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>>18285954

obviously it varies from person to person

i have been on zoloft (sertraline) for two months now. My doctor started me on a low dose and steadily increased it and now I am on 150mg a day. The main side effects I have are diarrhea, stomach pains, and occasionally sensation that my heart is racing at a million miles per hour (even though the bpm is 75-80).

First few weeks I felt a little bit spaced out, but that has largely gone now. Also, it can give you insomnia (I had it anyway so take sleeping tablets whilst I am recovering from my breakdown).

It has made a huge improvement to my mood, it isn't a miracle drug by any means, so keep at it, even when you feel terrible, and hopefully you will get better soon.

Just as a word of warning, with the diarrhea, make sure you take on plenty of fluids, as you will become dehydrated very fast.

>>18286207
Thank you. What are you taking it for? I told my doctor that I'm having anxiety attacks way too often, that I'm not very motivated and that I have hypochondria and he told me to take those. I didn't tell him I have OCD though, which I've read it's good for. I'd like to mainly fix my anxiety, does it work for that?

>>18285855
>I need to escape.

Do it. Watch movies, books, do some exersice, anything. Fill your time.

You are young. A single girl rejecting you is not the end of the world. It feels bad, we all know it, but just do what you need to shake of that funk. Spend the weekend eating nachos and masturbating. Whatever. It'll pass soon.

How long has it been?

>>18285861
I already watch a lot of movies & TV shows, but for anything else, I'm just too damn lazy to do anything.

I'm used to girls rejecting me, but as I said, I felt something truly special for her. She's a sweet friend & the shy/litterature type whom most of the boys usually shunned. I was just intensely attracted to her - personality, body, all.

She rejected me a first time one year ago. Then I tried again& harder & she rejected me another time, it was on the day Fidel fucking Castro died (End of November). We're still "friends" though.

And I mean sometimes I stop thinking about her (on long vacations) but either something reminds me of her or I still feel empty.

>>18285881

If it makes you feel bad to see her, then spend less time with her. Hang out with other people man. I thought we were talking bout something that happened a week ago. A year? Dude, move the fuck on.

>>18285811

Where's the risk?

>It's just she doesn't see me in a romantic way.

She isn't into you. And even then, you say it's be taboo. What else is there to do? You don't have a shot here. Start looking elsewhere.

>>18285819
I think I sorta know that's what I should do it's just I don't want to admit that. I had sorta moved on but last night just put me back to square one

>>18285811
does she have a sister?
yes: you're in business
no: find her separated at birth twin.

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>>18285781
Do what comes naturally to you. It's enough and you can do better next time.

>>18285781
>-shy ones
>-ones that are too talkative
Given them time. Maybe even suggest shit yourself.

>-rude ones
Smile away.

>-ones that take a long time to order
Friendly reminder.

>-ones that make a big order with various adjustments
Deal with it.

>-ones that don't speak English
Pictures are your friend.

>-shy ones
"Do you need more time?" (gesturing towards out of the line if there's a line)

>-rude ones
This is just called thick skin training. Down the road, you'll be better off for having done it. Try not to work shitty frontline jobs the rest of your life.

>-ones that take a long time to order
See: 'shy ones'

>-ones that make a big order with various adjustments
This is the bane of every restaurant manager/owner's existence; it's more unpleasant than the dream where Jon Taffer and Gordon Ramsay both walk into your place at the same time. Part of the reason technology is being pushed so hard is so that it can FINALLY be the customer's own fault when they order and confirm one thing then scream bloody murder because the waitress didn't bring them something completely different. McKiosks are actually your friend here, just don't be the laziest employee if you don't want to get replaced by them.

>-ones that are too talkative
In a fast food restaurant? If there's a line, then the folks further back can handle that for you. If there's not a line, see 'rude ones.'

>-ones that don't speak English
That's a problem for your manager to solve; if the manager says its for you to solve then start sending your applications out because bad leadership seldom ends well. The essence of leadership is found in tackling the challenge yourself, rather than blaming your subordinates for failing to do it in your place.

The OS you like more

Personally, I'm loving the Google Pixel XL, I know it wasn't one of the given options, but it costs about the same as the iPhone 7 and is really great. Also it's got a dank fingerprint scanner.

>>18285765
none of them, get a xiaomi

Jump off the highest building you can find

google it you rational and clearheaded moron. doesnt take two cogs to know helium tank is the way to go. dumb faggot.

>>18285679
Then how about why?

>>18285633
Wouldnt it be easier to get a job instead?

>>18285633
try the charity shops, skint anon. sometimes you can find some right bargains. perhaps a bit old school, but then you'll look quite the dapper young gent, won't you?

>>18285633
Go to a thrift shop.

>>18285620
How old are you two

>>18285620
Both 20, I'm older by half a year

>>18285627
Alright, so you've been together since high school and now have some freedom re:college

How often do you spend nights together?

My advice would normally be to just have a romantic night and let it lead into that naturally, but if she's really hung up on it then it might not be a bad idea to just talk about it.

Sex isn't some magical fairyland bullshit and if you keep building it up and your girlfriend keeps fearing it you're both going to wind up disappointed.

Paris is an expensive shithole, don't fucking go there.

>>18285517
This.
But only to the extent you can't get your shit together to organise shared accommodation (because the French don't house share as a rule) with someone cool. Otherwise it's doable, but if the salary's lower, you'll be on the breadline.

Weigh the pros and cons very carefully: check out the professional details thoroughly and do up cost of living analysis too.

don't just go on a whim.

>>18285528
My parents told me they can help me with money if I become really poor, but they dont really like me go to Paris

>>18285480
You're cheating emotionally with girl B. Full stop.

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>>18285480
If you actually like your current gf, cut out Girl B. She'll find out eventually, women always do. If you're dead set on keeping B around then come clean to your gf, explain the messages and lack of attraction to B.

I honestly don't get why you'd keep someone like B around, she obviously isn't a good friend and has no respect for your relationship. Just my 2 cents though, you're free to do as you please.

Girl A sounds just fine but B needs a swift cunt punt. She isn't respecting you're relationship. Your gf is half right half wrong in the fact that she wants you away from someone like B, who is constantly attempting to undermine your love life, while at the same time Not wanting someone like A who has clearly moved on in her life.

TLDR: Boot girl B to the curb, tell gf someone like A is going to stick around like it or not.

>>18285450
Good riddance. If she couldn't realize what she was getting into then it's only better for you. Kick her ass out and binge some more WoW.

>>18285450
Try not to be bitter. You had 8 years with her, at least some of which was good, and if she slowly came to realize she wasn't as strong a person as she thought she was - well, that has to have been a very sad self-discovery for her.

It would be nice if you could part on a friendly basis, sincerely wishing each other well while accepting that your futures are best apart.

>>18285486
We don't even play WoW anymore. I'm busy with streaming and she's busy with Stardew Valley.

>>18285586
That's the outcome I'm hoping for. The less stress, the better (especially for my fibromyalgia.)

Theu could just block him retard, I feel like you're the douche roommate

>>18285444
Question: were you drunk driving at the time?

If the answer is yes then his texts could be seen as warnings and shaming which is not illegal.

If the answer is no then that is an attack on your character broadcast to your friends and family and would qualify as harassment.

The real question is whether you have money.

If yes: ask a lawyer about criminal harassment charges. I've seen folks serve 90 days for basically what you're describing, but (SPOILER ALERT) laws vary from place to place.

If no: you can't afford justice, sorry you had to learn about realpolitik ITT.

>>18285348
By killing yourself

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>>18285363
this. It's literally easier to think of things that do kill you instead of things that don't. What a stupid question.

But I guess the real point is to get people interested and ask for your story and tell you it's not worth it.

So what's up buddy?

I have to admit /adv/ i am lurking here and giving all sort of advices and collecting sweets (You)s where OP says something like:
>good advice / thanks for tip
But no matter what i do, i never recieved sweet you from suicider thread. Is anybody here who managed to do such a feat? Is it even possible to help them?

Because we all know they wont suicide, they just need attention and probably help. But how can you help somebody who is this desparate?

This is adv you idiot.

>>18285282
Will I ever get married?

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>>18285289
If you want so, you will. The most important thing you need to ask yourself is what marriage means to you. Is it a way to seal your love and relationship, or is it a placeholder to make your partner happy? Is it economical or just romantic.

The first logical step would be to find a person to be with, if you are still single.
If you have found someone, try to talk about marriage. What idea does your partner have about it, what does it mean to him or her? Most proposals these days are done by two people agreeing on marriage. Dropping down on one knee with a ring is more romantic fiction than fact.

And remember, idleness begets heresy,

>>18285280
i have that same problem. Maybe because lack of confidence.

>>18285293
hm could be. It's weirding me out tho, even when I dress up I feel uncomfortable if people look at me (which is kind of the intent when dressing up imo)

>>18285303
Some drugs can increase these feelings. So stay away from them.