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I'm a pretty shy guy, withdrawn introvert but not too lacking in confidence. Whenever I'm in a social situation with a group of people I'm the quiet one that mostly sits there and listens to what the other people are talking about. Most of it is very boring to me but I do pick up on some things from some people that is interesting and I would like to talk about, so I wait for a window of silence in the group chat where I can bring it up. And what happens is this

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>Me: So person A, that thing you were talking about, is that like a something something?
>loud extroverted person B who's been talking all night: OH YEAH! That something something with the thing, how's that going? Is that like another thing or? I have thought about it but I yadayadayada

And so now person A and person B are talking about the thing I wanted to talk about. But that was my conversation damnit. And person B just stole it from me. And I'm back to being merely an observer instead of talking.

I guess what I want is techniques to prevent this from happening or how to steal the conversation back when it happens?
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>facial cues
If people look at ya, it's your moment to speak

You seem to know how to keep the convo going since your interested

>Watch for body language, is their body open or just facing towards that particular person?

Pretty much all I got
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>>18275621
>And person B just stole it from me.
Can't you keep talking with them if that happens? Also are you a man or a woman?
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>>18275639
Can't you read? he said he was a shy guy, you fucking idiot.

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We're both 18 and worked at McDonalds until she left yesterday. She left for the same reason I want to: it's a shit job with an unreasonable amount of work expected for such little pay. I was wondering how I can keep in touch with her because we only talked to each other during work and now she's gone but I really like her and don't want to just give up on her. I want to start by messenging her (unless there's a better idea) but my biggest problems are when and what to message her to start developing conversations. She doesn't have a Facebook account (only a messenger one) and when you look her up on messenger she doesn't show up so the only way to view her account is through the McDonalds group chat but the restaurant manager will probably remove her soon as she's left which means I can't talk to her if that happens. I don't know what to do and I know it's a bit of a unique problem but do have any advice or solutions to help me please?
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Just fucking send her a message saying you wanted to stay in touch, and you should go out for coffee on Saturday.
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>unreasonable amount of work
Fuck off OP. I've worked (and still sometimes work if I need extra cash - the managers like me) at McDonald's, it's not an unreasonable amount of work for the pay, it's unskilled and anyone can do it.

To answer your question, just add her on the app and then ask if she wants to stay in touch or something.
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You simultaneously need humbling but also some confidence.

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ive posted a few times here about this girl but it was more of me trying to get over her. i believe i am now but shes been up to some weird shit thats just kind of confusing me
long story short about girl, we dated for a while, everything seemed fine, she broke up with me because she "needed time to herself"

went out with some friends late last night to steak and shake for food and socializing
posting snap stories of random ass memes were doing and shit
i always check who views my snap stories bc im ocd or something i have no idea

ex girl sees snap of us all at steak and shake, i dont think anything of it

about 15-20 minutes later my eyes lock across the restaurant with her best friend, who is staring at me

at first i thought i was just seeing shit, no way shed be there, thatd be a crazy coincidence
i check snap stories just because im a slave to my phone, ex has snap story in steak and shake

what. the. fuck.

im super weirded out now, she views my story, then shows up with 2 of her friends, what the fuck???

we were done eating so we walk up to pay, ex walks behind us and confronts me with "oh hey haha what are you doing here?" like she didnt know i was there or something, even though it was pretty blatant she saw the story and showed up
i responded "we were just eating and chilling" then i left

posted on twitter the next morning, because i have a problem with posting a conscious stream to twitter, something along the line of "what the fuck stay away from me" and "bitches are crazy"
a few hours later, her 2 friends who were with her last night, who dont follow my twitter, liked those tweets. and i post A LOT and because they dont follow me, it's almost like they were testing my reaction?

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>>18275542
it all just seems so weird because SHE left ME so why is she stalking me now?
am i reading into it too much? friends ive discussed this with are just as confused as me and calling her crazy

i guess what im asking is what was she trying to do showing up like that? i dont get what the point to it is
any questions about relations in this story or anything more in depth ill answer

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also feel it might be worth mentioning

from her twitter and insta showing up on my feed i think it's pretty obvious shes talking to a new guy, even though she "needed time to herself" and i was pretty whatever about all of that until this incident

i dont know im just confused as fuck

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>>18275542
>and i post A LOT and because they dont follow me,
and i post A LOT and because they dont follow me, they had to dig through my twitter to find that shit*

realized i switched my train of though part way through that, i should really proof read shit

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Hey /adv/, I wanted some help from you people on something i've been thinking out recently...

So, I always wanted to know:

>Be a Emotional type of guy
>Hopeless Romantic
>Peaceful
>Basically a Girl boy
>Always just by myself
>Forever Alone(Don't mind the 2012 memes usage here btw)
>Always had a thing for unpopular girls
But here's the catch. Somehow, I always end up getting attention from the most popular girls in the place. I thought these type of girls were attached to more Extroverted and funny dudes.

>Tl;Dr
I wanted to know what on Earth had I done to always be crushed by the Stacies
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>>18275540
post a pic of your face and I'll tell you
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>>18275551
Why would appearance matter lol
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>>18275581
If you can't answer that question you should add retarded to that list that describes you

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This fuck just ruined my life. I need his name and location. Its time for payback cunt.
If this helps the fuck spoke French.
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>>18275526
Try /r/ or /b/
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>>18275526
Uh, if you are a scammer you don't give out your real name.
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Its a fake profile genius

Non-virgin here. I've never had a girlfriend in my life, and I am 18 years old. Long story short, I fucked my 19 year old female cousin when I was younger. If I ever get intimate with another girl, what the fuck do I say? Should I say I'm a virgin (a lie), or be honest and tell her I fucked my cousin?
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When did you have sex with your cousin? Was it more than once?
As in do you think you have experience?

If yes, lie about who you fucked. If you end up in a relationship with said girl and tell her later on down the road, she'll probably think it fucked you up and that's a valid excuse to lie about it.

If no, just say you're a virgin. The lack of experience will likely be obvious, and she'll think you lied about not being a virgin.
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Never admit anywhere else but here that you fucked your cousin. Just say you had a one night stand at a party and her name was jessica
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>>18275605
I fucked her maybe 5 or 6 times without a condom. I was 16 and she was 19 at the time. I am an 18 year old college sophomore now. I'm pretty inexperienced, quite honestly. I cum too fast and have an insane sex drive.
>>18275612
I'm a terrible liar, though. I'd feel guilty too.

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Hello 4chan members,
I'm mostly just browsing here as an anon.
But this time I would really appreciate help of this community. I found on a lot of papers of some family member these writings as seen on picture(just a quick paint drawing). Do some of you recognize this? I am thinking that it might be some fanatic organization, but it could also be some band symbol. Thank YOU in advance!
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>>18275515
I haven't seen that shit before. But why do you give so much information freely for no reason? That shit bothers me so much. If you suspect a person of being in some cult and those symbols, which aren't even a tiny bit unique, are going around on the internet, then why would you hop onto a computer or use your phone to make a post online with a picture and story that explains why you need to know if anyone has seen these pictures or not? Let's say there's really a cult. You just let them all know that you're onto them. They'll see you as a threat because of this. If I were you, I'd pack up and leave town quickly. Good luck dude, don't be so careless next time!
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Dot worry bro, it's just viking runes, people of them learn this kind of writing because they're bored or want to confuse people, I used to learn the Futurama writing. You family member maybe see this thing and think "it would be such a great idea if I learn this think, people would thing that I'm interesting"

There are a lot of viking runes (old futhark, new futhark, medieval futhark) so you will need to find the perfect ones to match yours
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>>18275579
Don't worry dude, let's just say that that one person already fucked up something and others are aware, and also thanks!

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people of adv who are virgins by choice and because they want sex only with someone they feel is worth it: how did you develop that mindset? is this your parents work or did you come to those conclusions yourself?
i want my kids to value sex and intimacy as something special. my parents never trached me anything about it, so i have no clue how big of a good influence parents can be on the topic or how to go about it.
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Why do you want them to think that way? There's nothing wrong with casual sex. I'm saying this as someone who is abstinent until I find The One. And to answer your question, I came to this conclusion myself. My parents never spoke to me about sex or relationships and I never asked.
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>>18275523
there's nothing inherently wrong with it. i just want them to be able to make a conscious and informed decision and not just act upon hormones and then regret it later.

how old were you when you came to that conclusion?
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>>18275488
I'm not that way anymore but I was, and it ultimately came from an unhealthy place.

For me, some part of me truly believed that things would definitely be more special if I did meet that right person and that it was worth waiting until I did.

To the end I turned down a number of girls that were obvious quick and easy ways to have a one and done scenario.

However, where it got unhealthy is that I was always shy growing up, and I slowly started to become afraid of establishing an emotional connection with anyone who wasn't "the right one" and extra terrified of doing it and discovering that Idid, but I was wrong and they weren't the right one.

And so I ALSO started to avoid situations with girls that were interested in me that were potentially suitable enough, and I completely lost all nerve when it came to girls that I felt overly attracted to.

I created as wall of repression.

It wasn't until I was 23 where I met the "right one" and it completely fell through when I acted like a total crazy person (spilled my spaghetti as it were) that I realized how dumb I was being.

She was actually the first person of the opposite gender that I ever had any sort of romantic intimacy with. And it was only 1 kiss. One time.

After that though, I kind of had a backlash where I just said fuck it.

So I jumped online, got a date, saw she was in to me and just said fuck it, why not, if she wants to let's find out what this stuff is all about.

It was HORRIBLE. Like it made me feel cheap, empty, and dirty as hell, and it probably left me with a psychological set back when it came to sex. I wasn't able to cum, and I wouldn't be able to for another 4 years later, until I met my first girlfriend (my 4th partner).

It also affirmed what I knew before, that i was the type of person that valued intimate encounters and connections, but I also modified that to not be about finding he right one, but the ones that had at least SOME meaning. Which is the healthier way to think.

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>Live happily with gf
>She's found a job in her city
>Ask me to go with her
>I say i don't, know i'm not sure because her city is probably fucked up
>She says "ok let's go and try, if things doesn't work out, we come back"
>we go, her job is nice, but the city is in fact fucked up and the job market is totally unexistant
>I tell her to come back with me
>"listen, i really like my job here"
>i go back to our previous country, 1 month later fighting over the phone and she's still there
saying she loves me and miss me, but she cannot leave her city now


What would you do/say in my case?.
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Live with her and if she loves you, she'll support you until you find a job.
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>>18275477
She chose her career over you. Sucks but thats what modern women want. I think you should break up with her.
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>>18275483
She actually tried to convince me that way, but the city is fucked up really bad. I cannot see myself living in that city even if i have a good job. I will be condemned to be poor just because she wants to make a career(to become rich). It just won't work out.

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How do you deal with double cockblocking?
I mean you can't just be walking away, or is it safe to do so?
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What's double cockblocking?
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What's double cockblocking?
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whats updog?

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Hi /adv/isors,

I havent had good sex in a long time. I feel self conscious though because as a female I am kind of hairy, and its hard for me to orgasm with vaginal sex. So.. iono I just feel self conscious getting naked with someone I dont know very well.

There is a man at the hospital who looks hot though. He is a doctor, and we say hi to each other in the hallway. I think hes cute but he is in his 40s probably.

I dont know what to do. I am both shy and lazy. I am too tired to do anything or deal with the drama of relationships. I am 26 years old. I dont feel like getting hurt again.

Its ok to be alone but at the same time I would like to feel in love. But I just dont feel like going through the trouble. Why do I do?

Is it worth fucking someone temporarily? I dont want to get naked with someone I dont know. I have better sex if I know the guy and we flirt kn our dates. But nobody wants to take me out anymore.

How does dating work these days anyways? Its been a while for me.
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Be in an area where there are a lot of single guys and talk to them. Being a girl is playing the dating game on easy mode.
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>>18275459
I think most of the guys in my area are unattractive. I dont know what to do. Even at bars it feels like everyones disgusting.

I feel like I may be too ugly to date the guys I want, so I have already decided ro stay single rather than settling for less.
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>>18275465
I feel borderline asexual. I dont have a drive for finding someone. I just want most people to get away from me.

I am a virgin af and it seems like a hard to me to get rid of it cause i can't socialize and i am ugly.

Right now my ultimate goal in my life is have sex with girlfriend one day.
I feel like it is the greatest achievement I can make. If i can achieve this i can achieve literally everything.

I am 21 years old , 5'9" piece of shit btw.

Am I Overdoing It? Is there a any alpha male/chad/normie to help me?
and pls do not give me stupid advices like just be yourself. thank you.
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You sound pathetic, and most likely are. Jesus Christ man, grow a spine. I pity fuckers like you. Sort your life out, seriously. Don't even worry about girls or relationships yet. Sort. Your. Fucking. Life. Out. And work on your attitude, because quite frankly, it's repulsive and girls will pick up on that.

I'm starting to think these types of posts are satire.
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Be good looking and be rich.

Show me a billionaire who isn't getting laid on the reg (by no choice of their own)
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>>18275467
>You sound pathetic
yes i am pathetic and i try to get rid of it.

>Sort your life out, seriously
I am trying but there is nobody to help me. I have to do everything by myself.

>Don't even worry about girls or relationships yet.
>yet
i am 21 yo. People start having sex when they are 13 or something. I feel more pathetic then you thing.


nice advice board btw ;)

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How do I make my life more interesting as a house bound disabled? Things to do and this.

Have chronic illness don't want to talk about please.
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Read
Coding
Build websites
Make youtube videos
Draw
Sculpt
write a book
build a computer
have an ant farm

thats all i got
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>>18275445
make music
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Have chronic illness as well.

>Bike
>Read
>Carpentry
>Gaming
>Chores
>Exercise in short times

Pretty much all I got. I get so bored I do chores. I have heart failure btw so I'm very limited to what I do.

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I've been in a sexless relationship for over four years now.

My girlfriend and I started dating back in 2013. About a few months into it, she wanted to move across the nation to work a dead-end job. I let her do it, and decided to keep things going long-distance because I really liked her. I would visit her every year, and even started vacationing there twice a year to visit her, paying for all of our expenses in the process just so I could treat her.

A few years ago, we tried to have sex for the first time. Things started off promising, but after probably 15 minutes of foreplay, she was pretty wet, so I put a finger in her. Apparently she started feeling a shitload of pain and cramping, so I stopped and let it go. The next time, when she visited me, we tried again but she just wasn't in the mood. We tried another time on a vacation after that attempt, and even went to putting a condom on and trying to put it in, but nothing worked. I couldn't get it in her no matter how hard we tried, even after she had came from the foreplay, so I'm certain lubrication isn't the problem.

At this point, I was sure it was vaginismus. We waited nine more months before our next visit, and I had been telling her to try and practice up, because apparently my finger was the first thing she had ever had put into her. Well, the last vacation was back in March, and like usual, we failed. After this attempt, her period started, so we were shit out of luck from trying again.

Even worse is that her sex drive is incredibly low, while I have a very high libido. There's a reason we only try once or twice per week-long vacation, and it's simply because she's never in the mood. Well for the past month and a half, I've been telling her to practice, and stick a finger in. I've gotten nothing but non-answers, changed subjects, and promises to do it later, but nothing has happened still.

I'm at wit's end here, what the fuck am I supposed to do? Am I in the wrong for wanting to keep pushing this?
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Dude go date someone else before you get frustrated and mistreat the relationship.
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>>18275434
I've been considering it, but I really want to try and maintain the relationship. Outside of this one issue, we almost never argue, so I would really like to find some kind of way for us to move past this.

It's not like I'm making demands or shouting at her, for the past two years, I've been just asking if she's been trying to work past it. The last two months, literally all I've asked is to try and stick a finger in for a little bit. I've gotten the answer "I'll try this week," for about four weeks now.

I'm not a woman, but I'm pretty sure it doesn't take a month of preparation to try and stick a finger in your vagina for a few seconds.
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>>18275451
You are right that it shouldn't take weeks.

What it really comes down to is that you care more about this than she does and you will be the one left frustrated and angry over this, which will lead to you mistreating her.

If she isn't willing to help satisfy your needs then you must find someone who will. Don't pretend to be nice and stay with her while trying to control her actions.

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Hey /adv/ don't come here often cause I'm usually very sure about my situation in life and what I'm doing where I'm heading but I have a huge issue that is destroying me inside.

So I met a girl 4 years ago and we've had a pretty stable but sometimes friction riddled relationship.

I am 24 and she is 26. This becomes an issue because I on one hand I have my degree, it's shit but I still got it, a full-time job, hobbies, friends, good family etc while she has her highschool diploma. She's a college dropout no one, with no friends, no prospects, quits almost every job she gets and always complains and gets depressed when she has one; she is trying to get into animal care but she doesn't in the least try to get her adult school credits to achieve this and currently she essentially mooches off the current situation we're in where she pays 200 a month to live with me and my family in a somewhat large basement apartment because I was stupid enough to ask her to live with me. While here she adopted a cat that now is another emotional drag on me and she has a dysfunctional family that involves an abusive biological father and a step-father that cheated on her mom exposed the girl to pornography and degeneracy of his lifestyle on accident and a lot of other fucked up things.
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>>18275426
From this little glimpse what does this tell you? If feels as though I just want to ask, what should I do? Is it possible to find another person to have such an emotional bond with like I have with her? Is what we have special because it makes me cry thinking about losing it? Should I care what happens to her, and my reaction to caring so much - should that be a sign that I should stay? Will I ever be able to get over our relationship because its defined me the last 4 years? If I break up with her and never find that again would it have been worth it? What are the chances are that I'm being emotionally abused and am just attached to this through sex and emotions rather then the reality?

tl;dr been together for 4 years with girl who seems to be not right for me should I break up with her even though we are still very emotionally in love and will I ever find that again. There was more to this but I deleted by accident.
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Holy shit I see no upsides to this. Even the sex an't be worth it because at least you can pay a hooker to get laid.
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>>18275449
I see the irrationality of it but I can't see my life without her and I feel like there's something special there, we are like really good friends, it feels like something special is that just it a feeling built by emotional and chemical reactions? Oh and I really want to fuck other women, is that just my balls? I'm extremely confused on what to do.

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