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I have a kind of a specific issue at hand. I just want to hear some thoughts, and also whether I'm a complete idiot or not.
I've known a person for a while, always had this sort of unrequited love thing going on, though they often mentioned how they would love to make it work, but how there are simply too many obstacles... so we are friends, with some strange underlying attraction.
This got really too much to handle, lately. I basically ghosted them. I think that was a terrible, terrible move that seemed completely rational to me at the moment - well, it wasn't. I plan to message them again in a while (a month or so?) with a cooler mind. I will apologize.
How mad will they be? Should I even do it?
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>>18182525

>how mad will they be

we dont know. maybe mad. maybe not mad at all. maybe mad because they feel superior and are mad you cut them off first. maybe mad so they can cut you off when you return. maybe mad cuz they kinda actually cared. probably not though.
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>>18182525
I am that person and this is not the first time you did that to me.

I hate you. Also love you.
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>>18182532
>maybe mad cuz they kinda actually cared. probably not though.
As in, they probably didn't care? I wish that weren't the case. I'm an asshole, but I love them.

>>18182541
It's not you. This is my first and last time doing this.

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Hey adv, autismolord here, so i havent dated a girl in about 2 years, i was a normie back then. But now i question if i ever want to be in a relationship again. When i think of relationships now i think of excessive money loss, putting up with erratic emotions and being forced to go places i dont really want to go, and my only reward for this is sex, at intervals she decides. Is it ever really like that? Or is it like that but people dont really care cause theyre intoxicated with "love"? I think the people and information i have been surrounding myself lately with has given me a negative connotation to dating. I also think no girl can be trusted to stay loyal but once again that's probably /pol/ talking. Also everyone one i know thats been married 10+ years say never get married. Is it really even worth it guys?
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>>18182459
Also is pic related a trap or not? This is the real reason im here
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>>18182459
Focus on yourself.

Yeah, dating is worth it if it adds something to your life. If your life is on rails and everything's cool it's worth giving it a shot (unless you're going to go all beta nice boi shit, then you're fucked either way).

Relationships come in all sorts. Those instances you mentioned do happen, but there are also the good ones too. Girls you can trust and love and will genuinely make you happy.
But like everything in life, it ain't easy finding, exceptionally hard if you don't even try, which you ain't, so go on, give it a try.

If you get your heart broken, take a breather and try again once you feel better.
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Yup, that's why I stay single since my last breakup. It was exactly as you described and I feel exactly the same.

also this guy
>>18182563

You only feel need to get relationships if your own life is boring and sad, otherwise the costs are basically too high and do not equal the income.

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How do I make a girl laugh ? I suck at this shit and I have this date next friday.

I am a very socially awkward person(or introvert) so even though I can socialize, I never know what to say and I end up sounding like fool most of the time. Is gonna be a clusterfuck.

Or should I just not try to make her laugh and be myself(which may be boring)?
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Help me pls
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>>18182456
You have a date.

Chances are, she already likes you. If that's the case, she'll go out of her way to laugh at every retarded joke you make, don't worry. Girls aren't funny at all, have you ever heard their convos/jokes?

Be yourself, just try not to go full retard, that's hard to pull off by itself, but even harder to recover from.

Worst case scenario: She doesn't like you because your humor doesn't please her - fuck her, you'll find better.
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>kidnap her
> drag her out in the woods
>stab her and beat her with a pipe
>all while screaming "Isnt this FUNNY?!! Laugh BITCH!!"
>she laughs, between the shreiks and tear

At least that's what worked for me. A woman's laughter is the most beautiful sound

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I'm in need of books for self help purposes.

Someone guide me towards books worth my time.

ANY self help books that you know are 100% life-changing.
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not a book but I love these
https://www.youtube.com/user/ActualizedOrg/videos
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>>18182425
How to Solve It by George Pólya
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Think and grow rich
Anything Tony Robbins
Be obsessed or be average by grant cardone
Any of Gary Vaynerchuks content on YouTube

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Yes it's this question again. Share tips tricks and advice pls
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dont' shower for two days and eat a clove of garlic right before kissing.
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>>18182371
You forgot the baguette. Literally the most important part.
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open yer mouth, tilt head to side, use tongue and lips

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is engineering a meme or will i be very employable?

t. will be mechanical engineer with 3.0 gpa out of türk uni , can speak german turkish english
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>>18182347
Honestly depends on where you live and how mobile you are.
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>>18182347
Everyone is going into engineering nowdays, so I personally think engineering is a meme, but what do I know, I'm just a second year biology student
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>>18182418
are u a girl?

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Is marriage worth it in this day and age? Been with my girlfriend for six years and I like what we have now, can't really imagine why we would get hitched.
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>>18182324
Depends on where you live and the laws and culture of the land.

In modern west, generally speaking, marriage is a shit deal for the man, that just begs you to be fucked over when the inevitable divorce comes.
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>>18182324

in america, not really. and its not strictly women's fault, its just the way the tides have turned, there was a time when marriage was such a shit deal for women but it was their only option.

we are entering an age of independence. and as a result our codependent institutions are starting to fall apart. if things keep going in this direction marriage will either adapt or be increasingly rare.
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>inb4 countless posts claiming that marriage is a woman thing

If you don't want to have kids, it doesn't matter much. But depending on where you live, marriage can be real fucking important to you as a man to ensure that you have rights to your kids if you have an issue with your wife.

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There's s new guy in my office, he's black. I'm black too and it's kind of awkward. We're both obviously from upper middle class surburban backgrounds but when he interacts with me he tries really hard to seem....I dunno "black". Like, I sound like the average mid-westerner and so does he but when he's talking to me he noticeably tries to add more base to his voice and uses more contractions to words.

This dork is always trying to greet me with elaborate handshakes, calling me "bruh" and "homie", it's all really cringey.

Even my white and latino coworkers feel second hand embarrassment when he speaks to me.

What do? We kinda have to work together
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Isn't it possible that this is what he's used to from his family and other black families he knows, and he doesn't realize that it's not necessarily a universal black experience?
Just throwing it out there.

Either way, I would try to be casual about it, laugh it off, make a joke out of how you appreciate his reaching out but he's talking to the wrong man when it comes to those fancy handshakes.
Doesn't matter if you sense that he's more serious with it than just doing a gimmick. Act like you don't consider that he might find it a big deal, that gives you a better shot of him actually treating it like not a big deal. If you put too much effort into not being awkward that is more likely to make it awkward because he senses how deep your discomfort runs.

Also good luck, sounds incredibly cringeworthy indeed.
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>>18182321

hes probably assuming you're that way, hwich isn't ideal, but isn't coming from a negative place. you're the only two black guys in your work place in a strange culture that accepts you but knows that you're an oddity. he is likely seeking some sort of connection and trying to do it on your terms.

so ask if he wnats to grab lunch and then just talk about it. he'll probably feel really relieved that you got his back and that he has someone he can relate to in his work place.

you don't have to become legit friends but just knowing you are playing the same game on the same team helps
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>>18182321
>2 black guys at work
Now that's something.

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i hae a very stupid question and i don't know where to ask
why do we say white people and black people when in reality it's pink and brown
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>pink
What? Don't you mean peach?
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>>18182286
peach is a shade of pink
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>>18182284
>>18182295

people come in so many shades. there are white people who are legitimately white. and black people who are legitimately black.

its a broad term.

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Is running in place a good substitute for actually running?
I'm too nervous to go for runs outside and I dont have money for a treadmill.
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You probably don't have the proper shoes for running distance outdoors anyway. Jumping jacks are good, burpees, anything bodyweight is also good like pullups, sit-ups, bench dips, yoga ball squats (yoga ball is $5). You can buy some of those little hand weights and hold them while you do squats. Check /fit/ for more hotel room cardio.
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>>18182271
that nurse is wife material
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>>18182280
I teach nurses, and they're hard workers and self-motivated. If you find one, make sure she does more than work and sleep though. They tend to be workaholics.

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Hi /adv/,

I have a problem.

My brother who is in high school has become my torturer. He spens all day playing video games on his computer in the room next to mine, and, while I have no problem with that, he just screams while he does it. He screams and screams for hours, insulting the whole world and laughing like an idiot. The walls are so thin that I hear it as though he was next to me.

This has been going on for months. I can't stand it anymore. I looked for voice masking devices today and some are being designed but there are none available on the market.

I will not have this any longer.

I want to discreetly destroy his computer, in a way that it will look like he did it. Maybe through a virus or something but I don't know if he protected his computer with a password or not. Maybe magnets to erase the hard drive, I don't know.

Please tell me the most effective and unsuspicious way of rendering a computer terminally unoperable.

He'll probably beg for another one but at least it will save my sanity for a few weeks and after he starts doing it again, I can always destroy the next one after some time.

Help.
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>>18182254
Maybe just walk over to his room and ask him nicely to be quieter when you're in the house?

You know, handle it like an adult would?
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>>18182254

Try this: >>18182259

Otherwise, magnet to the motherboard. That will stop the computer working without destroying his precious data.
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>>18182259
>implying somebody who spams chat with faggotry is capable of being the other party in an adult conversation.

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I have a hard time grasping concepts, basically, fucked up my study habits and everything related with it, as throughout high school I was doing practically nothing, my parents pressed me to get good grades, and I made my way with cheating. Somehow I managed to get into a good university by passing my exams well, but what I have recently noticed is that I am far, far away of my peers, whose grades are way better, and they do understand everything in much more rapid way.

I start to prepare for exam two weeks before, if I have to proof a theorem with lemma, I memorize it, letter by letter, being completely unable to derive it by myself. Nonetheless, everything I "learnt" is basically forgotten.

Seriously struggling with programming now, algorithms, everything. Almost regretting the fact I chose it.

Any tips?
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>>18182243
Don't major in something you can't do
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Bump, not op but I also have problems, I need techniques to retain information. And maths tips.
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Sleep

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does anybody have any advice for tinder profiles?
new to online dating. 19 yr old 6/10 in looks and live with my grandparents.
are selfies okay?
and regarding the about me. do i list the stuff i like? or does it need be some catchphrase?

thanks in advance guys
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Tinder is a cesspool
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Best advice is meet women in real life. That app is shit
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Yeah OP, meet women (that use tinder anyway) in real life, that will change everything. Listen to the wisdom of 4chan.

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My guy friend (who I am attracted to, although we have hung out very platonically for the last year or so with other friends) glances between my eyes and mouth when I'm talking. What does this mean? Is he thinking about kissing? Trying to read lips? (I don't think he's hard of hearing) Or is this a semi-autistic way of avoiding eye contact while we're chatting?
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It means he wants to put his dick in there
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>>18182167
I was hoping you'd say that
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>>18182183
Do you ride a bycicle?

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>gf of 2.5 years acts seriously stressed out past week
>suddenly bombshell conversation
>she's infatuated deeply with a friend but also loves me
>nothing has happened but she realizes she needs to make a choice
>is still stuck in choosing
>we've spoken so far, and we've decided to move on together

Lately we've been having some troubles, and it's mostly about me shutting down due to stress and not really talking to her about it. She felt very lonely because of it. Doesn't justify anything, but hey, there you go - I really did shut her out. We've agreed that we're going to fix it. Our relationship is really solid other than that; first relationship 'crisis' in 2.5 years.

She's going to notify him of her choice later today. I hope. She remains very unsure. She loves me deeply, but on one hand she fears that it's not going to work out between us and she fears she'll have burned both bridges... Emotionally she's very confused and I don't blame her.

I love her deeply and I wish none of this happened. I think I want to work it out, but I feel nothing. I'm so incredibly fucking numb. I can't believe how hollow I feel right now. What mostly goes through my head right now is that I want her to pick me and that she tells the guy so "I'll win". Then I might end it myself. But... a relationships will have ups and downs. It's normal to be infatuated by others. We're only human beings. It's not like I don't look at other women. Much depends on how you're willing to go at it together to beat these obstacles. Or not, and flee.

Any general advice for situations like these? I just can't think clearly and I'm so so nauseous.
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>>18182142
It's normal to be infatuated by others, but it's not normal to tell your boyfriend that you're stuck in choosing between you and some other guy. I think I would drop her.
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>>18182142
she had given him the time to get infatuated. I have a LDR of 6 years and I have met a lot of people, but never gave them the chance to get them/me infatuated. Just my opinion.

Maybe she is just justifiing her actions by this "shut in" wall.
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>>18182150
What this guy said. You shouldn't have to compete with another for the heart of someone, not only is that toxic to yourself, but it's also unnecessary stress and anxiety. There are plenty of women who would be unconditionally in love with you and would never give a second thought to leaving you for someone else (provided you're a well adjusted, healthy adult who treats partners right)

If she has to make a choice, tell her to pick him because you shouldn't have to deal with her fucked up indecisiveness between you and some new guy.

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