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>>18413338
just fucking give up

Stop jerking off so much and practice standing up for what you believe in now. Never run away or backdown from what ypu believe in. Stick it through, especially when you want to quit. Because that is literally how you grow as a human being.

Git gut or get rekt. Also get the fuck out from 4chan

i have 2000 in the bank, and some silver coins

>>18413247
Get a job and some roommates and live life like an adult. Which, at 22, you should be. It's sad you're with your folks to begin with. Consider this a swift kick in the ass to get your shit together and stop being a stoner who lives with his parents.

>>18413252
/thread

Hate to break it to yah but it's quiet impossible to forget memories. You just have to live with them and suppress them if possible. Try not to think about your past and think about what's ahead of you. You can't forget memories but you can act like they don't exist. Also use those memories to learn from your mistakes etc.

suicide

>>18413244
I don't know if you think that is funny but even on 4chan don't fucking suggest that. It's not ok, suicide doesn't help anyone it only makes things worse for the person and for the people around the person. I know it's a common joke but I don't find it funny or a viable way to get a new "life". This is the advice you shouldn't try and make people kill themselves.

>>18413146
GED, it's easy as fuck.

My parents are still having me recover and making sure I am weaned off the medication I was on, no idea what it was but it took a while to get off of, and they didn't want summer school to trigger another pseudo stroke, or cause an actual one that could have left permanent damage. Decide to talk to school district about alternative credit recovery program. The school describes it as a very namby pamby great diverse place for hip with it kids with rough starts from medical issues trying to get back on track. We fall for the meme.

Credit recovery place is complete he'll, find out all the kids of the thing are inner city ghetto dwellers who fight like damn gorillas in class, have horrible discipline issues, smoke non stop, literally all of them came in high, tl:Dr it was a school comprised of juveniles.

Being poor lil white guy 11th grade sheltered me I did my best in that he'll hole but the students situations, and me being a good two shoes white suburban kid, I was an immediate outcast and didn't want to associate with them at all. I eventually snapped and broke down, got removed, tried home instruction again, felt demotivated because I jumped in at 4/5 of the year and couldn't make it up in time, pretty much failed due to missing days and being unable to make literally the whole year up in a short period of time, and that program I was in was on a completely separate page frokm what my school did so I three it all oiut the window.

Senior year now, turned 18, I'm really fucking stuck and depressed. I can either take four fucking whole years of highschool again and start as a freshman, or get a GED. I feel so degraded, like I'm some sort of sulking degenerate. I can do ELA and History fucking easily, but having dyscalculia, ADHD, and a non verbal learning disorder, I can't even attempt science or math because I'm not properly wired for it. I can't go on medication because I'm far too sensitive and I don't want to bother, my parents and doctors agreed.

I feel like all careers I wanted are closed because or this damn GED, I feel like I can never get a well paying job, and like I can never join the Army like I've always dreamed of doing to serve my country. I don't know what to do at this point. All my depression is resolved from when I was younger, if you don't count the very reasonable melancholy over where my life is heading. I feel fucking stuck like there isn't a way out, and I'm so scared my life is ruined here because of factors out of my hands. What do I do? Can anyone give me some solid advice or words of wisdom on this?

I have no skills, no real hobbies, no motivation, and I just feel bland as hell all the time. I don't have much fun either to be honest. I am in a similar situation to you OP.

there is no trick to motivation, it is intrinsic. you either want to do something or you dont. but motivated people do it even if they DONT want to do it.

thats what motivation is. the drive to do something not to want to do something.

>>18413188
I guess my problem is that I have enough motivation to want something, but not enough to ever carry anything out.

>>18413083
Online dating makes people treat one another like they're disposable and all around sucks. Both genders seem pretty bad at presenting themselves and communicating in such an unnatural medium. Don't take it personally; try meeting people in real life.

>>18413102
Two of them were in person.

But It doesn't really hurt my feelings. It's more irritating, like a puzzle I can't figure out. Why the 2 would bother coming back if they aren't interested anymore.

>>18413181
It's called boredom.

It's hard to tell, are you sure this friend is a guy? If it is something I would bet on her cheating, most people intent on doing stuff like that don't bother to wait until you've broken up. How bad was the fight? Do you think you she wants to break up with you?

>>18412972
>Is she going to cheat, or is this just her backup plan if we ever broke up?

both of these are pretty bad, if she's allowed to have a backup, then you should get one too.

>>18412994
She's still being an incredibly weak partner for long term dating if it's a guy. To OP, if it is a guy and those texts are right after you had your fight; then you need to start bailing as of yesterday. Talk to her about it, give her a chance to explain herself if you deem it necessary; but that kind of shit gives me serious cold feet personally. I had a girl do that to her ex that I knew, another do it to my friend, and one do it to me. It's fucking terrible and no-one deserves to be an option.

What do you value most in life?
What are your ultimate goals?
What reason have you given yourself to live? What in your life do you do that fulfills that reasoning?

>>18412542
I have the answer.


Find a better fucking hobby.

Seriously? Your hobbies are vidya and memes? Are you surprised your life lacks fulfilment? You are trying to fill a void with the most substanceless media known to mankind.

Like vista? Expand your tastes to the art of film. Memes? Check out some higher class comedic art (I hope you don't live in the US because Americans seem to have a cultural retardation which prevents them from raising the level of comedy above vulgarity, default to British comedy in that case), or, if you are more into the visuals of memeing, you can try the visual arts.

>>18412577
*vidya not vista

She is probably interested still. She might just not want to talk to you unless she can sit down and give you her full attention (if your conversations are usually constant and long). I know I was like that with my ldr bf (we live together now). The reduced number of dumb stuff like hearts is probably just because she's gotten comfortable or has a lot on her mind. She probably doesn't mean anything by it. I'd only be worried if she seemed completely uninterested (stopped talking to you for extended periods, like 3 days or something) with a bs reason or stopped saying she loved you at all.

TLDR; you're probably overthinking it. Don't be worried unless she seems testy, annoyed, detached in conversations, etc.

>>18412471
Also, wait, i think i misunderstood. are you guys actually in a ldr relationship? Heart emojis dont mean shes ur gf

>>18412471
Thanks, this really calmed me down.
Also thanks for reading my wall of text.

I was kind of a fool. Moved 200 miles away and have never been happier. New life, new friends and see my folks every month. All depends on what you want in life. I just wanted a clean slate.

It's honestly pretty difficult to get people to respect you once they have lost it. I say move.

>>18412331
not op but how did you move? did you get a job there first?

>>18412261
just try doing things, get up, exercise

go on a date with your GF, do something to make her happy. dont be selfish.

>>18412293
yeah, you're right.

but seriously, if anything ever happened to her I would end my life. I have not had any connection with anyone else ever and she is the person closest to me. I just cannot handle a huge loss like that again, I don't want to ever expeirence that feeling again. It makes me so sick.

>>18412309
Unless you change your current behavior you will eventually push your GF out of your life. Work on improving yourself. If you can identify your problems(which you have) it means you can take steps to better yourself.

>>18412181
If she is normal and not a manipulative bitch she's gonna be sad, but she started the story.

>>18412189
For the whole year of dating she seemend normal, just a bit depressed. During early dating there where no games from her side.

So I should not contact, heal wounds and wait for her move?

>>18412181
I don't know the CONTEXT of how it was said.

Like was she trying to say it to pick a fight/complain about something you're doing? was she saying it while other guys? Or was she trying to be a real adult having and adult conversation, be open with you, and actually TALK to you about something that's bothering you?

But

> Afterwards I have stopped all communication with her, deleted our conversation and pictures.

You handled this like you were a child throwing a tantrum--not like an adult.

As I said, there IS a world where by telling you that, she was just trying to be adult, be 100% honest, and talk about things in the real world, in which case you just knee jerked and slammed the door in her face like a child.

Is that the case here? No idea, probably not, and that could be 100% wrong in this case. But that doesn't change the fact that--whatever she did--you acted like a child who needs to grow up.

Because in the future there WILL be relationships where one or both of you is not 100% certain.
In fact that is 99.999999% of all relationships. Shit is Bassically NEVER 100% copacetic in a relationship and you got to learn how to deal with that like an adult who can work through his problems to actually built something, not a child who cries when everything's not perfect.

What you SHOULD have done is talked to her, found out where this was coming from, and if it was irreconcilable, just said I'm sorry that sucks, I cared for you but that's for the good moments, good luck.

And that's it.

Because that's how you act like an adult, not a child.

>>18412171
At this point, you either have to call the HR department and tell them if they have any job opening. Doing so, makes them think that you are more willing to work than the average candidate.

>>18412187

I don't know what this means.

>I'm a 27-year-old high school dropout and I've never had a job
How is this?

>simple manual labor
what is this??

>did I ruin my life
you severely hurt your chances of getting a doctorate or something, but even that is still possible.

Southern California

San Gabriel Valley Area

>>18412155

Get yourself a hobo sword and fight off all the squatters

find out who owns it and make an offer to buy it from them

>>18412123

it means she couldnt or wouldnt respond. we cannot say why

>>18412124
But why do they do this?
Has this never happened to you?
It happens all the time for me.

>>18412127

for multiple reasons. sometimes its because you're creepy. sometimes its because they literally are doing something and do not have the time or reason to pick up their phone and ignore whats in front of them.

if its a long term issue then the girl is probably just not into you and you're going too hard for girtls that are too out of your league