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My mom also butts her head in places she doesn't need to. She doesn't harp on me to get a girlfriend too often, but about other things, anyway. I'm not particularly close with her either, so I don't exactly feel comfortable telling her to fuck off.

The thing about parents, especially through you mid to late 20s, is that they can't tell when their role has changed. I'm a licensed EMT, but my mom still insists that I could get sepsis if I don't clean a small wound immediately.

It is unlikely that she will listen to you if you ask her to stop, I just have a feeling. Sometimes, I just tell my parents I'm dating someone just so they won't bring it up, and when they do, i just mention off hand that we broke up.

Unfortunately, I don't have any better advice for you

>>18285197
>my parents actually cares about me
Bo hoo. Move out, get independent and they wont have much power over your life.

And
>content with being alone
is a lie you keep telling yourself. Also dudes can get dates and sire children even when they are 35. Girls have to hurry or they become feminazis.

>>18285197
I finally had enough of my mom and moved far away and my life has been wonderful. Of course she guilted me and shit but I stopped telling her anything about what was happening in my life, talked about mundane things and problem solved. Don't miss her at all. If I don't want to hear it I don't answer the phone. She too bounce from one horrible bf to another yet thought she was the expert to tell me how to proceed in my love life. I'm happy alone for now and will take my time if that changes.

>>18285163
Contact your prof. Email them or drop by their office. Ask what's up.

>>18285163
You don't just suddenly drop a grade that sharp. What did you do?

>>18285185
We had a big packet due by the end of the semester. It had a bunch of assignments that we were to turn in later. I turned them in, and believe the Assignments were done correctly, and somehow I dropped to an F between midterm and now, or at least that's what my current grade is rn.

>>18285158
Dunno, you woman hating/bitter/dejected/disillusioned in any way?

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>>18285158
we're living through the greatest porn boom in human history and your still looking at "real women", wow, are you internet deprived or something?

>>18285158

Is this a problem for you? I mean, what's the big deal? Attraction works different for different people. Yours is pretty tame. No biggie.

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>>18285145
sure I've been depressed and fought my way out of it. The thing that helped me the most was finding a physically demanding hobby where I can disconnect my brain. It's meditation for me and my depression that lasted 3 years got BTFO after like half a year of consistent effort.

Maybe you're getting anxiety because you're on the way to completely fucking up your life and handing all the power over your life over to a woman? Don't marry anyone ever you pleb

>>18285145

i was diagnosed with severe depression, anxiety and OCD 2 months ago - having gone through my life fine, basically had a breakdown 6 months ago, and tried carrying on as normal.

i have been on 150mg of sertraline, and it does help. I also have diazempan for when i feel particularly bad, and i take some heavy duty sleeping tablets each night to sleep.

I know you said that medication hasn't worked for you. I read Overcoming Depression: The Curse of the Strong by Tim Cantopher - and found it really useful in helping me to rationalise my depression.

I would recommend it, but i do appreciate that my depression is a short term thing, whereas it is something that you have suffered with for a long time.

If you want to chat or whatever, i will keep checking the thread

>>18285168

Thanks for the advice, I'm glad you managed to get over your depression. I wouldn't say I've handed any power over, its a loving relationship and although we're engaged neither of us have ANY plans of marriage for a hell of a long time.

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>>18285143
school is the most expensive brainwashing in the world. Didn't you get enough in the service?

.t former military

>>18285169
oh nvm, you get your tax payers to pay. I can't answer your question because I have no idea what classes and levels have to do with eachother. Betting you're american

>>18285143
They are just more focused than basics. I recommend a light load going back in because it really depends on how well you performed initially. They also expect you to know quite a bit from the basic level, so you may need to give yourself a refresher.

why does it have to be a big deal? the important part is that you teo make a promise to each other to get married. you don't really need a ring for that (or atleast not an expensive one) and you also don't need to throw a big party. getting engaged doesn't have to cost a single $

>>18285098
Get a moissanite ring
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=yK_9GN5r-Jg

>>18285098
What's the point of getting engaged if you don't have enough money to get married and start your life together as a couple?
Sort your life out.

>do you think kids can regulate their media consumption just fine without adult guidance?
no. On the other Hand, it's not so much about forbidding the Kids to Play Video Games, it's more about giving them alternatives and nurturing them. If they're not allowed vidya but are still left alone they'll find other degenerate shit to do, especially if they are influenced by other Kids.

You shouldn't ask what we think.

This is between you two.

This is an issue you guys have to solve together and come to an agreement upon, because if you don't learn how to do that here, you're going to be in trouble when it comes up with someone else later.

That being said, feel free to go get educated on the matter and look up some articles and studies.

A lot of them are contentious and child development as a field is in no way concrete.

But it's a whole hell of a lot more reliable than the uneducated opinions of 4chaners.

>>18285093
Of course children can't regulate their media consumption. In the same way a fish will eat until it dies if you let it, children are insatiable in their appetite for quick and fast stimulation. Steve Jobs recognized this and wouldn't even let his own children own an iPad. I'm 20 so I recognize I'm still young and not much older than children today but I was always in the street playing with my friends when I was in elementary school. My father got so sick of it he banned me temporarily from playing outside for a while because I wasn't doing my homework. My friends younger brother is really into electronics and there is something off about him. Granted, I know not all children are like this but I think watching so much tv and playing so many video games did this.

I don't think anyone over the age of 25 should be playing more than 5 hours a week on video games. I use to play all CSGO all the time but when I saw how many hours I logged in it made me realize I was wasting my time. I began reading more and have read 5 books in the past few weeks. I began drawing and took up boxing classes. If your husband still avidly plays video games he has a stupid hobby. You are making the right choices and doing what's best for your children.

Sounds like a dead end.
Move onto the next one.

>>18285079
/thread

A thousand things could have happened. Doesn't seem like you fucked up after getting her number but it seemed like she wasn't interested. Lots of times girls will avoid awkward moments or confrontation so they will just give their number even if they have no intention of ever meeting up with the guy. Doesn't really matter though you gave it a shot and that's what matters. On to the next one.

>>18285084
this, OP.

Just look out for the next one.

go to the fucking doctor you dumb amerishart

>>18285036
I'm not an american, and I don't want to bother a doctor if it's nothing.

>>18285042
I don't think it's fair for the doctor to hold it against you for being concerned for your own health. Just go OP

>>18284990
Thank you, just need more feedback.
cost is both countable and uncountable.

>>18284984
It's not a well-formulated question. Both 2 and 3 are correct. "Costs" is often left plural because sometimes there's more than one type of expense incurred by the shipping process (you can see the same thing with the word 'expense' itself, as in: "I incurred significant expenses ..."), and the lack of the definite article ('the') is extremely common in contexts like this and doesn't make the sentence wrong.

"The shopping cost" is not wrong, either. Both are in common usage.

1 of course is wrong.

>>18284992
it's no. 2 mate.
ffs.

Check out actualized.org

>>18284880

>me on the left

>>18284880
Anything by Eckhart Tolle is a good place to start in terms of the mindset. This vid helped me get started

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8a5fO8jE7mc

He's a pickup guy so some of the advice in the vid is geared towards that but it is still very insightful even if you have no interest in pickup. Lastly, just start doing it. Pick a time slot each day and stick to it.

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Wants the thicc dicc have coffee at your place

>>18284856
be a man and call her for that hypothetical cup of coffee. (be sure to have some on hand, right)

worst case scenario you'll have met someone nice and gotten a bit of practice talking to grills.

also, if the walls are paper thin, be sure to have a ball gag to hand too, otherwise the landlady might give you your marching orders if the girls a screamer.

an good luck anon!

>>18284856
come on dude are you really this dense

But I also want to refrain from giving advice or judgement because I don't want to influence their decisions. If she breaks it off with him now because of pressure from myself and the other mutual friend she's vented to, I don't think she'll really learn her lesson - she'll be stopping not because it's the right thing to do, or because she knows it will hurt her, but because her friends disapprove. I'm not going to be there the rest of her life to keep her from doing stupid shit like this, so if she doesn't learn it now, it's going to happen again later when me and the mutual friend aren't around.

If I don't tell her that waiting it out is stupid, she'll almost certainly end up extremely hurt, but she'll definitely learn her lesson and never do something stupid like this again.

wat do

2/2

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If Bob's girl doesn't find out about Jan, she will find out about the next girl.
Tell Jan. Don't hide the truth from your friend. Wouldn't you want somebody to tell you if you were in her place?

mind
your
own
business

or you know, gossip with your irl friends like a normal person

could be the oven's got a problem, one that could be fixed.
also check out slow cookers, them things rock.

>>18284848
Get a quality toaster oven

>>18284865
It's university housing. They have issues, the issues don't get fixed very quickly, but the cookers *do* suck.

The rice cooker I already have, it's a Tefal 8 in 1 with slowcook settings, delay timer etc. so I can make stew and things in it. But I don't really want to be making my dinner at 8 o'clock in the morning..

>>18284866
I was thinking about one of these, so it would do toasting too.

No one loves you, nigger, you're an idiot, AND you're bad at everything, particularly grammar.

4chan isn't the place to come to for a positive influence.

>>18284847
>I go to a Christian school but ofc that doesn't mean there's no bullying and everythings perfect
Lol like someone thinks that. Religious people are as shit as the next fella.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=G4IPEBpoad0

>>18284847
Do something where you can feel intrinsic value.

Whether it be lifting, gunning for straight-A's, extracurricular non fiction reading, volunteering for charity, sports, the list does go on.

Don't value yourself by other people's opinion, but contrawise don't get delusional over having value where you have non. Do acts, activities, where you have an achievement you can point to and consider as having value. The list above has hints, but is not exhaustive.

Also, don't be a weak middleschooler posting on an 18+ board thx. "Fanculo".