so is there any way I can help without becoming too close for comfort?
simply put: I don't think so.
Kudos for you for trying to help him, but there are some people that just don't let themselves be helped
These are just my thoughts, tho
First off, showering every second day is normal and healthy. Showering every day can be harsh on your skin and hair.
Second, it sounds like you have an obsession with him, and that he probably doesn't have a depression.
So my advice to you is to leave him alone, and perhaps seek professional help with your obsession.
>>18090417
Wtf are you talking about?
You share a dorm room with someone, you notice their habits. Especially if those habits are gross and they almost never leave.
How do I make friends online? I really love some fandoms specifically, and would love to make online friends to talk to, and be pen pals almost. However, I find that, especially online, it is hard to escalate "someone who's tweets I reply to" to private messaging and talking casually.
I am not sure where to find people, and not sure how to escalate with people I do talk to. (I am literally autistic btw)
>>18090349
It'd be good to have a format where longer chat can occur than what happens on twitter. You could try discords, tumblrs, or forums centered around your fandoms. Twitter is still possible if the person you want to be friends with isn't too famous or something. You could dm them to say how much you like their content and ask questions, like how they got into that show or if they have suggestions for what to similar anime watch etc. Some people won't reply and some will start talking to you. Keep messaging back if they seem interested, and over time you become friends.
You can also make friends on 4ch by joining fandom-specific threads, although you might run into some bad people here so be careful. I literally went into a general on /vg/, said I was lonely, someone gave me their email, and now we've been friends for a year.
Usually people like to talk about themselves, so just ask about their interests (without bombarding them with questions) and life (without getting too personal until you know them well). If they ask you questions about yourself, give more than a one word answer that keeps conversation going. You prob already knew that, but I'm socially inept and had to learn this.
pls
>>18090445
I am downloading discord now, I had no idea that it could be used to make friends as I thought that chats went very fast, so I am excited to give it a go. I'm pretty scared of using 4chan to make friends because as you say there are some very unpleasant people on here. I'm very surprised you made a good friend through here, although I'm sure many others do have success.
There have been a couple of people online who I tweet at alot, and they tweet at me alot, but whenever I message one of them they just... don't reply. One of them was tweeting about a very personal issues and seemed very upset. I private messaged them offering support, and they seemed very pleased with that, and we talked for a while about her issue. However, when she said she felt better, I said I thought she was cool and would love to chat with her more, and she basically just responded with "you're cool too!" and never replied to my private message. We still talk in public replies, but she seems to not want to become better friends, yet does not seem to dislike me. It's so confusing!
This is something I've been curious about for a while and I feel like if something is offered cheap or on sale, it may more often mean it's of less value now or out of date. I've heard blips that CSS, Java, and PHP are still of good use(talking out my ass of course, I don't know for sure). What I'd like to know is if pursuing these 12 courses would pay off as impressive or at least a well worth foot in the door if I wanted to switch from maintenance/mechanic to IT tech? I'm not an idiot, just lazy and used to be wary of what I dedicate time to until I realized I was wasting it, so in full "well I was just planning on killing myself so why not take a death-defying job" fashion, fuck it, it's better than not actively learning something. Any opinions, experience, or recommendations would be helpful to paint a small picture of what success looks like.
>aforementioned course sale
https://shop.cracked.com/sales/the-complete-2016-learn-to-code-bonus-bundle?utm_source=cracked.com&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=the-complete-2016-learn-to-code-bonus-bundle&utm_term=scsf-217806&utm_content=a0x1a000001s6gp
>>18090338
The real reality is that while this will probably give you skill set, employers will be looking for a certification of some sort. Might I recommend the taking CompTIA exams starting with A+ which I'm currently working on.
>>18090362
Noted and appreciated.
A big, irrational fear of mine like I said was not trusting any sources of learning as everyone(especially online courses) is just trying to sell you something, relevant to success or not.
What do you hope to accomplish through the years career title-wise?
>>18090338
First thing: stop calling it coding. There is nothing cryptic about programming.
If you're looking into programming as a career path you'll be going up against three types: Indians with postgraduate degrees and dumbasses who took a 12-week "coding bootcamp" but couldn't program their way out a paper bag. The third and most rare type are people who are actually worth something because they understand the theory behind computers and algorithm development. More importantly, these people can communicate effectively and professionally; something both the Pajeets and normies lack, the former because they're beta asocial Indian bookworms and the latter because they're stupid.
The Indians have worthless degrees because they're from shit-tier third world universities nobody respects, so don't worry about them.
Basically programming is a meme. But here's the thing, first world degrees also mean jack shit thanks to federal subsidizing of higher education.
Like the other guy said, certifications are what matter. Portfolios, projects, and Github commits matter, because they show actual ability and collaboration experience, not that you spent 8 years cheating and taking years off your life due to stress for a piece of paper or bought a bullshit """course""" off fucking Cracked of all places.
Either enter programming meaningfully and with full willingness to learn EVERYTHING down to what individual electrons are doing as they race across copper filaments, or don't do it at all.
Start with SICP.
Finally,
>2017
>cracked
So I have a problem. I'm 22, have had a gf for 3 years. Its a long distance relationship, and until maybe september last year everything was fine, but then I noticed, that we were disagreeing more often or being annoyed with each other. Nothing crazy but still noticable. The important thing though is, I felt that i solwly started to lose interest in her, it's not gone now, but its lower than the average "you're-together-for-so-long-thats-normal" thing. The problem is, that I see her once every 1,5 months so my feelings really go up and down and I can't pinpoint it.
It has always been long distance but now I'm studying in another city for half a year and now its not 3,5 but 6 hours between us. I've come to the point where I think (and you guys will tell me that 100 times) that if you're not in it 100% you should break up.
So here's my problem: She's my first gf, so I dont know how to do it. I can't just walk over to her, she has to visit or i have to visit her. She's visiting next week and I really don't know how to pull this off. I'm afraid I will be a massive pussy and not say anything (Which you will also hate me for, but it's how i am).
She's here for a week.
See how it goes over the week she's with you, and if you still want to go through with it, tell her what you think is wrong with your relationship and shit. Breaking up at the beginning of the week would not be good.
>>18090499
I forgot to say, I wanted to it the last time allready, but i just couldnt do it. I dont know why
bumping once more
>dad passes away and leaves house for me, sister and mother,
>2 step brothers manage to get in the will even though they had no interactions for the last 10 years and manipulated him
>5 years go buy my step brothers and my fathers family are still trying to shake me down, they've been unsuccessful the last couple of years
>my father's family have nothing to do with the will but constantly interfered
>my sister has been manipulated by them to try and shake me down as well
>last year she interrupted me multiple times while I was studying for finals to the point where I was worried about being homeless and had to use my time chasing up solitcitors, i failed 2 of my subjects
>she rocked up here with a truck and tried to take things out of the house such as furniture etc
>tried to explain to her that what she was doing was unreasonable and we argued, i tried to defuse but she kept raging, she ended up leaving
>seen various solicitors and advised my sister and there's nothing she can do
>for some reason she's pretending to change her mind and that as "long as we have a home"
>the last 6 months I've caught her driving past and stopping then when I walk outside she drives off
>tonight she came around, looked at me funny, said hey to her then she walked around the house , asked her what was up and she just randomly left
wtf is this shit ^^^^^ should I just get an restraining order put out on her if she starts to try take anything out?
Your story's confusing as fuck. Who lives are your house? Is your sister, like, trying to rob you? What exactly is she trying to do?
>>18090335
get a restraining order on all three and a very large violent dog
Change the locks and get a hidden security camera or something. Make sure the house is alarmed too
So my gf over one year is on my ass.
When she is grumpy she silent treatments me and then gets pissy if I don't put up with her bitchy okays and shit for hour and a half because that is the person she wants. What I mostly do is just sit in silence and let her stew.
Is this something I should bite the dust on this one, people tell me it's reasonable? Or should I drop her?
On one hand I really like her and she is super fun but in the other cmon what the fuck
>>18090320
She doesn't sound like a good partner, and it sounds like she's just trying to bring you down to her level. Find someone else who'll actually communicate in a mature way with you if she's not willing to change her way of interacting. (protip: she isn't going to change)
DAN IS THAT YOU? JUST DUMP EMA DUDE IDGAF JUST DO IT
My bad if this is not dan the man stan
>>18090521
It ain't Dan the man, sorry bro.
>>18090481
This seems logical, anyone else?
Starting to foresee issues dealing with a coworker, and I'm not sure how to handle it. We have the same IT position, and work together at times. He's sociable and honestly not that bad of a guy, he's just super catty and talks behind people's backs a lot. His work ethic is poor and we usually have to either go back to fix it or baby-sit him to get him working. Between that and him faking interest in work, it's a bit annoying.
He and I are both possible choices for a new position which has extremely great benefits, and I feel this air of tension and competition between us. He'll always do minor things like exclude me from/shut down my conversations, I'll work remotely near him and he'll try to subtly get me to leave, and the like.
How do I handle someone like that? He doesnt seem to like working here, but he's sticking it out for that possible position. Should i just ignore his cattiness, or should I gossip back? Any certain things to try/not try?
>being shooed away
"fuck off, some of us have to pick up your slack"
done
>>18090310
Don't be a little turd like he is. If his gossip and pissy behavior only extends to you, and your immediate coworkers, then tough it out. He's only doing it to push your buttons, and it shouldn't have any bearing on your performance.
Next time he pulls something, challenge him. He wants you to leave, just be like "Well, I just got here, so no."
>>18090310
If he can't clean up his own mess let the supervisor or whoever know that. And that you're doing all the work. Everytime you have to clean up after him let your boss know.
Can I get a B.A. in classics and then my masters in Philosophy?
I'm new to the American education system and I've been wondering about this. Can you only get a masters degree in something that you've already received your Bachelors in?
What should I know about this hierarchy? What are professors like?
Thanks cuties
>>18090290
You will end up horribly unemployed or underemployed if you get these degrees. The best you will do will be to get a teaching job paying 35-45k a year, but being stuck with 100-200k in debt that you will never pay off
>>18090298
Never asked about employment man, money isn't really an issue
>>18090290
>Can you only get a masters degree in something that you've already received your Bachelors in?
No, especially when it's within the same sphere of knowledge like two sciences or two humanities. Might be a little harder to apply to a science graduate program if you've done your bachelor's in women's studies, but even that is still possible if you have the ability to pass your classes.
Okay, so me and my fiancee (been with her for 4 years) have our wedding fast approaching in may of this year. She and I first made an agreement that since she is a huge fan of disney, we were going to do a cartoon-themed service and wedding reception...-the details of which were never really set in stone, but 'generally' agreed upon. She is in love with disney princesses and wanted to do a cinderella-based theme... cinderella figurines for the cake, napkins, decorations, etc. She really likes the concept because she came from a poor background whereas I am fairly wealthy (not trying to brag, just saying).
Anyways, as the wedding gets closer, Ive really started thinking about how its almost all tailored to her liking and nothing is there that will be very memorable for me and my side of the family, when i came up with an idea to do kind of like a halfnhalf type thing featuring my favorite show Freakazoid!. I have always been a huge fan of the show and have several figurines still in original packaging in storage.
We got into an argument over it yesterday and she refuses to budge on ANYTHING. How do I handle this? Its really tearing us apart... I can't stand that shes that stubborn and last night she decided to go sleep over at her moms and hasnt been back. What do I do?
>>18090287
Enjoy losing half your assets when she inevitably cucks you
>>18090287
I don't think this should be as serious as you guys are making it out to be.
You DID agree to her idea and she's probably had this brewing all her life. Let the wife be happy :) I don't see how it couldn't be memorable to yourself and your own family; it's still a wedding.
Just talk to her and apologize for coming off rude (even if you weren't) and be excited for whatever comes. It's her day more so than yours (and I'm a guy).
>ywn go to a Freakazoid/Cinderella wedding
Grow up, both of you. This is a wedding, not a party at the establishment of Charles E. Cheese
How do I learn to cook?
>>18090142
easy, take it slow
bake a frozen pizza
>bake some chicken wings
>marinade and bake some chicken breasts/thighs
>move on to making tacos
>learn to make spaghetti
next move: buy a cheapo coal grill
>learn to grill hotdogs
>move on to burgers
>move on to bratwurst (the real mans hotdog)
>next try chicken
>final move: steak
Now try out the crockpot and slow cooking
>pot roast
>chicken dumplings
>roast turkey
Get the how to cook everything app
>>18090142
Foodwishes yt channel has a ton of recipes, a lot of them are focused on techniques that can be aplied to different ingredients ( e.g. most stews follow roughly the same steps)
So basically I'm an asshole boyfriend who verbally abuses my gf and almost gets physical sometimes. A lot of the things she does to make me mad are legit things to get mad at but I take it too far. And a lot of the times I'm an asshole for no reason. I know she deserves better than me, and has said I can't wait until the day I don't let you control me so I can be really happy. I know I need to let her go but I can't for some reason. We've been together 9 months and I do love her. I just want her to be happy but I want it to be with me. Idk what to do the thought of her with someone else breaks my heart. But I know she'll be happier. How do I do it and move on? Or what can I do to change and be the guy for her?
>>18090088
How about instead of leaving her, you get your shit together and treat her right?
Try talking to a doctor/therapist/psychologist.
>>18090098
No, if he is abusive, it is best to put some distance between them. She could be seriously injured and OP, you could end up in jail. Tell her you need to "take a break" and then get therapy. You are a very good person for being honest with yourself about your problems. You deserve to be happy, and so does she. Ask for a break, get treatment, and ask her for a second chance.
>she said she can't wait for the day you don't control her anymore
>she recognizes that you're a controlling ass but doesn't leave
no OP, she doesn't deserve better
Heres the story.
I have had feelings for this girl for about 3 years. I was a pussy and didnt act on those feelings until it was too late. Nobody really knew i liked her and when i told her how i felt she said she didnt feel the same. I have recently found out that she did in fact like me at one point before i asked her out.
Fast forward to this month, this girl has been going out with a good friend of mine for about a year. Still kinda have feelings for her but swallow them because she is happy with my friend. Im having a party and theyre both there, Im alright with it, i convinced myself i didnt have feelings for her anymore but that night she was pretty upset and i comforted her because her bf was getting drunk with our mates. I sit down next to her(shes had a lot to drink) and talk about whats up. She thanks me at the end and gives me a hug, i hug her back and she says "I love you"
Now i instantly took this as loved as a friend because i was helping her through a hard time but that brought back a wave of emotion that i have for this girl.
Fast forward even more to this friday. We're both at another party, her bf is there too. Theyre both drunk but this time she is all over me. I mean like literally following me about and always on my arm or if im sitting down shes sitting next to me n resting her head on my shoulder. I keep telling her to go n do that shit to her bf cos i dont want to upset anyone. she keeps doing it but she is VERY drunk, so i brush it off as that.
Every time i look at her doing this shit tho i feel shit cos her bf is a good friend of mine and she is also one of my best friends and i wouldnt like to jeopardize that. She notices me looking liek i feel like shit n asks whats wrong, i say nothing but she knows me too well to know that its nothing. She keeps bringing it up and i keep saying its nothing.
All this weekend ive been texting her non stop as friends but until the early hours of the morning
Am i an asshole?
>>18090075
Blah blah blah whine some mkre
>>18090075
no you're just 16
What do you do when you're contacted by someone from HS years later and your life hasn't turned out to be anything to talk about? I feel embarrassed to even talk about my boring life.
>>18090055
so lemme get this straight, your life is a monotonous shitshow of nothingness, you have no soul, no hobbies, no interests, no ambitions, no pursuits...
...and instead of asking how you can fix that, you are more concerned with how an old HS friend might perceive you?
Does this not strike you as strange behavior?
>>18090063
That's quite a lot of assumptions there.
Are you reflecting on your own life?
>because you have no interest in this world you have no soul
Pretty much all hobbies, interests, ambitions and self-pursuits that everyone is interested in are stupid and meaningless.
>>18090109
Hey don't get your panties in a twist. You're the one who said your life was boring. I was just trying to help you out by pointing out your priorities are all wrong.
Nice job fag. I'm out.
>Keep seeing this gorgeous shy girl in the bus with her friend for a while when going to school
>Find her facebook without even knowing her name through elite stalking mechanisms
>Notice most of her friends are girls (good sign) and that she doesnt post on FB a lot
What now?
>>18090049
depends, are you looking to remain undetected, or do you want to get close to her before you do the deed?
I prefer the latter... it makes you feel like God
>>18090058
I'd prefer to become friendly with her first thanks
>>18090049
Bro introduce yourself. Face to face.