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Anything would be helpful. Anyone done something this awful?

You're self aware and embarrassed enough not to do it again. Even if it was the worse crime imaginable and it wasn't filed, as long as you understand what you did wrong, it's ok.

I've done some sexual things because I was curious to my sister a few years ago and feel disgusted. So I've learned.

>>18239247
You could try apologizing again lol. Basically tell her what you told us. You will feel exonerated once you are certain that amends have been made.

Growing up is what you put. It's realizing you aren't going to be 100% happy 100% of the time. Life is compromise. But compromise does not always mean it's shit. It means you give up some of the smaller things in order to get the larger things.

Yeah, life is unfair. There will always be people that get shit handed to them and those who have to work harder to get the same things. But guess what? That doesn't mean it's IMPOSSIBLE to get those things.

Yes, we would all have liked to be Paris Hilton and inherit her billions from daddy without having to do a thing. Doesn't mean that's the ONLY way to be a billionaire.

Growing up is being responsible for your own actions and choices, and not obsessively comparing your life to other's. Success means something different to every one of us. One person's success is not another persons.
You have to take responsibility man. If you give up, you're not being responsible. There really aint shit that you can't do if you didn't just work at it. It might come easier to other people, sure, but that doesn't matter. It only matters what YOU do.
So what are you going to do?

>>18239213
>priveledged

Careful on that word... Its all relative. Doesnt matter how much better they have it or how much money they have it. They can still have problems even if they seem trivial to you.

You can never know what theyve gone through. Also if you have clean running water, a roof over your head, a job, and had any form of education, youre already in the world elite by far. Makes it pretty fuckin silly for you to say someone else has priveledge and you dont.

>accept lifes unfair.

I also think you seriously misunderstood this. It doesnt mean "accept misery faggot!!!" it means not to worry about things. Brush it off and keep trying.

As in if you for example havent accepted it, you might fly off the bat and freakout over shit you cant control and let it destroy your life.

Whereas if for example you have accepted it and changed your attitude, then when bullshit comes your way you shrug and say "welp. Thats life." and instead of having an emotional break down you strive to be better and improve your situation.

Id also dare to say the fact you think you actually can be pissed off and freak about shit you have no control over does make you quite priveledged and even entitled...

>>18239320
>Growing up is [...] not obsessively comparing your life to other's
But how? It comes so natural to me that I can't even fathom stopping doing that.

>It might come easier to other people, sure, but that doesn't matter.
This part is an especially sore spot: how can it not matter? How can I be expected to put effort in something, knowing there are others who have it (way) easier? How can that not lead to a life of begrudgery?
I don't understand

>>18239177
Dont be dumb. Switch school after you finish bc and start masters so you dont lose progress.

>>18239206
i'm concerned that my course's content will leave me really unprepared a masters degree though. fore example the only mathematics we've done is relatively basic set theory, stuff like calculus and more advanced discreet mathematics hasn't even been mentioned. i thought that stuff was vital to comp sci

>>18239240
All my life in uni could be told as:
start class with 0 knowledge
gain knowledge
pass tests
do homeworks
pass more tests
get degree lol

Throwing 2 years just because you MAYBE will miss some math class is stupid. If you are clever, you will study the missing parts in no time between classes.

If you are really clever, you will download reccomended classes materials from your target school and compare it to your current classes.

What you want to do is to get into some kind of intership asap to get real life experience.

>>18239114
You're not paying everytime so obviously it's entirely your choice.

Like killing yourself, just do it or don't.

You don't have to make a big deal out of it or expect her to address it. The next time you go out, make a point to ask your waiter to split the check, walk away from the counter after paying for your coffee etc. If she doesn't give you a shit look or get pissy, then I'd say you're in the clear.

That being said, if it's something like "Hey, let me take you out to dinner tonight. I'll make reservations" your ass is footing the bill.

You could plan "free" dates like hiking, picnics, and other free events some of the time. Or just fucking talk to her about how you can't afford it and if she flips out then hey, you dodged a bullet.

>>18239107

how much is a house where you live? 330k is enough to get a really nice house in most places. my parents live in oregon and their house is being sold for about 330 k and its like a mini mansion with a pool and everything.

i highly recommend spending it on your living place becuase, save for property tax, you'd be living life in a nice home that you never have to pay rent on it, so you'll have lots of cash from your jobs to take care of your family and of course money to actually decorate the home.

it might be worth moving imo, and even if its not, you can at least put 330 k down on a home and just pay the rest off in mortgage. where do you live that you cant afford a house even if 330k is already paid off?

>>18239112
houses where I live are 600-750k (london)

>>18239112
when/how do I tell my wife? Basically once I tell her the money is pretty much hers lol

>>18239013
I travel, work, play music and fuck when i have the possibility. I'm always in constant danger of falling into poverty since i always quit jobs, give everything for the people i love and i have very few friends, and my family is far away and can't help me, but i still keep fighting.
It's not a comfortable life but it keeps me alive in every sense.

>>18239013
Google
>online career test

Try few of them and see for yourself what will catch your interest.

>>18239028
My buddy does this and I don't know how fucking does it. It's like he's living in some quirky coming of age movie and I envy him.

Eh, I wouldn't meet a guy I didn't like because I felt bad. Stop thinking and have fun with her. You're getting way ahead of yourself. Meet her and see where it goes

>>18239002
>it is a frogposter
Just change your life attitude a little. Stop posting pepe memes and think about good outcomes. What if she will like you?

Also you are posting memes. You cant waste your time more than this. Go on date and be happy!

There's more to it than just hopping into a relationship. Do some stuff you regularly enjoy with them first so you can see what you do and don't like together. The more matches, the better. How would it feel getting together with them and having nothing in common?

>>18238983
Sounds like you finally grew up. It was about time kid.

Try doing sport, reading books, getting gf, travel, whatever. Mindlessly consuming average crap media will entertain you only few years.

>anything to talk about people
Maybe you are just boring introvert. Maybe you do nothing in your free time.

What do you do op?

>>18239063
Yeah, I'm a boring introvert. Mostly I just put Parks & Rec or The Office on as background noise and either shitpost, play Mario Kart or clean.

I'd love to get a gf and/or travel but girls aren't interested in me and I have no money.

Im just afraid that something in my brain is broken and I can no longer feel joy or be genuinely interested in something. And for the first time in my life, I'm wanting to be around people more but nobody wants to be friends with me.

>>18239131
>parks as background noise
Wtf. Do yourself a favor and discover what type of music you like. This sounds awfully boring

>girls arent interested in me
You are male. YOU have to take action. Try online dating and ask as many girls as possible on a date.

>nobody wants to be friends with me
Lol. Me neither. Dude who just listen to literally nothing and plays mario kart on some shit baby tier console.

Try advancing your life. Are you fat? Better job? Better (competitive) games? Anything else than bitching on 4chan?

What are you going to do op? Die alone?

>>18238981
Better question is to
>console VS pc masterrace

One of many reasons why to go pc route is
>free multiplayer
One of few reasons why to go any console is
>exclusitives (read kidnapped) games

Why do you even want xbox? What games do you even want to play on it? Any game which isnt on pc, but is on xbone?

And yes, buying old model when new will come in few weeks is retarded. If anything, the old ones will be on sale after the new one will hit market.

Seconding the other guy. Xbox offers virtually nothing that isn't on a PC because of Microsofts new stance on first party releases and utter lack of third party exclusive support (shame too because the Original Xbox had quite a bit of it). Be smart and build a desktop.

>>18239055
The game I really wanna play is ghostbusters the video game 2009. It comes for Xbox 360 I read that you can play it also on Xbox one

find a domina that will lock your cock into a cock cage.

>simple af

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Fuck the ground

>>18238939
You get eaten alive by the perfect lover!
You get eaten alive by the perfect lover!

Do you like him? Yes? Then you're not dating down

My current gf is way uglier than all my past ones but I don't consider it dating down because she's the best thing that ever happened to me

You care enough to make a thread on /adv/ about it. And no, you shouldn't care. Stop comparing yourself to others. "Dating down" is a ridiculous concept.

Are you content with your relationship? If you're not figure out if the issues can be fixed with a reasonable amount of effort. If they can't leave. If you are happy with the relationship then it doesn't matter how ugly your boyfriends exes are, how down or up you're dating, or how much of a catch you are. Theoretically you can always do better, but with relationships that's not a reason to always "strive for more", you can't quantify the worth of a relationship or partner. You can only decide whether you're satisfied with it and if you are there's no reason to worry about how much better you can do.

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>too old
>20

>girls
>innocent

>>18238887
Y-You too

>>18238870
Why do they have to be inexperienced? People can be sweet or shy at any age

>>18238831
If you are good looking and charming every girl is easy to fuck.

If you look like shit and have a bad personality going to another country won't help.

>>18238888
>quads
>not absolute truth
Pick one

>>18238888

pretty much this. there isn't some country filled with hot chicks just banging ugly guys because they're culturally 'easy'. that would be stupid.

foreign girls are more likely to settle for ugly guys but only in terms of dating because they believe that they can give them a better or more american life.

This is a question for /fa/

Lift

Stop giving a shit, single manliest thing there is.

I think it happens to a lot of people and most of them are either too embarassed to ever say anything or they think people won't believe them. But most of the ones I know are horribly depressed and drink or use drugs, have borderline/histrionic personality disorder, so I haven't heard about many people who it happened to that just went on with their lives, showing no signs of trauma, except that they feel a strong need to protect children.

I haven't been abused this way so I wouldn't know how to deal with these particular feelings of what I imagine to be a combination of shame, paranoia, and/or wanting to be vindicated.

>>18238675
How to deal with it is usually by asking a professional. If you have some ptsd reactions, I heard CBT can be pretty effective but I don't know personally anyone who did it.

>>18238721
Yes OP should get some golden goat too.