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Your story's a mess. What's your history with that friend of yours?

Are you a guy or a girl?

Priorities, OP. Focus on your relationship with the 10/10 bf, that is the most important thing. Don't fuck up like this again. In fact, why are you going to parties without your boyfriend?

You probably don't have to see that guy on Thursday, but if you do, you should tell him how you feel in a calm and civil way.

>>18233674
I have this problem ALL THE DAMN TIME. Its especially a problem considering I have exams soon and the fog blocks most revision I do (boo). I've noticed it peaks when:
(A)-I've been staring at a screen all day
(B)-Day after I've masterbated.

My only advice from experience is to go for a walk or take a cold shower. The walk gets you fresh air and the cold shower shocks the hell out of you (it certainly does for me at least).

>>18233674
Like the other anon said take some walks. For me night walks are the best. Don't lose touch with friends and family. Try meditation and sports. Moving around a lot makes your mind connect to your body. Find out what could cause your depression and work towards eliminating it

>>18233689
Thanks for the tip, but my problem appears to be constant, at least for the last two months. I have showered and walked many times during this time, and it didn't help, not even for a moment. I am scared that this is how it is going to be from now on...

>>18233669
Welcome to the club, pal.
https://suicideproject.org/2016/09/what-is-the-least-painful-way-to-commit-suicide/

>>18233669
don't kill yourself over it
the idea was implanted into her head and she'll think about it until she either gives you a ride or blows up on you.

First get some gasoline
second get a pot
third use a stove
put the pot on the burning stove
then get the gasoline and put it in the pot
then get your mum and dad and just say
"I have a surprise" then pull down your pants
flip the bird and get a lighter
and then boom

>>18233667
to have the best chance of success you need to get a job where you are now and save up.

if you can't manage to get a job right now and keep it, how do you plan on getting one when you're in a new strange place with nothing?

>>18233668
How much money would I need to sustain myself until I got a job and how would I go about getting one? Is it possible to say, join a supermarket chain in London then ask if they have vacancy's in another town and ask for a transfer?

>>18233676
IMO I would say you need a MINIMUM of 3 months worth of rent money sustain you through job hunt. 6 is more comfortable and a year can be sufficient when seeking more competitive employment.

And for many companies yes a transfer can be arranged, though for others it's more for for when vacancies appear among higher positions. This might be hard to discuss with a manager while you're applying. My advice, aside from maybe doing some research, would be to find a widespread company who'll be in the next town you move to. If you're a good employee getting a job within the same franchise can be pretty easy especially if you can use the manager as a reference.

>>18233646
Is a hotline too cliche? You could call when those feelings start to creep on you.

>>18233679
Mmm again, feel like the cops are gonna show up on my door if I call one of them.
Besides, I want to fix the problems, not just prolong them.

>>18233754
I mean I think if people sent the cops when you called a suicide hotline then no one suicidal would call and they wouldn't still be a thing.

I thought this was just to help you until you can get back to the school counseling? Anyway I don't think you're going to 'fix' this problem through another party for free/basically nothing. If you can't afford it and you're paranoid about opening up to the wrong party, then my last word would basically be to start improving your life to reduce the potency of these feelings. Start slow, clean your room or something, and work your way up...

-Cardio/Lifting decimates most of my pity parties.
-Nature walks are head clearing. Bring lunch to a park and go get lost. Helps ground you.
-Absolutely try meditation. It's not new age garbage, it's not hippy bullshit. It will help you in the realm of consciousness.
-Pay attention to what your eating. Your gut influences your mental state.

Again just keep yourself going till you have access to that school shrink. That's your lighthouse right now as you navigate these uncertain waters.

>>18233645

it differs for everyone. some people think they love it because porn and fantasy, but dont. i always thought i wanted to be a submissive bottom, but sucking cock had no joy for me. turns out what i liked was watching submissive bottoms suck my cock. big difference.

some people are whiny babies, and will try it, hate it, and then act like its the end of their life and it 'ruined' them, but they're being whiny. its one bad sexual experience.

if you wanna do it, go for it, just know that this is likely the beginning of the end for your girl, cuz even if you hate it shes not gonna look at you the same way and this is probably a test.

>>18233658
Thanks for the reply.

>>18233645
As a bi man it's really not that big of a deal. Personally, I enjoy it a lot. Then again I like feeling submissive when it comes to guys. Doing that helps.

No idea about your girl, but if she found out about that you'd be screwed, I'm sure.

>>18233642
Take the job don't fuck up

bumpin

>>18233642
Don't be surprised if they fire you. The work is hard and the jobs are usually very seasonal

>>18233630
Maybe you should stop caring about what other people think of you.

>>18233630

if you dont want people to know, don't acknowledge it, but everyones going to have a hindsight bias so its doesn't matter. do what you want, if people ask, tell them to mind their own business and keep on with your life.

>>18233630
Deny all. Just say no.
This also works at jobs

>>18233584
Keep in mind, she is a lot older then me. I don't trust her but I don't know if thats just me and how I am with everyone, I could always do better then her she knows it as well but she could hurt me all the same. I don't know a lot about her past she doesn't really talk about it she maintains that there isn't anything there and I believe it to a degree because of some circumstances she hasn't lied about.

Any questions you can ask that would help clear my mind and maybe give a better perspective to you guys so you can make me clearer or more at ease?

Well what do you want? I think the first step would be figuring that out, communicating that to her, and then trying to stop panicking over stupid shit. I mean desu I can't see you pouring your heart out, having feelings for her, and basically telling her you love her NOT leading to some level of seriousness. But I don't understand why that would cause her to leave and fuck you up??

>>18233591

wtf this just sounds shitty and why dont you just get a better sex partner/romantic interest or whatever?

>>18233582
>the brunette and my relationship is well much better
You answered your own question

>>18233582
I'd say it's pretty obvious that the brunette is the one to go for. You've got a lot more in common, and the religious differences between you and the redhead will become a contentious issue. The path forward is clear my man!

>>18233595
Thank you. I guess I just needed to hear it from someone else... thank you, you beautiful bastards

>>18233532
Same thing, we're you always like that?

>>18233532
I want that hat

>>18233532
tell this exact stuff to your doctor my friend, there's medication that will help you and turn your life around.

>>18233515
Just be yourself.

>>18233517
Thanks

Professional help to work through your issues, couples counselling to work through issues in the relationship.

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>>18233449
This one's leafs haven't developed since it sprouted :/

What did you do?

>>18233458
I have no clue, I was too drunk and the only other person who was around the night something happened just mentioned me being really tired.

>>18233461
I mean what are we talking here? You feel her up? Shit yourself? Say "let's hang all the (insert pol-tier slur)? .... Rape her? I mean what do you THINK might've happened bro?

>>18233399
Learn to wake up in the morning you asshole. It's not difficult. Stop staying up late, get an appropriate amount of sleep, and learn to drag your ass out of bed. The rest of the fucking world manages, and this isn't a problem that's going away.

>>18233399
Go to class you lazy bitch

>>18233428
>>18233439
Thank you for two useless responses