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>>18232766
abandon him its too late

>>18232770
No sir

Get him into therapy. The earlier the better. If you do it as he's just having his first break it's likely it'll be his only episode. If you do not, he may get better on his own (psychosis is not black and white), but if he doesn't, his prognosis will be far worse than if you helped him into therapy now.

"hey are you the news cause i wanna get right into you"

>>18232746
>This seems super trivial but its important to me because who the fuck knows this could be my future wife.

This mindset means you are in for a very, very hard love life. How old are you? 18? 20?

Chill, don't be Ted Mosby. Going on a date should be fun by itself. Just doing something together. Don't make plans and just ask yourself: Would it be fun to go out with her? Would she say "yes" to hanghing out even as friends?

>>18232756

I'm actually in my mid 20's, about 6 months out of a 3+ year relationship. I get what you're saying, Its really not that big of a deal but given its been a long time since I've taken someone out for the first time I wanted some advice.

I do feel as though she would say yes, thats why I've been trying to think of an ideal way to pop the question, when I guess just asking her straight up would work equally as well.

Look into nose fillers/injections. They can sometimes be a quick fix and make it look less bad, and it costs way less than surgery. usually lasts about 9 months.

>>18232727
>does the pushing/squeezing method work

Likely not. It's fucking bone and cartilage. If you poke or sqeeze your knee, you think it's going to shrink or just become uncomfortable? Greek beaks, or English bridge noses are nice. Don't sweat small shit like that. Most people that get nose jobs don't need them; look fine before. Eventually you will come to accept yourself for who you are, and your nose won't matter. You're just human. No one is perfect.

A big nose is not as noticeable as a bad nose job.

Be happy with what you have.

>>18232717
don't compare yourself to others, low weights but more reps= fat loss/heavy weights less reps=muscle gain

First of all, try not to worry about your first time - it's gonna be pretty daunting walking through those doors to start with, but once you're in that's the hardest part over and done with! Next, just start with the machines - there's usually instructions or a visual guide for how to use it (alternatively don't be afraid to ask staff or someone who looks like they know what they're doing), and it's very difficult to do anything wrong when using them. Maybe look up some exercises online before you go so you have an idea of what you want to do, but I'd definitely recommend just starting with the machines to build up your base strength first, and you can go on to free weights later when you have a better idea of what you're doing. Finally, don't worry about what anyone else there thinks, people may glance over at you if you're new but they won't be judging you - in fact a lot of veteran gym-goers are pleased to see people starting up because it shows that you want to improve yourself. So don't worry too much about feeling self-conscious (it's natural to feel a bit nervous), just plug your headphones in, pick an exercise, and have a good time! Best of luck friendo!

>>18232732
Also, as this guy says, think about what you want to achieve in the gym.

If you want to get strong: 6-8 reps heavy weight
If you want to get big: 10-15 reps at medium weight
If you want to burn fat: 15+ reps at a manageable weight.

To begin with though, just do about 3 sets of 10 reps and build it up from there. As a newbie, pretty much anything you do in the gym will build muscle if you're eating right!

>>18232682
call Pajeet.

>>18232682
Honestly i think it might be a hardware issue but im not sure

>>18232693

Like getting a new one? It's not very old, plus I've kept it in good condition.

>>18232673
Let them be for a while then pick the strongest discard the rest.

>>18232673
throw some in smaller pots and keep them very well pruned for a fun experiment.

>>18232673
Never pick a fight with a tomato.

>>18232649
buy a sheep

>>18232657
It's a goat

>>18232661
I know but I recommend you buy a goat. But in all seriousness don't look for a relationship look for a friend and see what that becomes.

>>18232629
im a 30 year old going to school for accounting

we had 70 year olds in my trade school. Your good

Just dont expect any parties. Your there to learn and become better/earn more in life.

>>18232629
yeah its normal. I got a bunch of people in class that are 25 and up, oldest being 31

>>18232629
is that Emma Stone?

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>>18232540
You got caught jerking off at work, didn't you?

Go get another job, faggot. Get off 4 chan and start working on a resume.

>>18232545
some spanish woman wanted me to follow her in the bathroom and I left the building instead. I was giving my mom my whole paycheck anyway, it was direct deposit and she had my card I mean.

If you know I need a job why are you making me jump through your hoops? what am i going to put, that i walk out?

>>18232540
Nice story bro.
>be 28
>still unable to describe your problems in coherent text flow in sentences and paragraphs

Try again op. Breathe deeply, think about what do you even want to ask about and ask about it.

To me it seems you are just at loss currently. It will get better.

So what exactly is the problem op?
>gf
>job
>paranoia
>inability to format text
>fapping
We cant help you at so many subjects at once. Try to think for once before you type.

>>18232549
If this is supposted to be the reason you got fired from job, it still doesnt make sence.

Weak shit. Ritalin isn't fun, it's a study drug. Biphetin is ex. release so it's even more boring.

>>18232535
It's been an hour and I don't feel any different. Disappointed.

>>18232793
Go IR dexamphetamine, you won't regret it.

>>18232495
Continue.

>Nothing major happend until
>She randomly messages me and says that she wants me to ask something and that i shouldn't be upset with her because of it.
>A..Anon can i ask you something? Please don't hate me...."
>"Anon you are my best friend, you are the only one that brings me to laugh and i really really like you"
>"A..A.Anon do you want to do something with me?"
>Imagine a shit ton of heart symboles and kiss smileys
>Say to her that i like her the most out of girls and that i'm glad that she is one of the persons that accept me how i am to, reffers to the question game and because she always spamms this shit
>B-b-but Anon what about Stacey?, i thought you like Stacey the most out of the girls
>Lie to her and say that i hate Stacey and that i'm only nice to her because it is not my type to be mean
>"Yeah that makes sense Anon, you were never that kind of a person that could be mean"
>Agree to her offer and we make something like a "date"

>Fast forward to "date"
>Greet her with a hug and i see how she gets more and more nervous but happy as i approach with my body
>We are sitting in the park and talked for 5 hours and ate ice cream, she was really upset that i paid everything
>"Date" ends and she says that she really enjoyed the time with me and that i need to come to her next time
>And she invited me to her best friends birthday party
>Time passes again


>Sit in class
>She started to say things like that i'm very cute
>Makes randomly drawings of me in class
>Runs from one end to the other end in class just to draw a heart on my arm, she does this on regular basis
>Her best friends are now really nice to me too
>She uses a shit ton of heart emoticons and kiss smileys with me now on regular base
Friendzoned?

Continue.

>>18232499
Continue.

>About 1 week passes where everything that i listed above loops
>See how she started to post depressive shit
>SomethingIsWrong.jpg
>Think something big happend that throwed her deep into a depressive hole
>Message her because i'm a nice person and i like her as a person
>Do you want to talk about something or can i help you with something?
>No everything is fine Anon but thanks for asking, the same goes for you, you can always ask me if you need something
>Ask her what she does at the moment
>Nothing Anon i just swipe away my tears and prepare myself to cry myself into sleep
>Okay
>Prepared something for situations like that
>Ask her if she remembers what she told me
>"What do you mean Anon?"
>"Anon.....Everyone can draw pictures, you just need some practice and a blablablabalba in your heart"
>She is a really talented artist and often draws pictures
>Pull out my preparations
>A drawed picture of a special moment that happend on our "date" 1 week ago
>ANON DID YOU REALLY DRAW THIS?
>IT IS SO BEAUTIFUL AND CUTE FROM YOU
>What she doesn't know is that i'm a really good artist too but i stopped drawing because i had no time and no motivation
>Thank her that she was the reason i went back to drawing things and say her that she reminded me how much fun drawing was
>"NAWW YOU ARE SUCH A GOOD FRIEND, YOU ARE SO IMPORTANT FOR ME"
>Tell her that she is important to me too
>"I'M SO GLAD THAT WE GET ALONG SO WELL ANON"
>"ANON I'M SO GLAD THAT WE EVEN MET I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WOULD DO WITHOUT YOU"
>I actually said everything like above romantic and shit?
>Again says that she is glad that we are such good friends
Friendzoned?
>See how she puts the drawing of her as profile pic for some days
>No sings of depressive shit anymore

Continue.

>>18232500
Continue.

>Next day in class
>Ask me if i can giver her Internet
>She sees her name in my WhatsApp and asks me why she doesn't have a Heart behind her name and why she has a "YYY" behind her name
>Tell her that "YYY" only people get that i like and give her a heart behind her name because she wished it so.
>"Anon just give me the phone saves herself as "<3<3 Emilyyy <3<3"
>We sit next to each other and chat over WhatsApp
>Kek


>3 days before Party
>Just look around in class because bored as fuck
>She messages me after school
>Hey Anon i noticed how you looked at me today in class
>Wtf.jpg
>"How did i looked at you?"
>"Anon.....Yeah you smiled and ....."
>"I just like you"
>That's so cute you are the best friend that i ever had
>Go into Schlingel Modus
>"And i think you are pretty"
>"You are soooo cuuuuteeee you look good too"
>"Hihi <3 you are my best friend"
Friendzoned?

Continue.
This shit is longer than i expected.

I would hesitate because my current gf has shown me nothing but the utmost love and devotion - I honestly can't imagine another human treating me as well as she does.

>>18232467
nigga this aint a school cafeteria you don't trade up

No because I prize my integrity and loyalty above my impulses.

Why did you have to stop taking it after overdosing?

>>18232468
She said that i did it prolly on purpose

you will always be tired. thats what those meds do. but those are tranquilizers, not antidepressants. you are on the wrong meds if you have depression.

Dear lord, hold back the thought for a moment. My sister actually got her dumb self married at 25 with no career and her husband was jobless at the time... They are currently still paying off the loans in which they had to take for the marriage to work, their student loans, and now a house they bought recently.

You mentioned you were not financially sound, therefore, you are not in a position to speak for yourself. You need to understand that marriage is not just an agreement upon love, it is an economical pact as well that binds your financial position to hers and vice-versa.

Just wait. Be patient. Marriage is something that SHOULD be planned economically not emotionally.

Obviously too young.

If you two do have such a strong connection with each other, engagement is not going to add anything. That's my POV.

8 months doesn't sound like much either. If you think about it, you haven't been through all 4 seasons with her by your side. It's only natural that you feel everyone is against your willing and is trying to ruin your life (been there).

But seriously, forget about the engagement thing and enjoy every day you get to be together.

>>18232366
They're right.
You're too young, you've been together for too little.
If you truly love her and you're made to last, you can be together for a couple of years without getting married. It won't change anything.

>>18232308
normal to doubt her and she'll pull this shit again. you are not her top priority

>>18232308
Marry her don't be a faggot

>>18232308

How old are you?

It's perfectly normal for somebody to avoid a long term, serious, settled relationship in order to live a life without commitment. A lot of people on here will call this "riding the cock carousel" but this isn't always the case. It can be a matter of career, lifestyle, travelling - all the things that being in a long term relationship can have a serious effect on.

Only you know how long term your relationship feels. Although I don't think it's wrong to end a relationship (or take a break) if it doesn't feel right to you at the time, I probably wouldn't take a break from a relationship I was genuinely happy in. It doesn't really sound like you had a "break" though, more like she changed her mind about what she wanted very early in.

The fact is, she came back to you. She obviously wants to consider a relationship with you at the moment which suggests she likes you. Only you know how genuine she is as a person. It might be that she's settling with you after an attempt at securing something else, but nobody here can tell you whether that's the case.

Personally, I would avoid this because it sounds like a liability. What if this person comes back into her life and she suddenly decides that she doesn't want to be with you again, only years into a settled relationship?