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I'm an incoming freshman who just signed a bid for a fraternity.
I've been asking and looking for sources on the internet to find out what really happens during the pledging/hazing process, but so far I haven't gotten clear answer. I found a thread on misc in which posters where discussing some of the psychological things they went under, but they were still hesitant to describe details because of the "secrecy" of it all. I get the same response when asking in person.
So my question for you, current/former greek members of /adv/, to anonymously describe exactly what I can expect in the following year.

If it matters, it's a top-tier house at a polytechnic university.

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I'm working a temporary job, but they're creating permanent positions for us soon. However, where I'm working at the moment is not going to help my career move in the direction that I want it to go in, so I've been sending out my CV to other companies. A couple have responded saying that they're interested, but they're currently in the process of reviewing their situations and they'll get back to me in a couple of weeks.

The problem is this: the confirmation of the permanent positions is likely to happen before these other places get back to me about vacancies. And even if there is a vacancy, there's no guarantee that I'll get the job. On the other hand, I don't want to be working where I am right now for much longer, and I feel like if I did take a permanent position, I'd be stuck there for at least 1 year (but more likely longer) which would really set me back from where I want to be.

What do I do? Do I take the permanent position where I am for security and then jump ship if something else comes up? How shitty would I look for doing that?

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26 years old, fiance left me after 4 years.

Living at home, lost my main job making $18 an hour. Parents are dirt poor, I pay $500 in rent and insurance/car $400 monthly. Now working pizza delivery making $11 and barely getting tips, not sure if I'll have enough money to keep up with my bills.

No college, about $100 in savings. Can't join Army because of GED. Father has had multiple suicide attempts and I'm having to be the anchor for my mother and sister right now.

Trying to be hopeful, trying to use a little of my spare time off work to find some passions again like playing guitar. But feel pretty hopeless and suicidal myself, just can't vent to anybody and I don't want to place any more stress on my family than there already is.

Any advice for someone in my position?

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I have all traits of a sociopath or a psychopath, but I can feel fear/adrenaline. Is this possible?
I thought I was neurotic, but that would be contradictory.

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On my way to getting exam results and can't stop freaking out. How do I calm down.

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I’ve been dating this little asian american girl for a couple weeks. She’s 18, super tiny at ninety four pounds. I took her virginity and we fucked a couple times already, and make out for hours after each time.

She texted me this today
“Anon…Lets just be friends. But I still want your kisses and hugs and sex. I need it. “

She wants cuddling, smooching and playtime with my yoohoo, but NOT dating. There is too much anxiety and stress around dating she says. I said ok. We’re both extremely busy people, and this didn’t seem unreasonable to me. The catch is that she wants us to be exclusive.

Later this evening she blew up my phone with all this super deep talk about discovering herself and purpose.

What have I committed myself to? Isn’t ‘exclusive friends with benefit and deep long talks’ another label for a relationship?

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Live in a mid-sized suburb (60,000 pop.) and am surrounded by other cities and suburbs. Tell me where to go and what to say when I approach and I will do it. I'm a guy and 20 y/o btw.

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Any actingfags/actors/filmfags here? I'm currently looking to take on acting more seriously. Have been taking on more castings for indie projects recently. Of course got my day job.

Inb4 you can't make that much money doing/is highly competitive. Already know this.

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Ok I've been dating this really sweet girl that I helped to stop cut herself. After I helped her and stopped herself from committing suicide we got into a discussion that if I ever left she'd probably get so depressed she'd cut herself and probably commit suicide.

I have another friend that I really really try/tried not to catch feelings for but no matter what I do I can't stop myself from liking her and to make it worse she likes me to.

I love the girl I'm dating I really do but now I think I love this girl. Any help?

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Last night I was sexting a qt over snapchat and it went really well we went for 2 hours but we stopped because I literally just ran out of things to say I was repeating the things I'd do constantly. Where's the best place to find erotica that I could use while sexting? also any general tips for sexting would be appreciated

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My ex broke up with me a while ago but for some reason I find myself hating her and wanting her to be less successful in life.

I get that this is a rather common feeling, but it just feels wrong to be so hateful and negative. I want to wish her well, but I just can't help it. How can I change my mindset?

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Alright, I gotta get all this out before I forget anything important.

There's a girl at work who doesn't actually work there, she's partnered with the store I work for but she sells solar panel installations. I barely started talking to her last week, for one day, and then I went home. I found it easy to make her laugh and she would make a lot of eye contact when I wasn't even talking to her, across the way.
Today I saw her again and talked with her for a bit, and she said she was hungry and might clock out for lunch. I decided that was the closest thing I would get to a hint and told her to wait until she was off and we could go eat together. She agreed so when I was off we went to eat.

Then we met up with a friend at an ice cream place. Afterwards I drove her back to her car since we went to eat in mine and left hers back at the store I work at. On the way back she told me a bit more about herself, she has two kids but separated from her husband because he cheated on her. Because of this she doesn't really talk to guys and she told me she gets nervous when she's around guys. I tried to be as understanding/agreeable as I could and I hope I didn't seem indifferent.

While we had been eating at the ice cream place we contemplated going to see the new transformers movie. On the way back she said "now I want to see it since you mentioned it". Again I took this as a hint and asked if she wanted to see it with me and she immediately agreed. So sometime this week we'll hopefully go see it.

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I need help with my PS3 Slim. Alright, i turn it on, it flashes green then yellow then turns off, and then flashes red non-stop. I've already applied new thermal paste, and i took it apart and cleaned it. I have no clue why it still isn't working. Any advice??

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adv, I have a friend who's been really getting on my nerves recently, and I'm not sure what to do about it. He's one of those people that really wants to always be the center of attention and honestly had been kind of a chore to be around recently. That said, I still really value the friendship so I don't want to just stop spending time with him, but I'm not sure if I should say anything to him about how I'm feeling about it.
I don't want to hurt his feelings, and I don't even know if it would be my place to say anything (like I said, I'm just really annoyed, so there's not really anything objectively wrong to correct), but I also feel like it could be beneficial for him to hear these things. I'm not the only one who's noticed this about him, and I've introduced other friends of mine to him and they instantly disliked him.

Any insight at all would be extremely helpful.

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>I'm the last person to be beating the SJW drum, but how do I get my old school grandpa who is very anti-asian (and perhaps rightfully so, Vietnam was fucked) to atleast be able to attend my wedding
>my soon to be wife is chinese but adopted by rich white parents, so she doesn't speak engrish and there isn't a whole asian family to deal with

I'm not trying to change him, just get him to come and be tolerant for the day, he probably doesn't have very many years left and I want him there.Were just just about to send out invitations for our late fall wedding,so I need to bring it up soon, just looking for some objective advice from an outsider.