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to start off I'm a real neev wreck when ut comes to serious relationships, the last one I had was destroyed by my constant panic attacks, thoughts of death, and just feel like an unneedy shit who has no place in earth.

My biggest problem after that break up has been the fear if getting with another girl even when i sometimes feel good and think I might be on a better way I just get flashbacks of all the events of my problems since I know how stressfull it has to be to deal with it.

Lately I stopped using my sertraline (anti deppressive pills) since I got tired of them and started to drink more and more again .

Reason I stopped taking them cause I feel like an outsider cause of them.

I just want to love again and be happy, hooking up with other girls has been in a pain in the ass since I get rejected the last time it got serious and she was one of the only people that was able to deal with my problems

please help me and thank you in advance

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I'm sure you've had a billion of these threads but, i still find myself in this situation now.

Some time ago i found a girl, we haven't been dating, not for real anyways, in fact since Ive known her she's been together with another guy still I short of fell for her... after a while I met the guy and he seemed like a good fella so I sort of "turned off" my feelings for her and it went pretty well, no heartbreak or anything like that...
we've still been hanging out, as friends and i think that she has started to fall for me recently, she's become more touchy and flirty, dirty jokes and stuff... despite her still being in a relationship.

Ive been trying to keep my emotions for her "locked up tight" due to this fact but now... they broke up the other day and I am filled with hope that we may have something going on now!

What do?

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Holy fuck

>born poor
>live in a house that's pretty much a cardboard country box
>all my windows are made of wood and let the air blow in
>live in worst climate in the world
>wind is blowing stronger than Katrina every fuckin day
>have a curtain as my door
>the wind is literally blowing so hard that the curtain is constantly moving just from how shitty my windows are

Who has kids like this? Why can inbred rednecks breed?

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Hello /adv/,

So my girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for 2 years now and we've gone through a rough stretch lately. Lack of communication on both sides and constant arguing basically. It doesn't help that she met a guy at work that she started developing feelings for. Last week she even told me we were done, but backtracked on her decision a couple of days ago. However, she doesn't want me to call her ''Hun'', ''babe'' or other surnames like that for now as she supposedly want to take it slow.

Also, as a side note, I had plans to go have a drink with a (female) friend of mine when my girlfriend originally left me in an attempt to stop thinking about my breakup for a while and once she found out she started acting very jealous.

Bottom line is, I need some advice on how to go back to how things were before our relationship fell apart. I was thinking about having a talk with her on why she wants to take things slow and whatnot, but if anyone has any better ideas, I'm all ears.

Apologies in advance for any run-on sentences you might encounter along the way

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A female friend of mine, I'm a guy, has evaded my questions of hanging out together for the past 3 days. She does answer my normal chats, a simple conversation. But as soon as I ask her if she is free, she does not respond, until I say something else.
We get along pretty well, so this is strange.

Only yesterday she mentioned that she had trouble with the people around her, but she specified "today".

I want to ask her why is she ignoring me, but I don't want to appear kinda annoying for asking. Specially if the reason has been the same all these 3 days.

How should I ask her about it?

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What to do when you can't join the school you wan't due to your bad grades?

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Should I stop playing slot machines? Every other day I go to a casino which is like two minutes away from my flat. I always go there with just a petty ammount of cash, never more than two bucks, just the ammount I can afford myself to lose. I spin minimum bets. If I lose I lose and go home no damage done, if I win I buy myself a pack of smokes from the win and go home, sometimes still with more money left in my pocket. I'm at college. I feel like this is the route that every gambler started to walk at first but I can't see why should I stop. I don't feel addicted to it, it's just that when I don't have much money or just a spare it's a possibility how to make me some. Never betted more than just a few pennies, never put more than 3 bucks into the slot.

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Hi /adv/. I feel bad because I think I betrayed someone close to me.

Long story short; I had two female friends, one of which had a boyfriend that the other steal, presumably unknowingly. I was attracted to this one, but I was resolved we would only be friends, reason being she had no interest and I some kind of admire her for their intelligence.
I became her best friend, according to her own words. I had a really bad time a year ago, and I tried to have an appointment with her in multiple occasions for reason not fully understood by me; according to her, things at university hat got her depressed and/or some illness. There was always something. I met with the other girl by mere chance (I lost my virginity to her) and told horrible things about her; basically, that she was a slut, and was probably using me.
I did not wan to believe that. She (the one I was attracted to) trusted me a lot of things, and I trusted her in return.We used to share a lot of things but, of course, I was vexed by her tendency to never attend to see each other, just as friends to chat. We then had a lot of discussions... I no longer trusted her, specialy when she only accepted seeing me when she had an romantic problem, I felt that I was only for that, for validation when SHE needed it. We used to go to a comic con like event here on our city, and I refused to go with her last year (she was not exactly happy about that, in fact: stopped talking to me for quite a long time).
Recently we started talking again. She was very nice, in fact, bur he other girl showed up, and told me she was with he ex, again, who according to her was the worst human being ever. Well... a night came when I was very anxious about a lot of things, and really angry, and told her anything (they do not know each other "officially") and she told me I was a traitor and that she felt disgust of herself for trusting me.
Following in the comments...

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A few weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me. Everything was going perfectly fine our love for each other felt so strong and then overnight she decided to start treating me like shit and it led to us having a talk and breaking up. She gave me every different cliché excuse in the book. Im about 99% sure she cheated on me. I am resigned to the fact that it's over. The problem is I've gone into a horrible spell of depression and anxiety. All I have in my mind is the image of her having sex with someone else. Is that normal? I also feel hopeless in terms of finding someone again or even sleeping with someone again. I need advice on how to get over this.

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I'm a Canadian undergraduate student in a university program said to be my "golden ticket to medical school" (getting medical school admission is notoriously difficult in Canada), right now my GPA isnt so good, but due to the nature of the program, I know my third and fourth years will be guaranteed 4.0 averages, plus I hope to bring my marks up this semester. The thing is, I'm not really enjoying my studies at all. Do I stay here, or do I switch majors to something I actually want to to study?

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this is the accumulation of my reclusiveness. my best friend I keep in contact with, he didn't acknowledge it. I have nobody but myself to blame and I guess I don't have a right to complain about it or even feel bad, but I do. I feel some goddamn lonely.

go out with your friends, put some effort into your relationships. you don't want to feel this. I promise you

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This question is for the guys. Womenz would not understand.

My current gf is def cute in her own way, has a great ass, and is good at sex, so she has things going for her. She's also very loving and loyal.

But the problem is my ex was sexier to me, and I think/know that I could do better physically. speaking. I got that lustful/longing feeling with my ex but don't get it with my current gf, unless I'm looking at her ass.

Do you think that I'm settling? Have you ever been in a similar situation, and did you leave or stay? Regret or glad?

Thx in advance

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Alright /adv/, there's a girl that works on the same floor that I do that I'm interested in, although right now my attraction for her is purely physical. Even though we work on the same floor, we never really interact (we work in research in different labs). I'm friends with one of her good friends and asked if she's single, and her friend got really excited, and told her someone was interested in her. She shot it down without knowing who it was, as she's trying to get into med school and didn't want a relationship, but her friend said to try talking to her anyways (she knows I'm the one interested now). Well unfortunately, we don't really have the chance to interact, and that hasn't happened. Later this summer, the lab she works in is going to be leaving, so I definitely won't have the chance to ask her out after that. We are friends on Facebook though. Would it be a mistake to try to talk to her through that? I know asking a chick out on Facebook is so desperate and pathetic, but at this point, I feel like I'll regret not trying at least something. And at worst if I get shot down, I won't have to see her again in a few months.

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Why don't I enjoy sex if I've been drinking?
Even after two glasses of wine I don't really want anything to do with it, even if I am able to get it up. Exerting myself while intoxicated (drunk, stoned etc) just seems so uncomfortable, it's also the same thing when I'm hungover.
I'd much rather just go to sleep, half the time on my own.

Is this a fitness issue?

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I enjoy getting into fights. I enjoy hurting people. Men, women, teenagers. I've gotten into probably hundreds of fights over the years. I've gotten beat up plenty of times when the odds were against me, but I've beat up others way more. I regret nothing about it, but I recognize that it's not healthy and it's bound to land in me jail one day, sooner or later.

So how do I stop enjoying things like these?