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>>18117994
There are some good meds for this, generally mild antihistamines. (Hayfever pills have very mild sedative side effects, which actually help with motion sickness)

Sit facing forward where you can see the horizon. You want your eyes to tell you what "level" is even as your body is feeling bouncy.

Take medication for it. I would get motion sickness (sometimes to the point of vomiting) every time I rode in the back of a car or flew but taking Dramamine solved it.

>>18117980
Who gives a fuck, uni is a waste of time.

If you have the money and they'll let you in, no.

Try and nail as many co-eds as possible, at that point it's basically jailbait but without the prison time.

Yup, better give up now Anon.

>>18117970

Shes gone man.

I have a bit of a psychology education (the actual science one, not the sit on your couch and tell me bout your dad kind).
Not an expert but i know a thing or two.


Take advil. It counteracts the specific physiological and chemical problems causing break up pain. Wont cure it or make you feel whole again, but it will certainly take the edge off.

Go have sex with someone else if its an option. Hang out with friends. Get bro hugs, that ones also a chemical trick.

Go to the gym, or go for walks. Just get yourself some physical activity.

Most of all, though.. Time.

It hurts because humans do have a bit of a chemical monogomy drive and instinct (built on top of a polygamy instinct. We're both before people argue about that).

Your system is freaking out because it achieves monogomy by essentially making you addicted to another person. You are experiencing something similar to a heroine withdrawal. Your body will be telling you all kinds of crazy shit like shes the one and you need her back. Its just trying to get its drug fix.

You will be fine, though.

>Help

Keep living your life. It's not like you did something wrong. You did the right thing in fact.

>>18117976
youre right it sure feels like that, i wish i wasnt this obsessed, especially cause shes not that great of a person in general, i can probably find better, but for some reason my brain keeps telling me she was the one and im obsessed. And i cant understand how someone can go from saying they love you, to blocking you and forgetting about you without a word, so easily..

>>18117945
You try to understand why she doesn't turn you on anymore. If there is one thing and it is solvable, you talk to her and try to solve it. If that's not the case, break up.

Marriage

Read the basics if mindfulness meditation and stick with it for a while. Just follow the basics and you may feel minor changes. Don't overthink any experiences you have, like feelings of floating or seeing flashing lights. Keep it on the breath. Find a good teacher if possible.

That's really it for a beginner.

Read the book Mindfulness in Plain English

>>18117938
>>18117939
Thank you. Is there any time of the day that is the ideal for doing meditation?

He's correct, don't do that

No, even the idea is enough to shake trust in a relationship.

>>18117916
>He said he doesn't want it and that it's not right because hes in a relationship with me.
You won the dating lottery (given he is genuine), congratulations!

>>18117867
I honestly find myself in the same situation. I've interpreted the old "love yourself before loving someone else" adage in an alternative way of caring about myself and setting long term objectives for myself. I still hate myself with a burning passion, but at least now I've found some sort of way in my life and stuff I can care about beyond a relationship, and would probably be able to enjoy one without being utterly destroyed once it's over.

I think feeling the need to be in a relationship to validate themselves is a misguided way to think. Relationships require a lot of time, effort, and patience to work. The less you keep this in mind, the more likely you'll either end up in a bad relationship with someone who's batshit crazy, or end up way too attached too early and ruin it. Definitely don't put it on a pedestal.

To put it into perspective, a relationship is a lot like having a 60 hour a week job that pays six figures. The results can make you happy, but there are times to where you will question if it's really worth all the trouble.

>>18117867
Its more like "love yourself so someone else can love you", because if think yourself as a loser no one will give a shit about you (i'm assuming that you are male). Go alpha or go home, like they say.

But if can get a relationship even hating yourself, well, that was a very luck shot. Go on with that.

Unplug your wifi and don't charge your phone.

>There is so many things i want to do every day, like studying, work out and stuff like that but my laziness just ruins everything.

No, there isn't much you want to do except to be lazy. The reason you're not doing these things is because they are not truly important to you. You think you want to do them, but if that were the case, they would have been done. Right now you feel like you SHOULD do them. You recognize that these things are good for self development, but that's the limit until you have a true reason for why it's important, whether it be for survival, fun/emotional reasons, or for a future investment.

Once you develop a true craving, you will put some time in. No amount of systems or strategies will change that until you actually want something.

We all wish it was as easy as choosing and going, but these things take time to cultivate.

Was like op, now changing.
>>18117891
This guys gets it. I didn't start studying until my persnola situation got on the brink of disaster (lose a year, lose student house etc etc)

Chemical castration, drugs that destroy your libido. Or physical castration, which destroys your manhood.

>>18117873
Which drugs are in this compound? And physical castration really kills off all your sex drive?

>>18117883
Physical has some adverse effects like the complete lack of testosterone production, I don't recommend it. As for chemical, I've no idea, Wikipedia will know more.

this has happend to me but in episodes, idk the severity of your case, but in mine, it lasted for some weeks.

I just felt i was on "auto-pilot" mode. I go to school, come back sleep and realize how time went so fast. I literally talk to people and do shit all while not being conscious. Sometimes people asked me if i was "there" too.

Well, what i did was nothing, it just went by itself, but if there was one thing i did, it's that i took a day off, i stared at the clock and nothing else. Looked at the clock second for second, no distractions. I realized how slowly the time went by and eventually got bored. Maybe that could help

>>18117835
Easiest solution: doctor.

How long does it take you to fall asleep? How long do you sleep? How + when do you sleep? How long do you have problems? How much you stare into screens? Do you do coffe or similiar? Are you fit? Do you do sport? Do you eat well? How is your libido mate? How is your hormone balance? Do you fap? How is your mentality? Are you more happy or sad during day? Do you have existentional crysis? Do you do alcohol drugs cigarets? Do you do friends? Where was the last time you had "fun"? What is your daily routine? What is your reason to be happy? Do you have any?

And the list can go on. Ability to sleep is crucial, but when you cant sleep, there are 999 reasons from having bad day to cancer. Try think about my questions and figure it out.

>>18117862
>>18117839
Thanks, guys. It's really good to get some support. It might not mean a lot to you but it means a lot to me. Wherever you both are, I hope you have a good day (or night if you live in Victoria like I do).

Too much social networking shit on that chart. I only have a phone for work and if I want to talk to someone I will go over and talk to them in real life. I avoid electronic communication because it is too impersonal which is apparently a bad thing in the eyes of the idiot who made this.

Also you aren't really asking for advice OP. You are just bitching about things.

>get fit
>keep talking to people and being awkward until you can talk without being awkward
>work on your confidence

>>18117821
You havent posted few important things:
Age, photo and REASONS why do you want to fuck girl so badly / have relationship.

Also the sex isn't right, it is just opportunity for the "successful".

Maybe you are asking wrong girl in wrong way in wrong situations. Or you just look likeugly fat midged troll. Post more information or kys. We cant help random anons bitching about girls. That belongs on other boards.

And remember, the only losing strategy in dating game is to not play.

>>18117817
what will your dad do if you don't get the job? how much is the program?

Do it fag. But dont do it for the money.

>>18118055
Do it for the love of getting yelled at by old angry drunks when you've just taken the last of their social security check?

>semi-platonic
No, I'd be your completely platonic friend, and even then I'd probably wouldn't be close with you or hang out with you one on one.

>>18117801
>I'd probably wouldn't be close with you or hang out with you one on one

Then we're not really friends are we?

>>18117805
Well you can be, if you hang out in groups or around other people.

Plus we're not really friends if you're flirting with me despite being a married man, are we?

>this thread
>again
How do people not get bored of this shit?

>>18117795
is this a common trend? I've never been here before

>>18117800
>I've never been here before
So judging by your picture, you spend most of your time on /r9k/.

There is probably at least one of these threads up at any one time. You're not going to get advice, all you're going to do is kickstart an argument and I would say that at least one person would post a bunch of charts as evidence in the course of the argument, but you seem to have done it already

One last ashamed bump.

Guess I'll try some other time with a more readable post.

>>18117790
I mean all you can do is continue tying to improve the things that you don't like about yourself. You'll never be perfect and the things that you can't change or aren't necessary too(scars) are a part of you. Someone will look at you and see nothing but a great person, It'll be difficult and you'll often find yourself lonely and thinking about that loneliness and "what if's". But at this point, it doesn't really matter.

Keep working on your job/school and if you find a nice girl, ask her out and see how it goes. I know your pain though OP. You're not alone in it and there's not much else we can do but improve ourselves.