How do I tell if this girl is just really shy or just not into me?
So far I've been on one date with this girl (last week), and I can't tell if she's into me or not. She was really socially awkward during the date, was late, and showed up looking like she just woke up (messy hair, baggy "sweat" clothes etc). However when I talk to her online she seems really talkative and open.
During the date she struggled to keep up conversation, and I was just feeding questions to her, which she would answer and then stay quiet. Should I try asking her on another date?
I wouldn't ask her out on another one. I had the same shit happen to me and worst of all it was $70 gone. In the end it was repaid though since I did get to bang her but damn no good.
A simple question should do the trick, "Yo bitch! You like that date or nah?"
If someone breaks your trust, do you believe that they could ever earn back that trust and still retain a great, genuine relationship? Or do you think that once trust is lost on a person you can never go back to having a good, trusting relationship with them? Whether it be a friend, family member, SO, or whatever.
>>18473393
Depends on how the trust was broken and your relationship.
>>18473393
Depends on how the trust was broken, and if they can show they can make amends and take responsibility for breaching that trust.
Depends on what it is. If ur friend said it was coke instead of pepsi in a cup, would you never trust him again? Would you forgive your friend for swindling you out of your life savings?
>In college
>Meet girl about 5 months ago in class
>Talk it up and she at least seems like she's attracted to me
>Give her my number, say we should hang out
>She goes to school 5 days a week, works on weekends, says she has no free time
>No call or text, then casually mentions she has a boyfriend
>No big deal
>class ends soon after
>We don't talk as much but still do small talk whenever we see each other
Fast forward to 2 weeks ago
>Start summer school, both taking calculus
>Sit near her but not next to her, talk it up
>She casually mentions about an ex boyfriend
>Starts sitting near me everyday
>She starts getting giggly, playing with her hair around me, looking at me, etc
I don't take rejection personally and get that she had a boyfriend before (though she didn't just flat out say no) - I'm getting some signs that she is interested.
Still another 6 weeks left in summer semester
Should I ask her out again now that (I'm pretty sure) she's single?
You miss every shot you dont take. Ask if she wants to chill sometime. Casually. I think you arent autistic and understand the nuances of all that so ill just cut to the chase and say yes, go for it.
Worst case scenario is shes still perma busy; and nothing changes. It sounds like shes dropping hints so why not.
Is it possible to catch something from another person without ever being sexual?
Okay, that question was phrased rather stupidly, but here's my story:
I'm a 29y/o manchild who has developed a friendship with a qt3.14 ten years my senior (looks somewhat like pic related). And this qt3.14 absolute loves being physical with everyone she meets. She's very strict about sexual intimacy; reserving that for only boyfriends. But she likes cuddling with everybody, no matter how inconvenient the time and place may be (or until they start dating other girls -- which she claims is often the case). And obviously I obliged because it's been ages since I've last touched a woman -- and this is the closest I'm ever going to get for a while.
But there's been some weird things I've noticed. Sometimes I like burying my face in her neck or chest (never nude), or getting on top of her and placing my cheeks against hers, as she giggles and strokes your entire body. And a couple of those times, the areas where we made skin contact, I developed a rash shortly after.
Normally the rash is gone by the next day, yet still distinctly pink and itchy. But, they only appear in the areas where she and I made skin contact, even though we've never been sexual. And both times, not only happened from spending time with her, but those were the only times I've experienced these kinds of rash before. I never even heard of something like this before.
What gives?
>>18473342
Maybe you are allergic or sensitive to a skin, hair or fragrance product that she uses?
>>18473353
I'm not aware whether or not she uses any of those
Also, some details I left out because of text limit:
>no rash in a while
>nothing on her physical body indicates anything to be concerned with
>too young to've caught anything from people (not impossible -- just less likely)
>if there's anything else about her that sheds light on this, it sure isn't obvious
So i'm meeting with this girl next week and we're just gonna walk around downtown and talk a little. What are some good conversation methods/topics so that things don't get awkward? I'm asking because I did a similar thing with a girl I had a crush on a couple months ago and it was really awkward and I basically blew my chance.
>>18473334
https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html
you dont need to do this verbatim, but ask, you get a lot of interesting stories. i even play it with platonic male friends. we learned a lot about each other.
Confused here. I actually already feel bad for wasting everyone's time, but I just feel like talking about it, and maybe get some input.
So there's this woman I work with. She's been giving me some flirty signals, and the fact that it's happening makes no sense. Here are the reasons why:
>she's 6 years older than me (most women aren't into younger guys)
>she's already married
>her husband makes way more money than I do
>I only make slightly more money than she does
>I'm honestly not much to look at (seriously, I would probably rate my looks a 3/10, and I think I'm being generous)
>there is next to no reason for us to talk (we work in different departments, we don't know each other outside of work, we don't have any mutual friends, our hobbies are different, etc.)
>she probably gives me the most attention outside of her department
>sometimes she touches me for no reason (she has never done this with other coworkers)
Many of our conversations end up with her asking me personal questions, mainly about my family & dating life, and she's even invited me out to drinks.
I'm 99% sure this is nothing. Once again, I am quite possibly one the least desirable men on this planet, and even then, I haven't done anything to wow her.
What I'd like to know is, why? Pretty sure it's nothing, but why would it happen in the first place? At this point, I would actually feel relieved if this is just some practical joke, but if it is, then that's quite a lot of time & energy being wasted for nothing.
On the very very microscopic possibility that there is genuine interest coming from her, I am not pursuing it. I don't fuck with married chicks, and I'm not into older women. I just want some pseudo-analyses from unqualified anons.
since i was around 14 and diagnosed with severe anxiety/depression i've never had any real life purpose. i've always wanted to do well academically but only for the sake of my parents. i'm going to college this fall and i'm terrified that i'll drop out because in high school i had at least 2 suicide attempts and hospitalizations before even graduating.
i know for sure that if i am severely suicidal again i'm going to buy a shotgun and shoot myself in the head because i would rather kill myself than live in my parents basement forever. i love them but i don't want to fail at life.
recently i was thinking of things that give people meaning, and 9 times out of 10 people say that their children give them purpose and meaning
would having a child prompt me to try harder to get my shit together for the sake of the child or would it just send me into another shit spiral i'm likely headed for anyway? i really really don't fancy the idea of children but i'm also really desperate for more solidified reasons to not kill myself. "family" and "oh you have so much to live for!" isn't cutting it anymore for me.
i know this probably isn't relevant but i'm an 18 year old grill and have a 22 year old friend who would likely agree to a child if it comes to that.
>inb4 therapy
i've spent 4 years in and out of therapy. 8 different antidepressants. i have a genetic mutation that makes me having extreme mental health issues
>>18473301
no one else at the age of 14 has 'purpose' either. most people in life never really find purpose and instead choose to project meaning on to whatever they happen to stumble into, like kids. yes it can be a fulfilling experience but a LOT of parents are simply insisting that it gives their lives meaning because otherwise they cannot deal with the reality in front of them. if having kids isnt the most important thing in the world, then their lives are essentially over, because kids is something you can't just walk away from.
the problem here is you want to have some singular reason to exist. you already are the answer.
Im on the same boat, except that im on my 3rd year of college. I really hate what Im studying right now but im still trying despite everything. I have hope that I'll eventually find out something that will help me financially while doing what I really enjoy (playing piano).
I'm going to go to a new college and I wanna try and be more social this time. I've never been good at this sort of thing. I just want some general advice for friends and gfs and how to sustain a long-term relationship.
>>18473296
talk to people. follow up. invite them to do things.
thats all it is.
>>18473296
Rule No#1 sounds cliche but it is: Be yourself.
Go with whoever suits you. Go hang out with the lads you feel you belong with.
If you like the conversations with XXX type of people, don't try to ditch them and infiltrate the ranks of some other Group with which you have nothing in common.
Have hobbys like Park Running/Going to the gym etc. And when people talk to you, coz they will , take a few moments to think before you speak.
>>18473503
>take a few moments to think before you speak.
I'm not OP, but this hasn't worked well for me. When I think before I talk, everything comes out too filtered and tedious. When I speak spontaneously, I am more cool and interesting.
I can't muster the effort to talk to anyone anymore, not even my family. I live alone hundreds of miles from everyone I know (for work) and don't reply when friends or family contact me. I don't do it out of spite but out of apathy and lethargy. The only person I talk to anymore is an e-buddy I've been chatting with for years now. What is going on with me?
>>18473284
imagine that you havent exercised in years. and you know you should exercise, but you dont, and its mostly cuz you're just too tired and lazy and set in your ways.
whats wrong with that person? well they're just letting themselves succumb to unhealthy behavior of habit
>be me
>taught at young age that anger is bad
>been repressing it pretty much since childhood
>have rare outbursts caused my small trivial annoyances
>hold a lot of resentment towards my parents because they believed in corporal punishment and would hit me and my bro a lot as kids
>resentment continues to my late adolescence stage
>my parents start taking care of his two kids
>I occasionally babysit
>my older niec is nice but can be annoying you know like most kids
>one day I get really annoyed, scream at her like a madman, and push her down to the ground with my bare hands
>as she's crying I realize I've become more like my parents
>I think my anger is having a positive effect on her because a few weeks later I see her push her sister down onto the ground with a bit of force
how do I fix this and change my behavior around my nieces
>
First you find a punching bag and release all your pent up rage by wailing on it for a while and then you start meditating.
How do I overcome my fear of making people uncomfortable, or embarrassing them? Sometimes I have a hard time, or get into compromising positions, because I can't do things that will make other people uncomfortable (I feel extreme secondhand embarrassment). Most recently, this has got me into a position where this girl thinks I like her. She goes to the same club as me, and hangs right next to me the entire time, always pulls me away from my friends to hang out with her friends. And whenever I (we) leave, she makes me walk her to her care, and then physically won't let me leave until I kiss her. I just can't say so because I know she'll be embarrassed in front of people and her friends. Why don't I feel like i'm allowed to be a (intentional) jerk any time?
Hey anons
a few months back the girl of my dreams had left me and my life as put in shambles blah blah lost all interest in things and got terribly depressed. But recently I found out shes loved me for years now and we are together
Things are well and all we are very sexual and open with each other but there is one problem. I cant open up emotionally she starts to inflict the same emotion and gilt trip me. its starting to take a toll on me and im starting to plunge into getting suicidal. but whenever i try to open up shes drunk or horny so i cant.. really need her support but cant get it out and i really dont want to leave
What do anons ?
Aagh i fucked up how i worded this
Pretty much a close friend had said she has loved me for years
>>18473229
>its starting to take a toll on me and im starting to plunge into getting suicidal
leave the relationship. thats the obvious answer you dont want to hear. a relationship shouldnt be painful. its supposed to be a part of your life that brings you joy
How do I get my girlfriend to dress a certain way without hurting her feewings?
>>18473147
Buy the cloths you want her to wear then "accidentally" set fire to her other cloths. Done and done.
>>18473147
Be the gay friend. Choose her clothes with her.
It's kinda fun and you take part on the choosing.
>Hey babe, do you think you could wear (thing) for me? It'd look so hot
Works for me at least.
Is it possible to keep cockroaches out of my bedroom when the rest of the house is infested?
yeah my dude, get yourself some of those Gentrol IGR discs and you snap the little tube in them, they force the exposed cockroaches to have an abortion and it also stops juvenile ones from maturing.
then you hit them up with some of the dupont advion gel bait on all points of entry. the ones that make their way to your room will be aborted, wont be able to reproduce, and when they eat the bait they'll slowly die and then the roaches that eat their corpse will also die.
>>18473224
thanks, I'll look into those brand names.
>>18473245
there's probably some generic versions of them, those are just the only ones I know. you can probably get by without the discs and just use some form of the poison gel.
How do I start doing steps in my life to improve myself and do what I want? I have so many things I want to learn but have no idea where to even begin to learn them.
>>18473088
>how do i start doing steps in my life to improve myself and do what I want?
by doing them. you already know what the first step to any of those things are. so pick one, and then do the first step. thats it.
there is no other process, there is not some secret first activity you do that makes you suddenly wnat to do the 'first step'. the first step to taking the first step is to take the first step.
just pick one, and break it down into steps, and go for it. try not to do more than one big thing a month,