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I've found the easiest way to get a job is to know people and be recommended by them

>>18299687
That's a good point. So do I just try to make connections in the fields I'm looking at?

>>18299695
Basically, yeah. Where I work at the moment, pretty much everyone started there because they knew someone who was already working there. They rarely do external recruitment, and I know that's the case for a lot of places.

That said, your qualifications are just as important. Someone else can put your name forward, but it's useless if you're not meeting their expectations of what they're looking for in an employee.

How old are you, where do you live, and what sort of job are you looking for?

"Y dont u get a gf nig-"
Fuck that, just tell me how i can find out

Y dont u get a gf nig

>>18299683
If that's the kind of thing you're looking for "blatantly ask" a cab driver m8, they more than likely will know know not just the places that do that stuff but could probably recommend the good ones

>>18299650
come to think of it, i don't think so. it's not really going three ways; rather it's going one way two times.

No dude. That's the exact same thing if you were taking up the ass while putting it inside her.

All abaord the choo choo train to cock carousels.
Sorry bro, you're now a homosexual.

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>>18299650
The line is blurry. It's like asking does bondage session have to include penis-in-vagina? Some people expect it others don't. Ask people what they mean before doing it.

Join the army, they'll make you man the fuck up.
Or lie down with a plastic bag over your head.

>>18299645
Calm the fuck down. Things can get better If you start doing something about it

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>>18299645
You have to accept that changing your life will take some time and that you can sometimes take steps back too. Give yourself permission to fail sometimes.

Happiness isn't just achieving your goals. Happiness is also working towards your goals.

First work with your feelings. Ask yourself why do you hate yourself? Learn to accept yourself and decide to gradually improve yourself.

Then get hobbies. Get to know people through hobbies. Then you get friends. Through friends you can get intimate relationships.

get it on video next time

>>18299625
Encourage your bud to join a boxing gym, should lift him out of his fixation.

Or, sell tickets to the next meet.

...Better yet, film it. Make sure to shout WORLSTAHH whilst doing so.

So let me get this right. Your friend instigated a fight, was beaten down, was lucky enough to have started shit with a guy who was wise enough to know when to let it stop, and still wants to fight him yet again?

Just let him dig his hell, he doesnt even have a reasonable reason for this.

Get into video games.
Hiking or photography is comfy too and a good time killer.

>>18299563

I'm sort of in a similar jam. Maybe try getting out more if you can? I was thinking maybe meeting people is the next step but who would wanna talk to a fucking NEET.

>>18299563
if you can afford it, you can do it.

Do you know her irl or only from oldpeoplebook?
If her posts are public you could always start by commenting them, see if she replies back.

>>18299548
I've met her once, and it was the definition of brief.
I literally think I waved and said hi, and then started to see her posts as of last month.

Unless you're her friend, any message you sent her will go to the 'other' folder and she won't get a notification about it. If you plan to talk to her, send her a friend request first.

No one? Has no one been in my shoes? Or is /adv/ slow?

>>18299538

Not everyone's sleeping with the special snowflakes who had to change their entire bodily identity in order to feel "comfortable" in life (only to find out that they're still not comfortable, more suicidal, miserable, and generally less accepted because people still think it's fucking weird for someone to delude themselves into bodily surgery and hormonal treatments in order to deal with their circumstances).

Y'know. Normies.

i'd imagine it varies from person to person, probably also varies depending on their top surgery recovery? whenever you have a major cosmetic surgery there's always a chance for nerve damage. even if he likes you touching his chest now, that may change after top surgery. there's no one answer for this.

What are you doing that your co-workers don't like?

>>18299456
I'm polite to everybody and I try to converse but we just don't like the same things. When they talk to each other it's sports or sex or gossip.

Well I don't watch sports, I haven't touched a woman in a decade, and I don't like talking behind people's backs.

I'm kind of hard to look at and I'm not fat but I take up a lot of space. Or at least it feels that way. I feel like my presence is that of a man hauling two 10-speed bikes on either side. I'd post a picture but /adv/ doesn't like that. For a long time when I started people would tell each other I looked scary just within hearing range.

On top of that, it's just cool to hate me now.

>>18299471
>/adv/ doesn't like that
Okay I just noticed you can post pictures mid-thread, could have sworn you couldn't but I won't because I don't want to be recognized.

Just assume the worst of my appearance.

You don't date one night stands idiot.

>>18299449
This. If you're getting laid this quickly, they're not dating material; they're in the experimenting and "having fun" phase or just plain career sluts.

Being fresh out of a LTR, just enjoy it and you'll run into a keeper eventually.

>>18299484
how do people get regular fuckbuddy things going then though.

Cause Im not ready for another exclusive ltr yet, but i would be down with a regular casual thing. Its frustrating to sleep with a girl, have her suggest a lunch date or something, and then just get ghosted. Like, be upfront if thats how things are gonna be. But I guess thats how women are.

>>18299311
Fake your own death, and move to Mexico.

you should get professional help. I stooped smoking and it really messed with my emotions. I had none. I took a mood stabilizer and ran a 10k and im glad to say im enjoying my life alot more. Being able to be truthful with yourself then sharing that truth with others is liberating

If both you and your gf has free time, try spending it all together. You don't have to do anything, watching YouTube or Netflix and lazing about would be fine.
You say you can't find the desire to get out of bed, but you want her to be happy. Find what you already have that makes you happy, and find what you are easily able to do to add some more happiness to your day. Even talking about nothing relevant can make the time passing more enjoyable.

Personal experience: you are lucky to have someone else there to both share what happiness you have and to make her happiness your own. I don't have that anymore, but I make do with the little things. Because even a single smile a day is better than nothing. And I have had nothing before.

>>18299250
Improve yourself. Start with this. Take off the mask and be brutally honest with your faults. Look in the mirror and identify where you lack. Love yourself for who you are, the good the bad and the ugly. Love yourself and commit to change. Change because you love yourself and you want to be better. And do everything to be better anon.

>>18299287
I already resolved to do that though on my own after a few recent incidents but having to deal with talking to my friends while they have this undertone of concern or worry or pity in their voices and affects is too painful

I don't want to be a source of worry in someone's life

>>18299347
That happens. People who truly are your friends will be concerned about you. Be grateful for this.

This entire post is a jumble of horrible life decisions. Not sure if trolling.

That's a ridiculous amount of debt to take on. If you can't afford straight up, accept the body you have even if it's not the body you think you should have.

>>18299238
Listen to
>>18299253
Learn to be happy with what you have (this applies to material items as well as your body). Otherwise you are just setting yourself up for dissapointment.

Even if you won't regret this, it's a terrible financial decision. You are taking on 13k in debt for no financial investment whatsoever. This is way worse than buying something frivolous because you can at least sell those things back to recuperate your losses.

All or nothing bro. Saying you love her might be a bit much, so probably only say that if you still get nothing. If you are gonna get over the feels eventually, then pouring them all out won't be any loss either way.

>>18299257
Doesn't that shit all over any dignity I have though?

>>18299269
>sent her five texts over the course of a month
Too late for that.

>>18299116
No, how the fuck/why the fuck would it be?

>>18299199
I don't know that's why I'm asking you the brilliant minds of 4chan.

>>18299116
I think it's not bullying, but still, seing that your students hate you isn't something cool.
Also, he's right, you should be saying criticism dead in the eyes, not behind a screen. Now if he gets angry and dismiss your criticism, then I think you could totally write a 1 star review.