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>>18179125
Yeah, like I'm going to post the name and contact details for my dealer on 4chan

>>18179485
/thread

>>18179125
Whisper or yikyak

Anything but fucking 4chan

>>18179081
If you're gonna be applying for meme jobs that a monkey could do, then yeah.

If you're applying for jobs that actually take intelligence and experience to do well, then no. No one gives a fuck about how you look there, trust me.

1) Plenty of jobs don't require you to be conventionally attractive, and don't much care if you are if you do that job well. You might not be a model or a porn star, but you could be a scientist or a teacher or an artist.

2) Beauty is subjective. I've met people who were convinced they were plain and average, but to me they were beautiful because they pushed numerous of my buttons and ticked numerous of my taste preference boxes

3) YOU define your self worth. YOU tell yourself that you're ugly and that only your looks can be your source of self esteem.

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>>18179081
Do you honestly think you can't get a good job because you're ugly?

Maybe you're getting rejected from jobs because you're a moron.

t. fat and ugly man

>>18178977
You don't. Intimacy is a one way street - you go just in one direction. You can be friendly with them, but you can become acquaintances, not friends.

Just break up with her and move on with your life. You'll lose someone you cared about, it sucks, but it's for the best.
Anyway, no sensitive future partner would ever be fine with your friendship so it's due to end anyway.

>>18178997
Thanks. Well I know she's still at least acquainted with an ex of hers, so I guess the possibility is still there. Still, do you have any idea how to bring the subject up to her face?

Hey OP. I'm in the same boat. I've been with my GF for one year, and the only problem is sex. She has pain during intercourse and hasn't been able to fix this problem even with medical help.

She's my best friend and I care for her, but I can't live without satisfying sex and without the passion it brings into a relationship. I'm working up the nerve to break up on good terms, but the only way I see it is that it's like a band aid. Just gotta rip it off.

Get off the medication or go outside and get some sun. Tell the doc who prescribed you this meds that it's making you depressed and they'll change it up

>>18178833
You can control depression though. She's not wrong. Force of will shouldn't be misinterpreted as complete and utter force from ones own being as the environment one perceives is the space in which a force can thrive or die. It is controllable m8. If you don't like what's going on around you change it to something that will promote you. That force of will is called motivation. >inb4 discipline. When you believe something to be wrong you may feel an emotional driver in your mind persuading you to act. If it's strong enough you will act. The problem is that if your environment takes you down it may take away from this net force of emotional drivers. A way around this is create anxiety in yourself in such a way that your own internal motivation can be independent of the environment temporarily. Too long and it will have negative effects. Go for runs. The dopamine high you get in the beginning will hopefully translate into a positive perception that you can use to do more things that are beneficial to yourself which also give you that feeling. That's just one thing you could do. Anyway have a good one bro

>>18178833
Talk to your doc, not your mom, about changing pills. Say truth that they make you feel dead inside and you rather have some pain and soul than no pain and no soul.

Sounds like she's got some major insecurity issues, you should talk to her about that.

>>18178765

She's drunk and unreasonable

Talk to her when she sobers up

>>18178765
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>>18178773
These

Also, I've found it best to deal with women and their emotional bullshit this way, ignore it completely and you take any legitimacy away from their attack. What good is snake venom if the prey is immune? Just be immune bro, dodge it, ignore her, when she tries to accuse you say things like, I think it's funny you're still going on about that, anyway, we are going to do ...., or ignore her completely and tell her what you're getting for breakfast and if she ignores you or tries to bring it up again just leave and go get breakfast, etc. show her that you don't give two shits about what she thinks of what you do and that you've got balls to do what you want to do. She'll want your sweet testicle nectar more than anything. There is obviously a limit to how far this will work, things like when her parents are involved with whatever it is for instance, but insignificant stupid bullshit like this doesn't deserve a moments notice. Remember bro, you're the man, be the captain of your relationship. If you let the small tides intimidate you you're never going to sail.

>>18178700
meditation.

>>18178700
Some say meditation.

Marcus Aurelius suggested in his meditations to do everything as if it's the last time you'll ever do it. When you mature though you'll have intuitionalized so many of the experiences you've been through that you'll stop zoning out. I'm guessing you're probably 21 y/o<. It gets better with age. Also, do you exercise/ use any sort of mind altering substance ever, do you know your Mbti?

>>18178700
Buy a fidget toy. That might help you concentrate somewhat while studying.

who intiated the breakup?

>>18178687
It took learning to see women as inferior creatures to do it for me. There will always be a part of you that misses her if you actually loved her though.

>>18178687
Congratulations. You are officially normal.

A break up is supposed to hurt. If you walked away totally free, you wouldn't be much of a human being.

Immerse yourself in routine, carrying on life as normal as possible. It will distract you from your feelings while also guiding you back to normality.

At the same time, give yourself permission to grieve. Going a little crazy in small ways will be a safety valve.

>>18178670
Broaden your horizons. You're not lonely because you're a truly horrible person (unless you are), you're lonely because you make yourself lonely.

Stop being so self-guilty, give yourself room to fuck up. Let someone fall in love with you for your flaws.

>>18178670
how pretentious of you anon. you say that you can't find anyone you'd be interested in, but it sounds like you haven't even tried.

>>18178695
I have, and they end up like just being nice instead of interested or they already have a relationship etc.
Basically I think I found someone and then I didn't.

15, grow a beard
Unless you're actually 15
Then get off 4chan

>>18178662
You look fine. 20 something
Maybe no more serial killer eyes if you know what I mean. Also stop thinking about how you look you're not 15 anymore bro

Smoke. A lot.

Cont.
My thoughts are that it doesn't seem like it's a good time to ask her out right now, I feel she doesn't want to date anyone right now. Although, I feel that she has some interest towards me but obviously can't know for sure. On the other hand, if we do start dating she wouldn't have to deal with other guys since she isn't single. It's been about 2 or 3 weeks since we first met. Any constructive insights would be appreciated.

>>18178664
2 or 3 weeks for dating may seem like enough time, the question you got to ask yourself is do you want to ease her burden at work or do you genuinely find interest in her since you said you do have many things in common, my advice, get to know her better. Take the time to talk to her and see what kind of person she really is like, if she dates anyone in that time frame see how she treats you while in a relationship if you can't stand that then go ahead and go all in and see how it works out. Another word of caution it will create an awkward work environment if she does reject you maybe not from yourself but on her side since you have no way of knowing your best bet is to play it cool and get to know her better.

>>18178688
Just want to clear this up but we don't work there. I'm 18, she's 17 but otherwise thank you for the advice, really helpful.

>>18178643

if i liked her, sure, but thats because i would have had sex in those 3 months too, id probably be insecure if i couldnt have gotten laid.

Yeah i didnt get laid. I didnt feel like it cause it was a fresh break up

>>18178658

thats understandable, we all have different ways of coping, mine are always sex and food.

really if you're this petty about it though (and i dont mean that as an insult) probably better not to date her, sounds like you got some personal stuff to work through.

really if the answer to 'do i want to date this person?' is never a solid 'yes' then its already on the road to failure.

>>18178598
He's an alcoholic. Alcoholics will use any excuse to blame anyone or anything for their alcohol abuse, except themselves.

What could help is to visit him unanounced, at random moments. So if he cares he has to get his shit together all the time and not only on the moment you said you would come.

You dont need to have strong emotions about this btw. It is absurd.

>>18178628

It was really confronting seeing this in action, he spent the whole time jumping from excuse to excuse. At one stage he actually lashed out at me with "You don't even have a girlfriend!". Thanks Dad

I thought I had gotten through to him at the end, because he kinda seemed like he had internalized it and was in the process of making peace.

That's why I think he had a mental breakdown, I think he was forced to acknowledge himself and responded by creating huge drama so he could feel safe in self-pity

A lot of girls have a fetish for this shit. Let them lance that bitch.

NO! septicaemia

My boyfriend had one in the same spot. He said the removal was incredibly painful even with anesthetic. You'll probably take longer to get the procedure done, and there's a high risk of infection if you do it yourself. If you don't get all of it out, it could come back. With it being right along your neck, I really don't think you should mess with it. You're better off making yourself as comfortable as possible until you can have it removed by a professional.

>Abloo bloo I'm worried about having underage drinking on my record
Yeah, not even government jobs give a shit about this. Have an escape plan whenever you go to any party. Don't hole yourself into a corner somewhere.

You're not going to be blacklisted from a government job for having a couple of fucking beers in college.

If you even get in trouble at any point in any more than a passive way, you're doing it wrong. This is your point in life where you're actually socially allowed to do this shit. Do it now or regret it forever.

Or just admit that you're scared of doing it, and don't hide behind "government jobs."

>>18178512
I see, I also hate this whole hookup culture thong though. These girls dress nearly naked and throw themselves onto guys. I'm handsome and toned, so it's not difficult, but it feels dirty. Should K just take advantge of it.
>>18178518
I genuinely thought I would be barred for one thing, I'm not a coward

>>18178496
The difference between a sexual preference and a fetish is exclusivity. It's a fetish if you can't get off any other way.

The danger with some sexual preferences, especially those you can't exercise, is that you can become obsessed by them and they turn into a fetish.

>>18178496
Meh, i used to have preferences like yours but eventually I lost interest and stopped being able to get off to them.

On topic since i see "Maternal sexualization" in the OP.

I never met my mother she died a few days after i was born, i generally attract women older than me, be it 10 to 15 years older than me. Recently I've been seeing a women who knows nothing of this but every time she's close to cumming she says or yells "cum inside me, cum inside mommy/momma" im 28, she's 38, I've made no mention of this but it's...its a little too weird for me.