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>>18460753
You don't. You've made a commitment to cut these people out of your life, bringing them back in will only cause more of an emotional burden on you. Move on. Time heals all wounds, and as more time passes and you start to make more of a life your own, start a family of your own that you'll love, you'll be the one with the true victory at the end of the day. Because you'll be happy all on you're own without validation from emotionally abusive people, you'll have made it. Good luck anon.

>>18460808
Thank you, anon. I guess I just feel bad because my grandmother hasn't abused me....although she has been cruel, and I have younger brothers and sisters. Are you saying I should cut my losses? I only expected to cut my mother off, not mostly innocent people....

>>18460823
Not only has she made you cry in public, but she denies what you tell her regarding the emotional abuse you mother inflicts on you. It's okay to feel bad, because you're a normal human being. Your sis won't talk to you, so she's already cut you off as her own loss. The only innocent person here is you, and you deserve to have a normal life. Trust me, move one. It hurts at first, but soon you'll start your own life, have your own kids, and be a better mother to them, and an even better grandmother to your grand children to prove everyone wrong about you. That you were the one who had their head on straight, not the emotionally abusive people. Time will heal you, but it's gonna take a long time, so be prepared.

>>18460646
Although I have no advice to give, I am experiencing similar problems with my mother. There are days where I would do something wrong by accident, such as bring her the wrong drink, and she would hit me irrationally (I'm 22 and can't move out since I can't afford a place to live). She's an alcoholic and has mentioned that she has bipolar disorder.
Daily, she would tell everyone in our house, my father and I, that she's in pain and that she thinks it's breast cancer, a rotten liver, or anything similar. She has went to the hospital to get check with nothing coming out positive, yet she insists that she has something wrong with her.
She would often tell me that I shouldn't worry or be sadden if she passes away, almost like if she has a few weeks left to live. Keep in mind she's been telling me this "goodbye advice" for years now.
I try to get her into psychiatric help/counseling, yet she isn't fully commited. I love her way too much to see her like this, especially since my younger sister depends on them, my parents.
Hopefully my bump can help you seek your answer.

>>18460646
Try talking to her before relying on someone else. Try to understand what really bothers her, if there's anything you can do. Also, did you try expressing affection? Like with a hug or a kiss? There's no mother who wouldn't find confort and calmness by her own child showing love

>>18460646
You're never too old to hug your mom, just try to calm her down for now. If she notices something's wrong with her, only then should you suggest therapy or medical help.

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Just like you talk to anyone else.

If you don't get to know each other enough in two weeks so that she gives you her contact info it wasn't going to work out anyway

With your mouth you stupid fuck

>>18460577

>"Hi, I'm anon."

/thread's over because with no details that's as much info as you're gonna get

>>18460569
Bro get the endoscopy. They aren't a big deal and they can do biopsy that way.

I had the same issue when I was having stabbing pains in my neck followed by temporary loss of function of my legs.
When you go to the doctor, just straight up tell them you don't want to get passed off and ignored. I had to bitch out 2 doctors before either got one that gave a shit. Consider talking to a specialist if that's something you can do in your area.
Also get the endoscopy done, might be what they need. They aren't as bad as they sound.

>>18460569

Have you tried getting a second opinion?

Well, let's pro-con this. What are your concerns?

>>18460518

>is she gay and hiding it

what makes you assume she wants a MFF threesome?

I had a few with my gf, but every time I type a ton of shit the OP is gone

Ask away

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No.
Go to /fit/ so they can also tell you no.

>pickle juice, magnesium supplements and ibuprofen

>>18460494

Recovery days are important. If you want to go to the gym 5 times a week, reduce how much time you spend doing your training, or train specific parts of your body (arms, legs) on one day, then the other part the next day. Rinse and repeat.

>>18460478
They obviously want to see what you post. A lot of companies do that now a days. That are not going to hire you if you are posting offensive things etc

>>18460492
It's just very bizarre to me and feels a bit unprofessional. It doesn't help that her profile seems more like someone my age who just travels the world versus someone in charge of hiring people. Her profile also doesn't mention where she's (supposedly) currently working

>>18460502
Don't accept. It's your privacy, they can fuck off.

>>18460431
you were upfront and respectful and confident, sounds like you did a good job anon

You sound like such a sweetheart OP. You did the right thing, be patient.

How can you reconcile Christianity being the Word of God with the actual literal history of the Church?
How can you believe in Christianity with St. Ambrose's antics?
Or the Nicean council?
Or the Arian Heresy?

>>18460426

no matter which direction you go in life people are always going to bug you about /something/.

so you can always just drop the subject when it comes up, but it sounds like you indulge it to some degree, not that you agree iwth them bu if you engage with someone they will continue to talk. arguments are made by two people who disagree and want it to be known. when one of them doesn't want to argue he doesn't just keep saying his opinion, he simply exits.

can it be alienating? definitely. decide whats more important cuz there's no magic third option that gets them to stop.

>>18460426

Tell them in a calm but firm voice that you have no interest in dating - and when you do, you'll be the first to let them know.

Explain it to them like you explained it to us.

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>>18460438
>>18460441

I have flat out said no, that's is the part that's driving me bonkers. "He must be saying he's not interested because he's still sad" etc is the vibe I get from them whenever any form of the subject is brought up. No seems to mean "he's just not ready yet" to them.

>>18460406

i mean if tyhey know you well enough to go on a multi day trip with them i cant imagine them not knowing you are autistic.

>>18460406
Bring a book, my dude.
It's good for you.

>>18460406
>>18460452
Either or
They're both the same

Just switch with the driver half way through

Ask if they want you to narrate your shit though
Some people enjoy that

>>18460388

depression is actually more of a numbness that makes it hard to feel anything. not an extreme sadness.

either way, go to therapy.

>>18460419
This
Despite popular culture, depression isn't about feeling sad.

Real depression is about the inability to feel anything

>>18460419
I can't afford it and trust me I want to go
>>18460463
Well, I definitely still feel other motions so that's good to finally know. I still feel really sad almost every day though

>>18460329

Have fun living in a web of lies where, as soon as someone finds out you're lying about one thing will stop believing anything else you've said.

Hell, this thread's probably a lie too made for attention and because you're bored.

>>18460329
You should know that most people who have talked to you a few times probably realize you're a liar.

I have known several people like you, and the ones I have known always seem to think nobody knows. I have even maintained long term friendships with such people, which sounds weird but the way it works is that I never trust them too much if they tell me a story that requires me to do anything or give them anything. As long as they aren't taking anything of mine, their lies are irrelevant.

But that doesn't mean I don't realize my friend is a liar.

And you might tell yourself "they might suspect but they don't know", and there's some truth to that. You probably mix true statements with lies, and nobody knows 100% which specific ones are lies. But they probably do have a general impression that you lie.

>>18460338
Well, they're not things I could get caught out with.

But recently my tendency for lying has become out of of control, I left a job and lied to my family about it for weeks and then realised that a relative works with that department and could find out. Here's the kicker, I told the manager someone close to me died to excuse my erratic behaviour. Someone close to me is dying and the experience has been terrible, but they've not passed yet.

I feel genuinely very guilty for doing this, I was just very depressed and needed to escape. Usually the lies I tell are just harmless "experiments" but this time...I made myself feel sick.

Suddenly now, all the other lies seem wrong too.

I also used to have a problem with stealing. So I don't know if the issue is impulse control or poor discipline as a child? I am a very nice person and quite well liked aside from the lying and sometimes I have anger issues but that's very rare.

>>18460281

go outside.

>>18460281
Don't live in a rural area that isn't featuring anything but church and a bar.

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>>18460287
You don't say.

>>18460196

only wa to learn is start again and work your way up.

>>18460213
Idk even know how to do that, how would you start conversation with someone wih out being cringey

>>18460488
same boat, what has worked for me is being self absorbed to the point where if someone doesnt feel like dealing with my rough social skills, which are basically nil in certain aspects, then thats their right but fuck em and continue on until either of us dont feel like it anymore. basically dgaf about it and you can get better at speaking eventually, i cant speak to making freinds or anything though

>>18460190
Wow I just read that and its a cluster fuck. I'm mainly asking about what living in a car is like and what I need to consider ahead of time.

people are going to be fairly judgemental and your relationships with people in college can affect the course of your life. wear a normal quantity of different clothes and keep them and yourself very clean.

>>18460201
Ah yeah, I'll definitely keep as clean as possible I don't want to let people know I'm homeless, especially since I'll be teaching while I'm taking classes.

Also if people do realize, its a very hippie town so I don't think they will judge that much. Hell there's a guy working there now who, while getting his masters, was homeless too and people knew about it.