So this in the meantime girl I'm seeing has a birthday coming up and I have no desire to share it with her let alone buy her anything. Am I wrong to just disappear for the weekend and return as if I just needed some space ? I want to continue having a relationship with her but I don't want to be involved with all the meaningful relationship/family things. I know I sound like a cold hearted cunt but she's disappointed me and has done somethings I'll never forgot causing a point of no return in me wanting anything from her other than some sex that's isn't even up to my expectation. I have to have Some type of attraction to her as well. Lately her hands are always ashy and she sometimes skips showers. When she sleeps she sweats all the time leavin a nasty scent I have to wake up to. I guess I stay because she can be a bit chaotic and unpredictable when she is hurt. I don't want any drama at my house considering my family is around. Woman can be so evil. What should I do?
Just leave her, going on like this isn't fair to either of you.
>>18110686We go through this all the time and we end up right back in each other's arms. But i think you are right anon. How Do i do it without turning evil? If I say it in words I end up feeling bad? evreytime I distance myself she draws closer to me. I don't understand this ?
>>18110704
You're being too vague, the both of you. Put your foot down and she'll most likely leave you alone.
>have chubby, kinda dumpy girlfriend
>quiet, plays on her computer a lot... like a lot a lot.
>snooping on her computer
>see a folder called "Brenham"
>see tons and tons and tons of pictures of a 3D character from some game getting fucked.
>The game is secondlife
>her character was a gigantic, bit titted, chubby , goth bimbo whore.
>gangbang pictures, glory hole pictures, bukkake pictures, her fucking furries, monsters, demons, orcs, aliens.
>archives of these pictures.
>see another folder
>open it
>tons and tons of porn drawn by her in her style
>massive amounts of gang bang, monster porn.
Should I be concerned? She doesn't have secondlife on her computer anymore, but the art is dated VERY recently.
Not surprising. Does she know you post on 4chins?
>>18110615
Yeah, she does too though
>>18110607
Ask her if she want to diddle kids with you.
Every day I feel like I'm walking a thin line between forced positive thoughts and intense self-loathing. I figured a lot of it was from my work environment, so I quit almost two weeks ago, but it hasn't gotten any easier. Arguably worse.
If someone asks how my day was, I always say good, and it feels like it has been a good day because I haven't worked or exerted myself, but I can tell that isn't what a normal person would think. You don't lay in bed and ruminate over insecurities, or think of killing yourself, or crave very bad drugs on a good day, but I do.
It's hard to be happy at all anymore. If I hear some good news, and get something to look forward to in the day, it makes me feel good for a minute. Then the enjoyment just seeps out of it and I'm back to a baseline grey feeling. Like no matter what happens I'll still be me afterwards.
This post feels shitty and I know no one likes to answer these threads, but I want to get it out there, sorry.
>>18110573
friendly neighbourhood bump, friend
No one here can definitively tell you, but in my opinion I would say yeah. Still the only way to find out for sure is to get a shrink and try some things out.
>>18110573
OP, I advise to stop the forced positive thoughts, and accept the shittiness of life. When you truly express all your emotions, you become happier by itself. Feel like shit? Be like shit, it usually lasts a day. Feel like crying? cry. Feel like getting ur problems out there? talk with someone, feels freeing. When you stop thinking about being happy and just most effort into useful things like hobbies, socializing, diet, workout, it will come by itself
So, I'm 18 and I'm a kissless virgin, besides the last time a have had a female friend was 2 years ago. I'm getting kinda depressed about it. Sometimes when I see a pretty girl I remind myself how I will never have a gf that looks like that or have a gf at all. I just want to focus on school and my career, rather than being depressed. Plus, I want to stop masturbating because I do it everyday and I don't want to waste my time doing it. How do I kill my feelings or sexual drive?
Relationships are a meme
You can still have a good one with someone else, but don't pursue them because the chances of you finding someone who you can mutually tolerate each other's shit is way too low.
I'm saying this as someone IN a relationship who knows no other couples who are going to stay together for more than a decade, because they're retarded and inconsiderate of one another but won't separate out of convenience.
>>18110558
>How do I kill my feelings or sexual drive?
How about not taking the easy way out?
The masturbation part is easy, just stop doing it. The other is harder, as you seem to have very low self esteem. Best way to combat that is to get accomplishments, at school/college and at work. Feel good about yourself.
>>18110558
Here's something i've been thinking about.Maybe someone can enlighten me.If you were to stop masturbating,does it make you appreciate sex more.Because right now,sex isn't that big of a deal for me.The first time, i was just relieved to have gotten it over with..
Been trying to pick up some musical talent ( i have had 0 experience outside of 3 months of guitar lessons that hasn't taught me jack shit) to chill with some friends.
We hang outside of their little music things, but i know if i show up there without anything to provide ill be sitting in the corner audience style.
How did you anons learn guitar and to sing? just through youtube tutorials? i can read the retard sheet music type, so i've got that going for me. have both an electric and non guitar so my limits are endless
Been looking into something to start creating beats too, is FL studio worth the 200 dollars? Saw post malone use it and his shit sounds pretty good.
Being good at an instrument/producing electronic music=time put in. The more time you spend, better you get. There's no way around this.
Guitar: you learn basic major and minor chords, get good at playing/switching between them. Then barre chords. Then look up some common scales and learn those backwards and forwards. You experiment with combining different scales. You take songs you're interested in and deconstruct them/use tablature/find the sheet music if you're learning sheet music.
Electronic is the same: pick a DAW, look up tutorials on basic use, think about what format your favourite songs are, try to recreate them, learn what all the parts of a synthesizer are, just keep using the thing and messing around.
I've personally just stolen them rather than pay. Are you really going to pay 200 for something you're not even sure you'll use very much? Many people want to make 'beats', mess around for a few hours, and never touch it again. Anyways, I personally like ableton rather than fruity loops - just feels easier to spontaneously make music due to how you can sample sounds, but that's just opinion. All DAWs are gr8.
>>18110549
Thanks man, saved all this shit into a notepad doc and ill put it to good use. ill have to put more time into it then
As for the second part, im honestly down for anyone i can get, im sure they're all close to the same, just don't want to sacrifice quality.
I'd definetly pirate it if i was able to, but im not paying for my own net right now and dont want to fuck the person that is, because they've gotten 3 emails already about it.
is ableton free?
>>18110568
None of them are free, but there are trial versions with limited versions of the software
How do I die a martyr's death if what I truly believe in is liberty?
I already live in a democratic western country, so I feel there's nothing here worth fighting for...
Long story short; I want to die fighting for freedom
>>18110495
assassinate your world leader, then proclaim you did it for the country.
>>18110495
if you truly believe in liberty you wouldn't be trying to die when there's nothing to fight for.
you don't truly believe in liberty, you just want fame
How do I find out if a girl is single without asking her? Asking shows intent and I just want to know if she's even single before I try and get involved
>asking shows intent
....yeah, so? It also shows your a responsible person simply trying to determine someones availability, while still respecting her union should she turn out to be taken.
Are you married? Dating?
fair question if you're genuinely interested.
>>18110461
Is she interested though? Like, have you talked? Maybe even flirted a bit? Or are you the kinda guy that stares at girls and imagines how it'd be like to date them?
>>18110461
What's wrong with showing intent?
If you are so worried about even asking if she's single from the beginning - you're setting yourself up for friendzone from day one.
If you like her - ask. If she says she's taken - still chat, still be friendly but move on.
If she says no - then make your move.
Not rocket science man...you don't have to do like the whole "Hey...are you single?" with deer in the headlights - just casually mention it and move on.
>Daughter goes to christian school
>They hire a new teacher this year...hot blonde.
>We were already friends on facebook but had never chatted
>I am in a relationship.
>Start chatting. Absolute fire.
>We grew up like two minutes from each other. slightly apart in time....her best friend was my cousin..we lived in the same two states over the past 10 years....kept missing each other by inches and minutes.
>Have literally everything in common...in like 3 weeks we went from friends to soul mates.
>My relationship fell apart because of it naturally. Her parting gift was calling the school and telling her that their teacher wasn't christian and that she was a home wrecker, blah blah.
>Shit hits the fan.
>So cut to 5 weeks later...teacher and I went out once and it was awesome. We ended up turning the date into a road trip and it was great.
>Then we don't talk for like 5 days...she blocked me on snap chat - no clue what's happening.
>Then we start casually talking again...then flirting resumes full bore and now we're planning dates again.
I'm assuming the craziness of what happened with her job and with my crazy ex made her question some shit....but we are talking again - so do I ever ask or mention the snap chat thing?
Should I just get out of my own head and enjoy it day by day?
She's not fired - but there has been drama...so I'm guessing I'm just way over thinking everything.
>>18110438
Yeah dude if she's so easy to talk to why not ask her about it?
>>18110478
Ask her about the snap chat thing or the dip in communication?
I sort of asked if her if we were "ok" with getting into details right when conversation picked up and she was like "Of course" then things are rolling.
So i'm hesistant to dig down into snap chat since I kind of don't care anyways...that's just an odd move to me....ask someone to get an app specifically for them then block them haha. Unless it wasn't intentional or who knows.
>>18110438
Maybe she thinks you move from relationship to relationship. Without details, it seems her viewpoint could be
>guy likes me, but is taken
>spends a lot of attention on me
>ditches old girl for me
She might think you're a fast mover and is testing you.
How do I be disciplined?
I am a fatass and wanna lose fat and be fit and also be a better person. I'm so lazy too.
There's nothing we can do for you OP. You've gotta force yourself to do it, you'll get there
>>18110501
pretty much this. motivation, drive, etc. those are intrinsic.
you can't say 'how do i force myself to do X' because the whole point of FORCE is that you just force yourself to do it. its almost like speaking a foreign language to some people. We are so used to instant gratification that people can't wrap their minds around the idea of doing something unenjoyable unless they ABSOLUTELY have to.
things that can help though:
>download an app that keeps track of calories.
most people like 'myfitnesspal' but i hate it, because its really hard for me to keep track of things that arent on their list. i actually just use a basic worksheet and calculate my calories on my own instead of expecting the machine to figure it out. i also weigh my food though as this helps.
>become almost vegetarian
the reason vegetarians live longer isn't because of a surplus of veggies, but rather because of a lack of meat. Meat is great when you're young, and especially when you're building muscle. but outside of that you need very little protien. meat as a main dish is what is killing most people. it has way too many calories.
for pserspective, a pound of chicken is 800 calories.
a pound of greenbeans is 141 calories. eat the greenbeans. hell add butter and some alfredo sauce and you'll still be at half the calories of steak.
>sexually frustrated, in a long distance relationship
>gf seemed to enjoy sex when together but isn't sexual at all otherwise
>always brushes off when I bring it up
>only watches/listens me masturbate when we talk dirty on Skype
>have basically begged for nudes but she'll never send them unless I keep badgering her (which I don't want to)
What should I do?
>long distance relationship
Stopped reading there.
>>18110406
Just temporarily, it started as a normal one.
>>18110410
Still though
Sounds like she's getting dicked with or without you
How do I determine what I need to do to be good enough to have a girlfriend?
>>18110395
Anyone can have a girlfriend. She will probably be as good as you, as nice as you, or as bad and toxic as you.
No need to pass a test to get a GF.
Depends on how old you are. From 13 to 18 you pretty much only have to have mid-tier looks, nothing else matters. I have no idea how there are so many supposed virgins on here if me and my guys got our fat, Yu-Gi-Oh playing Asian friend laid; his nickname was Ramen.
Better be in college and getting your driver's license from 19-21 and beyond that you have to have a job and some sort of hobby to talk about.
Pretty basic. Guys like coming to New York to get laid because there's no good looking males here and all the women develop this, "take what you can get" mentality where they start thinking dog-faced dudes are alternative sexy.
>>18110395
as anon said, literally anyone can get a gf, they just need to play in their league or lower.
Where does pirating stand after the raids? is it safe to start downloading again?
Idiot
No, the CIA is currently watching over piracy, if you download you get instantly put in the no-fly list, as well as some watch lists.
only behind 4 proxies, 2 VPNs and TOR
>socially impaired shut in
>woman
>go out of home on women's day to write a little and spend some time in a restaurant
>every place is full, find a seat near a couple having a date
>it's pretty awkward, the girl says nothing and texts all the time, guy is pushy
>he excuses himself to go to the bathroom
>girl immediately starts chatting me up, asking whether I'm by myself, where I'm from (I'm a foreigner here)
>tell her I don't wanna ruin her date
>she gives me a disgusted kinda look and tells her bf to go the moment he came back
Wtf was that? How do I respond to this kind of shit? I'm so tired of always being by myself, it always appears like people are looking at me strange or givinge looks or is otherwise bothered by my presence.
>>18110376
Well, you did reject her attempt at talking with you. You really wondering why she left?
what the other guy said.
Also if you get asked questions, just answer them. It's very rude not to unless they are way to private, which they rarely are.
>>18110423
I'm the Anon above, and I don't agree with your post. I mean, you have the right to want to be by yourself. It's not rude to write at a restaurant by yourself and ignore people.
I'm just saying that if you reject their advances, then don't wonder why no one wants to talk to you.
Hey /adv/, my roommates are going through some tough times with their marriage. Basically, he just showed that he doesn't fully trust her despite her working 2 jobs and taking care of their kid for a majority of the day. He doesn't take care of himself (wake up for work on time, doesn't clean even when he's asked to, etc.) and she doesn't want to look after him like his mother.
I've already mentioned counseling and therapy to her because I don't want them to divorce, but I also want them both to be happy.
Wat do?
>>18110372
Their marriage isn't really your business and there's nothing you can do. This they have to sort out themselves.
Fuck her and ruin their marriage more like you're already doing.
she choose the manchild that she married, there is no proven method of changing a man.
Most men only change outside of Relationships, if they see a necessity for it.
My parents guilt tripped me since childhood and still do to this day.
As much as I want to happily tell them a proper "FUCK OFF", I can't.
Is there a more civilized way of telling them so?
>>18110340
Move out.
>>18110515
this
>>18110515
I moved out sometime ago.