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>>18301651
>she is crying afterwards

Well that should do wonders for your confidence Anon.

Yes, take her yo a shrink. That's not embarrassment, that's sign of some much deeper problem, likely related to sexual abuse.

Tell her she looks ugly when she cries

>>18301649
Nothing. Fucking find someone else. What a dumb cunt question.

>>18301649
Settle or be his side piece. As a female you have a hundred times the options as the average guy, but the irony is you all want the same one.

>>18301652
1) I can't find anyone else, it's not like there are guys who want to be my boyfriend
2) Even if I found someone else I'll still like this guy and feel like shit/be heartbroken because I can't be with him

>I treat her like shit, constantly hold it over her head, get drunk and bring it up and call her names, treat her really bad for awhile. Dealing with Alcoholism, PTSD from Iraq, friends killing themselves, etc
>2014 I start to trust her again, not treat her bad, learn I need to let it go and move on with the relationship, but every once in awhile it gets brought up and I get angry because she keeps wanting to see her friends. In2016 I notice she's starting to act more distant. Seeing her less and less, blew me off on her birthday and mine etce
>in dec of 2016 she stops talking to me. She's going to school so lives with her parents because it's closer. She wont answer my calls or come to see me. Everyday she says "Ill be over today, Ill be over tomorrow" but she never comes to see me
>Eventually admits she wants to break up after 2 months of not seeing or talking with me on the phone. Her only reason is that she is too bitter about her friends and she just resents me for it now.
>In march 2017 Jess (oh the Irony) contacts me and told me that Tonya cheated on me with a guy at a party once in feb 2016 that she went to
>Jess tells me this because she hates Tonya now, not because I made Tonya stop seeing Jess but because Jess thought Tonya was a POS and was about to end the friendship with her anyways. Jess doesn't like me, but told me just to hurt Tonya.
>confront Tonya and she admits to it, plus she admits to sleeping with another guy 6+ times from Sept-Oct 2016
>reason she was avoiding me is because she was afraid to tell me and just wanted to let me go without hurting me

>says the reason she did it was because I had given her an ultimatum about her slut friends and was tired of arguing with me, and that made her very resentful and eventually she just didn't like being with me and wanted to be with other men that hadn't hurt her like I had and then after she did it she felt like she still wanted to be with me until after December.
>she knows what she did was wrong, I can tell she feels very bad for it.

In total we were together for 8 years. Many wonderful times, been through so much. It'd take me a whole day to write the positives of our relationship and how much we loved each other. We were planning on getting married after she was done with school.
After I found out I moved states, got a new job making lots of money, I got fat from alcohol so Im loosing weight now, stopped smoking etc. We have been talking since I found out and she doesn't know if she wants to be with me anymore, or if we can get past it and neither do I. We are keeping the option open for now and trying to talk things through. It's been almost 3 months since I found out. I'm over the initial part of the break up, Im not crying or anything anymore. I'm ok without her and realize I don't need her in my life, but I still love her deeply and miss all the good times we had. We had such a wonderful connection and I don't want to lose that. Is there any way to still make this work? She's not begging me to take her back or anything and it honestly sounds like she doesn't know and she says stuff like "I just want to make the right decision because I never want to hurt you again", but I want time and so does she so that we can both figure out if we really want each other or not. Ill probably be moving back home in November so we still have plenty of time to think and work on things.

I have already forgiven her in the sense that I'm not angry, but I just don't know if I could ever trust her again. I know sometimes in marriages or relationships this long, people can cheat and people move past it. We got together at a real young age (she was 16 I was 18) and I feel like the first few things she did was just out of childish stupidity. The cheating that happened in 2016 I feel like it happened because I was treating her really bad. I had a right to be angry after she was rubbing up on that dude naked, but I shouldn't have told her to stop seeing her friends and I shouldnt have been so bitter and angry towards her. I used it against her for so long that I think it really hurt her.
I realize that there is no excuse for her cheating, but I also realize that there was a reason she cheated and it seems consistent with everything that happened and what she was telling me even before I found out. While I don't believe it's my fault or anything, I do take responsibility for my role in it happening. I could have treated her with more forgiveness and not being so bitter about it.

I really love this girl bros, but she hurt me very bad. How can we as a couple recover from this? Is there any hope?

/OP

>>18301619
I think "Stay Away" because I hate drama and people who attract it. That may be what you are going for with such edginess, though.

>>18301622
>>18301622
Thanks for the response, that's generally what I assumed. Do you think I'd be better off sticking to masking it then or would that look even worse if it became visible randomly?

>>18301631
It depends what you are going for. If you want to be left alone then leave it visible. If you want to be social, get a job, and be "normal" by current standards then try to destroy any semblance of your former issues. Maybe see if you can have cosmetic surgery

>>18301582
Tell him to buy a cheap phone, or ask him to be more careful. Nothing else you can do really.

Dump him. Your boyfriend is an idiot who just wasted like $1,500 on cellphones this year already. It shows a lack of responsibility for things if he can't manage to own an expensive phone without breaking it. He probably sucks at other aspects in his life too.

No problems being upset with him. You're dating an idiot.

>>18301594
Chill dude, some people are bad with money. Doesn't make them bad people.

Don't do it please

shotgun to the head.

Make sure you don't miss and just blast the front of your face off. Goitta hit the brain.
>>18301486
don't listen to them. Life fucking sucks.

>>18301491
I am afraid that if I shoot myself that I will fuck that up and just shoot my face off or something and not die.

Up to you my man

>>18301477
You're a retard.

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If the girls are nice to you and all i don't suggest filming them in the fucking bathroom. You want to see them naked ask for a Photoshop or actually ask one of them out or something. Don't go full retard.

Option one until it works.

Or option 3 until option one is possible / a temp opt 3

Option 2 if she's willing, Option 4 for as long as you can until the husband finds out and you're forced into Option 3

>>18301511
Why is it financially crippling for both of you?

Having a gf
Is financially crippling now you pansy ass bitches?

Get drunk before you get high... it's the perfect balance.

Skip weed go straight to cocaine

>>18301438

IMO it's a bad place to try it for the first time, but that's only because it pretty much makes me laugh a lot for 15 minutes, then lay on the couch for 30, and then I'm asleep for the night.

The first time I had it, I also got irrationally paranoid too.

I'm not anti-weed by any means, but I feel like chilling with some bros or being at a party is the best time to do it for the first time until you know how you're gonna react. Doing it at a school dance where you need to have your shit together to some degree and probably impress a girl seems stupid.

> I just don't get along with 99% of people
>we spended so much time together that it was kind of impossible to not be friends

You simply are not getting to know them well enough. Find some group for some thing that you like and hang out with those people for a couple weeks and you will become friends.

>>18301448
How does someone find "some group"? What does that even mean?

>>18301449
What do you like to do that other people also might like to do?

Go on google and type in "(your city name here) (your interest here) group meetup" and see if you get any results.

>>18301422
I feel loved me doing the same thing. I have a suportive family. My favourite headline though is "man goes to Mexico to commit suicide, spends week doubling cocain a hookers decides life is worth living after all" or something along those lines. It's an interesting story, and deeper than that, but it does suggest there is light at the end of the tunnel.

>>18301433
I'm pretty young, not underage but young. I live at home and have overprotective parents so thats not an option. Im a loser

i was in your shoes last summer dude
believe me, it sucks, but after a few months it kinda just dulls down into near-nothingness

its REALLY hard to be able to think it'll get better at the moment (since everything feels hopeless due to post-breakup depression) but nurturing that "nobody wants me :^(" mindset is not going to help anyone, especially not yourself

>>18301352
*are NOT doing a difference

>>18301352
Lemon juice works as disinfectant on skin, it may burn a bit at first but you can wash it out with water almost immediately. Lemon deactivates the shit that comes out from your pimples to cause other pimples. Give it a try.
I assume you're young and it's probably just the age, but this could help a bit.

>>18301375
I'll try that out I was currently using tea tree oil but had no luck and gave me the same results once I came home. I'll give it a try then

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>>18301313
Does it matter? You'll be dead anyways

Theyre gonna know you made this post

>>18301313
Swim drunk
Go around train tracks drunk

>>18301287
>trying to pick up women on 4chan by making themself look like a (((((((((((good guy)))))))))

>>18301287

No. Sex is always better with a connection, even a small one.

>>18301287
Completely for me.
Its not a "cool personality" though, its just chemistry, whoever "fits" with me personality-wise (that doesn't mean similar interests, my ex's were hugely different).

>>18301214
Just say you are sorry.
Be nice guy. You cant afford to being prick atm anyway.

>>18301338

I know, it just feels shitty. I have to put up with it, I have to apologize, I just don't get how I ended up in such backwards scenario, where Im the bad guy. I don't feel like Im being a prick, am I?

Should have stayed with the lie.


Snitches get stitches. Sorry anon, your clearly just jealous of your parents neighbor.