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>>18458699
two days

>>18458699
Now. Do it now. The waiting game is fucking stupid.

Wow I had EXACTLY the same situation on Saturday, except there was no Tinder involved
But after my date I dont care to wait I want to call her right now (I am nervous so pls encourage and cheer me up)
It was the best time of my life I cant wait anymore
Can I stop playing indifferent ? Also pls encourage me to call
OP I suggest you dont wait

>>18458678
i did the whole spectrum, anxiolitics, antidepressants, psychiatrists, psychologist, weed.
now imma be honest, even tho i might sound like a fitbro.
only thing that really helped me was starting lifting, losing weigh, eating better, taking care of myself more in general, and feeling chicks being attracted to me, initiating contact and such.
turned out it was that simple
now i was clinicly diagnosed, by 3 professionals so it's not like im self proclaimed kid that wanted to feel special

>>18458683
Not op but I've been lifting almost 4 years and this year I've developed terrible terrible anxiety. One bad thought can keep me up all the night.

What should I do? I can't see a doctor because I'm an army bro and I'll get kicked out

>>18458729
Well cound you pinpoint some big happening in your life which may have caused developing anxiety, does anything come to mind?

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>>18458583
Here is the other guy

>>18458583
You look ok, so you must have posted just to hear someone say so. Look, women are attracted to confidence. Looks are nice, but if you're a wimp, they'll go for the ugly tough guy instead

I don't know what to say, you don't look bad. Maybe wherever you live you're at the low end of attractiveness (which is hard to believe for me) but even if that's the case and hook ups are harder for you there shouldn't be anything stopping you from getting a gf.

Just lower your standards enough and you will find someone, to be honest if you can't believe women telling you that you're attractive then you have some mental problems you need to work on more than your body at this point.

Just imagine telling a girl that she's attractive and be rewarded with an untrustworthy attitude.

>>18458577
What is it?

>>18458582
aids

>>18458636
Oh, ok. Still healthy? Anyways there's some new treatments out for that in trials. Scientists are afraid to call it a curr yet. I think Charlie Sheen is doing it. reveals-HIV-fully-suppressed-drug-clinical-trial.html

>>18458572

Did you ever think about taking a shower every morning? Or you cant afford something like this in 2k17?

>>18458572
you are washing it too much, so you wash off all your temple fat that keeps hair "moist", wash with shampoo once a week, other than that wash with water, and change you pillow "casings", or however they are called

>>18458572

Use conditioner.

>>18458530

I don't know man, usually its something and again it might be not.

If you like her just talk to her and ask her out.

if she does not initate physical touch she's not that attracted, she probably likes your personality and you make her feel good in that matter

>>18458584
I don't want to make work awkward, so I want to be 100% sure.

>>18458592
Damn..that's what I thought.

Why do you need to know?

>>18458474
Just go with the "I am concerned" attitude.

>"Anon we need to talk. It concerns me when I ask X you react like Z. It's important for our relationship for me to know if X is going to be a problem. Can you help me out here? Please let me know Anon."

>>18458483
I neef to know as it is starting to affect our relationship in every way.

I feel like I should add:

I am not a whore. I have never been a whore and most likely never will. I've only had one sexual partner in my entire life who is my ex. I can't just go out there and sleep with people because that's not the way I work. It's not in me to have sex with people I am not emotionally connected with.

>>18458432
Just go and have fun with someone, anon. There is not much else I can say really, sounds like a no-brainer.

>>18458453
Who's to say that will solve it? I don't want to do something I'll regret. Yes I've gotten offers from said friends to have sex but I know they just to fuck and dump. I would feel terrible after and it would be worse than when it started.

>>18458424
This is a sticky situation. You cannot have them both, it will lead to one of them finding out, telling the other and you are back to square 1.

Just keep talking to both of them online while figuring out which one you like more. Just when you make final decision, don't fucking look back and go through with it. Make the decision in favor of one of them girls BEFORE you meet them up IRL or ask on a date.

Maybe unrelated but I don't feel like making a whole thread about it:

I met a guy last weekend and we had some pretty chill convos and seem to hit it off. At the end of the night though I got so drunk that I threw up and he saw. What would be a reaction to this? It's obviously my fault since last time I had any alcohol was in new year's but Im just wondering what people can take away from that? I'm just very embarrassed.

There is nothing wrong with casually seeing more than one person at a time before you go exclusive. See both of them, and maybe things will progress with one of them.

>>18458413
Do you see a future with the girl?
If not, throw him a bone there are more asses than stars.

I havent spoken to her much, so I'm not sure. I usually don't date someone unless I do

>>18458430
encourage him to talk to her, if he doesn't take the chance to bad for him.

sounds like you have hatred and disdain for your husband

my advice has nothing to do with your proposed "problem" here, rather, you must start to actually love him. Then all these petty things that upset you so much will disappear?

>>18458351
Good luck. I just divorced a guy who sounds like this, except he refused to get a job. And it's not like I was a bitch and just went off one day. I spent three years patiently waiting.

>>18458376
>you must start to actually love him
How the fuck do you suppose somebody just "start to love" somebody?

>I'm 19 years old and I want to get laid as soon as possible

Nigga stop acting like you're 50. You've got years ahead of you. Also step up your confidence and you'll have zero issues. This is coming from a 19 year old who had the same exact issues. Man up.

>>18458333
You're 19? Go to some college parties. College girls are DTF almost always.

with that many problems you have with yourself, you won't even be able to get it up with an escort

I'm 20, somewhat similar to you (enjoy cartoons and video games and whatever). I've found that "acting like a man" basically involves knowing when to take charge and be a responsible adult. In your free time you can be as stupid as you like.

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well feel or have felt that way, you dont magically switch over night and become an adult. It takes time. I hate those "just girly things", but that one about teenagers being treated like children but told to act like adults is pretty spot on. You are just shedding off the last parts of being a kid, but youre not all the way there yet. Enjoy it for what its worth, its going to be scary and frustrating because your old life and all you know is basically dying but it'll re-shape in a few years. Some things to consider to help you along
>if youre going to college/trade school (do it), plan it accordingly. Have a plan of what you want to do and how
>if nothing else experiment with different ideas but dont wander aimlessly, thats where most kids fuck up and then panic
>save your money religiously, even little bits at a time, look into proper banking methods. ask your parents
>move away from home
the last one depends I guess, but my biggest problem was I stayed at home and drove to college and it fucked with my head. Seeing everyone I knew move away while I was stuck in town was depressing. You see the same people, hear the same gossip and do the same things youve done for years but now youve got no more friends around and youre older so its not as fun. Its easily to get nostalgic and remember the good ol days when you have no other social setting to compare it to or make new memories with

>>18458225

Just give it time. You'll get there eventually and then you'll miss being young and stupid.

>>18458133
Just in your post i see a few answers to your "problem".

>Need girlfriend
Well, no, you don't "NEED" a girlfriend to live your life. With that state of mind, you are not going to be very attractive to women.

>The problem is that no girls I know show any interest of having a relationship with me.
Okay, but do you show any interest of having a relationship with them ?

>All of them just find me as a good friend.
Which leads me to think that you're acting way too friendly with them. That's how you end up in the "friendzone". Don't act as a friend and take 6 months to awkwardly make a move. Next time you meet a girl that you like, show her right away you're not just her new friend, but you're interested in more. At least if she's not interested you'll know faster than pretending to be her friend.

>I am becoming desperate.I have lowered my standards as much as I can and still nothing.
Again, that's unattractive. Would you feel attracted to a girl that is desperate and that lowers her standards ? Nah, I think you wouldn't be.

If you want to be attractive, you need to gain some value. Work on your confidence, have hobbies, live your life without needing someone, and you'll become way more attractive.

Getting a girlfriend should be the last step. I'm telling you (from experience), with your current state of mind, even if you got a girlfriend right now, you would suffer from it, because you would be way too dependant of her and it would be toxic, and you'd be suffering way more than you are right now.

Hope i helped

>>18458187
You sure did.Thanks for the quality advice anon.

>>18458133
Do you have a job and car? If the answer is yes, keep trying. If the answer is no, then get those..

No one can get in her head OP. I've done the same to my bf and generally... it just indicates how socially inept I am. I need a lot of alone time, nothing personal. Just an introvert, with anxiety and depression issues albeit. But still an introvert.

It could mean absolutely nothing. Could mean everything. No one here will be able to answer that one with any great accuracy.

You should tell her you are a little worried, and ask her what's going on/if there is something she wants to tell you.

>>18458151
I did ask her that but she went on how I was not open to her and that I was an ass for not taking my life and her seriously, after that she blocked me. God do I hate myself right now. Should I just wait for her to text me?

>>18458167
Hmm. It sounds like there is either other issues going on there you haven't mentioned, or she is beating around the bush trying to break up with you. I'd wait it out... Maybe get an opinion from a mutual friend. Sorry to hear, girls can be crazy.