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U think he will show up with a gun one day.

>>18298371
It's his fault, he brought that to himself and there is now way he could redeem his fault.
He has to find another job.

Also, you could try talking to him and see why the hell did he think it was a good idea.

>>18298370
However the anxiety every time I think she might be in at the same time is killing me. All of my workplace knew about it starting and ending, though I've no idea to what degree or what's been said, so I worry about her or her friends spreading things about me. I'm not very talkative and kind of weird in the first place, so it's easy to think some people would be all too eager to believe bad things about me.
The anxiety has got to a point where although I can keep a neutral/brave face, to keep myself focused I have to talk myself through doing jobs, and even then it's on autopilot. It wears me down so much by the end of a bad day that I'm exhausted and just collapse into bed on getting home. Last Saturday I got home on the verge of tears, stopped abruptly and then felt all emotion just drain away, sat in the dark and stared at the walls for an hour without moving. After that I stayed in the kitchen for another hour trying to make myself call a mental health helpline, but eventually went to bed without doing it.
Previously I've been told by a GP to go through MoodGYM (online self-help CBT) on a different anxiety occasion, but it's not helping much when it's this bad, and the waiting lists for counselling/in-person CBT is at least half a year long. The days since then have been alright, but it always comes back and I'm not sure how long I can keep up this level of stress before I explode at someone or have a breakdown. Is there anything at all that might help? Even just knowing someone else has been through this kind of thing and come out better for it would help, but all I see is people keeping it half at bay all their lives.

tl;dr terrible anxiety whenever girl at work is even in the building is wearing me down to breaking point, is there any hope?

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>>18298372
>Is there anything at all that might help? Even just knowing someone else has been through this kind of thing and come out better for it would help, but all I see is people keeping it half at bay all their lives.
well then let me give you my little story:
was diagnosed with general anxiety disorder
went through psychiatry (was awesome) and found an amazing psychologist. went to her for ~1 1/2 years and am WAY better now. most of my anxieties are gone and those that are not have been massively reduced.

what you have to do is expose yourself to your fears and afterwards reassess the situation that made you anxious. also find some activity that allows you to relax when you are stressed. maybe going through a woods and scream at the top of your lungs is something for you

Idk. I haven't slept in a few days, have had issues with insomnia and stimulant abuse for about half a year now.

I've been considering suicide because my head is one big gloopy mess. Feels like everything is rushing by me all the time and I can't put together the fragments of my life quick enough.

I recognise its a mental illness at this point.
I don't want to live like this. Perhaps suicide is an option.

It may be because I'm fucking delusional rn or something but the idea isn't scary to me like it usually is. I consider it nonchalantly. Its weird.

What do you niggas think?

>>18298329
I dont think there is any way how to help people who makes kys threads. They are either baiters or lost all hope.

Having general with sure foolproof guides how to die would only make them kill them faster.

>>18298341
>insomnia
>drugs abuse
Start by going to doctor. 3+days without sleep and you literally go crazy.

>>18298378
I've thought about it and I'm gonna keep going. I'm liking this feeling of disconnection and not caring.

I want to kill myself and this is making the decision easier.

>>18298275
Grow up.

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>>18298275
Work out your feelings now and don't just try to distract yourself. Let the feelings flow through you as strong and as long as it has to.

Ask yourself questions and don't fear to consider even the questions and answers that feel stupid or obvious at first. Think about it in every perspective. Ask yourself for example why does this make you feel embarrassed? How long could this feelings stay in the worst case scenario? What's the worst thing these feelings could cause? How do you think your ex feels? How long do you think your ex felt or will feel these feelings? What's the worst thing this might lead into? If your ex told about this to somebody who would that be? What would that person think? What could you do to make you and/or your ex stop feeling that way? Why were you trying to get your ex's attention? Is there any other way to achieve that?

Here are my 2 cents: You can't really learn everything from books. You have to fail some things to really learn them. If you wouldn't have bombed here you had always wondered what would have happened if you had tried. Be happy that you made this mistake this early and that you made it at all. Some people never have a chance to learn.

>>18298377
I didn't want to contact my ex until I got my shit together, but "better minds" suggested I contact her asap instead which resulted in me making an ass of myself for a week and getting blocked. I felt guilty and immature.

The only thing that's provided temporary relief was that an attractive girl made out with me Saturday, but I may have fucked up texting her and now I'm back in the shame zone.

I think, fortunately, that "the worst thing this might lead to" is just losing someone important to me and not enduring any legal matters or being cheated on. Still, can't help but be disappointed in myself trying to win her back in such a half-assed way.

>>18298258
volunteer isn't going to help much. I'd say just keep looking. drive around town and be on the look out for small stores that have "Help wanted" or "hiring" signs on the window. or find a place you do want to work (say pizza hut) apply online ahead of time, wait a few days then go into the store. when they say apply online tell them you already did and check if they got it, if anything is opening up, etc. also ask them if they know if any place is hiring nearby.

>>18298832
applying online
never
fucking
ever
works

>>18298836
This.

>>18298328
Thanks for the answer, I'll try to stop. :)

>>18298240
No but you should stop watching porn.

>>18298363
I'll do both.

>>18298226
>signs of thrush
>While touching her I felt the "cottage cheese" feeling, and now

Yo...so... if you noticed all that shit... why didn't you just stop?

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>>18298242
Stupidity + Access to pussy.

I've only just started putting it all back together,

>>18298226
I would start by attending doctor and sending her to gyno.

http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Thrush/Pages/Introduction.aspx

No reason to break up, since you both are so stupid to fuck when infected anyway. Until you BOTH heals, stick to handjobs and fingering.

Wanna talk on discord? I actually have experience with stuff like this. I've been posting here since I'm 13, but its not an addiction or owt. I honestly just occasionally look at a few threads when using my phone to kill some time and I'm done with it.

Perhaps its because I've been here so long, but it quickly grows tiring.

I mean, its an interesting problem, we can talk more about it if you wanna talk over discord.

>>18298211
Do you have gf yet?

>>18298211
You need to start working out. Raising your testosterone levels bring your drive to achieve higher

>>18298202
If you want to live in pic related, move to Washington or Oregon

I also lived in Arizona for the first 23 years of my life and moved to Washington recently and it's great. I do miss Arizona though, and it's expensive here

>>18299159
What part of WA do you live in? I've got a cousin in Seattle and I wouldn't mind the city, or a suburb of it. Any particular aspects of the state you really like?

>>18299192
The weather is reasonably okay and the state itself has very picturesque natural beauty. You need a car to appreciate it though, and I currently don't so I can't comment a lot.

Weather = cloudy 70% of the time, rainy 25% of the time, breezy and cool and not too harshly cold in the winter. Gets a bit humid in the summer

I miss the smell of the Arizona desert though. It smells good, and you won't realize this until you leave. Like desert sage

The only work you should be doing is work out. Getting a job will probably give you a heart attack at some point.

>>18298233
I can't really work out beyond walking and maybe using a stationary bike for a while
I know my weight should probably be a priority but I can't really control what I eat if I'm locked inside all day
You know getting fat and eating can be really fucking cheap if you know how to cook

>>18298189
probably, but it would be easier if before you go to get a job you dedicate yourself to loosing weight and becoming healthy.

>>18298187
Beauty fades, romance becomes shame.

You sound like you have your shit together. Just continue to take care of yourself, focus on improving yourself. Find a great guy, especially when he's young and his career hasn't taken off. Be faithful to him and make him happy - that's all a man wants. It's true a lot of these girls have it easier being pretty, but it'll even out as you get older. That being said, you should still take care of your appearance, it matters a lot for initial attraction.

>>18298187
improve yourself: gym, good haircut, hobbies, career, personality.
your welcome

Unironically, bee yourself.

This shit is NOT about you, and your job is NOT to take care of her, to fix her, or to make everything right for her.

That is all shit she has to do by herself, for herself.

Don't get so ducking big headed you think you are the center of her universe. Even if that DID become the truth, it would be MASSIVELY unhealthy and probably become toxic for the both of you.

Stop feeling sorry for her, codling her, or trying to fix her.

For all intents and purposes, pretty much just forget that she has a lot of shit on her history and treat here like a normal person. Go ahead and make a few allowances and work with her when she needs it, but that is the exception, not the rule.

She needs to stand on her own, and you need to not see her as a victim and yourself as some savior.

You ain't that all omnipotent. No one is.

>>18298183
Just hug her. Be the fighter.

https://youtu.be/0KvWPgPGTX8

>>18298208
thanks anon needed to hear this

>>18298172
From what I understand about the way campuses deal with alleged rape, the mere allegation means your education is fucked, regardless of the results of a police investigation.

Maybe her history of mental disorders can help, but I think you can kiss your college education goodbye. This is why you never stick your dick in crazy.

>>18298216
Oh, and i doubt you're in danger of criminal conviction. Rape is extremely hard to prove, but get a good lawyer. Do NOT pinch pennies, you could very well end up on a sex offender list just bc your lawyer didn't give a shit

>>18298172
They constantly pull this shit in campuses. Make your case as best you can. If worst comes to worst make your case national and piss everyone off so this stuff isn't sweeped under the rug anymore.

>>18298139
You're a winner...?

My mom had a spontaneous abortion before me and they only wanted 2 kids (I have a brother). Getting hung up on would haves is dumb.

Give them a reason not to regret still giving birth to you.

>>18298139
Be glad you're alive and you don't have three older sisters.

>>18298102

You 12 or is English your second language?

>>18298102
Just force yourself to ask them on date. And them again, again and again. Fake it until you make it.

Or die alone. Your choice.

>>18298113
nah it's my second language i just typed this shit fast , actually it's the first time someone pointed out that my english sucks