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This is going to make me sound like im some edgy prick and I don't mean for it to be that way. I feel like I've given up on everyone as a whole. Everyone is a dick for seemingly no reason. If people can't get anything from you, they don't value your time and don't care about being in your life. How do you even recover from this? Even if I went to therapy I'll provably just fall back into the same depression from unmet expectations. I've practically given up on improving myself for women. Doesn't seem worth it to me if none of them even like you for you. I wish there was somewhere I could go where people still had morals and actually cared about our future as a whole. Does anyone else feel the same way? I'll probably get negative feedback from this just because

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Will someone explain to me why are guys obsessing over the cash me outside girl... they're always saying they don't like ratchet trashy skanks yet they're all obsessing over her like she's something great. I don't get it.

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I'm 24 years old and never had a boyfriend, only found guys in bars and stuff who want to have sex only then never speak to me again

Am I just not girlfriend material. I'm pretty depressed about it

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I've noticed I can be very abrasive and mean to people, sometimes without even realizing it. I do it in a joking way, but more often than not I get carried away and just tend to start slinging shit before I catch myself and realize I'm being a total shithead.

How does one start changing that kind of behavior? I don't enjoy it anymore and I want to try and be better than that. Being sarcastic and cynical all the time doesn't make me any happier and it makes people around me feel shitty, which isn't something I want.

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Has anybody else had this? And how did you treat it?

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I'm going on a date with a literal 9. How do i not blow this?

>From okcupid
>sent me her number this morning
>texted her for a bit
>asked if i wanted to swap pics
>started sending me normal cute pics of her (thank god, im looking for love not another slut)
>said i'm cute with heart faces when i sent my pics
>we're going out soon

I'm excited as fuck but also terrified. She is way out of my league and i can't fuck this up. Please, what do to at least make it to date 2?

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Okay /adv/ let's do this. I'm gonna try and stay as vague as possible, but suffice to say I'm in an awkward situation with a girl.

I'm a pretty awkward guy, and have never really got along well with girls. I mean I can talk to them okay, I just was never really interested, thet seemed kimda shallow or "not on my level" (gay I know) So I'm in a discord one night and there's a person talking about how they live in the same state as me. I strike up a pretty casual conversation with them and learn that she lives in a certain city and that she is apparently a "trap".

So the conversation kinda dies off and I get bored, so I decided to play a bit of a prank. So I hop on my alt account, join the discord and mention that I'm from the same city. And we actually have a real conversation this time. And we hit it off AMAZINGLY. This went on for a while and I'm totally in love. She's so totally wonderful and beautiful and everything. And I barely even have to hide my dorkiness. It's all too good to be true. And she's really into me as well.

Fuck, I've been rambling.
So the crux of my problem is that she wants to chill with me and I basically lied about where I live. Amd even worse I perpetuated the lie and looked up the city on google maps and learned the streets and shit.

Do I break it to her? She's new to the area and doesn't have many friends, so this'll be a big deal for her. And I can't drive down and pretend either, it's a six hour drive, I dont have a car AND I have local commitments.

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My girlfriend and I have been together for 7-years since February. I am 29-years old, have a decent career, make decent money, and as far as my GF and I go we are relatively happy. However, as of the past year or so I have noticed myself wanting to possibly date other women, but I have refused due to my commitment to my GF and our relationships.

I don't have a ton of complaints about our relationship to be honest; we get along great 95% of the time, we love each other a lot, and we support each other as we should. My two main complaints is our sex life and my girlfriend being somewhat overly dependent on me at times. We only have sex two or three times a month on average, and she typically is not in the mood. Regarding the dependency, we quickly became best friends when we started dating which led her to abandon most of her social life in order to spend time with me. I love how close we've become, but at the same time it has evolved over to to her depending on me socially more than I feel comfortable with.

Despite these two issues, both which are nothing new I am not sure why I have recently felt a strong desire to date other women. I guess I just feel like our relationship has plateaued and I miss the excitement of meeting new women, dating, and sleeping with sleeping with a woman I've never been with before.

I am not going to cheat on her and preferably I do not want to sabotage what is mostly a great relationship. I genuinely do not believe the grass is greener on the other side, however this does not seem to make me feel any better.

Does anyone have any advice for revitalizing a long standing relationship that has become a little routine and stale? Thoughts or otherwise?

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I have a huge decision to make. I need to decide whether I'll pursue a career in economcis or just go with my heart and study business/marketing instead.

With the economics degree I'd naturally have much more wider career prospects ahead of me. And I could even land a marketing job.

But I'm worried that the math aspect of that will be just too much for me. I haven't studied math since high school and my math skills are badly lacking.

I'd stress like crazy and I can't say that economics was something I specially enjoyed. I'd only go for it because the chance of a better pay in the future.

However marketing is where my skills and passion lays. I don't wanna work with finance or such in the future, but marketing, sales or general business development within those fields.

What to do anons? I'd choose economics in a heartbeat if I followed my brain, but as said I'm dead worried that I'm not smart enough. My math skills are not on a needed level despite being accepted to the education. I can't afford quitting either, if it doesn't workout since I've dropped out once already from another uni field.

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/adv/, I don't know what's going on, everyone on social media is freaking out over something that happened recently tonight (It's best if I don't mention it), are we gonna be okay? I just don't know what'll happen next?

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I'm a double science major premed student and I spend all of my time at school or working from home. Any free time I have is spent reading, going to the gym, or learning how to play music.
I really love all of this stuff and it's hard to imagine my life without any of them. The problem is that I have no social life. I'm smart, reasonably normal, in very good shape, attractive, and good at conversation - but I just don't have time to branch outside of everything else I have going on.
For a long time it wasn't an issue. I have a small circle of friends I've known for most of my life and I'd talk to them online and we'd hang out every other week or so, but now I'm a 21 year old college senior and I have no social experience.
I've never had a proper girlfriend and I feel like I'm growing out of my group of friends, largely due to the fact that we're all growing up and starting to move in different direction. Because of this I'm starting to feel really lonely for the first time in my life. It's not that I don't interact with people (I'm in four clubs and I volunteer regularly), it's that I don't have anyone that I can really be emotionally intimate with and there's a buffer between me and everyone else.


I guess my question is just what should I do? Should I proceed down this same path? If everything goes as planned I'll be going into medical research and for at least the next 12 years I'll be in the same situation I'm currently in.

Or should I stop my private self-cultivation and try to form deep connections with people? I'd really like to meet a girl that I click with, but I've met maybe two in all my interactions with people, and the only one that a relationship would even be theoretically feasible with has a boyfriend - we take most of our classes together and we're in all the same clubs, but she's got this boyfriend.
I guess I'm just lost and looking for general guidance. Really not sure how to proceed

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What do? Earlier I was teaching my 3 year old little sister how to read and she randomly said "this is my third life and in my last life I was very very poor".

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>when you're not good enough for the field you studied for and don't have a backup plan

All my life, all I ever wanted to do was art. Whether it was comics, illustration, concept art, storyboarding etc.

When I went to art school, I realized I was basically studying how to be a freelancer. While I did get freelancing gigs, the jobs were few and far between and not enough to make a steady income. It's hard to make a good income with art when there's always someone out there who can do the job for cheaper.
So I tried looking into companies I could work for.

After three years, I finally got my first real foot-in-the-door job, thanks to an alumni from my school. The job title was technical artist, but there wasn't much coding involved. It just needed a good working knowledge of Photoshop and After Effects. The job in a nutshell was taking the graphics and sounds from slot machine games, resizing/cropping them and adjusting the position of the graphics via x/y coordinates and tags set up via game's script.

It wasn't what I wanted to do for a job, but it was something I could do, was comfy and I did it for 3 and a half years until I was laid off.

Now I'm stuck in the same position and not sure where to go at this point. I never had a backup plan besides art. The only other thing I could think of is maybe advertising but I absolutely don't want to go back to school.

It sucks when I'm not good enough for my dream jobs, but I don't know any other jobs i could put my skills to. I guess I should just keep working on my art to get better, to get the job I want, but it's hard to do that with no income coming in already.

Out of all the applications I've put in, I've only had one interview with a video game company and never heard back.

I just don't know what to do at this point.

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I recently (the past year and a half) have been having urges to fuck my best friend.

Recently its gotten so bad that I've reached the level of being able to masturbate to his photos.

My dilemma is that we have been best friends since senior year of highschool. Its not that I haven't always been attracted to him - I have, but most of the time i've known him i've had the same boyfriend so those feelings took a back burner to the point that most all of our friendship hasn't been "sullied" by this lust I feel.

After my ex and I broke up, I thought my sexual appetite for my best friend (lets call him T) was because we are so close, so I began fucking a dude I was dating at the time a few months after that long term relationship fell through.

The sex was great, but I still craved T. I thought maybe our amazing emotional connection was the reason why I still wanted him. I ended up breaking it off with the guy I was dating at the time and started dating a new guy (Lets call him B), one much better suited to me.

We have an amazing relationship now, been dating about a year. But I still crave my best friend T.

Realistically we are such different people it would never work out. T doesn't want children, I do. T is nearly a communist, i'm about as fiscally conservative as you can get.
I do love him more than anyone, but im just confused as to what I do here. My strong feelings for him have never been in question because I knew clearly they were of a great friendship and not because I want to bone him. Now that I DO want to bone him, I have no idea what to do.

Continue dating an amazing guy I could spend forever happy with, or break-up with him because of these feelings?

What would you do in my shoes, anon? If I go, how do I approach this without losing T? If I stay, how do I stop these feelings I have? So far ignoring them has worked okay, but I dont want to feel this way forever.

Ill leave some info about us in comments.

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Hey guys, a girl just texted and voicenoted me saying how she's sad and she wants me to make her laugh.
What does this mean? And what do I do?