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Dude, don't go into a marriage with someone who might be attracted to something else. Just ask him straight. If you're close enough to consider marriage, you should be able to ask that.

He might jsut be bi, in which case there's no issue, right?

"Hey, honey, I know this is a really weird question, and I promise not to judge you whatsoever, but do you ever have sexual thoughts about men?"

Now, the trick here is to actually not judge him. If he's comfortable and trusts you there's a slight chance he might open up to you about it, but I really, highly, seriously doubt he'll admit it - that's assuming he's actually gay.

Go out together sometime and have lots and lots of drinks, try to get him drunk, but don't be obvious about it. Then, just let him talk and observe his behavior - does he look around the bar, and if so, does he specifically look at men a lot, more so than women? Usually when someone's so drunk, they'll let their inhibitions slide ever so slightly - if he is drunk you'll be able to catch some feminine gestures, or maybe he'll say something suggestive.

I don't know, OP. What makes you even think he's gay or bisexual? Just because your friends say he's in the closet doesn't really mean anything, really. He's dating you after all.

>>18194349
He goes on freecams and jerks off with tranny's. He likes to put on my makeup. I see that he follows and likes a lot of tranny men online. He bought me am anal plug for Valentine's, kept it and used it for himself. He has those certain hand gestures and etc. I wouldn't dare judge him if he was, I'd love him just as much in a different way. I just want him to be honest with me and save me from wasting my time and much more hurt. Most of all I want him to be honest with himself! I want him to know it's ok if he is. I don't want to be stuck as someone's beard.

Zoning out is actually healthy.

But yes, seek help.

>>18194307
The zoning out has cost me a lot of jobs.

go to a therapist?

>>18194298
You're insecure and you have a need to fuck with people you perceive to be below you to feel better about yourself.

>>18194305
Yeah true, but how do I stop? It's like my drug, I have fun messing with people.

>>18194313
I am very interested in how you find enough drive to go through all that work for trolling purposes. I am also laughing like a freak so have a (You).
The only way I could find to stop myself from doing this forever is to consider what kind of bad shit it causes on the whole, but I never did this so I don't know. The insecurity part is solved by getting really good at something aside from trolling, of course; you need some instropective thinking on that part.

You need to contact them for a follow up. They probably get hundreds of applications, show that you're interested.

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>>18194288
Follow up? I don't have access to anything beyond a generic .noreply email. These are faceless corporations. Who can I contact?

Let's say I apply to a McDonals, for example. Who am I supposed to ask for a follow up? The managers of locations like that don't like being talked to for work, they'll tell you to apply online, or they'll give you a form and say "fill it out, also apply online." Rather, that's what I've been doing. Is this not a follow up?

>>18194303
call them

Laser removal

My lady had it done.

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Grow a bitchin moustache

>>18194257
Any non-expensive or home remedies that might work?

Relationship has attraction and a sexual element.

>>18194234
At first attraction may be confused with just liking someone a lot as a friend, liking their company.

How to differ from these feelings is what I meant, sorry if I worded things badly.

>>18194246
Normal people can tell whether they're attracted to someone and want to have sex with them or whether they just like their company.

>>18194179
We don't need another alt-right channel on youtube.

>>18194190

I'm not alt-right.

>>18194179
Please don't. We have enough political bullshit on Youtube

are you the faggot who wants to volunteer in a refugee camp? if so, neck yourself. those transgenders are already gettig enough free victim points just for being mentally ill.

>>18194180
Um sir I'll have you know they have suffered more than any other group in this country. What did Native Americans do to deserve reservations? They have their land away. Transgenders deserve it.

>>18194174
Umm no. I'm sorry, but most reservations I been too are the worst places on earth. Why do you want to seperate from the rest of everyone?

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My advice and comment I'd impart to you is that you sound like a pretentious faggot and should break up with your boring girlfriend so you can save the world for us. Lmao syrian refugees, next you'll be talking about ending world hunger or some shit lmao. Also pic related is what you look like to other people.

>>18194424
This

Jesus Christ, you're trying to make her sound like the worse one here, but SHE'S the one who actually knows what she wants to do. Being sensible and responsible isn't boring.

>>18194138
Wait til you're sober

>>18194151
Lol, don't worry, mate. I'm not drunktexting her. I just want to get some ideas.

>>18194169
There is no reason to say, "Dear (name)" if you're texting her. She knows the message is for her, it's being sent to her phone. This just makes you sound tryhard and autistic. In my opinion, the briefer you are through text, the better. Just say you miss her and want to hang out again sometime

>>18194132
Fap without the porn is fine

>>18194156
Porn without the fap is better

its definitely caused ED for me. I stopped watching porn for a couple weeks, and only fapping to thoughts and holy fuck my sex drive went through the roof. I still have a cheat day once a week though.

Good luck OP, godspeed

Watching

>>18194075
Any college? Any high school courses that could relate to the job? I've literally put college courses on my resume and explained why they were relevant to the job

>>18194083
I've failed mostly everything in high school. I'm taking basic prereqs in community college at the moment.

>>18194023
Why do you want such a habit?

Dont do either

Try weed if anything

You're already a cancerous fggt so there's no point to start

>>18193994
It IS my fault
I'll hate myself till I'm successful
Then I'll hate myself for not being sucessful enough

i'll fake it through the day

Learn to forgive yourself

Intelligence and wit present themselves in different forms in different people. There is no one-dimensional way to measure it.

I am also a slow thinker. I used to worry about the fact that I couldn't keep up as quickly when information is presented in quick succession, and I used to worry about the fact that I couldn't daze and amaze by regurgitating said information just as quickly. I eventually came to realize, however, that I do have an above average ability for "deep thinking." Where I probably cannot give you an articulate and down-to-earth description of my research, for example, I can give you a fifty-page thesis on a topic, its biggest problems, and new approaches to solving those problems without much effort. With a little more effort, I can give nice illustrations of how my work relates and can be applied to the real world.

Perhaps you're more like me, but one reason why I am not particularly quick on my feet stems from my desire to think about individual details in extreme depth before moving on to the next. I can't be satisfied with an "okay" understanding of what was just said; I need to be able to surround it from all angles before I am willing to hear what comes next.

>>18193982
Personally I find that when I'm extremely comfortable with someone, like my best friend, I am able to come up with the best jokes or responses to the situation on the spot, literally within a split second. And sure enough, everyone in the room usually laughs quite a lot. You just have to be comfortable with people. I'm working on taking that comfortableness with my best friend and trying to feel like that in public with everyone, without trying so hard though. It's because your nervous of the reaction you might get, I suspect. Anyway, even though it's a stupid meme, just try to comfortable and be yourself in public. I've yet to do this but it'll work eventually. But hey, may be you just need to find your type of humor.

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>>18193982
Also someone more comfortable in writing, I actually find my brain works in speech the same as it does in writing - sometimes I backspace a word or two and maybe come up with something better, which manifests itself into a weird stutter or speech impediment that I stumble on.

Doesn't detract anything really, people still pay attention and don't give me any shit for it.

Wish I could give you some actual advice on stepping up your wit. I learned from being around witty and funny people, wishing I could be them, and growing up on yahoo chat like the other retarded 13 year olds of the 90s. Lots of exposure was my trick. Now I go on multiplayer games and can talk shit like it's an olympic event because all that chatting taught me how to think fast.
Maybe try flexing your muscles on some comms channels, but they have to be chat so that you can work your in-the-moment thought process. Anonymous is good. Faceless = stakeless. Eventually work your way up to in-person.

Speaking as someone who wasn't funny or interesting or witty or clever until about 19, and can now slay a room with laughter, it feels good man. It takes work though.