I hanged out whit her today, but the day didnt end so well...
Hit me whit some depressing or happy wallpaper please
Girlfriend just told me she didn't want to love/want/need me anymore.
I feel you mate. I'm in a weird relation with a girl which I love. She knows that. We meet from time to time, hang out, kiss, cuddle. But she doesn't want anything from me. When I try to talk about this relation she changes the subject. Yesterday was New Year's Eve, we went to the party. For the whole fucking night I was sitting by her side. She wasn't looking at me, talking to me. She was flirting with every fucking guy there. I'm sure that if I got up and left, she wouldn't notice. I'm going to work now. Hope to read your story when I get back. Take care mate.
I've been there man. I'm in a similar spot right now but it's better than it was before since I learned to focus on improving myself; you won't feel happier at least initially but the current state of affairs isn't changing for the better.
I hope things work out for you guys and I hope the girl I feel for comes around likes yours.
After six years in limbo I had enough. I often think about calling it a day. I know her for three years and just recently started thinking about her like that. Since then everything started fucking even more. Even if I deserve better, she's everything I want and everything I need. When she's by my side I can forget about all my shitty past. Worst thing is that she talks to me now like nothing happened earlier today.
There's always this shitty feeling of hope that she will change her mind and be happy with me.
She may come around but it's not likely. I am certain you fulfill a need of hers (emotional?) since you've seen her for so long. She has no reason to change the dynamic of the bond since she has what she needs.
It's cold in a way but she's doing the same to you; pull away and work on being self sufficient. Make it clear through your actions that you may not be around all the time for when she would like her need fulfilled. If she wants something out of you, there needs to be commitment on her end.
My guess is one of two things will happen: The relationship will wither and she really didn't care about you to commit, or she will commit. Either is good really compared to be stuck in purgatory.
Heart break is shit and as much as it hurts to hear it, it's a figment of your imagination, an imprint of your desires upon them.
Take a holiday,distance yourself from her and try to move on, read a book, go running. go out with friends, something to occupy your mind because the hole only gets deeper otherwise.
In all honesty though, my most sincere sympathies, shit hurts man.
Sorry guys, these days i was very busy and i didnt have time to read the replys
Right now im out the city, i dont have computer
But i want to say thanks to everyone for the support
When i come back to home i will answer one by one
Dont stop loving guys
Like a fried says
"There are more buts than stars"
I think it came around just recently. But my friends are telling me that she just wants to pool my leg. In November at ours mutual friend party she asked me if I want to sleep with her. No sex, just sleeping. I thought this was my chance. After a while I asked if she wants to hug. She said yes. Then we started kissing. Few days later she came to my place, I said that I love her, she started crying telling me that she thought about it and it won't happen. For the next month I was drinking. Few days before christmas she came to me telling me that she wants to keep the contact. Since then we meet three times. Twice at my place and at this fucking New Years party. Right now I'm waiting for her. I have no clue what to do with this situation...
I want her to be my girl, she wants me to be her friend.
Good luck, OP.
Bumped into my ex and her new man on new years while I'm still lonely. Should have gone to a different party.
Im in the same boat. Met this girl and she finally noticed me, so I thought I was going to get a shot. She's basically using me and I let her, only because It's the only time she will reciprocate. Want to stop hanging out with her but..shits hard man. Has me in my feelings, very distracting.
I know it's hard man, but we have to do something. I think that today is the day. We hang out today but it's time to end it. I will call her and tell her that I can't live like that. But first I gotta buy some booze. It's going to be a long ass night.
What I said early is something you can do in the long term. >>6427526
But I would be flat out about the pain you're feeling. If you're in pain because she isn't treating you the way you want then say it. Don't be accusatory just express how you feel when she does certain things. If she is passing blame or making excuses, you have to leave.
Been there. Ex shows up occasionally at my place because of roommates being friends even though she is well aware she isn't welcome. She's with someone while I'm out in the cold.
It's for the better though, she was abusive.
I'm in pain becasue of my depression. I love her, and she doesn't feel the same thing. I think that she meets with me just beacause she's afraid I will do something to myself. We ain't together, she will never reciprocate my feelings. So what's the point? I thought that she might numb my pain but after she leaves I feel only worse. I think it's time to end that.
I thought about suicide everyday for 6 mo after it ended for me. It's not going to be easy.
What kept me going is not wanting to hurt my friends and the thought: "The best part about killing yourself is that you can always do it tomorrow."
I wallowed in my sadness/depression for a long time. Once I hit emotional rock bottom, I worked my way back to where I am. I still feel lonely but I try to change that by going out and working on personal hobbies/projects.
I feel your pain anon. Same shit is happening with me but she still wants to be friends /: my head is so full of fuck right now
>this pape counts right?
So guys... I did it. It's all over and I'm alone now. The best is yet to come, right?
I've been in a similar situation, and it was for the best.You stood up for yourself and in the end it will make you stronger.
No. It's going to be awful and you're going to regret your decision initially. It was the best thing to do though.
You're on the same road as me and many others so you're not alone just independent.
Lucky for you, you got your closure.
For me she just stopped talking to me.
Still kinda hurts even though it's been about 3 months since we broke.
I still have things to say but with all honesty I don't want her back I just want to have a last talk with her.
If I could go back in time I wouldn't have asked her out. I knew I was playing with fire when we were dating because we were very close friends before the relationship.
It sucks to lose someone but it hurts a lot more when it was someone you used to be very close with for 3 years and threw it all away for a relationship that lasted no more than 4 months.
I just miss our old friendship not the dating relationship.
Close friends don't fuck close friends.
Long post I know but I've never talked about it just something I needed to get out there.
Depends on you.
If you can contain yourself, skip page and start again another relationship without thinking of her, then I would recommend you to stay as friends.
But, in case you will still love her, it will harm you, so maybe distance is a good option.
It depends, bro. To me was hard when they rejected me as a boyfriend, but in some cases, when the girl has really impressed me for other qualities (not for their beauty), intelligence, humour sense, etc. then I have keeped them as friends and forgot of them about posible "targets", that's because they apported me something more than a beautiful face.
Shit happens, man. I'm sorry.
3 years are too much time, and if something I have learnt is that the more you wait the more difficult it is.
I have experienced the same myself. It's hard to believe how a relation of fire between friends can get cold as ice in just one momment.
>There's always this shitty feeling of hope that she will change her mind and be happy with me.
That never happens.
1) Yell at her and call her a cunt.
2) move on.
Pulling out the big "C" word makes for a clean break.
Think of it this way; Think of a chick you are not attracted to, that you don't want to be with. OK. Now, think of you "changing your mind" all of a sudden. Its not going to happen. Either someone wants you, or they don't.
My wife divorced me after six years, like we were 16 year old kids who were dating. It came out of the blue, with me thinking she was really the most interested party before that. Now, I would not give her the time of day if she was begging for it.
People only get back together in bad teen movies, or Lifetime movies of the week. People don't "change their mind." They might want to use you again, when they are bored, but they never "change their mind."
You deserve someone who actually WANTS you; You won't find that pining away for someone who doesn't.
You can't be "friends" with someone you still want. Get that person out of your life. They are poison.
Closure? What closure? She told me that we can stay here in a place where she has everything and I just wait for the bits and pieces of attention. I know that I'm nowhere near the point in which I can give advices to someone but, talking to her won't make you feel better. Or maybe just for a moment like it was in my case. But when she's gone it will hurt as fuck.
It took me six weeks of binge drinking to forget about her. Then she came back giving me the same shit I was trying to escape from. So I guess now I have to drink for twelve weeks to forget about her. Being friends is not an option. >>6429354
Yeah. I'm not going to yell at her and I'm not going to disparage her. She treated me like shit but I still love her. But everything else that you have written really gets to me. And I want to thank you for that. Will it be to much if I ask you to tell more about your story?
For what you say, anything will change her mind and you can't get her out of yours. Is time to move on and forget her. If distance or no contact at all is needed, do it.
Alcohol is fine, but remember is not the solution. Heavy drinking won't help you.
Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.
Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart may stand in the sun, so must you know pain.
And could you keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your life, your pain would not seem less wondrous than your joy;
And you would accept the seasons of your heart, even as you have always accepted the seasons that pass over your fields.
And you would watch with serenity through the winters of your grief.
Much of your pain is self-chosen.
It is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self.
Therefore trust the physician, and drink his remedy in silence and tranquillity:
For his hand, though heavy and hard, is guided by the tender hand of the Unseen,
And the cup he brings, though it burn your lips, has been fashioned of the clay which the Potter has moistened with His own sacred tears.
When love beckons to you, follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams
as the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.
Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God's sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life's heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.
I've got to say, this is one of the kindest threads I've seen. I've always known /wg to be a pretty friendly board, but this is some comforting stuff. Thank you to everyone who has contributed so far. I'm buring the remains of a break-up, so these were nice to read.
Kudos to anons, good luck in your battles.
found out my former best friend is dating my ex... wouldn't sting so damn much if they weren't a perfect match
To all those anons with broken hearts, as long as you're moping over that one girl it will only blind your opportunities around you. Move on. Start a hobby. Do something to get her out of your head.
[spoiler]Took me 8 months to realize that...[/spoiler]
I am not OP, but I know this to be true, but I give up anyway. It's not worth trying. It's never worth getting close. Human life is so devalued in this day and age that the struggle isn't worth fighting for anymore.
Oh man...how many moths do you had whit her?..
Sorry for that
Thanks for the WP hurts so much.
Womans are weird.
And more or less that happen to me, we said "i love you" we hanged out, and you know those things...
But someday she asked me if i love her. I said yes and she said sorry...
I leave her for 6 months, i didnt talked whit she.
But some friend tell us if we want to hang out and we said yes.
An the day happened. And it didnt wnd well...
Thanks for the support anon
That WP broke my heart
This remember to this
"Be w̶h̶i̶t̶ someone that makes you happy"
I think its time to forget what happened before, and live the future, cuz my life isnt going good for depression
Man....you are in love...just take care, sometimes it can hurts so much and ruin everything if you have another problems. Just take care.
Good luck anon.
Things will get better anon. You will find the true love
In this relationship really never existed mutual love. It was just my imagination. She never loved me
When i try i fall again, i have a weak heart, i cant forget her...it sucks...
I will try to focus on school and dont think in love again for a long time
Thanks for the support,means so much.
I tried many times...
Same here anon...same here...after some moths of "love"...
Thanks for the WP
Oh man....that hurts so much...
Just try to live your life, enjoy the little good things of the life
You did it good. Anybody can play whit the feelings of the other.
Its hurts so much, but its the best for you. Pain is temporaly
Love for compassion isnt love...
Im on the same way....the only thing that keeps me going is the support of some virtual firends and interent. Real life sometimes suck and friends or family dont help...
Let it go if its still hutrs
>Any WP count, thanks
There is someone out there that love you, just go to find it and be patient.Oh, and a important thing. Never give up.
Dont lose the hope.
The third is be someone that makes you happy.
Thanks for the WP
We are here for you man.
Lose a relationship like that its hurtful. And even more if it was a 3 years one...
If you need something im here for you man.
Much love for you. I hope it cheers up you
These words hurts "It's hard to believe how a relation of fire between friends can get cold as ice in just one momment."
I just want to foward the time...
Not all the people on internet are like some people says
And i can say sometimes people on iterent are better than the people in real life
I hope you get better of your break-up
And thanks for the support
Its from a movie? I want to se the scene
Oh man...two ex in a same post means so much pain...
Love for you
Its hard because you arent in mood but its the best option
>WP of my virtual love the only woman that really loves me
I just fucked it all up. She doesn't want to talk to me, she even cancelled our date for the weekend. Don't know what I did...
>Crush has a party
>Told crush that I liked her
>Crush kissed me and told she felt the same
>Her neighbour comes, ask for cigarette.
>They all go outside for a smoke
>5 min later I came outside, saw the neighbour and her cuddling
>She didn't want it
>Push neighbour away, he grabs my throat
>I punch him in the face twice
>Broke his tooth
>Crush is scared of me
I really fucked up.
I'll be posting here sporadically while at work From my tablet. want a place to vent under variants Of the name Warsaw.
Cheer up, anon.
At least you've been there and what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.
Look forward to a better tomorrow
hey just wanna comment to say im a similar situation and i feel you all, at least im not the only one.
i have had 3 bad relationship this past year and desu they left me consumed, 1 girl liked me but was crazy, the other one i liked her but wasnt able to fuck her right so she ditch me also meet her few days before new year with new boyfriend, and last girl everything was going great we had great sex she liked me i really liked her, all i would want of woman, till sudenly she says dont fall in love and dont meet never again also worst part i have to see her everyday at work.
sorry if some1 read that but i had to vent a little too :(
Like I said, no clue. When I asked her today if she was coming the 7'th or the 8'th she responded with "I'll be arriving the 11'th with a friend"
So I said "So, the date's off?" and she just said "yes"
She's not my girlfriend or anything we've just been dating for a while, and we both celebrated christmas with our families so we haven't seen each other in a while. And in a matter of days she went from texting me every other day to barley answering me. It sucks cuz I really like her...
Well it sucks mate. Maybe she found someone else? I know it's painful but if she doesn't have the guts to tell you that then you deserve someone better. If I could I would buy you a beer.
I'm the >>6428690 guy but I kinda fucked it up. She called me later that day. And we started talking about our relation. I still know shit about what's between us but I think that I'm gonna keep hanging out with her. Eventually she will find someone that she will love, and I will be left behind with a hole in my heart.
Thanks man, I think this is the case as well, since it was around new years eve she became more and more absent in her respones, I just wish she could tell me what's up so I can move on. And as an advice to you I'd say it's smarter not to be around her too much you know. I went through something similar two years ago, I joined the army (cliché, I know) and just stayed as far away from home, and her, as I could.
Anons here tell me to stop meeting with her, my friends tell me the same thing. Hell, even some strangers at new years eve came to me and told me that I should get over her. But I'm just to dumb to understand that in few weeks/months I will suffer. But having her close allows me to relax, chill, and it gives me this feeling like we're the only people alive. Nothing else matter. It's going to hurt af...
Well, maybe hanging out with her for a while isn't that bad, if it makes you feel better. Just tell yourself that it's over and eventually she might just become a friend.
Just remember that when you're not around her, occupy yourself with something to get her out of your mind.
It's Warsaw. long day. I was just reminded of the time when after dating a girl for a little over a Year She became very cold and distant. She wanted to go open, It wasn't until much later learned it was because she wanted to partake in a threesome with another girl and guy.
She basically wanted to participate in a 3 some but she didnt communicate this wit me at all about it, but I didn't find out about That until I Started Sleeping with the girl who participated in the 3some almost a year later,
My best friend at the time,who was a girl, was getting mad because She felt that my girlfriend was taking advantage of Me. My gf Stopped Sleeping with me and eventually started acting brazenly in public, like making out with other guys in Public (the relationship status was Supposed to be on the down low). Like, It was to the point where my Biffle was getting mad on my behalf ( I was just beaten down and dejected at this point soI kind a stopped caring.).
l started fucking a few other women then eventually broke up with her. Ex didn't like that, so she painted me out to be some abusive overly Sexual male who was emotionally abusive and putting her at risk for STDs and shit. which was hypocritical because she fucked 2 or 3 times as many guys as I did. I slept alone in her bed more often than not.
Eventually, shortly after the breakup, best friend became really close with my ex and of course, sided with her. So not only did I lose my first Serious relationship, which was entirely fucked but I also lost a really close friend, and the worst part was I did So much for my bag friend, and stood up to so many people talking Shit about her, I stood OP for her in near physical altercations, just for her to fucking leave me and befriend someone wbo fucked me up pretty good.
I saw a picture of the two them posing together on NYE. It doesn't hurt as Much as It used to, but losing someone that I went through so much with and for, for so long, really beat me up for a long time.
fave band tho
I myself like being always sad, keeps my life interesting. One step closer to breaking down every day, but still, midly interesting so it keeps rolling.
This girl i knew for the past 3 years but had only hung out with twice came to visit me at my uni in the fall because our schools were playing each other.
We had some deep conversations over those two times we hung out, shes mighty damaged by her parents and something that happened to her at her school apart of her old bestfriends fraternity pledging. She told me she didnt believe in love and all that.
Anyways, she made the 8 hour drive and I kissed her for the first time and she got mad that i hadnt done it earlier and then the second night asked me what we were and said i was the only guy to give her butterflys in the past 3 years. i told her i really liked her too.
she left the next day.
havn't heard from her sense.
This pape is pretty much what i tell myself
Believe it or not, anon, I was once in your situation.
The only difference was her name.
What's going to happen?
First, you're going to be a fucking mess.
This will last a week to a month, depending on your friends.
I recommend as much social activity with them as you can manage. Movies, video games, /tg/-approved activities, just hanging out.
Minimize alone time.
Second, you're going to have a lot of feels.
You're already experiencing that.
How are the feels different from being a mess?
Well, the reason you're a mess is because you're miserable.
The feels are all the other shit. Missing her, wanting her, hating her, the what-ifs, the empty space,
the things you think of and experience that you're used to sharing with her every day, but now you can't.
It's awful. If you're a fitizen, pour it into your exercise.
Pump up your tunes and shatter your records.
If you don't like that kind of thing, at least start running.
You need some physical activity to burn off the feels.
At home, let yourself indulge.
There's no shame in eating your feelings for a couple of weeks.
(Ben & Jerry's and Taco Bell were my weaknesses.)
The next step is the rebound.
DO NOT GIVE IN TO THIS IMPULSE.
You will want to prove that you're over her as soon as possible, by finding someone else.
THIS IS A TERRIBLE DECISION. You will regret it. WAIT.
You've been with her for a long time, and at a point in your life that was supposed to be formative and discovery-based.
You need time to figure out who you are without her. Rule of thumb is one month for every year you were together, plus one for good luck.
That's eight months for you. MINIMUM. Do not engage any romance or sex during this period.
She left you. It happens. Better now than later, would have been nicer sooner.
You won't ever be over her completely. But eventually, you'll be able to go whole days without thinking of her at all. And that'll be progress.
It gets better, anon. For now, focus on you.
jesus fuck my 11 yr oneitis did the same shit.
I finally worked up the nerve to make a move on her, made her cum, she said I was the only guy to make her do that from head, then cuddled her. She didn't return the favor, said bye, and that was 8 months ago. 5 months ago while on skype she told me we never dated because I was the only guy to make her feel that way, butterflies and shit and how she was always nervous around me and that's why she was scared to date me. She basically proclaimed her love for me. Might have even said it. I can't remember, we were talking alte. She said how she felt like it was easy, the easiest relationship she ever had was that night she spent with me.
That was 5 months ago over the phone and I haven't heard from her since. She wasn't just my oneitis, she was my a really close friend, and is my oldest friend. No fb, doesn't respond to texts. *shrug*
Hurts. Every female in my life is shitty. Even my mother.
I haven't had a single positive female person in my life in my life.
"I love you <3", she said.
"...and then, I guess she just forgot."
namefagging to keep track
>>6428777 Holy Fuck. I thought this thread was gone.
Let it die. Being friends is like keeping a dead pet. Things need to end. It's a shame really, always is.
Cut all contact with her. My ex likes to pretend that she totally didn't drive me into the void. I've actually developed a nihilistic view on life because of how awful I felt >>6428556
Not to be cold hearted but it's not as magical as that. There are many one's and they're all imperfect just like you. Just be sure to be a quality person that you can be proud of.
You did the fucking right thing holy shit. Anon, I am proud. I would give you a big hug if you were here. It's super understandable that she's scared, I've been there but you just need to tell her a few things:
>I will never hurt you
>I did what I did to keep you safe
>You are vary important to me
3+ crazy girls deep. That's ignoring the high school era of dating crazies. I would say it gets better but I haven't dated a regular girl. Take the independent advice I said earlier>>6428556
No. Do not let the pain fester by seeing her.
If it's not developing into a relationship then stop. And yes it will hurt.>>6428777
Sounds psychotic to me. If a woman ever cheats on you, LEAVE. No ifs ands or buts. IT'S DONE.
Life is hard and unfair sometimes. You really didn't do anything to deserve that.
Gonna agree with >>6431399 here. Sounds kind of like my past relationship. It went bad.
I hope for the best. Based on how you described it, you are handling it admirably.
Be strong is all I can really say.
It's a little funny since I'm currently not taking my own advice:
I've known the girl for a few months now and hung out a few times and she is something special compared to other girls I've recently been seeing. She brings positive feelings out of me that otherwise are overshadowed. I suggested making dinner for her but she was too busy and now she's with family for a while. I asked her to a double date with her friend+bf. She said no since she is still is hurt from her last relationship (3 years ago).
I've distanced myself emotionally but I still want to see her in the hopes that she will come around. My gut feeling is that she is too afraid to try again unless there is something she can be sure about.
I need some advice.
just be a friend to her and expect nothing of it. if at some point she decides she wants it, beuno. If something else comes along first, go for it.
if its painful to be just friends cut it off.
"Namefagging" just like SleepyDog
All I can think of is that you have to wait. Be there for her but don't be obtrusive. Sometimes not doing anything is the best option. If shes interested she will finally agree to this dinner.
I'm the guy that posted all of these:
And now I need some advice. I'm going to meet her today. And I really don't know what to do. Should I just sink into feeling, and kiss, cuddle, lay in bed with her. Or should I tell that this gotta end and we should never speak again.
latter. stringing it out farther seems like it would just kill you. did the same thing with a girl for 6 years. moving on sucks ass but the alternative limbo is orders of magnitude worse.
Womans are the most weird thing in the world.
Try to be happy
Oh man...Try to calm down next time. And talk whit her. Good luck.
I try...i really try
Oh man :( sad stories.
Try to be alone for a while. look for you and be happy.
Much love for you, if you need to talk im here to read you
Oh that hurts...more or less like my situation, just stop the love, it will kill you. "There are other fishes in the sea."
Take care, love is painful.
Just ont make anything that can hurt you...if you know what i mean...
Damn. Looks like it has been decided for you.
I could try explaining her but what's the point? It's not going to work anyway. I've been doing nothing besides thinking about it for the past few days. Even when I'm at work I cannot stop thinking about her. I would do anything to have something certain in my life.
You should tell her. Even if you are saying you don't want anything from her. Just get your relief, you will be satisfied in the future, and it won't be a "i wish i tried" or "i wish she knew".
Holy shit guys, just found this thread. Good shit. Lots of terrible stories and broken hearts, I'm glad I'm not alone. This great makes me feel kind of better to see all of you guys talking about it and comforting each other. I think this is the nicest thread I have ever found on 4chan. I love /wg/.
Actually that doesn't pertain to what you "want" however I would like to say this and it's a quote from Louie:
"If you're not fucking the cow, it's not your cow,"
If she doesn't consider it a relationship then she will leave you in the cold as soon as she finds someone she wants a relationship with.
You gotta learn to love and let go
If you love someone you can set them free they might come back
It's worked for me at least
Still though you should really tell her how you feel or else its gonna be like >>6432063
It's good to get these things off your chest or you'll just be carrying around that mental weight around with you until you forget about it.and find someone else who catches your interests
Shit I red while going through some shitty breakup
it helped me, thought maybe it would help him
>I care for you
I care for you enough to keep you around to satisfy my own needs
>It's not that simple
I don't want a relationship even though we're essentially already doing that. If there's someone else I want to fuck, I don't want to be held down.
>We have such a great time together
I have a great time and use that to fill the hole I have until I find a guy who I would want to date, not you though (See: It's not that simple)
I can understand that you're not ready but there will never be a time when you feel you are. Just keep that in mind.
thank you dude, i think im making progress, but seeing here every morning doesn't help, i just keep trying to figure out what went wrong but i guess ill never know, lately whenever i start to think about here i force my head thinking "just forget here" but is hard.
i also cant believe how she can change feeling so suddenly and don't care anymore.
like other anon said would had been nice to know what happened so i can move on.
i just want to have a regular relationship for once but i believe know i was not made for having normal relationships, i am the kind of a samurai or cowboy, no love for me, just myself.
sorry for the typo i meant *her
also i believe im the problem in my relations but i don't know what im doing wrong so i cant fix it.
My crush went to japan and didn't ever came back. I have no news of her. Sorry to hear that OP.
Pic related. It could be her doing her life a lazy weekend in nagoya
Wow... Leave /wg/ for a bit and find shit like this. Warms my heart
I really don't have much to add, other than a few papes and a bump from some guy that was in the same position as many of you not too long ago.
It seems hopeless now, but things tend to work themselves out if you put some effort into it... eventually. Shit's tough. Best of luck
I won't say it's easy. It isn't. It sure fucking isn't. But you need to let that shit go.
You'll drown in your own pain while being with her. Might as well drown in the pain of getting over her.
My Ex broke up with me back in November right before thanksgiving. We have been together for 6 years. She depended on me for years because she didn't have a car all these years and we had a great run until she moved in with her new roommate in October. He's a good looking guy that likes the same shit she does and he lifts. I've been working two jobs to put myself through school, but looks like she just stopped being interested. Breakups are a bitch and the world is a cold and fucked up place. Almost reconsidered my major. I hated people that much. I'm in nursing. Still pushing forward, still lifting and bettering my life and pushing through school. /fit has been helping tremendously. We're all going to make it. It sucks so much ass, but we'r all going to make it
I think it's time for some motivation. If that's not your vibe (It certainly isn't when I hate the world and feel alone, then go to a baww thread and then come back here.
Motivation Papes for days....
I hope one of these sticks for you guys and pulls you up. Starting with a tie into baw.
I'll post some more tomorrow. Goodnight you sad fucks <3
Shit, guys. I just came here for some good wallpapers, not for these feels.
But I do want to ask, how do I stop being so emotionally distant from everyone? I'm just always afraid to reach out for fear of being a nuisance, and I know it's an irrational fear, But all the same, how do you work past that?
In all seriousness. It's a gradual process. You do it by opening up a little, being a little more honest about your day, something that's been on your mind, stuff like that.
Don't complain, just express grievances. Know the difference. And choose the right people for the right things you want to open up with. What you tell your lover is different from what you would tell your friends
I drink. I got wasted yesterday. Sitting in my class, trying to talk my friends to do something later. Go shopping or just to grab some food. Nobody was eager. So I went by myself to watch Creed (polish distributors, eh) and then when I came back I drank the shit outta myself. The best sleep in weeks. Going to meet with her later today.
Well it's good she knows. It's also good you know that the right thing to do is to end it. The bad thing is that you're not ready and worst of all, you probably won't be.
I hate to be the one to say it but >>6434056
is somewhat accurate.
Right now you're being taken for granted.
She's not fully appreciating the fact that you're there for her and feeling for her.
You're only around because she wants to keep you around. The ball is and always will be in her court.
Sadly anon I feel like you're just filling an emotional hole and being used.
I don't know who you are anon but like we've all heard before, "you deserve better".
How long have you known her for?
You keep your pencil sharp. Go out and meet other people and date other people. You can still like her and date other people, but show her you have value with women. Don't let her control your emotions or value by placing your worth in how she treats you or talks to you. GO OUT AND DATE. When she sees women value your company she will crawl back with a convo on how she doesnt like it. Tell her to her face, "I DON'T PLAY GAMES". Either she wants to be with you or your dating other people. Tell her anon, your not going to wait for someone that isn't there.
I cringed reading the part about her moving in with her roommate.
It's crazy how cold some females hearts can be right?
Fuck her anon
Best thing is you don't sound like those other anons who sit in self pity and sorrow.
Keep pushing and become a better person.
That's what I like to hear. Keep lifting and pushing forward.
You're damn right it sucks but we'll make it.
Embrace the struggle.
In public we do nothing. As I'm thinking right now we probably don't even speak when we see each other at the uni. And when we do, she's pissed at me for some stupid thing. When we're at my place we kiss, cuddle, play games, sleep together. No sex though. It's fucking dumb cause all our friends know abouth that thing between us.
Damn man you're in a rough patch.
Do you know what you do that usually pisses her off?
Sucks that there's no sex but sometimes sex isn't the solution.
It can actually ruin the relationship.
Friends don't fuck friends.
Guys, I have been following this thread and commenting on it.
I just wanna tell you something,
I LOVE YOU.
Seriously, no matter who you are if we know each others or not, you are here when I seek some feels. And you shares your stories here as I do.
Thanks, you make me feel at home.
thanks...but i just want her to love me....
but your welcome and any time buddy
Thanks for sharing and trying to help out. You guys are really helping me find balance amidst all that's happening
Met with my ex-fiance over the summer. She left me while I was away during my time in the Navy. Said she wanted to have a proper goodbye. Had a meal where we had our first date, then went to a motel, had sex, went over memories.. god it was perfect. She said she wanted to see me again, and we made plans to see each other many times over the following two weeks. She bailed on all of them. I love that girl more than life itself, but sometimes you gotta take a deep breath, go deadpan, and tell her to go fuck herself. Don't text her. Don't take her calls. Don't call her. If she doesn't want you, she doesn't want you. Someone else will. You don't need to try to hang on to someone who only drags you down. Find someone who is willing to sacrifice for you. Not this fickle bitch. You'll be okay, OP. Just tell her to go fuck herself.
Been listening to some old tunes that helped me to get through the last breakup. And there I found that one line that's stuck now in my head: "Is a whore's lies worth dying for?"
If that's the game she's playing then avoid her.
Yet she talks to other guys in front of you with no guilt. You've fallen for a fucking sociopath or a woman if you're cynical enough. Just leave dude. We've been telling you this for a week.
I have more pride for you than 10,000 packs of lions.
We've given you the answer.
By the way, Mount Erie's Moon is the best break up album I've ever listened to.
Tell her to never contact you again and listen to the album. Wallow in sadness. Then move on.
There's a motivational thread floating around. Check it out for more.
Damn guys. Reading this entire thread has left me in awe.
There is one thing that none have mentioned unless I missed it or unless you already know this. But, there are other women guys. Get over the one that is poisoning you and making you feel like shit to the point where you have to drink your sorrows away or even consider the option of suicide. Fuck that man!
Become better. Look at why it may have been your relationships have failed you and what it is that you can do to improve yourself. Learn from your mistakes. No matter what, there are mistakes. Be it something you did on your end or for being with a chick that has qualities you find unattractive or unfathomable.
That is the step to socializing and meeting others. If you hang on to that one piece of shit, then you yourself will become a piece of shit and stay a piece of shit. You are not moving on, you are not improving yourself, you are not growing. When you FUCKING SHOULD.
I know to many, changing can be quite difficult. But, it is a necessity at times. And its never too late. It may be too late for the "relationship", but not for you. Change! Stop moping. Brooding. Crying. Hurting. Instead, laugh, play games, lift weights, rock out with your cock out to music or whatever, meet other women and when you meet said women, learn from them what it is they like about you and what you like about them. Because that perfect bitch is somewhere and you all know it.
Be strong anons. I am being strong myself (yes... i habe shared your pain everyone). Doing shit for myself for once. Honestly, finding another one is not even priority at the moment. Could care less if I stay single the rest of my life. But if it comes it comes. Meeting, talking and bedding girls is easy. Its the winning them and keeping them that is always more challenging. Which one will be worth it though? :)
Yo man that some fucking shit.
I think you make her a little jealous or something.
A little jealousy never hurt anyone it's kinda cute but when it's overwhelming, shit hits the fan real fast.
I'm guessing that's her case but she playing games with you man.
I know it's pretty autistic, but I hate it when a sword is on a back. People's arms don't flex that way, you're fighting physics, and it's impossible to sheathe it.
If a sword was on a back, it was slung over the back sheathed for transport only, like how a sling works for a rifle, kinda. You didn't run into battle with the sheath on your back and you didn't try to sheathe it by blindly just poking a sharp and cumbersome metal stick over three foot long downwards towards your spine.
She came to me for like 10 minutes then she left for a party at our mutual friends place. I was not invited though. She invited me to meet her folks and eat dinner with them. She even said something about sleeping there. Dunno what to do.
Guys it's friggin awesome that I can talk with you, people whom I've never met. I want to thank you all really, really much. Thanks.
this is by far the most awesome thing I have seen on 4chan
I don't know if she likes me, but she seems disinterested, I don't want to leave though, she is everything I had been looking for
So, uh... I managed to end this. Now comes the hard part when I need to stop talking to her. Keep your fingers crossed guys.
Anyone in school. Fuck off and do that. Ignore the girl. Unless she's in your class then it's just gl;hf at the point.
I'm done namefagging, no longer needed.
I feel you bro. Met this girl during the summer and we spent everyday together working. Made a dumb promise that we would keep in touch after summer break was over. Started to have feelings for her, i was actually happy when i was with her, would get up everyday excited to see her. After summer break was over i told her how i felt. Her response was that she had feelings for another person and they were dating. Now i feel like shit cause i never break a promise, and if i talk to her i feel even worse. And everyday i have to control myself to not talk with her.
I think most of us have been trough similar shit.. Sorry to hear it anon..
My girl has depression and i've always been there for her.. We both had never dated before so we are each other's firsts, i've struggled with depression all my life and so did she.. But she never went to a shrink or anything so it's much worse, sometimes it feels like a huge burden, and sometimes she acts in a rather rude way towards me, i know she doesn't mean it.. But it hurts man..
Do what's better for you. Sometimes you gotta go back on your word. It's not your grandma that you promised to keep sending letters to; it's some girl who is doing her own thing it and you should do the same. If she gets offended by that then she feels something for you but it might not be romantic.
Dated a girl with PTSD, Depression, and DPD. Shit was work and I was not treated well. I felt rewarded when she wrote me a note saying I got her out of the darkest pit of her life.
She later developed abusive tendencies and left me after telling me I was like all the other (abusive) men in her life after I said I wanted to have sex and she didn't. I felt like scum for months.
Yet she stuck with the last guy despite cheating on her while abusing her anyway possible. I understand that she developed higher standards but fuck man, life isn't fair for anyone.
I loved her, and she loves me but she wants to be alone now, for a number of reasons. We met weeks later over dinner and she told me she slept with 2 people, one being her ex, then she tells me they had a connection we never had. I threw some money on the table, got up, and left. My memories keep me up at night, the thought of her coming back into my life keeps me from speaking to people while I'm out. I've been like this before, time heals. But jesus I can't take this madness right now.
Anyways pic related, may not be 'depressing' but its a rough sea of thoughts in my head.
There is this girl I've managed to get over but when I see her those feelings flood back, and since for a while we surrounded ourselves with each other's friends, she's always with my friends and now I'm just alone. There is this girl who works at a pharmacy about 10 minutes away and I'm trying to work up the courage to ask her out at some point rather than just talking to her.
Anyways, getting over that girl wasn't the easiest, in fact it proved to be really fucking difficult and its hard to avoid making rash decisions while your emotions pretty much control you. Every time I have trouble with women I sacrifice a part of my sanity to feel better again.
Something happened to me, I don't know /wg/ it was a good thing with her. But hey she wanted to end it, sadness.
But also hope, I just got out so much, felt like so much promise. Perhaps I am just wired different. I was told I was too independent and to concerned about myself. But it still hurts.
Rough seas make good sailors, my friend.
I'm in a similar boat.
She went back to her ex even though she knew it wasn't gonna work out.
Surprise, didn't work out and now she wants to be my friend and be single. I can barely deal with it. I'm gonna tell her I can't be around her in a couple of days. I just can't deal with living through the heart break every time I see her.
I don't know why I'm posting, this just caught my attention... Sometimes I think I am this heartless soul-less machine, you know because I use and take advantage of all manner of girls/women and knowingly make them cheat, Hell I'm probably the guy(type) that all these chicks are cheating on/being retarded with you over.
But then I come on here and read this shit:
And I feel this horrible empathy, and I genuinely care for you.
So I know I'm not all bad.
I'm rambling, and my post doesn't have a "point". But You guys deserve better, and no love is worth the agonizing doubt you probably feel now with people.
Stop wasting your time on fickle sluts.
I love you.
Pic is current bg
Despite what these threads are supposed to be, they always fill me with happiness because no matter what, you anons are always there for each other. No matter what problems stand in our way, no matter what misfortunes befall us, you guys are always there to help us back up. Thank you all you wonderful, wonderful bastards and here's to wishing you all a better tomorrow.
Reading this thread with this on the background made me feel hard.
I came here looking for a new wallpaper since I had to reformat my HDD but damn now I'm remembering things.
You're all going to grow up. You're all going to have the opportunity to, at least. You'll learn, over the course of an indeterminate number of years and indelicate hardships, how to strategically give up. No one owes you anything. No one is destined for anything. We are all the victims of a series of accidents. You may prove to be the villain when you figured yourself a hero. You will lose touch with people you've loved truly, and they'll never, never change their opinion of you. You'll meet up with old lovers and share your experience, laugh, and keep moving. Give up when it's time to do so. Let go. Look forward. Stay alive. Read as many books as you can. Be careful with social media. That stuff can help facilitate self-destructive behavior, and reduce you to a prowling, starving monster. Don't look any more into the life that you feel should have been yours. Don't look. Those are the words. Don't look. Don't forget, but never look at what she's up to now. This life is yours. They are gone forever, whoever they were you walked with in this life, but there is still you. Keep going. Love yourself. Tell the truth. Let go and live on. The human brain, when it is still young, has the nasty habit of tricking itself into believing that monogamy is a good idea. Very useful for reproductive purposes. You'll grow older and realize it's all right to be by yourself. It's either that or you'll grow up to be the hero in an epic French novel, burning the coals of old feeling until your head eats itself alive and you embark on miserable conquests of vengeance and morally bankrupt redemption.
Smoke weed every day. She's gone.
I am following your tl;dr advice. Have been for almost a year now, It's working great, but when a moment comes - when I'm not high - I realize how much everything has changed in that one year and it fills me with sadness & anger which won't go away until I get high again. it's a shitty advice, man.
don't smoke weed everyday if you feel sad, smoke it after you stop feeling sad.
I'm that anon, and I just thought I'd update you guys incase anybody was interested. Any way, I met her again yesterday and she spent the night here in my apartment. She left this morning and I could feel she wasn't interested in me any more, not sure why. She didn't tell me but she was acted like she was in a hurry to leave, we just kissed and like that she was gone. Not sure what I'll do now...
Maybe is not waht you want to hear.
Maybe you find my advice too simple.
But Anon, honestly, with all my feels:
Continue with your life and find another woman. As far as you have told us, that girl isn't good for you.
Good luck and best wishes.
I guess that is the most sensible thing to do, problem is we're in the same class at university meaning I have to see her every day. But thank you anon for your support, it's easier to talk to random people online than your friends