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>>18415999
Reject them
Move on
That's life

Or you can life in a artist city and just date other artists

>>18415999
I can understand why you would be offended, but if I may offer advice, you shouldn't get mad about having an in that works. More likely than not, they're not solely attracted to you for being an artist - probably wouldn't get as many hits if you were twice as talented but looked like Quasimodo you know? And part of dating, and one of the most fun parts for me at least, is discovering things about the other person. I think you're overreacting by assuming these girls just want you to be their painter on a leash. I'm sure most of the time these girls offering to draw with you and stuff are just trying to connect with you over something you obviously enjoy. You might as well hide that you're an artist if you don't want them to talk about it, it's kind of ridiculous.

As an artist, you'll find that unless it pays well, there is no shame in not wasting your time with people who don't understand the effort it takes for art. I don't know what your medium is, but "drawing at the coffee shop" isn't a valid / comfortable option for everyone... However, having an "art night" is a great way to break the ice with a fellow artist.

Father was career Airforce - 23 years. Retired after the petnagon passed him over for promotion to Col. rank twice. Airforce/chairforce will keep you pretty safe if you want to avoid actual combat and handle things like logistics. If you decide to go military, buck for officer training ASAP or work on getting a degree to bump up your paygrade and STAY THE FUCK IN THE SERVICE!

Because of my dad's foresight, my folks have healthcare and a solid retirement, they own their own home, have a bit in investments, and are, for the most part, financially solid.

>>18415946
avoid marines
choose between air force, ang, or navy. army if you don't want any of those.

if you want to go home every night but dont care about advancement chair force

if you want to shoot marines/army

if you know how to handle bullshit navy

>>18415933
Idk you're male so no one cares about you. You could try to go to some kind of disciplinary office at your school, or try to go to police/lawyer to seek a restraining order if that doesn't work (it likely won't be granted though). Or address it through her friends or your friends or whatever. Or just don't respond to her at all. Like pretend she's completely invisible and ignore everything she does; some people just want to get a response out of you and get bored if they don't get one.

>>18415933
Nice. You have a scary-movie type stalker. There are social programs schools have that you could/should probably inform them about just so you can have things on paper

>>18415933
Contact administration about having a stalker, obviously.

>>18415901
yea that's no good

Break up dude, that's pretty fishy.
What kind of porn tho?
Something funny or disgusting may be ok

>>18415903
This sucks.

>>18415892
I worked a factory job like that and after about 2 months the ligaments in my knee fucked up from standing and doing repetitive motions to much. I wasn't past the 6 month trial period yet and was only through a temp agency so they fired me and I had to pay all my dr bills myself even tho it was a work related injury

>>18415892
How much do you get paid? And is there no other jobs you can get?

I did 12 hour days (plus driving time) every other week for an IT group for $15/hr at one point and it trashed everything in my life. I couldn't imagine physical hell on top of that.

Vape and just deal with not being able to (legally) drink for the next year or less. Both are acceptable.

>>18415877
>Vape
I'm not a queer anon.

I mainly feel shitty for fucking a prostitute. It was maybe the worst and only sexual experience I've ever had

>>18415889
The drinking and partying lifestyle eventually leads to sex, whether you know it or not.

Swipe right and joke if match. Otherwise don't botter. She'll feel threatened that you found out her secret. It could end up awkward for you, since there are things like open relationships and such, which are not your business.

Hell even if she's a cheater, it's none of your business, and I fucking hate cheaters.

>>18415719
and besides, some people in relationships are on tinder with no intention on matching, let alone meeting anyone - some are just curious to see how people on tinder are like, because their friends talk about tinder all the time. Some use tinder purely as a source of entertainment

>>18415719
>>18415760
I shouldve been more clear. I know the intricacies of the relationship from her personally - boyfriend is not the best descriptor. It's more in limbo than that. I do however agree with your sentiment on cheaters.

My end goal in using this would be to gain some insight into seeing if I'm wasting my time or not in pursuing something - not to accuse anyone of cheating.

You don't, you just keep in touch naturally. Asking for it is cringeworthy and forceful.

>>18415678
I feel it won't happen naturally though, we'll meet up tomorrow for a bit at her volunteer work (I've used this as an excuse to go along with her) and I feel we will just go our separate ways at the end of the day, and won't speak again.

>>18415699
huh

>>18415668
>already ate one
I mean in for a penny...

>>18415668
yes, and it will most likely make you a little sick. There's a small chance you could end up in a hospital for food poisoning, but technically nothing s stopping you from eating it. ^_^

>>18415668
Eat them all

repostin because im struggling with this shit

>friends with girl
>we both extremely comfortable with each other
>im dicking tons of females while barhopping
>maybe 7 in last 2 months all random snapchat/tinder females
>friend is kind of a good girl but we just click and are really good friends
>used to tell me she didn't wanna have sex because of it
>she been throwing out all these "i love you" comments and being really standoffish now when she sees my snaps/out partying
>"Well I stopped inviting you out because you never accepted and you always threw it in my face I would leave with someone else"
>few days pass she is being really emotionally open and dropping deep convos + spamming i love you thanks for being there for me
>finally just ask her "Look I know im kind of a casual sex guy but are you catching feels finally just tell me to stop it and I will"
>"Do you want something from me just ask and be honest we are friends and i will be open with you I would love to be with you not just for sex but a real relationship"
>her response "I don't wanna answer that"
>my response "then stop with the mixed signals because you know I care about you"

if she doesn't openly admit to wanting to make an attempt should I cut her off if she keeps sending mixed messages and being lovey dovey. I aint good with lovey dovey if its not legit and she never used to do this. her response of "I don't wanna answer that" makes me think she feels some type of way

>>18415597

You put her in the friendzone lol. She doesnt want to answer because she wants you but doesnt want to lose you; sitting in limbo, in her mind, is the safest option to prevent that.

Obviously she wont just open up and all that shit because she knows first hand you are into casual sex and not really into relationships. Shes afraid of being just another girl to you like all the other girls. Cant blame her, thats your pattern. Nothin wrong with that either though.

Id say that if you truly want a relationship with this girl, you need to prove to her that you do, and that you are done with the hookup scene FOREVER. Thats a big commitment. Telling her you are isnt good enough. You gotta earn her trust through your actions. How you do that is the complicated part, you know her, we dont. Maybe another anon can expand on that.

>tldr yes she is crazy about you but afraid to admit it

i'm about to quit my job this thursday and i gonna tell the girl i like that i like her tomorrow because well i gonna quit the job so if she tells me no, then i guess fine because i not gonna se her anymore

BUT to be honest i cant calm myself i kind want to do it RIGHT FUCKING NOW just to get it out of my chest and even that i know that if she tells me to fuck off and i not gonna see her i still feel like shit from just thinking about it

I need some help to fucking calm myself and how to properly do it tomorrow, i cant get my shit together since i finished school and started my work adult life i had no relationships anymore (3 years) and i feel like a retard i dont even know if i remember how to kiss..

This girl was in a shitty 2 month relationship with a coworker in this same company and it ended pretty bad and i was told that another coworker tried to get her out and the girl told him to fuck off (because this guy is actually married and 12 years older than her) and im afraid i gonna be the 3rd retard that is chasing her in the same fucking job and i feel like shes gonna tell me to fuck off because "oh my god a 3rd guy too?" kind of deal.

Send help and nudes pls

How much and how quick? I don't want to tell people to go rob a bank

>>18415554
Go to a money lending service like Moneymart or something.
>I don't want to pay interest/be in debt
Then tough luck.

>car

Uber near a population center.

What Uber says about making 25, that's bullshit.

You can however pull about 50-70 dollars on a weeknight and 125 -150 bucks on a weekend night. The pay every Monday I believe. But apply now because they have to do a background check.

It's not great but it can save your ass in a pinch.

best thing you can do is not have some formulaic artifice to bog you down, and instead simply do what feel naturally.

>>18415529
A lot depends on where you are and what you are doing on the date. So, it depends. Obviously if your at a restaurant sitting across from each other it's harder than if you are walking or sitting next to each other.

I always go for the hand holding or arm around the waist. Then wait to see her reaction.

>>18415510
get fucked druggie :)

>>18415510
Drink a shit ton of water and sweat like a madman

>>18415522
thanks for bumping my thread man

>>18415525
I wear two hoodies and run for about an hour, then I sit in my bathroom in the same outfit and let the hot water in my shower run so it acts like a sauna. I try to drink two gallons of water too.


If anyone has been in my position please, I could really use some help (Test is literally 7 days from now)

>>18415499
She texted you within minutes. Which means she really liked you. And then you try to play games and make her wait a week.

As if you don't give a shit about her, making her doubt her enjoyment of the moment.


What do you think?

>>18415508
I think 6 days is an okay amount of time to wait to text her?

She's only 18 and in her last two weeks of High School plus she works so I'm pretty sure I'm not making a mistake by waiting six days to text her...are you saying I should text her asap?

Be natural, don't play games.

doesn't matter, she's already convinced herself she doesn't get anything out of sex. think of it as practice and just try shit and see what happens

>>18415374
Dude, if you had Penis in Vagina, that means you had sex, right? Are you confused about something?

And look, you're on the wrong mindset. You need to learn by doing. She'll have things she likes that are unique. Some women like to be talked to, like to hear a guy talk about cumming inside her, others think that's crass and will want to run away at the thought.

Everyone is different, you have to get to know her. Don't listen to some plastic bullshit about, oh you gotta do this, or oh you gotta do that.

What you have to do is get to know her body, instead of listening to a bunch of strangers online telling you what to do based on their limited empirical experiences that probably don't include sex with your woman.

if you cant be straight with your gf what the fuck are you doing? might as well hook up at a bar

when i first kissed my first gf i told her it was my second kiss ever. later i told her it was my first kiss ever. she was the one more embarrassed about it.