I have a friend who we'll call John. Hes engaged to Jamie. Jamie is pregnant but Im 90% certain its not John's. John seems excited and Jamie is as well though shes definitely trying to fake it til she makes it.
What do I do in this situation. don't say its none of my business because anyone who would sit back and let a whore ruin their friends life is just as bad as said whore.
I havent talked to John since like 2 years ago when he left for a job overseas (other than brief facebook interactions). Was only gone for 3 months at a time but there were a shit ton of rumors about Jamie sleeping around that I ignored because it was just gossip. But now that a baby is appearing and he thinks its his I cant just ignore it. Like his life is about to be ruined because he's trusting this woman.
What are my options. I could dig harder into Jamie's life until I have hard evidence. But even when I get there do I just give it to John. I also don't want Jamie to know Im snooping until its too late.
>>18458283
>>18458283
If I'm in ur position, and John is my best friend then yeah, I'll tell him. But if John is my so so friend who I do t really talk to that much, the I won't say shit.
It all depends on how good of a friend between u and John is.
>>18458283
None of your business. If you were good friends with either of the people involved, then maybe. Since you're not, stay out of it and let them sort their own shit out.
>>18458307
Youre just as bad as Jamie in my book.
>>18458300
We roomed together in college and were tight. Distance just came between us.
so i found huge interest in theology because of the variety of topics and shit, and because i looked up some videos about theology students talking about their experience, they talk about more human things and seem authentic about it, compared to students studying other things who only think about the piece of paper at the end, it's probably bad for a career though, so i would choose something different when the time comes for a phd maybe.
here is the issue though, on one hand i like the way theology is different from other classes because it involves lots of discussion and not just lecturing, but on the other i think i might also just make that decision because of my libido (yeah i'm a virgin plz no judge had some issues in the past), pic related, wanted to post different pic of actual girl but it's nsfw, not searching for a nonexistant anime waifu, just a non-atheist girl with morals i guess, not a fundamentalist though.
beside it being interesting from a psychological perspective and shit (big fan of jung) i can't help but make fantasies of meeting a non-nihilist spiritual girl, so many girls i met in my earlier school years seem nihilistic drowning themselves in hedonism going for a 9-5, no real ambition.
am i too naive for involving meeting someone to at least date in my decision process?
anybody study theology can tell me more about it?
does it really differ the way i described?
how are the people studying theology in your opinion?
what do you do after graduating other than become priest or confessions guy? idk what else there is
although i would consider doing both of those things desu.
>>18458241
you could become an academic or a teacher.
or anything else you want, really, if you can get the skills somehow, have the balls and determination, and some contacts wouldn't harm either.
met a guy with a PhD in Classics when I was doing summer work as a student, he was a tiler. asked why, he said he got fleeced by his ex-wife so this was what he had to do now.
>>18458264
hmm, yeah teaching sometimes would be fun, contacts really open up any possibility, although i'm kinda a pessimist about that because of my past, but i shouldn't bcuz it turns into a self-fulfilling prophecy if it is in my head during socializing.
i feel like i am determined and hopeful though, i just have to narrow down what i want more.
and damn, feel bad for the guy, but in dire situations like that i guess you gotta go for anything.
ty for your answer
>>18458305
I'm doing a postgrad in religious studies, (similar the theology, but another religion), so I feel ya.
thinking of going for the PhD afterwards or doing some research work beforehand and seeing how it goes. otherwise I'll be wishing I did a trade...
I sometimes get randomly pissed.
Like, just angry for no reason. I am a massive bitch when this happens to people. I also can't stand any music, video, or task.
I tried meditating to stop this state but I just get angry and stop.
What do I do to stop being angry
You go to a therapist.
>>18457824
I did for half a year and it didn't do anything.
It drained all my savings and I can no longer afford it.
>>18457828
What did you say to him? What did he say back? Was it all just empty talk?
I just turned 28.
Be honest, is it too late for me? My life is pretty much over at this point. I'll never turn myself around.
Too late for what?
>>18457491
To stop being a failure.
>>18457509
If you're born genetic shit you'll die genetic shit. If you're not physically attractive and intelligent enough to make up for the disparity in development amongst your peers you are pretty much fucked.
Years ago some guy gave me a phone for 50$ was a smart phone I got home first thing I did i connected it to my Google then I looked at the content to delete images then I saw it had messed up porn and probably some elligal shit so I deleted it all thought that was it but then a week late go on. My Google and I see those images posted on my fucking Google account on the wall for everyone to see always ng with my porn(some of the normal stuff) I started to get. turns out Google posted it without my knowing I don't know how so I frantically deleted it all on there now 4 or more years later I got a pop up saying if I wanted to recapture the day and showed those images even though I deleted them and again they weren't mine wich made it worse and more terrifying also made me hate buying that fucking phone but anyways I deleted the account and I just wanted to know if I'm fucked cause of that phone
Still what did we learn here today kids?
What?
Also I don't know how or why Google would add a feature like that. it was a Google phone just to point that out didn't even ask for permission just sent the images to the profile even tho I deleted them from the phone off of the phone an hour after i connected my google. Just need to say if you ever get a phone delete the contents first in case anything bad is on it or Google might fucking post it on your account for everyone to see
New thread.
Last month, my friend I've known online since 2009 blocked me on everything. Facebook, twitter. Instagram, all forms of social media without saying a word. I was bummed. This was my bro. He did something similar to this last year, but he just didn't talk to me from May to November, but admitted afterwards he was a cunt and just should have talked with me about it. I miss him, he was cool. We played Monster Hunter, FFXIV, Overwatch, a ton of shit together. We also just shot the shit. How do I get over this? It sucks since me and him were close.
Very important reminder for anons to never date anyone with borderline personality disorder. I did and it is the only time I have ever considered myself to have been emotionally abused by anyone.
When she was in a good mood, she would be the sweetest, kindest, and most fun person I've ever been with. She made me feel as if no one had really understood the way I feel until I had met her. At a point, I was effectively dependent on her and the way she made me feel. But when she was in a bad mood, she would treat me like dirt, and say the most cruel things she could imagine. The only way to get her to switch back would be to apologize and shower her with affection for days. The worst part is that if I told her about something she had done to upset me, she would not only act offended, but flip the blame entirely onto me, again saying horrid, nasty things, until I had suitably grovelled back into her good books. The constantly flipping emotions (both from her and myself) was a pretty strong impetus for me to go back on the anti-depressants I'd been off for over a year. But I was so obsessed with her due to the aforementioned sweetness that this happened several times before I cut her off entirely.
Looking back, I can tell that all her kindness was just her acting on some whim, trying to coerce me into giving her what she wanted, whether that was just affection or just a brief respite from loneliness. I don't think she ever had feelings for me.
The worst part is that even now, knowing that she has treated me like shit, there's still a part of me that misses her, or at least that first part of our relationship. Please learn from my mistakes.
To be fair, I was KINDA correct.
>>18456066
Being emotionally abused sucks, anon. She doesn't miss you. Don't miss her. It's not worth it.
Are there ever any emotional aspects or is it purely physical?
Do you view yourself as dominant or submissive or can it depend on the situation?
Do you see it as degrading or humiliating for your partner?
How often do you expect it in a committed, long-term relationship, and how much is too much?
Be honest.
Which way?
>>18456038
this. do you mean woman sucking the dick or man eating the puss
>>18456038
>>18456039
Getting.
I mean, you can answer giving too, but I meant getting.
MY BREATH FUCKING STINKS
Is there some secret to white teeth
& good breath?
>floss
>mouthwash twice a day
>brush 3 times a day, 4 minutes each
>clean tongue too
However, I do drink coffee without cream/sugar & follow mostly a paleo diet - could that be it?
>>18455966
I'll also add I do chew gum as well, and I still feel like my mouth stink after a minute. Fuck
Yes. Bad breath doesn't come only from you mouth, but from your stomach too. Get a better diet.
>>18455974
What do you recommend?
I do eat my veggies, my meats, and fruits but avoid dairy/any refined carbs like bread/rice
Professional Dating Coach here, I teach guys how to get laid and find girlfriends
ask me anything
>>18455739
that's a real job?
jesus, people fucking suck these days
>>18455739
What can u do to regain a guys interest? He was head over heels for me but that doesn't seem to be the case anymore.
I'm a loser and my standards are too high but I don't want to lower them. What do?
guy who just lost his virginity here. Is it dangerous of my pens bends when thrusting during sex?
I only got 2 1/2 to 3 inches inside my girlfriend because penis bent at the lower part
She might not have been wet enough, if theres alot of friction idt its good to thrust too hard.
Was your erection completely hard?
>>18455374
>>18455333
my penis has a downward curve. I had to compensate for lack of life by getting her super wet, putting cocoa butter lotion on me, and using a bit of water. when I did go in with a Condom it was ore lubricated.
I mean at least I had sex, finally (sigh of relief)
19 years old, rich, but have no friends
i'm a natural introvert who spends most of the time in my loft raiding on WoW on my computer, browsing 4chan + reddit, or working out at the gym
i've made some friends but all of them have eventually tried using me for money
i'm also a gay virgin and would like to have sex but too young to go to bars and meet guys (i'm not old enough anyways)
feeling really lonely all the time because the only people i talk to are online
how can i make friends that value me for me and not my money?
should i hire some male escort to have sex? i'm pretty much desperate at this point. i've been called a pretty boy and i think i am objectively handsome so i can get a guy if i tried really hard i think, but i'm scared of contracting hiv
should i get a job? would that give me some extra meaning in life? i have no need to work, and the only type of work i've ever done was helping in some charity benefits. i could also go to college too?
i'd talk to a psychologist but if my sisters or parents find out (they will) it will cause massive drama
proof attached btw
>>18454252
Go to uni and talk to people. Don't mention your money.
>>18454252
kys
>>18454252
You need to get out and about, find some structure and meaning in your life. Then you'll meet people. Don't tell people about your money when you are early on in knowing them. Find something you care about, do some voluntary work, do some training, get work that satisfies you. If I had your money I would train the shit out of myself. Your life sounds boring, you are stuck in a rut.
I have grade 4 brain cancer. Just diagnosed. Been vomiting and have had a ton of other symptoms. My mother and Father are dead and I have no siblings. Death is near for me. How do I spend my final moments anons? I'm so lonely. I realize that when I die I won't exist anymore but I just don't want to let go.
even in death im alone. talking to myself as usual
>>18453548
Fuck like craxy, chill with lots of friends or make some, do craxy stunts. just do all sorts of shit that people would love to do
>>18453548
Do you have discord? Do you wanna chat?
Ahoy /adv/. I want to win this guy's heart BUT he is a total robot when it comes to sex and relationships. It's almost impossible to keep a conversation going because he randomly stops responding and NEVER texts me first.
I know he likes me at least on a good buddy level. He opened to me a couple of times and said things that may be considered as very light and subtle flirting but getting close with him is verging on impossible.
Meeting up is out of question at least for now because I recently left the country for a new job. BUT that is not a problem. I don't want a ldr. I just want to get closer with him and I'm sure it can be done despite the distance between us--but I have no idea how to do that!!! He is absolutely nothing like other guys. PLS HELP! gimme some ideas or if someone managed to romance an emotional autist, give me your success story!
tl;dr
>I like a guy
>He is very reserved
>Normal flirting techniques won't work on him
>how to gradually win his heart???
>>18452512
Why do you think he likes you?
>>18452530
Lol this
>>18452530
>>18452535
Cuz he complimented me before & these rare times the convo didn't die he shared with me some personal stuff! I'm sure he likes me as a person BUT if he likes me as a girl? I don't know...
And with how awkward he is it's impossible to tell. I'm good a picking up clues from guys but this one is just a huuuuge mystery
Is there any circumstance where it's ever acceptable to ask a girl out/get her number/give her your number when she's at work and you're a customer? I know all the drawbacks (she feels pressured to be nice to you since she's at work, she can't really get away, etc), but I never see her anywhere else. If it is acceptable how do you pull it off gracefully? pic unrelated
>>18459774
as long as you ask calmly and nicely its acceptable. many girls will argue its not. many will argue it is. so whos right? if you want to make her the most comfortable about it, dont make it seem like a date and put the ball entirely in her court. hand her your business card and say 'id love to keep this conversation going, but I have to go. Text me sometime'.
>>18459774
Just ask her if you can go eat out together some time after she is done with work.
Exchange addresses there.
>>18459796
most girls would say it's OK if it's a guy they would say "yes" to, and it's not OK otherwise. Bitches are stupid like that.
Do it OP, good luck
Is university worth it?
in our bad economy that's full of immigration? Even for STEM fields I've heard it's hard to get a job...
If nothing else, you'll learn a lot. You'll be more intelligent than your peers who just graduated high school. Increase your knowledge of the world. Go to a uni. Plus you get a piece of paper that looks good on your resume when applying for jobs
>>18458841
You will be working in some shit job for 40 years unless some robot will replace you amd you will die of hunger like the obsolete low~middle class you are.
So yeah, try uni. Even if you dont live in 1st world country where uni is free, there should be public ones which wont you put into debt for the rest of your life.
And if it fails, you can always go flipping burgers.
>>18458920
I'm gonna pretty much have to be 60,000 in debt