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I have an iPhone. I had my phone plugged in a back corner of a room to charge. It has a passcode. I looked through photos today And I saw a classmate had taken my phone and took photos on it. How did they get on my phone without knowing my passcode? Is there a way to do that if the phone is charging?
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pretty sure you can access the camera function without unlocking it, drag from a corner of the screen or something like that
they likely wouldn't have gained access to anything aside from pictures with the phone
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Oh that's good.
I thought they were looking at all my texts and emails etcs
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>>18240353
Press the home button on your phone. Swipe up from the bottom of the screen and you'll get the quick menu. From there you can use the flashlight, calculator, timer, and camera, along with toggle things like wifi and stuff.
So, yeah.
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I'm not really enjoying life and I don't know how to change it.
I always thought university was going to be the big "breakout" moment for me but it wasn't. The city I'm in is concrete and bland, there is nothing really going on. The people are uninteresting and mirror the city.
I want to actually breakout and do my Master's in Canada or the US, but that would require something like ~$50,000 which I don't have.
I go through periods of intense depression where I will feel tearful for the entire day. These are actually helpful because it's during these periods I feel most motivated and introspective. Most of the time, however, I feel flat and unmotivated.
I want to make a positive change to try to enjoy life, but I can't.
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I love you
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Are you seeking treatment for your depression? If not get in therapy and talk to a psychiatrist about if meds would help.
Also what is your job, do you enjoy it? Do you have friends and family with you?
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What city?
There is interesting people wherever you go.
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So I'm 23, almost 24 now and I'm finally starting to get back in shape and work on my appearence. I much like a lot of people needing advice here have been gf-less my whole life, and finally got laid last year. I got my hair cut and beard trimmed in a completely new style and have a sleeve/half sleeve tattoo picked out and people are noticing my improvements. Although it brings into perspective how much time ive lost in my life and how inferior i must look to everyone. I hate being me, i hate that i felt like i had to hide my real self my whole life. Does anyone know what i mean? I feel like even if i completely do a 180 and have a great body and some money people will see me as the same dude and im very disheartened right now. Theres a lot of pain ive kept inside and i dont know if all of this is worth it bros. I need some help. I dont know what with, but boi am i feeling down.
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If you improve people will absolutely not see you as the way you were. Improvement intimidates people, and I'm not just saying that as like "fuck the haters bro", even a good friend who is perfectly well intentioned will be intimidated by your improvement.
So I guess don't feel bad if people act negative towards you, it's a natural reaction, keep improving and listen part of improving is meeting new people and making new friends, push yourself to do this and you won't even have to worry that they might think of you forever as the old you.
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>>18240293
What can i do to gain closure for my old emotions Ive never dealt with? What would be the point of going through all of this if i still act like the current me? Thanks
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>>18240317
You'll get over it.
I was complete beta twig in high school. I decided to reinvent myself in college and it worked, became alpha chad. No one remembered my hs self after I changed, even the people I went to hs with.
One thing even after my transformation I was always embarassed about was I never went to prom. Idk why specifically that, but hs left me with a lot of emotional damage. It took a little longer than that but I got over everything.
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Do you let your family see you naked? What about otter people?
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>otter people
nope fuck this I'm out.
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I have no sense of shame myself, but I respect the sense of shame of others. The only person who sees me naked on the regular is my gf. I know I'm fine with my closest friends seeing me naked and they're fine with it as well, but it happens maybe once in two years.
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>>18244816
I am not an exhibicionist so i generally try to minimize me being naked around other people no matter if it is on swimming pool showers or around my family at home.
I suggest you to do the same.
Alright, so there's this guy I used to know at Uni. He started contacting me when we first met, and not wanting to be rude I replied. Anyway, he had no friends so I didn't want to tell him to piss off when he messaged me, so I gave him shortish replies, but was never rude or anything. I thought he'd get the idea, but clearly he doesn't understand. Maybe he's autistic?
Anyway, he started messaging me saying he received "gag gifts" from his friends, including a thong. The weird thing is that he kept asking me what it was for; almost as if he got off on the idea of me saying, "oh, some women wear them as underwear". I never answered that question, but again I didn't tell him to piss off because I thought he's just autistic and doesn't understand it's inappropriate.
Anyway, he kept messaging me after Uni, and I gave him short replies. Again, didn't want to be rude, but desperately wanted him to stop messaging. Even if I went months without replying, he kept messaging.
Recently it's turned weird, he's said he is wearing high heels for "charity", and sent me pictures of himself wearing them. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, but was still weirded out. I began to wonder if he was a fetishist. I then received a picture of him wearing the heels again, but this time what was clearly a thong strap was peeking up over his trousers.
I then didn't reply, but he kept asking how work was going, and I felt sorry for him so I replied. Today, he sent me an essay about how I was such a lovely, kind person and I was always there for him (presumably because I'm the only girl who didn't tell him to fuck off). Then, I received three pictures of him in full drag, face makeup, a corset, stockings, suspenders and stilletos.
He asked if the pictures looked alright, and I just replied and said they looked professionally done, because I didn't quite know what to say. I've known for a while the guy is a weirdo, but I thought he was just terribly autistic. Now I'm worried he's sinister
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I'm not a therapist, psychologist, or anything close to that, but if you value your safety and privacy, and the picture you posted is him, I'd file a restraining order against him immediately.
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>>18244657
No, that's not the picture of him. In he pictures he's wearing a corset an mini skirt.
I don't know if I should outright tell him to stop contacting me, or if I should just ignore him? I don't know how unstable he is, that's the issue. Will he just move on, or not?
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>>18244652
>Now I'm worried he's sinister
Thaaats...a bit of a jump....
Has ANYTHING else he's done seemed sinister?
Because just reading the text that's here, I'd say maybe he's a little touched, but mostly he's just lonely as fuck sounding.
But then again I've never met him, don't know the tone of the conversations, and don't now what he's like.
*shrug*
Just saying, the drag = dangerous association was kind of sudden.
If you don't want to deal, don't.
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Hello everyone, i've been in a relationship for 6 months with this guy whose parents are divorced. He's living with his mother, she has never had another man while he's father is seeing someone else.
Yesterday we were talking and he claimed that if his mother finds another one he would be jealous, angry and he would leave his place..
We have a distance relationship so I replied "What if she says that if she can't bring any man at home you couldn't do it as well?" and he said "I would pay a hotel for you", but the problem is that he doesn't study or work .-. (we're both 21)
So I started to get mad because I found his speech ridiculous and I told him that he's mentally deranged.. I didn't mean to hurt him but the truth is that I'm scared and I think that this jealousy isn't normal... What do you think about it?
Now he's angry and we're not talking.. What should I do?
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>>18244605
You called it exactly how you saw it -
Nothing to feel bad about.
Regardless of how you see it, if what you've said is true, the dude is a manchild who leeches off his mother both emotionally and financially. Now he's pouting because you won't take his side and defend is lifestyle.
You've unintentionally done yourself a huge favor OP. Best let him cry to his mother while you find someone else who's emotionally mature.
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>>18244623
I truly love him and now he doesn't want to talk anymore..
I know that he has a problem, but he's such a wonderful person, he always helps me and I don't want to lose him.. isn't it possible that he get over this shit? He just need to be more mature...
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>>18244605
His father left his mother and him which probably hurt them both.
He is just afraid that if she gets another man it might happen again.
Hello /adv/
I can't get over the grief now. He has always supported me in good as in bad times.
Every day the same, in the morning I get up the cat welcomes me then he gets something to eat etc
In the evening when I come back he welcomes me in the hallway.
Yesterday I came home from work and there he lays. I instantly knew he is not sleeping.
I just can't believe he is dead now.
In the morning I miss his cuddles, his warm welcome or his meowing.
This is so hard for me because I had this procedure with him for 17 years.
Now I see only a cat on the floor as he lies stiff, that tears my heart. I still have watery eyes.
My question is, what am I to do with the grief, after all, he was so unique to me..
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Take the time for yourself, hun, I know it's tough on you like losing a family member. Giving him a proper burial service might help you with the passing. It's okay if you need to cry a bit. If you can't bear to touch him now, call your family or best friend. It'll be okay, take it easy. Everyone has their own way of mourning,
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Buy a new cat
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He's in cat heaven waiting for you.
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Be honest, would I look like a weeb or a dork if I set pic related as my profile picture for my school Google account?
>inb4 underageb&
I'm 18.
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>>18244534
you might as well, i set mine to this and no one really cares
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>>18244550
Is that also Rumia?
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>>18244534
Yes you would. But go for it, flaunt your weebness.
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Anyone else in university and just fucking hate it? I'm a good student getting good grades, but I hate the constant work load, stress, and being displaced from everyone I know. I have few friends and almost no daily social interaction. I hate everything about this university but it's the only one I can afford. The weather is horrible, location is depressing. I don't want what's supposed to be the best 4 years of my life to be the worst. Anyone else have a similar experience?
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>>18244526
change that shitty perspective, university doesn't have to be "the greatest four years of your life" you have a whole life to live. finish university and have a great rest of your life.
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Exactly it's just four years the best years are after that when you can be independent and are working on your career and life uni is a stepping stone
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>>18244526
I kind of feel you man but i think you dont have it so rough yet, so you could chance the things you dont like right now.
i never visit adv and was searching for a thread about deppresion in uni because i think i have it, i live in an underground appartment, almost never see the sun, i have wasted three whole years doing Notting, havent exited my appartment un three weeks and i dont know how to change back yo how i was when i entered uni, at a Time i was like you, suspecting things Will be better but they werent for me.
I have thinked of going to a psychologist but im not sure what to expect.
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Hey adv
I went on a date with a girl and invited her over to mine to watch a movie (after noon).
We watch a movie and we makeout a bit but she stops it at that. Anyway after tge movie she leaves and says she'll txt me later.
3 days go by no txt.
>okay w/e
But today as i was working i see her walk past my work(retail store) and not say hello or anything. It really pisses me off that she blatantly pretends i dont exist after saying shell txt me then doesnt.
I dont feel attraction to her anymore but annoyed because we work in the same mall so its likely too see each other and atleast remain friendly.
What should i do?
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She probably is thinking similar thoughts if she was actually a girl who is slightly interested she would have said hi or something but she probably is the over thinking type and maybe wants to act forgetful or "busy" but reallly wants you to text her back to feel secure.....My suggestion is to text her tell her that you were waiting for her to text and maybe ask how is she if she doesn't reply then you know she just isn't into you but if she does and acts she got caught up let it pass and enjoy your time
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She told me she over thinks too much and is very awkward but she said she'll txt me later and its 3 days past.
Also i went of toilet at work after 20 mins of seeing her walk past my work. And saw her talking to her guy friend at the news agency (ive talked to him a few times) while he was closing the store.
When that happened i felt pissed she blatantly ignored me after ive been super friendly to her etc.
P.s. Im 23 shes 21, im her first kiss (fken weird) cause shes a 7/10.
Should i stilk txt her?
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>>18244456
Yes this makes me think she is a bit insecure,the while kiss thing probably is messing her mind as well she is over thinking all of it maybe questioning herself and your intentions etc so text her and if she is the anxious type being slightly clear about your plans or how you plan can let her feel more at ease with you and can trust you
In a way you need to not get pissed of easily if she talks to other guys cause when people over think they will easily manipulate that and piss you off further when things don't work out
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Hey /adv/, I've run into a bit of a friendship problem and I could use some help, so please bear with me. Here's my story:
>be me, 23yo male, uni student, vidya playing and pot smoking introvert
>have a streak of 2 bad years when I was 18, first gf ever cheated, best friend pulled some crazy shit, other friends left abroad
>become shut in and depressed
>meet dude in question, start hanging out every now and then to smoke pot and play vidya
>pretty much exactly what I wanted at that time, a dude that could get me weed and misc substances, hang out etc
>go for 2-3 years hanging mostly with this dude, doing nothing productive with myself
>meet up every week at my place (I live alone) to smoke pot and play vidya
>help him out with his bitch of a gf, he ends up breaking up
>seeing how I was in the gutter, I try to help him thinking that he would in turn help me
>push him to start new hobbies, he takes up painting (still does, after like 2 years)
>I remain depressed
>start having this off feeling about this guy, and how whenever I try to do something good he finds a way to shit on it, didn't give it much thought at the time though
>he does a lot of dumb and annoying stuff and gives me the desire to hit him multiple times, I could provide ample examples if required
>Last summer I decide to finally get out of this haze and start improving myself
>start doing better at uni, going to classes, met some new people
>this dude remains unchanged, starts bringing drugs to do more often
>2 months ago I start getting extremely tired of him, I start realizing he likes to create a fight out of everything. We end up almost fighting because of the dumbest shit (literally for computer parts)
>I become fed up with his shit, he seems to be enjoying it
>I take a big step and quit smoking 2+ weeks ago
>family and other friends are super supportive, I make it through the first week no problem
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>meet up with this dude, tell him the news, ask him for ideas regarding how can I go about smoking spliffs now that I want to stay away from tobacco (just something to spark up a conversation)
>dude goes into a tirade on how I quit smoking too abruptly, how he knows a friend that did the same and failed, how I'd need money to buy a vaper to quit smoking and keep puffing weed, and how I would probably fail after all like I did on my last attempt (but he throws in a "I hope you make it anyways"). Quite interestingly, just now I realized that 1 month into my last attempt to quit smoking, he ""forgot"" a pack of cigs at my place, and I ended up smoking them (not that I wanna blame him, it was my failure)
>I am two steps away from straight up punching him for the dumb shit he was saying, I end up changing subject for the good of my nerves (I was 1 week into withdrawal too)
>After we split up I start browsing, I end up coming across this article
http://danwaldschmidt.com/2010/07/attitude/edgy-conversations-stupid-people-how-to-deal-with-them
>Freak out - not sure if confirmation bias, but I felt and I still feel it describes him to a t
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>>18238896
So, what do I do now /adv/? On one hand, this dude has been acceptable company these 3 years, and we've had some good moments doing shit together. On the other hand, he has become severely unbearable these past months, and I don't think I can stand him much longer. I was hoping that I could follow the advice of the article, start ignoring his shit and continue hanging out with him every now and then, but even now that I haven't seen him for almost 2 weeks whenever he comes up I feel the urgent desire to beat him senseless for being that annoying and not supporting me when I needed it. We almost always meet up at my place but I can't stand the thought of him sleeping in my house right now, it makes me severely mad. He is currently sending me messages to meet up because he is back in town and I have to stop myself from picking up the phone and going off on his ass. The article says that I shouldn't actually indulge and fight, and I tend to agree, seeing how whenever I did do it he seemed to be enjoying it more instead of wising up. It's literally the first time too that I want to straight up confront someone that annoys me but the article and my intuition indicate that it wouldn't help at all. What do? Also, I pick up my pot from his brother, but that's much less important. I'd just prefer it if, however I handled this, he didn't tell his brother to stop hooking me up. Then again, mind health > weed so idc.
Thanks in advance to anyone that bothers to read and reply.
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>>18238898
*mental health, I'm a retard sometimes
also bump
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>NEET for a few years
>Friends are starting to mock me and make sly jokes
>Ex contacts me for attention, then goes back to being a whore
>Being jobless for so long then looking for work again is overwhelming
>All this anger at myself and others, but I don't want to become some disgruntled person
>Always been a Christian who turns the other cheek
>My esteem is in pieces
I genuinely feel like I'm breaking
As if my mind is splitting
Can anyone help?
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Letting others get to you. Why keep those friends?
Just get out there and do it. Plain and simple.
Your ex is stupid. Don't talk to them.
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>>18244364
You have really shitty friends who take advantage of your tolerant behaviour
Fuck em
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>>18244364
I mean I'd rib my friend too if I saw him going nowhere. Not trying to be mean, but a good friend should be honest if you're fucking up.
Despite what 4chan will tell you being a NEET isn't something respectable and I have to much respect for my parents to waste their money even if I knew I could get away with it. They deserve to retire at some point without a 30+ year old manchild.
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So I saw a mention of this in another thread and it really made me curious.
My parents went through a very long and shitty divorce when I was in my early teens. Now I'm 26 years old and sexually repressed. I've never had a girlfriend before, and the few sexual experience I had had were awful.
I never thought about it before. But did growing up like that do this to me? Just thinking back now, the reason I never talked to girls or for a girlfriend when I was in my teens is because I never wanted to bring one to my house because of how shitty things were. I guess that habit just stuck with me into my late 20s. I've still literally never had a woman step foot into my bedroom before.
Anyone else?
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did it really take you 26 years to realize that your issues are a result of your upbringing? you must be a very clever fellow...
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>>18244352
Yes...
Well, when I was a child, I just tried to ignore everything. I never thought any of my issues were directly related to family, since I don't really care about family.
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>>18244357
>i don't care for my family
>my issues are not related to my family
do you even hear wtf you're saying?
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My boyfriend wants to see my breasts but unfortunately when I lost weight they became very saggy and empty and deflated, my 53 year old mother has better shaped breasts than me
They're so disgusting and there's absolutely no way whatsoever that anyone is seeing them out of a bra, I'm close to crying whenever I see them when I'm showering so no way would I be comfortable showing them to my boyfriend
Advice? Should I break up with him? Should I come up with a way to convince him to not want to see them anymore? He thinks I'm exaggerating because I'm "too young" to have saggy boobs.
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post your tits or tits similar to yours
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>>18244242
99% he is right and you only think they are that bad cause of your insecurites
In the 1% off chance, just show them. Worst case scenario he hates them and breaks up, which is kinda what you suggested anyway
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>>18244242
The biggest turn off on a girl is her insecurity.
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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything
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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>*NEW* How do I ask a friend out without it being awkward, ruining our friendship or putting them on the spot?
You don't. Ask them out or don't ask them out, it's up to you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships, and fart guy
Fuck off
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Men
Do you actually have an "instinct" where you want to protect women?
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Anyone:
At work, there is a coworker. We work well together, not sure if this makes us friends or not. I am female, he's male. I'm 25, he's in his 30's. He's a cancer survivor but is extremely fucked up (from the radiation laser beam therapy).
He's alive but in poor condition. He has no immune system, and no urinary functions, so he takes pills to control them. He has scoliosis of the spine, a brain tumor that is probably not removable, and his back and chest cave inwards.
He's very compassionate though, like me. And because we work well together, I have some sort of feeling for him.
What could this feeling be named? Is it pity? Is it attraction? Why?
He is unclean, unkempt and messy, so I don't know why I have this feeling. His hair is unbrushed and always greasy. Sometimes you can see long nose hairs poking out of his nose. And finally he has a habit of leaving random stuff strewn over the workplace. Cluttering it up. I can't imagine what his house might be like.
Explanations please?
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>>18244257
>Do you actually have an "instinct" where you want to protect women?
Sort of yeah?
It's kind of weird.... Like I'll see a girl sobbing and my immediate inclination is to go see what's up and see if I can help.
This shit is covered in gen ed college classes under the concept of social programming.
In other words, this is a learned behavior, not something necessarily ACTUALLY instinctual.