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How do I emotionally get over the setbacks my dad caused me growing up?
I can't get over how he'd destroy my favorite clothes and keep me from pursuing the things that fulfilled me, JUST because he could. Or how he cheated on my mother, or how he's repeatedly hurt my trust and bullied me.
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>>18456953
He sounds like a real loser. Why would you let that pathetic waste of space set you back? He has no influence and is not a rolemodel.
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>>18456957
I can't forget.
I feel like I've been dealt a great injustice in my life that I will never be avenged or compensated for.
I wish I had had a father and a childhood that I can draw from and cherish. It will never happen.
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>>18456966
Everyone has regrets, it's what you make from it that shapes you. If you are moping over a loser and take his "advice" srsly then you will always feel down. What he said might have been hurtful and upsetting but you can choose whether to live by that or not.
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What's with my friends and this whole
"YOU DONT CARE" schtick? It's just so fucking annoying. "YOU DONT CARE ABOUT ME!! WHY DONT YOU RESPOND TO ME!?"
What should I do /adv/? It's getting really hard to keep pretending to care about these people's feelings, I just wanna play fucking video games.
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People are not used to being out of the lime light nowadays with social media
Just be mindful that eventually they will stop caring about you when you might hit a moment when you might need them
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>>18456943
If a friend needs your help, you help them. Then in turn should help you too. That is what being a friend entails, it sounds like you don't want friends only a source of entertainment.
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One of the reason my girlfriend dropped me was this exact one. She wrote me poems, and immediately got angry if I did not answer in a few seconds.
>"YOU DONT CARE ABOUT ME!! WHY DONT YOU RESPOND TO ME!?"
Exact the same response. I do care, I do fucking care, just don't bother me with something if help is not necessary. I'd rather do fun shit in real life, than chit-chat all day long, which is fucking exhausting anyway.
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I'm done with life. How do I kill myself painlessly? I want to grab a knife and stab myself right now but it would hurt too much. How do I kill myself painlessly? I'm done with everything.
>inb4 attention whore
just hurry up and help me.
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Gun
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>>18456934
Is this the best way? I just want it to be painless.
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>>18456937
If you shoot yourself in the head you won't feel a thing.
I need help asap
So i finally had sex with my girlfriend and I couldnt cum. We were fucking for about an hour and i just could not. Yesterday she gave me head and i couldnt either. Yet when she gave me a hand job i was able to. What can i do to cum? I am not on meds and i believe its just that im nervous
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>>18456905
How many times did she cum
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>>18456905
>What can i do to cum? I am not on meds and i believe its just that im nervous
Not be nervous.
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Do you jerk off a lot? If so, stop.
How do you get over the fact you were used if you're anti-social and you really thought you were clicking with someone of the opposite gender, than right after they got what they needed from you they made it clear they were just using you.
Seriously, I thought I'd be over this by now but it's killing me inside.
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I should probably mention this happened 3 days ago, if I give it more time will I be less pissed off about it? I think the worst part about this is I have to work with her.
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>>18456899
Give it time. I've been in your shoes many times. Seems like all of my relationships desu... Just give yourself some time after this, then, in the future, be careful who you open up to and allow yourself to fall for, at least until you think they actually are genuine. Also, working with exes sucks. But just try and be the better person. It's hard to do, especially feeling like you've been played, but just limit communication and go on with your life, knowing that you'll be better off without someone who only wants to use you.
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>>18456899
I remember that guy that saw the phone of a girl she was dating and he was listed as "free food" on her contact list.
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Essentially I was fairly drunk and have no idea how I got this, I need to know if it's anything to worry about/how long it'll take to go away. Also if anyone has any idea what kind of impact would've caused this that would be interesting.
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More pics from day 1 when I woke up, the first pic is from today 2 days later
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Oh fuck that's cancer
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>>18456921
Rip me
How do you older anons deal with inescapable fact of getting older? I'm a couple weeks away from my 24th birthday, and it's the first time it's really hit me square in the jaw. Nothing is permanent, everything eventually fades away. It's like every nice thing in my life right now has a dark cloud hanging over it.
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>>18456847
> I'm a couple weeks away from my 24th birthday, and it's the first time it's really hit me square in the jaw
24 and nearly 25 now. Basically don't think of it as everything fading into nothing. you have plenty of years to live and even when you are older I have seen tons of old couples living dream lives.
don't let age stop you from living. the more you worry about the silly shit like getting older the more you miss out on actually living and doing things you enjoy.
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>>18456847
>older
>trying to have an existential crisis at 24
Okay, sure bro.
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>>18456895
lol
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How do you know if you are addicted to something?
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I've drunken pepsi max for the majority of my life and just to see if I was I let myself run out of it and had squash instead, it has been over 24 hours now and still don't think I need it, there is no physical urge to get it.
Aren't I suppose to be going through some kind of withdrawal if I am addicted to this?
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>>18456828
no, there are many different kinds of addictions. You'd be going through withdrawl if it was a dependency but you'll most likely just think "man, I sure wish I had some pepsi max!" in a few days.
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24 hours is a very short time. It means nothing. Why do you hastily jump on the conclusion that if you stop something for a mere 24 hours then it means you're not addicted? Anybody would have waited much longer before drawing any conclusion. Are you gonna be ok?
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I'm addicted to cigarettes and when I don't smoke for 24 hours I really want to smoke. I want to smoke so fucking much that for three years now I smoke at least a cig a day.
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What the fuck is wrong with me?
I'm sitting right next to my girlfriend of 5+ years, and everytime I see a thread about tinder or how shallow girls are and how hard it is for guys in the dating world, I get this pit of despair and anger in my stomach and feel really lonely and not good enough.
All this, even though I am in a successful relationship. Anybody else experience this? What gives?
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>>18456823
Stop looking at those threads. Get off adv and hang out with people that have faith in the other sex. Difficult? Dunno, but that's another problem with a different solution.
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>>18456823
Truth hurts.
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>>18456823
You are good enough, you are good enough for every 10/10 out there. You aren't understanding, the tools guys use to pick up girls are used for the nefarious purposes of hook up culture, they are innately fucking with women's minds. Instead of using them to call women shallow they should be using them to make women happy to be with them and treat them with love
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I've been having this problem for months now, I do sleep but it takes about 3-4 hours before I eventually do, I've tried going to sleep earlier and on different mattress' but I still won't sleep, I feel as soon as I try to go to sleep I cough more, I get an itch on my face or my breathing gets more heavy I'm 19, should I be having these problems and how should I solve them to get a better night sleep?
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Try music that calms you down. Certain ASMR videos on youtube has helped me some during my bouts of insomina.
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Benadryl and 1mg melatonin is the lowest risk medication for the problem.
In terms of behavior, waking up on time and staying awake until bedtime is usually the way to go. If you can do something before falling asleep that doesn't involve lights or noises that might help too.
I use flux and night mode to remove blue glow from my screens when the sun is down
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>>18456785
I don't think ASMR really works for me It kinda irritates me, i don't like the noise usually, but I've fallen to sleep listening to music occasionally, I tried it last night however and it didn't work.
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I just got called in for an interview for a job I'm probably not actually qualified for in a city I have to take a greyhound bus to get to, and the organization and people who may be able to help me begin to plan for this I kind of undermined their positions in my cover letter by insinuating that I do for the organization what they're supposed to do.
I don't want to directly ask them for help because I don't want to insult them after doing a great deal for me if not much now, but I also don't want to touch matters such as relocation with the prospective employer because I kind of want this job and by experience premature 'what can you do for me' talk sinks any chance you had, but ultimately I don't want to waste anyone's time over something I applied for mostly to test my bullshitting capabilities in a corporate setting, but even in that case it would be pointless if I didn't show up for the interview that is in a matter of days.
I'm about to mail back with a quick "sorry for wasting your time", but why shouldn't I?
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I slept on it and I'm still not sure.Now I don't even want to get out of bed.
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>>18456756
I don't understand the actual problem here.
You need help from your current employer to buy a bus ticket? Or to help you move if you get a new job?
It's impossible for your to ask the prospective employer to have your interview over the telephone or using video chat?
Are you just one of those forever-helpless chumps with the "waah, no one's ever taught me how to do X, therefore it's impossible for me to do X" attitude?
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>>18456756
No, you just relocate if you want the job. What is even the problem? Rent a place there, vacate your old place... if you get the job.
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I just started online dating about 2 months ago and I have yet to find a decent girl who isn't fat, ugly, or a feminist. I signed up for 6 different dating sites and I would say that I'm at least a 6 out of 10 for attractiveness. Why are women in their 20s so picky?
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>>18456716
You're dealing with algorythms and stuff outside of your control. If you want control of the factors try
-improving your profile
-dating in a new area
-dating in person
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Men and women reach their peak attractiveness at a different age. People are more picky while they are at their peak attractiveness. It is an unbalanced situation which causes harm to both genders, albeit at a different period of their life.
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>>18456716
>decent girl who isn't fat, ugly
>decent girl who isn't ugly
If your idea of decent is the same as mine,then that combination just simply does not exist. And if it did it sure isn't going to be on a dating site. Non-ugly girls sabotage the shit out of their relationships because they feel safe in pushing and be better off for it because there's always another Tyrone around the corner when it goes to an irrepairable state in their mind. If you don't want ugly you're going to have to want a not-decent girl. Lucky for you as well, Online dating is filled with not-decent,not ugly looking girls.
Shit just look at POF. Potheaded,tatto'd single mother'd girls all over that place.
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>20 years old
>Have never enjoyed going into the outside world
>Always felt pain when I did so
>Started isolating myself to prevent it from occurring again
>Tried going to an anime convention at 18 and hated it
>Hated going to SeaWorld, etc
>Haven't enjoyed a single second of purportedly "fun" activities
>The only time I ever felt happiness was from having companionship with 2 friends on a school field trip at 18
>Even that was a temporary respite from the pain I felt in daily life
>Those friends were one in a thousand, and they're gone from my side now
>Currently working for my dad in carpentry, and I'm totally isolated from the outside world
I'm making money, but I can't appreciate its value as I live with my mother and father.
I don't know how to drive, and I can't learn because we're working too much.
I don't know where to go. One of my "friends" stopped talking to me after we graduated. My sister moved out of the house 3 weeks ago. I'm very lonely, and I don't intend to attend a college. My father talks to me, and he only makes me contemplate suicide because of the topics he brings up.
I need companionship. Its been 3 years since I've really experienced such a thing. I fear that I've been metaphorically dead, and I can no longer appreciate video games because I don't have anything else. I only have 1 person to talk to, and we can't connect outside of creative projects.
Where can I go to make friends in real life?
I've had too much time alone.
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>>18456709
Bump
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>>18456709
So there is a lot you could do. Try working out more for starters. It's an amazing excuse to get out of the house everyday. 6 months in if you do it right you'll have a easy lay tindr profile.
Start planning for your 21 first birthday? Find even minor acquaintances and make an event on Facebook.
Start going to concerts, make it a point to talk to people.
Think of avenues to get out of the house, maybe you could attend university.
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>>18456709
If you haven't already, branch out on social media. This makes it incredibly easy to find people that sooorta remember you and group up. Make yourself seem cool on the profile.
You could even post pictures on your Facebook profile from your 21st birthday.. see?
Boxing is another amazing one to be honest, it's just an excuse to socialize.
Hey /adv/,
How the hell do you flirt with a girl properly without being awkward as fuck and cringy as hell? All Im good at is teasing and playfulness and being funny but I have NO idea how to step it up into sexual/romantic flirting and it keeps landing me in platonic conversations with girls.
Whats the secret to stepping it up and it not being weird/awkward/cringy?
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just be yourself
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>>18456705
REEEEEEEEEE
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Dead as a doornail
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Hi guys, I'm 22 years old and I've been dealing with low self-esteem for as long as I can remember. I get almost no satisfaction from anything I do and feel no sense of accomplishment when reaching my goals. My view of myself is very negative and irrational and I struggle with maintaining a positive self image of myself.
A little bit of background info...I was bullied a lot in middle school and pretty much alienated throughout highschool until my senior year where I actually found a group of friends, a girlfriend, and essentially finding a place for myself among others that I was missing for a large amount of my life. In this time I began to get into fitness and get in shape. Senior year I was the happiest I can remember. Life was truly good. Shortly after graduating I began smoking marijuana heavily for 4 years straight nearly everyday and alienated most of my friends. This year I finally kicked my weed habit and chronic masturbation/porn which I indulged in all throughout my teens. I truly believed that if I could overcome these addictions I would feel a great sense of personal accomplishment and I'd have the energy to tackle the world my storm. Very foolish and naive of me.
Although I deal with bouts of depression every so often I don't believe its the main issue. Its more so the negative self talk that keeps replaying every day within myself...anyways does anyone have any tips I could use on how to not feel like a total piece of shit all the time?
Thank you for anyone that takes the time to read my post.
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>>18456682
What you need is a god damn hobby that fills you with pleasure, joy and sense of accomplishment. Surely you have something in mind unless you want people to randomly suggest stuff to you (which is fine if you need that)?
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>>18456712
Thank you for the reply. It gives me something to think about. I used to play they keyboard a lot but got frustrated with not playing as well as I liked and sold it...Considering to grab a decent one not too expensive and just take another crack at it....
Again appreciate your reply bro.
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>>18456682
get back into lifting