So I might have contracted an std while studying abroad in Spain. Going to the doctor tomorrow, does anybody have an idea of what to expect of this? Maybe someone from Spain?
Thanks!
>>18285589
What STD do you think it is? Any distinct symptoms?
>>18285589
The joys of Erasmus eh.
get ready to get pull your knickers down and give the doctor a flash of your bits, that's all.
>>18285589
>blood test
>urine test
>swab your throat
>swab your anal cavity
>possibly swab your urethra
Hey /adv/, I need a good, witty senior quote.
Any ideas?
>>18285357
"Put witty senior quote here"
Or just steal one from someone else online.
>>18285357
Nobody cares about that shit.
Nothing in highschool matters.
>>18285357
"Living well is the best revenge"
Please help, is this the lowest Ive been? Is this what I've become?
My girlfriend is going for coffee with some guy she met on Facebook and I'm supposed to just accept it?
If I did that to her it would be the end of the fucking world
>>18285341
>I'm supposed to just accept it?
No, so why have you?
She knows what this is and wants you to sit as she looks for your replacement. You cannot put her desire to do this back in the bottle.
>>18285351
Op Here
Ah man you are probably right but I don't know what to do Ive never been in this situation before
>>18285360
You are not alone. Every man has been in your spot at least once and more if they didn't learn from it.
The hard part is cutting through your emotional attachment but you really have only two choices. Either live with the humiliation of what she is doing and bitch or beg for an explanation from her that will shut you up for awhile or piss her off giving her a way to blame you. Or, you can refuse to be treated like a fool, see it for what it really is and refuse to be with someone that will treat you like this and leave. You calmly tell her why you are gone and wish her a nice life but do not listen to any flimsy excuses.
Has anyone here actually accepted or escaped the common complaint of having to work for the rest of their life?
Seems like there's a thread here pretty much every day complaining about the 5-day work week, arguing that it's basically modern slavery, and proclaiming that they're depressed because they hate the whole system. To me, it seems like these complaints are a very common concern of adults in the modern first world.
Well, is there anyone on here who felt that way who doesn't anymore? Maybe somebody who's either learned to accept it or found a way to avoid the problem altogether? All I see in those threads is just vague advice and arguing whether or not the OP should be concerned in the first place, but I rarely see any actual testimonials of those who overcame the same problem.
Yeah it's fuckin shit m8. I even chose a profession I loved and took barely any pay and it still feels the fuckin same. I love my job though. Fuck me I'm confused. Why do I hate my life? Am I the only common denominator in all my problems? Is anything actually wrong with me or is it just my own lazy ass's fault?
>>18285209
What is your job? Do you like it?
>>18285209
I can say that I feel like the odd one out since I love working. If my current job allowed it I'd work overtime every day (as long as I'm getting compensated of course), weekends too. I'm a lowly technician, I just help people with their day to day computer problems but fuck me I love it. The acting of helping people and seeing them smile or be able to get back to their work as quickly as possible gives me pride. I guess I was just born to be a wageslave but it's never bothered me.
Is there some sort of social experiment I can do to prove if I really have autism or not
>>18285001
https://psychcentral.com/quizzes/autism-quiz.htm
i got a 4
If you're seriously concerned about it go to a professional instead of self conducting a retard test
>>18285011
I got 15, eesh.
I am the complete opposite of autistic, very empathetic and also socially intelligent, but I still hate people and I always go my way, so people often think I am autistic.
>>18285011
Got 19 here.
If you have any questions about mental health feel free to ask away.
>>18284959
i hate myself. a lot. what do
>>18284959
Psychiatry is a racket. Anyone with any experience in it knows, so if any of you lurkers want to go and tell me psychiatrists/psychologists are helpful, piss off. Don't try to dupe me or anyone else who may be reading. It won't work.
The question I have for you is, how can I make money off the mental health industry without wasting my time and money going to college?
How do you humble yourself and seek therapy if you've never done so before in your life? I've never really been diagnosed with anything but have been on anti depressants in the past for a good year and when I was from 5 to 8 I was put on adderall to chill me the fuck out in school (which may have affected me to this day, but unsure). My gf says I should try therapy and that it would help my issues involving a lack of motivation, depression, and near constant stream of self hate. I hate the stigma society puts on therapy, and being fresh out of college and working 40/hr a week, I don't have a lot of money or time to spend on it. I'm very confused about the whole thing and would love done advice.
Ask a guy who's in a successful polyamorous relationship anything.
>Specifically a throuple
Monogamy vs Polyamory vs Open Relationships Discussion? I'm just drunk enough.
C'mon while I'm drunk /adv/
>>18284942
>>18284946
I'll bite
1. Congrats on living the dream.
2. Age, sex, orientation, same info on partners, how many partners you have, and what kind of poly you are based on the handy chart you posted pls.
3. What the fuck is a throuple?
>>18284953
Ah, just a three person couple isn't it? Duh. I'm kinda drunk too sorry.
Anyway how do you find other people interested? It's an extremely controversial thing to do, but I still think it would be completely unethical not to mention that you're polyamorous (I have a girlfriend and would like to get into the scene. She's ok with it obviously.)
Which I didn't know about when I started getting more and more attached to her. And now I'm pretty sure I'm in love.
I told her I was getting too attached and suggested that maybe I should get some distance from her so it doesn't aggravate, which she was against.
We didn't discuss this matter much unfortunately, but she acknowledged that it's a difficult position for me, I'm not sure she understands how much I might suffer from it though.
She also mentioned how it was "too late" as in she already has a boyfriend, which would suggest that if she was single she'd be interested. However I feel like she wouldn't leave him for me even if that's what she wanted.
When we talk late at night and she mentions how lovely, how captivating, etc. I am, it just hurts. I'm getting obsessed over her and I fear it'll only get worse
What should I do at this point? The options I see are either taking my distances, and/or try to turn my feelings for her into a platonic friendship, and maybe eventually when they break up take my chance?
I guess I could also try to get even closer to her, to make her share my feelings and eventually have her leave her boyfriend for me, which sounds quite appealing to me but might be actively retarded.
Thoughts? How pathetic am I?
>>18280548
>How pathetic am I?
Very.
>>18280548
>platonic friendship
Anything but that. You dont feel love. You are just infatuated. It will pass.
Keep your distance and date somebody else.
>>18280578
What do you mean anything but that? If you're right and I'm just infatuated then I shouldn't have any trouble just staying friends with her right?
I fear I just don't have what women are looking for. I have asked out maybe 10 women in my life. I am 26 now.
I have never had a girlfriend but I have been on dates. They seemed to go okay but the girls end up ghosting me. What I have found is that the women just don't seem interested.
I actually can't say when the last time was that a woman was genuinely interested in me. Most of my dating interactions with women have been one sided with me asking all the questions.
I am frustrated because my friends just tell me to be confident but I don't think confidence has anything to do with what's happening.
I believe I lack that "masculine spark" or whatever that actually attracts women. Something is missing from my spirit.
I don't get how some dudes can attract women , treat the woman like total dog shit, and the woman still stays. Whatever causes that kind of behavior in women, is what I don't have.
What am I missing?
>>18287201
>I have asked out maybe 10 women in my life. I am 26
Ahahaha, that's fucking nothing, man. Guys who really, really want to get laid ask as many in one hour.
There are billions of women, even if we limit it to your location and assume you live in a normal sized city, there are still thousands of potential partners. You're unlikely to find a right one after 10 tries, specially if you aren't super great yourself.
>I don't think confidence has anything to do with what's happening.
You are wrong. Your friends are right. Well, mostly. It's very, very important but not the golden solution for all of your problems.
>I don't get how some dudes can attract women , treat the woman like total dog shit, and the woman still stays.
Confidence + status/humour/money + social skills + easy targets.
>What am I missing?
Well, confidence for one. Other than that, you didn't describe yourself, which is a minus in itself. Besides, you clearly expect too much and give up too easy.
>>18287201
Don't carry the entire conversation, leave pauses, even f it feels awkward. If they don't have to ask questions to fill the silence, they go away without knowing anything about you. You're not memorable then, why would they go away interested?
>>18287201
I'll be blunt.
You're a beta male and your testosterone levels are probably low. Women overwhelmingly prefer dominant, aggressive, charismatic, dishonest, manipulative, and a touch sadistic guys. Especially during their fertile window. Such men were the best at surviving for most of history and bred the most offspring.
However when women aren't ovulating or have become too old/ugly/used up to get alphas anymore they go for wimpy nice guys who will do ANYTHING no matter how humiliating for a woman's touch.
I recommend lifting weights to raise your testosterone levels and to stop treating women as equals. ALWAYS remember that women are whores for an alpha.
The faggot who writes her poetry, pulls chairs for her, pays for dates, compliments her looks, listens to her problems, etc etc might get a half-hearted handjob after begging when it's been 3 months already when she KNOWS she's let a guy who insulted her taste in music smash in less than 3 hours before.
Don't be the nigga who pays for what she already gave another nigga for free.
I work as a nurse in a max security prison. We have some pretty terrible and violent offenders - For this reason, I lock my phone in my car, but I also save no pictures, no last names, and my own mom is saved under a nickname, not "Mom." Some of our offenders work in the outer perimeter and their visitors could potentially break in my car. I am careful.
I lost my phone. It happens, but the person who found it kindly called everyone in my phone seeking the owner. I appreciate it, but I do not appreciate my mom's reaction. I had expressed my security concerns to her before, and she assured me (about nine months ago) she would never be so stupid. She gave a complete stranger my full name, where I live, her name, and my relationship. I told her, "Thank you, but that's risky to do. Next time, call me before you tell people all my business because of where I work." She responded she was "tired of (my) horseshit." She does not respect or listen to me. This is why her grandson is 14 months and she hasn't seen him.
I feel like laying it on the line and telling her if she doesn't apologize and change her behaviors immediately, it is too personally risky for us to continue a relationship. Is this unreasonable? Other friends and family get it. She is emotionally abusive and it angers me she has the gall to say she is tired of me. Then leave my family and me alone.
>>18286800
delete her from phone
boom!
>>18286800
Sounds like she's going through menopause or some shit, like a super period that's logically blinding until it's over. How old is she?
>>18286800
Unfortunately you have to establish these boundaries with family and stand by your decisions. She needs to understand where those boundaries are.
I had to completely cut my father out of my life when I was a police officer due to stuff like this, and a long history of emotional abuse.
In the end, the decision is yours. You could try my example if you like by limiting your contact with her. A lot of people in the US don't understand how dangerous things are for you. They'll probably never truly comprehend it. So you may need to cut them out periodically to put things in perspective. Others, like my ex-wife, I had to cut contact with for her own safety.
I am starting to watch anime and i would like some recomendations, the ones you like the most and are a must watch
Could someone help?
Steins gate, beebop, fma:brotherhood
>>18286728
Sora no Otoshimono
>>18286736
It changed my life!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KjFWBco6h1U
How do I approach a psychiatrist for having a re-evaluation?
I was diagnosed with depression and ADHD as a teenager but I think those diagnoses were probably wrong and if that's the case, I'd like them overturned for career reasons.
Who knows about them at this point in your life?
>>18286595
It's on my medical/insurance records so if I were to lie about it (i.e. not check the boxes for depresion/ADHD on a medical form) I could get in trouble for perjury.
I'm still on my parents' insurance, if that changes anything.
>>18286598
Wait, even if you're re-evaluated, the question is "Have you ever been diagnosed..." and the answer would still be either yes or a lie. Nobody can get your juvenile medical records. They would need to subpoena them in court. In the event you had to submit them, redact anything before your 18th birthday as "nobody's fucking business."
Met my wife 7 years ago. Got married after 3 years. Have two great kids together. Have a mortgage together. When we met I was quite jacked. However, I was always kind of chubby. I had to work extremely hard to stay jacked. After our first kidI slowly started putting on weight. I went from 225 to 290lbs. I am really tall so i dont look 'fat'. I look husky, kind of like a line backer. Unfortunately she's been nagging me to lose for the last 3 years and I would drop maybe 10-15 pounds but I had such a hard time losing it because I have to work, help take care of the kids and when I finally get a piece of silence around 9pm I am dead on my feet. Id occassionally go jog or skip rope but it was only 2-3 times a week.
Anyways...ahe ended up saying she is embarrassed to be with me now, and that shes lost her attraction to me and doesn't want to have sex with me. So she decided to separate.
I dont know what to do. Honestly feel like just killing myself. I worked so hard for her to provide but I ended up neglecting my own health and appearance to give her the material things she wanted. I should have found a balance.
Now my kids are so young shes probably going to find some youger hunk and make my kids call him daddy and what not. Honestly feel like just killing myself. My family was all I ever had and now shes abandoned me. I dont want to live anymore.
>>18286572
If you use to be jacked why would you think losing weight is all about working out? Diet is 80% of it so not even sure your story is real
Go and get her back. Tell her you will lose weight this time.
>>18286572
All you had to do was control yourself. Obesity is a symptom of mental illness. Maybe in your case, you lack self control. But I don't blame her for not wanting her kids to grow up around a lard ass piece of trash.
>>18286613
Why don't you just jump off a bridge and be done with it? Christ. OP Lose weight if you want to, but I'm sorry to say your wife is being unreasonable, childish and just a general bitch. Whatever happens, all the best
Youth of Today: tell me now: "emotional cheating"?
Is this seriously a "thing" now? Or perhaps just yet another piece of SJW faggotry to mess around with people's minds.
Ehgads...
I honestly wouldn't be surprised if someone in the past also had similar life experiences and conclusions. I'm not justyfing it, but don't go off pretending it's new.
>>18286074
>Ehgads...
kys
>>18286074
Its a stupid term but it has merit. Would you feel just fine if your girl was pining over another guy? Not fucking him mind you just totally enamored with him.
> girls keep looking at me in school
>they're usually attractive
>always catch this qt3.14 8/10 looking at me when I come out of class
>her class is almost directly across from mine but I'm always the one she looks at when she comes out
Am I autistic for thinking these girls might be into me? I'm not really attractive, I'd say 6.5/10 and really skinny. I don't really talk to others. I'm relatively tall, I guess that's the one thing I have going for me. They might be into me or they're staring at me because I'm one ugly mf. Both of those are terrifying for me.
>>18285864
Just talk to them
>>18285868
Okay how do I do this without actually exposing myself to ridicule?
>>18285922
can't do it without exposure to risk