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Does anyone have any tips on fixing irregular sleep patterns? I've had sleeping problems my whole life where my mind can't settle down and I can't fall asleep even laying in bed for hours. On top of this I sleep through alarms and can only be woken up through someone shaking me awake.

some history:
In elementary school my mom worked from home and could wake me up for school. In middle school I had 5 alarms I always slept through and my parents paid another classmate to come and wake me up for school every morning. I wasn't diagnosed with any condition but I got put on lots of meds to relax or fall asleep (melatonin, etc.). The meds made my sleeping even worse and I was late or absent for over half my classes in the 2 years I took them. During highschool I moved in with a friend who would wake me up and drive us to class which helped a lot. I increased my exercise to 2 hours a day to try to exhaust myself but the problem still persist and the only way I could get to school/work was from another person assisting me. During college I moved in with my girlfriend and switched my hours at work so she could help wake me up. As the years went by this started to take an emotional toll on my girlfriend as my sleeping was all over the place. 5 years later I still couldn't get myself under control and we had to part ways as it became too much to bear. Now with no human contact I started to miss work unable to wake up from my alarms and had to quit. I have enough savings to last awhile but I'm on a ticking clock and have no idea what to do.

tldr;
I can't function in this world with my irregular sleeping.

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So I've had some pretty bad mental health issues since I was like 12. Alcoholic father and a family that never gets along can get to you after a while.

Over the last few years my depression just feels like it evolved into general apathy. It isn't that I don't feel anything all the time, for the most part I feel great on most days, but whenever anything bothers me I just blow it off and ignore it. That seemed to be working well but periodically doing that catches up to me and everything is just too much, I get horrible anxiety and it turns into just feeling nothing absolutely at all. What can I do to feel better about all of these problems? Life doesn't genuinely get me depressed anymore, it just hits me out of nowhere and then shifts into being apathetic. I don't have anyone to ever talk to about issues and therapy is expensive, but blocking everything out and letting it all flood in at once is obviously not helping in the long run.

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Has anyone ever dealt with chronic muscle tension from bad posture and anxiety as a result?

I feel like i hold a lot of tension in my abs when sitting due to bad posture and as a result am really anxious and have alot of anxiety symptoms. alot of these symptoms are releived when i make a concious effort to not tense my stomach and keep a neutral posture, does this sound like something that is possible? I honestly feel like im going insane because of this can anyone please help

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I have general anxiety and maybe even slight agoraphobia. I am most comfortable in my own room, anywhere else and I start to feel anxiety building up. I've been wanting to try and push myself to be out of the house more, so I started doing some dog walking. It has been going pretty well, it's not much pay but I enjoy being able to set my own hours without having to interact with people much, and I like animals.

Earlier this week I got an offer to do dog/housesitting for 2 nights while the owner is interstate. My initial instinct was to say no, but I tried to get out of my own head for a moment and look at it as an opportunity to test myself, to dive in the deep end so to speak.

I've been at this house for 25 hours now and guys it's been my own personal kind of hell. My anxiety has been a constant 9/10, I keep tearing up and crying intermittently. I don't know what to do, I just want to go home and be in my own bed. I can't relax or calm down at all, the dog is pretty high maintenance too which makes me feel like I'm letting him down.

How can I get through the next 29 hours? This is the worst I've felt in a really long time.

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At my uni, i dont get invited to parties or to any social events. This is a very small school (~2000 students) in a town that isnt much bigger. Anybody fun or interesting to talk to is somebody with whom ive been obnoxiously drunk or shared too many depressing personal stories. I generally avoid going around campus anyway because I also to see miserable people that i've naively been kind to.

Ive gotten significantly better as of late at recognizing the correct behaviors to take in social situations and i want to know what i can do to live things down and reestablish myself.

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I've felt like I've needed adhd medicine for a long time (probably like 8 years) but I don't know how to approach a doctor about it without seeming drug seeking. What do? Are doctors usually more understanding than I'm expecting when it comes to this sort of thing? I'm a normal looking white NEET in his 20s

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She hates me. How do I get her back?

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Does anyone else have trouble actually finishing intellectual tasks?

I have lots of ideas, and when it comes to physical tasks (workouts, building things, etc.) I have no problem seing them through, but when it comes to writing or solving problems I just can't seem to stay focused.

Any advice /adv/?

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I've been using sites like freelancer.com and toptal, receiving hidden fees. What's a good site I can use, that won't do this?

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I tried asking /v/ yesterday but I only got a couple of meme answers before the thread archived, so that's why I'm asking here.

I've been interested in getting into the Warhammer 40k series for a while now, but I have no idea which game to start with. I'm mostly interested in the single player experience. What game do you anons suggest and why?

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Hello guys, never posted on this board before, i recently started to feel this immense sadness that makes me cry almost daily.
>7th grade bullied by classmates
>year later "befriend" them in a way that im almost like a liability to them so that they don't get in trouble
>all the time after school i'm on the computer doing useless shit
>after 9th grade and middle school ends in the country i go out and drink for the first time and embarrass myself quite badly
>get paranoid, living in a small town where everyone knows everything about everyone and such, wondering what people think of me and so on.
>in a trade school that i considered a waste of time instead of going to high school, never hang out with new classmates, stay on computer playing minecraft with online friends
>live in a lie where i feel like i'm like the others even without having a social life like everyone else.
After 3 years of living on unemployment money i get a job that opens my eyes, seeing people everyday and talking with them, realizing how nice it was in my childhood when i had people i could call friends and do things with. They have their friendships and activities they do on daily basis with them, some have families already, got me a reality check on my situation by that. Now that it is midsummer and there's festivals and such i feel even more sad because i know how much fun all these people are having. I wish i was just normal like them but i'm not, i do not know where i went wrong as i generally get along well with people. Any advice where i should start to feel better?

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I'm making a Cartoon.
Though, it's time consuming. I can't turn every theme I think of into an episode.
I thought of making face-cam secondary content.

PROS:
- More videos, more awareness
- Can easily shill merch and such
- Notoriety and opportunities
- Showing myself build trust and trust is invaluable marketing-wise

CONS:
- Sacrificing anonymity, which I think is also invaluable (I don't even have a real FB account, it's just for group talks with my family and a few friends)
- Not being able to run an errand without finishing on a snapchat feed or being asked for a selfie
- I had a turbulent past and have lots of people that may try to fuck me up publicly (I know, 99% chance they won't give a shit and will just mock me but who knows)
- Fucking up a lot of career opportunities and job interviews (oh I know you from YT, well we'll let you know)

I could also just not show my face but I feel like it's cowardice. I hate these people.

What would you advise, /adv/isors ?

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I really have no clue what to do anymore. I feel dead inside.
This all started about 6 weeks ago. I was talking to this girl that I've known for quite a while now, she's beautiful and I felt a connection before but we decided to leave it as friends, which I was happy with. That was about 5 months ago. When we talked 6 weeks ago, I found out she had a boyfriend and that they'd been seeing each other since around the time we decided to leave it as friends. When I found out, I felt so sick I thought I was about to throw up. And I don't even know why.

Ever since then, I can't get over her. I think about her all the time. I get jealous when I think about her and her bf. I know we don't suit each other and I'd much prefer to be friends but I just can't stop thinking about it and it's interfering with my life. I've tried loads of ways to try and forget about it, I've tried focusing on her bad aspects, tried cutting her out etc but it just won't work. I would try replacing these feelings by finding someone else but like many people here I'm not a very social person at all and it's very rare that I meet another girl that I can get close enough to.
I have many other problems too, many I don't wish to discuss here. If I could just get this one off my back it would be a lot easier.

tl;dr a few weeks ago i found out that a girl I've been talking to has a boyfriend. I had feelings for her a while back which were resolved and I left it as just friends, but as soon as I found this out I can't stop thinking about her and it is starting to ruin my life.

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How do I get my gf to have sex with me ? She refuses to let me see her naked because she thinks her breasts and vagina are ugly.
How do I help her get over her insecurities ?
Btw she used to browse r9k so it ruined her self-esteem and body image a bit.

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So I just spent a week out of the country on a humanitarian trip, and got very sick and then spent five days in the ICU.

I'm fine, but I'm tremendously behind on summer classes. So behind, in fact, that I am falling deep into anxiety and can't even bring myself to look at the assignments I missed. In reality, if I worked pretty hard, I could catch up but man, it's ruining my mood and I'm emotionally distraught.

I am getting cold sweats and panic attacks and I even caught myself thinking about suicide. Not seriously, but it's popped up. That's sort of scary which is essentially not at all a fucking big deal at all.

Any advice to get moving on my work? On quieting anxiety of these damn summer classes? On moving forward and not being so panicky. I'm a senior graduating in a year, damn it - I've done many semesters of this shit. I just can't seem to go on this time.