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>>18456239

Wtf my mom calls me every 3 days (even my grandma). She also invites me every weekend. You should have an open but stern convo with your mother. This is emotional distance I dont see in the western world between mom and child (maybe in drone lands like asian countries).

>>18456291
Im in UK :/

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You're less than an 8 hours drive from your mom, go see your mom you raging homo. My captcha has Sussex in it. Are you from fucking Sussex? Go see your mom you god damn faggot. Surely you own a car seat.

>>18456200
Do you play role playing games like fallout, skyrim, dark souls, etc cause if that's the case you might project yourself as these characters and that detaches you from the real world, these characters follow your decision like being the good guy or bad guy, it's nothing bad that's what a role playing game does. But I do believe if it effects your everyday life that might be a problem.

>>18456200
It's depression. Not the edgy @i hate my life, and I want to cut myself" depression, but actual depression. That's why when you do those things you mentioned that make you not feel that way, that make you happy. My advice; broaden your horizons and find more things you like doing, try new things, since you seem to enjoy the computer, use sites like "stumble upon" and find new interests that way. Another thing I would advise is going to places you haven't before, or even consider a new job. When you are in the same place all the time everyday, and same environment it can feel like a prison, and your mind tries to shut out those memories so as you don't have to "suffer" through it therefore making it feel like a blur. Best of luck!

>>18456213
The primary issue is that I'm not really suffering in this world.

I still enjoy my hobbies as I've always done.

I don't see a reason to "expand my horizons" when I'm happy to be where I'm at.

I don't believe it's a matter of working a different job on top of this as, I personally, believe contentment with labor is a matter of the thoughts in your brain.

There are two types of cucks

The ones that like that and it turns them on
And the ones that suffer with it and find every little detail from their partner's life to suffer about

Guess which one you are
My advice is simply get over it or break up because if you bottle it up it will end up ruining the relationship. Just stop being a pussy, what does it matter that you're not the first?

>>18456192
I know how you feel I would hate to know if my girlfriend lost her virginity and it wasn't me who took it. The best thing to tell you is to either leave her or stay with her it's going to eat you from the inside out trust me man it's pain that will make you cry or you can suck it up and try to work pass it. I know that feeling when you imagine your girlfriend having sex with someone else don't judge her for it just tell her things aren't working out.

>>18456206
That is not even what cuck means. Nice try though cunt.

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>>18456185
Well how are you acting on the server that is making them tired of you? Maybe you could talk to them about your issues. I think I need more details though.

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>>18456343
Apart from the person I kept having problems with, I got along very well with everyone else in the group chat. Now that it's dead, there's very little communication between us other than through private chat.

I think the fact that it's still bothering me months after it's happened is what's annoying.
I understand why, obviously. But the lack of closure is killing me and making me extremely miserable.

Only one group member knows it's still bothering me. The rest are either neutral or busy. I don't see the point in telling them out of fear of digging my hole even deeper.

>>18456158

jesus dude, its not like you are going out to your social evetns and workplace and plugging in your xbox in front of them, stop acting like the world is watching you through your windows do whatever the fuck you want when you're home alone jesus

>>18456158
Just game man there's nothing wrong with it I know guys who are 50 to 60 who game you have nothing to worry about man. And try it if you like the Xbox one X then keep gaming and if you don't return it and try something different.

>>18456158
Look at it this way; an old fart these days didn't have video games growing up so their hobbies wouldn't consist of video games of course, but in a couple decades, I don't doubt that we will see a lot of gaming gramps and grammas with tattoos and piercings, reminiscing about comic book movie adaptations. I might be a bit biased but the facts remain: the next elder generation will not look the same as the previous one.

>>18456148
What the fuck kind of Londoner has never been down the rub-a-dub?

>>18456148
>looking around London
although in your defence being a flaneur is a top tier patrician hobby

>>18456165

Zone 1 is a lot smaller than the tube map makes it look

Damn how ugly are you if you're a woman that needs to hire a male prostitute.

>>18456125

Did you not read the second paragraph? The last time I bluntly hit on someone (and the only time I upfront mentioned the fetishes, I usually find people online) there was a week's silence and then "ha ha it's alright, I know you were really drunk"

I could always go and have normal sex but it's literally worthless to me. My usual methods of going online are pretty depressing/gruelling before anything pops up and so this seems like the best option

>>18456147
what are these fetishes?
there will always be someone out there who will share them with you without monetary compensation

If a minor thing such as a nipple piercing makes you lose interest, she's not the one. Doesn't make you petty imo.

>>18456113
I realized she wasn't the one long before she got them pierced and I was ok with that. I like her company and has a great sense of humor but really the nipples killed it for me.

>>18456119
Then why would you mention it? It seems pretty irrelevant that she did something to her aesthetics which didn't suit your tastes if you had lost interest anyway.
I mean do you think she needs to be aware of your tastes now you're gonna be finished?

Also, you realise they increase erogenous stimulation in the nipples right? It's not just for you to look at.

>>18456046

why tell them? if its not an assumption they make then they dont need to know until you're no longer a virgin if you catch my drift.

>>18456050
out of selfishness I guess. Make the experience less nerve wracking.

Girls don't have a virgin detector. Just get wasted and blame it on the alcohol if it didn't turn out great. If it went well you can maybe crack a joke and say that she took your v-card.

>>18456024
The sole fact that professional doctor with specialization on skin care and taking pills which are banned in my country didnt solve the problem should tell you how fucked up you are.

Also having acne on your ass and back is super bad. I had acne as teen only on face.

Maybe try find new doctor and asking mom why havent she enrolled into eugenics to prevent her children to go through the same fate.

Sorry for no advice.

>>18456024
Have you tried lemon, natural treatment might or might not work for you but since I don't know how much that medication helped you I can't say for sure what's the problem for all we can know natural treatment might make it worse or better.

>>18456205
I tried lemon juice for the scars which didn't seem to work (I did it for about 2 months daily) and then irritated my skin so I stopped.

The spots are spaced out a lot but pretty much cover all of my back, there aren't many they're just everywhere and it bothers me...

I don't really want to take pills anymore, I feel like a different person mentally after taking them, like they re-wired my brain in a sense, for the worse of course.

>>18456011
No, but it can be hard to find a female life partner that actually is into femdom.

>>18456011
If she tells everyone then yes but if you keep it quiet then no

Confidence is general. Feel like a fucking sissy. Hiding it with my life. My girlfirend have no idea.

>>18455989
become Bill the badass skinwalker slayer

>>18455989

'expressing' your masculinity won't make you feel like a man, it will just make you feel like someone who is trying to look like a man.

there is no solid definition of what a man is, but even there was it would be about who you are, not what you do. its not like cooking where you can just look up a recipe, do it and great now you're a cook. you can't just get laid, go to the gym, scratch your balls in front of someone and say 'there now im a man'.

its a cohesive part of who you are, and we all address it in different ways. at the end of the day the concept of masculinity doesn't really exist, women go through the same struggle but they tend to word it as 'being an adult' as opposed to 'being a man'.

we are all trying to define our selves, to put our best self forward and do what people will respect us for. men tend to interpret that as a subset of their masculinity.

but that changes from time to time, place to place, country to country, state to state, or even just what neighborhood in town you're in or just what your family expects from a 'man'. there are places where having a beard is masculine and there are places where having a beard is considered gay.

at the end of the day the only thing that is almost universal is that a man does what he wants and disregards what others do.

but truth be told no one is sitting around thinking 'OP doesn't express his masculinity, is he not masculine?'

what you are feeling is almost entirely an internal battle unless you go meet people who are obsessed with their own masculinity.

>meet 4 people on discord
>all of them are the nicest people you could meet
>speak to all of them in a group chat for about a few weeks, things are fine.
>they throw banter at each other, this is apparently normal and nothing to worry about
>general okay history with banter in past, although severely hampered by bad and repressed memories from bad experiences with it
>decide to go along with it
>end up getting offended by one of them
>talk to them in a private chat, get called out for being hypocritical, they're right
>realise i'm wrong but still annoyed and bitter
>rinse and repeat about 2-3 times
>person who offended me is clearly sick of me at this point
>group chat is dead
>rest of group claims they don't hate me but it's obvious their approval is waning
>stuck in a loop of tons of negative emotions (regret, anxiety, paranoia, anger)
>no idea how to deal with it
>not seeing a therapist at the moment, no outlet to vent emotions
>what do

>>18455953
Go largely vegetarian (not vegan), at most a little fish / meat once a week. Eat diverse with more fiber and add not much if any sugar / fat to foods. No sugared beverages either.

Maybe your appetite normalizes over months. It did for me. Weight might also slowly go down then. If you already have srs health issues you might need full therapy to minimize damage faster.

>>18456077
>i am on diet
>go eat more food
Great advice!

>>18455953
It will get better op. Try eating only 2 meals per day (so you can eat larger portions) and throw in somethibg super fat like cheese or salami.

Also remember there is bo hunger when you sleep or occupy your mind. Video games?

But sadly, the craving never went away (at least for me). Hang in there op.
>/fit favourite answer is to drink a lot of water, but it didnt worked for me

>>18455953
Microwave frozen kale for five minutes and go to town if you're hungry. I actually add some tilapia filets to make it a meal.

I can tell you that the cereal, bread, and mayonnaise costs way too many calories and doesn't really fill you up. The tuna should be chunk light so you consume less mercury, FYI.

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>>18455933
Because western culture is degenerate and favors hedonistic self indulgence over commitment and loyalty. We were born in an age of selfishness and decadence created by the foolish choices of our forefathers, and we will all burn in the inevitable collapse that is creeping closer every year. Our children will curse us and our grandparents for ensuring the destruction of what amounts to closest thing to a paradise mankind has created on this earth, which was the Western Civlization.

Enjoy the ride while you can lad, get fit, buy guns and ammo, and wait for the collapse. It's gonna get far, far worse, than it gets any better.

>>18455933
And just who regularly does about two weeks?

>>18455962
What do you mean?

>>18455886
You can never convince yourself that things are safe. Once you realize there's danger, there's really no going back, so instead of failing to make yourself less afraid, try to make yourself braver.

Start with confronting little dragons before you move onto the big ones. Find one small thing you've been afraid of dealing with, and tackle that.

>>18455886
You can start by cutting your balls off you fucking ladyboy. Don't you know that we are superior to women? They are just one of our ribs walking and talking, they are designed to please us and be at man's service. If you can't be superior than just fucking rib, then you don't deserve to live anymore.

>>18456217
Get a load of this guy.