How do you go about explaining to your girlfriend what tabletop is and what you do when you go out for the night to play with the boys?
Or do you not even bother and just tell her you're going out for some drinks?
It's like acting or collaborative storytelling wherein we play there wizard, hobbits, Archer elf guy and dwarf from LotR and our friend Mark is the world we interact with and plays all the people we talk to and the orcs we kill.
Like a video game but with friends and fast more freedom in what we do and what it's about.
I've told my girlfriend several times I've run/played in RPGs and all she's done is say it sounds fun. I have no interest in someone who won't at the least accept the fact I like my hobbies.
That said, it's probably wise to table conversations about Elves and shit when on a first date with someone.
We go together and have fun trying to murder one another in d&d
Or we save each other from Carnifaxes by rolling 6s as sand people in 40k, then we jump up and scream like star wars sand people
It's nice to have the hobby together
Shouldnt really have to in a world where getting more information than you ever wanted about rps is more available than it has ever been.
If your gf cant handle google, try dating someone under 75.
You talk to her
You tell her about the fun you and your friends have.
You ask her to be patient with the huge time sink this involves. She most likely asks you to curtail the time (jealousy/envy), or even asks to participate.
You as a human being deal with life. Possibly as an adult.
Grow the fuck up and learn how to adult. Goddamn
>Is it only for sex?
Not worth it
>Is it for emotional aspect?
Still not worth it
Basically you want someone with who you could be best bud for life, you know each other bad point but it doesn't matter because you enjoy each other company, you don't need to agree on everything, you can talk shit about each other and while you might get in a real fight every once in a while you know it'll be fine because it happened before and will happen in the future.
Someone in a relationship of 10 years though we were friend since kindergarten
Same way I explain my vidya addiction. Better this than coming home drunk from the pub every weekend. I don't question her hand bag and cosmetics expenditure, she don't question my hobbies.
It is like a video game but where you actually have to go outside and interact with people face to face. It also involves using your imagination, reasoning, and math skills instead of mindlessly pushing the same set of buttons endlessly.
>explaining to your girlfriend what tabletop is
She gets it, and she couldn't care less. Also, she plays MMOs herself, and she knew I was huge nerd from day 1, so it's not like she can really complain. If anything, she's envious that I have RL friends and she doesn't.
>Having an SO who doesn't approve of your hobbies
>Letting miserable people take away the things you love
Step it up. If you want an SO that badly, we have the internet. You can find someone who doesn't hate your hobbies.
Relationships today have a ton of media induced baggage before they even happen. Everyone has so many ideas in their heads about who they're supposed to be, what they deserve, and what makes a person, but it's all junk. Our biology demands procreation, but we keep inventing rules and conditions. Going by that I don't know a single successful family.
No, life is what happens in the meantime. Get out of your head and do what you feel like. If people don't like it they will tell you to stop. Only listen to them if they are who you are doing things with. No one else gets a say.
> If anything, she's envious that I have RL friends and she doesn't.
Not my business but that's a little depressing. You should invite her to your gaming sessions.
It would really depend on your girlfriends personality and perspective on life.
Personally I would own it and just say you and some friends get together occasionally and eat, drink, talk about your lives and play make believe for a few hours. If you can say it confidently then most people will accept it even if they don't get the appeal or disapprove.
If she is more serious/less willing to tolerate 'childish' behavior then I would compare it to getting together with your friends to play board games or video games except with a focus on co-operative narrative building.
something to the effect of "I play role playing games. Like dungeons and dragons." I boil it down to the lowest common denominator. It doesn't matter if I'm playing D&D, 40k, or Maid. I keep it simple, because every idiot knows what D&D is, and trying to explain any particular world is a dozen pallets of worm-filled cans.
1. I don't have a girlfriend
2. Even if I did, I would probablly be playing tabletops with her because I don't date normies
3. Even if I did date a normie, I would just tell her that I was playing TRPGs with some people. If she cares so much she can ask me straight up
>unironically using "normies"
the only trash here is you, anon.
Hmm, so that's what that pic is. I knew it was ostensibly tied to Dark Souls but I just thought it was really, really funny so I have it saved to the Paladin folders in both my computers.
I always loved "Implacable Smite Machine" jokes.
>go out for the night to play with the boys
First, you don't tell her this is what you're doing unless you're into that and she's okay with it.
Instead you simply explain to her what it is you're going to go do. You ask her if she's interested. With coherent sentences like you've been taught your whole life.
Regardless of her answer you go have a good time.
What is it with you guys and having shit-tier girlfriends?
How culturally shallow is she if she does not understand and know about the concept of tabletop/wargaming/boardgaming/roleplaying?
And how emasculated are you if you're ashamed of it to the point where you're actually discussing the idea of lying to your girlfriend?
What the fuck?
No such thing as normal person activities.
The closest thing to "normal" would be the people who do fuckall with their life, maybe hang in bars or watch sports or like movies or TV series. Maybe they bitch and moan about family drama (often their own fault) and shit that pisses them off.
In short, they're boring.
It shouldn't be that hard to find an SO who does more than that shit, preferably with some obsession/deep hobby. Knitting seems pretty cool if you're into that, then there's painting, writing, creating music and so on. Heck, even video games can work.
>Not my business but that's a little depressing. You should invite her to your gaming sessions.
Not that anon, but as someone with the same problem, yeah, it is. My group isn't IRL, sadly, but I do have a few IRL friends, my girlfriend doesn't, really.
The OP is a shitty topic, we should discuss how to actually engage our girlfriends that sorta needs it. Not because of some need to get into "our" hobby, but because they need to get some friends.
Been trying to get her to join us for ages but she says she's too shy, and then she baaaws over not having friends here. :|
My own girl is in a similar boat; a long-term abusive ex of hers basically killed most of her social life outside of her immediate family. She's shy, but not antisocial and I've already introduced her to my regular game night friends when we got together to play Smash-up. They all hit it off, which is good.
sadly I don't think the relationship is going to work out, so I'm hesitant on inviting her to future stuff like our planned Fate game.
>Been trying to get her to join us for ages but she says she's too shy, and then she baaaws over not having friends here.
Try gathering up some of your IRL friends for a game and host it at your place. Doesn't necessarily need to be an RPG, could just be fun card games or even a movie night. But being in a safe and familiar environment might make her more comfortable about meeting your friends
Easy. Here's the conversation:
I'm going to "Tuesday Night D&D" with the guys
>Okay, don't drink too much beer. I'm going to book club
K, don't get all fucked up drinking wine with your Aunt
>I won't. Come over after?
Then we lie in bed and I tell her her book sounded boring/girly and she tells me that my sesh sounded complicated and rambling. I think it's good that we share openly about our hobbies without forcing the other into hobbies they may not enjoy.
guys, its really simple. Take if from me, the experienced guy on the internet.
I have had many relationships where the girl didn't know what TRPGs were. 2 were serious.
One of the serious ones HATED trpgs. I lied to her about what I was doing, and it made for problems. We broke up later for unrelated reasons, and she has since converted and now plays D&D 3rd edition.
I am currently in a relationship with a formal normal girl, who had no idea what I was talking about when I said I was doing table top RPGs and said it wasn't D&D. She is the best and most dedicated player in all of the campaigns I am in / run, a hardcore D&D fanatic now and passionately believes that the Edge of the Empire character she runs is blessed by the elder gods with critical success in all attempts.
You win some and you lose some. My love of gaymin, a problem in one relationship, was a blessing in another that has strengthened our connection.
Its random, but stick to who you are. Just be honest and explain it as far as she is willing to listen. =)
The other day I saw my father, a man who has been playing RPGs his entire life, pretend he didn't know something RPG related that came up in conversation. Why? To appear more credible to his wife of 30 goddamn years.
You have to own your interests OP. Don't be like him.
All of my female friends are either dead or have forgotten about me and I am not gay. The fuck do I do? Is there some way to make a new childhood friend that shares my interests in my 20s?
Alternatively, how long until I can completely ignore reality for long periods of time and slot BTL chips directly into my brain or play virtual reality sims?
I play them with her, though she does get a little salty when I beat her at X-wing. It's not my fault if you run Biggs and a B-wing and fly around in formation doing green moves all the time, darling.
no anon seriously. I've thought about it, and I don't understand how.
If she/he were socially retarded, where did you meet them, how did you get to know them, how did you fall for them, how did you interact and go on dates and shit.
>All of my female friends are either dead or have forgotten about me and I am not gay. The fuck do I do? Is there some way to make a new childhood friend that shares my interests in my 20s?
Meet new people, talk with them hang out with them and most important of all be honest with them. Don't get tricked by your emotions, nor should you expect much, you're looking for someone that will accept most if not all of what you are and this kind of relationship is slow to build. That's mostly the difference we have with older people, once they hooked up it was in most case for life so you made do while now a large part of marriage end at the first hardships.
tl;dr Go out and meet people, be honest with them. Then it's like a tree it's pretty easy to kill at first but after some time it'll take conscious effort to destroy it.
>A new childhood friend
Possible, but you might end up on a government watch list.
As for your other question, you can start doing VR shit right now, if you've got the money or clout. And if you don't mind extremely limited games. I'd wait until the end of the year at least, though.
Not poster, but those are some true words man. Implying you need to ease your significant other into something you enjoy implies you think it's wrong to do it.
We're adults man (some of us). Part of maturity is accepting people for who they are. If your guy/girl can't accept you for wanting to do more than zone out during a movie, to want to actually me a little interactive with the storytelling, mayhaps they aren't right for you?
That being said, my wify and I play all the time. One of the reasons I married her
It doesn't take ten years to lose weight.
Unless you're obese by like 0,5 kg * 52 weeks * 10 years.
Even if we take into account fuckups and setbacks, you shouldn't need ten years to be not-fat.
>How do you go about explaining to your girlfriend what tabletop is and what you do when you go out for the night to play with the boys?
We don't cohabit so I'm unsure why I'd bother.
Yeah cos the dudes in this hobby are real fucking catches.
Boardgames and vidya are so commonplace that you usually can make simple extrapolation from them.
Unless you're dating Amish girl, and in that case you probably have more important things that need to be explained.
>Our biology demands procreation, but we keep inventing rules and conditions. Going by that I don't know a single successful family.
Feels good to have a stable family that supports itself from within with love, compassion, kindness and mutual faith in our Lord Jesus Christ.
Funny how the things you think are interesting are all things that don't require social interaction, while almost everything you think is boring involves other people to some degree.
I met my girlfriend through tabletop. I played a Blackguard, she played a Paladin, and our characters kept trying to convert each other.
> and trying to explain any particular world is a dozen pallets of worm-filled cans.
>"i pretend to be a cute French maid"
>"or sometimes I'm a militant racist religious zealot"
>"no wait where are you going"
I explained it a bit, saying it's like improvisation theater.
When I play it's usually at my house so she's there. She watch TV show or something with her headphone when we play or she does other thing but try not to disturb us and ocasionnally smile or laugh when we do stupid shit
Not that anon, but it's a meme in the original sense, i.e., a bit of culture that gets transmitted rapidly and spreads outward like a disease (though it may be harmful or useful). "Meme" was meant to suggest the word "gene" originally.
"Gene" as in DNA. Genes are physical traits that perpetuate themselves by getting passed on to the next generation (by aiding reproduction and getting passed on or just not being harmful enough to completely hinder reproduction).
Memes are societal traits that perpetuate themselves by getting passed on to the next generation (by being catchy enough to be repeated).
>she said she doesn't like tanks and stuff, but big monsters
It was couple years ago, right? Because presently the top choice for big monstrous creatures would be Tau or some such.
I feel compelled to argue otherwise but I can't since I just paused an episode of a yuri anime full of gay and fragile girls to see what the new posts in this thread were.
I wish I was gay and fragile.
Go military or something where you can learn a useful trade, since there are plenty of blue collar and white collar things you can learn to do there. And then be humble once you get back into the civilian world. As much as, assuming fellow Clapistani, people like to say "thank you for your service," nobody actually gives a shit and bringing it up constantly is really annoying.
Where did you fuck up such that target is the apex of your career trajectory
>How do you go about explaining to your girlfriend what tabletop is..
She has her own collection of games and her own groups that she plays with. No need.
Also, this is Sweden, so basicly everyone that's not consumed by some extreme local cultureal nisch knows alreadyt what larping and rpgs are.
>meet Balkan girl
>explain what tabletop games are
>she gets upset because she grew up in a warzone and tanks and such understandably trigger her
>we don't get very far
My friend was a peacekeeper there and said I probably dodged a landmine. Get it? The Balkans are full of landmines. Hahahahahah I'm going to die alone.
How the fuck would I know "how I go about" when I've only had to explain it once, which happened some time years ago I can't recall because we weren't even together at the time and it was no big deal then and isn't now?
I don't have a girlfriend right now, just a fuckbuddy I met in one of my classes, always with thick glasses and a beanie. She knows all about my tabletop group because
she's the DM
She's a supporting character from Seconds, the newer book by the guy who did Scott Pilgrim.
I guess OP is using that pic to imply she's a player's girlfriend walking in on a group and being shy/confused by the situation.
Amusing to me, since in the comic
she's the "believer" character who has to explain to the protagonist that what's going on in her life might be because of supernatural folklore stuff.
I don't have a girlfriend. I've never even been kissed. Come February I'll be 26.
I've given up. Might as well accept it.
If she doesn't ask there's no need to explain, as she probably doesn't care.
If she does ask explain to her that it's like telling a story as a group, with the Game Master is the narrator and each Player in the game dictates the actions of one of the characters in said story.
That's how I explain it to anyone who asks, and everybody's gotten it so far.
Some are confused as to the purpose of the rules, and that's simply explained as:
The rules are there to govern what each character's strengths and weaknesses are, along with how difficult certain tasks are; how complicated a type of lock is to pick, how hard to fight an ogre is, the odds of them noticing a trap-door; things like that.
>If a girl doesn't ask you specifically it means she doesn't care.
>To appear more credible to his wife of 30 goddamn years.
Damn son, that's some stubborn dedication. Did he lie when they first met and offhandedly deflect some comment about RPGs and is still holding onto that lie (that I doubt she still believes) today?
Not really an issue. She plays various games as well.
Only we don't really play the same games. So we aren't in each others' hobbies, but we also understand and respect each others' hobbies.
Probably the best outcome possible. Only downside is we are getting married this year, and our combined gaming expenses may cripple the household budget.
>Feels good to have a stable family that supports itself from within with love, compassion, kindness and mutual faith in our Lord Jesus Christ.
Feels good, anon.
Married with two beautiful children. If this makes me too fucking old or uncool or something to make a connection with you and be the right person to provide a helpful perspective, so be it I accept it. But I'd be glad to blog in response to any questions you may have.
>Is it worth the effort?
Having a girlfriend is like going to the cinema.
And the specific girl you falled in love with (and decided to ask her if she want to date with you) is the movie.
You go to the cinema for the specific movie you wanted to see, and not for the act wainting on a line to buy something, the act of being on a dark room, eat popcorn....
>having a girlfriend is worth the effort
NOPE, since what you want is not the act of having a girlfriend
>if you fall in love with someone the effort is worth?
yes, if you REALLY love her
>You go to the cinema for the specific movie you wanted to see, and not for the act wainting on a line to buy something, the act of being on a dark room, eat popcorn....
This is not quite true. There is something magical about going to the movies, separate from the individual movies we go to see. Maybe it's all a part of the changes in how this generation treats the cinema, I don't know.
I have, though its not a big thing for me. In fact, the times that spring to mind first are when she asked me to switch shoes with her after one of her heels broke at a train station while we were still some hours from home, and when she decided it would be fun to go out at just wander the neighbourhood at night with her dressed in guy clothes and me dressed up as a girl. So she can't really "discover" it and probably wouldn't mind if I did.
At the time she seemed to get a kick both out of the whole thing in general and also how little I gave a fuck about people's reactions. People had varying intensities of good and bad reaction on the train, which was during that day; in the night incident we didn't really interact with people any closer than from across the street. For instance, my then gf had fun making a guy who was checking me out look away quickly by doing the "male" thing of turning your shoulders to look directly at a guy who is checking your woman out like "I see what you're doing, btw".
Why do you ask? Did I give you what you were looking for?
This is how I broke the news:
>Sorry I couldn't message you last night, I was playing Dungeons and Dragons all night the night before.
>Huh. Always wanted to try that. Is it much like Dragon Age?
Fucking love her.
What did you wear?
Describe some more good or bad incidents?
>Why do you ask? Did I give you what you were looking for?
Wondering if it would be a dealbreaker for me ever getting a gf.
>What did you wear?
Well, this was some time ago. On the train I wore white(?) strappy heels that were too small for me and already partly busted.
When we went out... shit, I really don't remember. Heels, a short tube skirt, a soft camisole, and one of those really feminine girl poncho/shawl things that were really popular with fashionable girls a certain number of years ago.
>Describe some more good or bad incidents?
Like I said, it's not a thing of mine of anything so there isn't a wealth of material to draw from. I mean I could go more into detail about reactions on the train, train station, and walking home after, but it's pretty much the spectrum of affirmation / acceptance / tolerance / shunning / abuse you would expect so it's not especially insightful.
>Wondering if it would be a dealbreaker for me ever getting a gf.
Crap, I forgot to respond to the most important response to your post. No it's not a dealbreaker or some kind of "forever alone" sentence, in fact it's a lot more common than you may think.
That said, I wouldn't recommend launching into an impassioned speech about your love and enthusiasm for wearing women's clothing on the first date outside of the most unusual of circumstances. Take a person's temperature before you expose them to things that may be hard to take, it applies to anything. Some girls on the first date would love to hear about how to want to rub your dick all over her face and breasts while calling her a dirty slut as soon as you get the two of you out of the restaurant and over to your place, some will have you humiliated in your community, fired from your job, and run out of town for even hinting at it. Don't be dumb, do look out for yourself and be bold.
On the third hand sticking out of his forehead, that's the same risk OP not letting his girlfriend know about his hobbies earlier.
That's the same risk we all take. No one a prospective partner everything about themselves.
Not really, not any more than the rest of the discovery process that constitutes dating.
I mean, sure, you "wasted" a date having an enjoyable evening with someone hot, cool, and funny, but that's relationships right? It's more than just slapping your compatibility profile on the table and deciding whether to fuck and co-habitate for the rest of your lives or not. It's a process, a pleasant one. Relax and enjoy it.
I have dated a couple girls that showed interest, but they are bad and slow magic players (pick one and only one). Tabletop is more their speed but it is hard to keep a girl focused on the story and mission and not the attention she gets every time she opens her mouth. Then you have board games where it just isn't fun to mop the floor with someone over and over again when variation occurs because an opponent is creative or skillful.
I don't bother anymore. The sad truth is that the best part was easing my anxiety about being a super nerd by virtue of having a girlfriend in the first place.
>It's more than just slapping your compatibility profile on the table and deciding whether to fuck and co-habitate for the rest of your lives or not.
I'd kill for an actual dating application. Like a job application, I mean, but for dating.
>The sad truth is that the best part was easing my anxiety about being a super nerd by virtue of having a girlfriend in the first place.
Validation is a hell of a drug.
If you say, "Thursdays are game night at Chris's house," and she says, "what sort of games," and you say, "RPGs/CCG/etc, like [insert names of games you usually play]," and she says, "oh, okay," that is as far as you have to go. If she never inquires further there is no need to elaborate.
> lol, but wumens don't say what they mean bruh
and that shit's on them. If you don't want to date a bitch, pro tip: Don't facilitate bitch-like behavior, it'll root the bitches out fucking quick.
>Been going out with this girl for a few months now
>last weekend, came up in conversation that I was DMing for some friends
>"Haha, oh wow."
>explain it a bit
>actually end up having an interesting conversation about why DMing is fun
I don't get why you would stay with someone that you can't have actual conversations with. Would just make life so much more stressful for nothing.
I've not been on a date in almost 10 years; there are other things to do in life.
If you feel the need to pursue a relationship the trick is to just put yourself out there. Go to as many social events that pertain to your interests as you can afford and chat it up with anyone you find attractive.
If you don't go fishing it doesn't matter how many fish are in the sea.
Stop looking at it like that. Women are still prizes and a sign of success in life just as they were historically. Just because we are all working doesn't mean it makes women suddenly not the gatekeepers of genetics and social norms.
Are you even in the correct thread? This thread is about significant others responding to our collective addiction. There was no mention of any of the garbage in your post.
Was this just copypasta I haven't seen yet or something?
While I don't support inviting non players to your rpg sessions, only because it slows stuff down and distracts things, there are plenty other things you can do with her. Try doing a board game night with your gaming friends and your gf. Its not as intimidating as trying to join an rpg and its a great way for her to meet friends, especially if your group brings their SOs or some friends. A few tables, brews and a casual environment will be great for her and will help bring your group together. My group does board game nights when a player can't make a game or even on other nights of the week. As such, it's all good and our games are much better because of our friendship.
Fitting any of her clothes is setting alarm bells ringing. Either she's a fatty, or you're a twink (or a bit of both). My clothes look like a clown outfit on my girlfriend, they're huge on her. I wouldn't be able to fit into hers at all. I'm not particularly large, nor is she particularly small.
If you have to lie to your gf about something as culturally significant and mainstream as roleplaying maybe you should not be dating.
You let them know, most women will not see it as a good thing and think you're an actual fucking nerd (not one of those trendy ones who talk about Marvel movies and make tweets about being nerdy) After that point its pretty clear how things stand either, they're also into it (super fucking rare) they're surprised but ultimately don't care or they can't stand it and you can tell them to fuck off.
>girlfriend of 6 years
>she's played magic before with me and she was alright
>knows I play tabletop games
>asks what I do every session
>listens intently to me and my group's glorious exploits
>she's a commissioned artist so she actually draws my characters for me
>sometimes characters or art she draws for fun inspire me to make them in RPG form
Honestly I'm truly blessed for having such a wonderful girl. Sometimes I wish she would play tabletop with me, but it's whatever.
My girlfirend painted an oil painting of one of my characters drinking out of bottle in a brown paper bag. He's leaning on a 1998 Cutlass supreme Parked in Dunkin Donots parking lot.
Shes a keeper
Why would I? Threads like these are an inspiration, filled with tall tales of women tolerating, and even liking, things I like.
Of course, probably half these stories are bogus, but if even some of them are true, it means there's still hope for someone like me.
If you have anything in your life that you need to explain to someone you're dating, and have to make a big fucking deal out of it, you're either not dating the right person, or not doing the right hobbies.
That being said, if it takes up so much of your time that it's putting a strain on your relationship, you should probably consider dialing it back.
Remember, it's okay to be the guy who plays D&D, but you never wanna be the D&D guy.
Thanks for reminding me of what i dont have OP
>"Uhh... y-yeah I'm just hanging with the guys. Playing some cards tonight."
>It's 2pm on a sunday
>"Umm, we go pretty hard I guess."
>You aren't cheating on me, are you?
>"Ahaha, like I would ever do that."
It sucks being mildly attractive and hygienic and still playing RPGs with your fedorah-tier pals having heated arguments over various waifus in public dining establishments.
I met my GF through D&D, 3 years ago on newyears,the game was a mess, we were friends up until early august this year.
She's a huge weeb and a D&D nerd so no explanations needed.
I play Malifaux
You've seen the minis in the boxes over there, it's that. Cowboys vs Samurai Zombies vs Demons.
can you teach me it?
She now has Lilith's Demon Babies and is getting quite good at it.
I wish my girlfriend didn't like tabletop. She's atrociously terible at it and due to working nightshifts any group she's in can't organise a session. She's one of those people who expect to be able to learn how to play without reading the rule book and sits on her phone when it isn't her turn.
All her friends are mildly autistic or have some other pretend tumblr-brain problems, so if they want me for any games they feel bad about not inviting her as well and just give up.
I explained it to my GF the first year we were together. he thinks i would be better off out drinking my brain out than playing "immature and childish games".
Fuck her and the cunt she rode in on. Probably gonna dump her soon since all she does lately is whine, bitch and groan
>using pronouns instead of retyping the noun or noun phrase being referenced
>typing "6" instead of "six"
Lazy lazebones detected. Reporting.
While typically you'd be correct regarding the "6", in this case it's part of the rule's title, which is written with the arabic numeral, so it's an exception. Pronouns are a correct and proper aspect of all forms of English.
Aw shite. That's supposed to be SHE not HE. my phone like to take the piss on my posts today. Already had two really bad typos and it doesn't seem to be slowing down any time soon
Sorry, I thought you were referencing a different post. Looking back, your meaning was obvious.
Titles are capitalized, meaning if you wanted to reference Rule 6 you would have to do just that. Since that wasn't done, the title excuse doesn't hold and the transgression stands.
You really should. Reaching a healthy weight can really improve your life.
>your meaning was obvious.
I see what you thought (that "so" doesn't take longer to wrtie than "bf", because you have two hands). I thought he meant "I have two hands, and I refer to the one as my bf and the other as my gf, so there needs to be a distinction".
See? People are capable of being adults. Ask a question, get an answer. If you were being dumb? Apologize.
But no, people would rather jack off into their own mouths than move the conversation forward.
Say that to my abs fucker not online and see what happens.
I used to be skeleton mode, I decided to put a stop to it so I started lifting. I am a healthy weight now, and it did seriously improve my life. Remember to do your squats.
I've always loved squats as the king of lifts. Still doesn't mean I can't fit into my gf's tubeskirt and a goddamned poncho shawl. Hell, the fashion poncho from that time is basically a gigantic square with a hole in it, usually comically oversized on the woman, so I don't see how you think you'd be too MAN MCLARGEHUEG for it, especially if as you say you're "not that big".
Really it's also confusing to me that you'd think the skirt would be too small. She's got that heart shaped butt, plus I don't have those birthing hips or anything so if I had a bigger waist then she did I'd honestly find that awful strange.
Just trick yourself into doing it. Once you're there, you'll never want to leave.
Seriously, turn your brain off every time you try to talk yourself out of it, and eventually you'll just look around and realize you're there already and you want to work out.
Well, my girlfriend is as white as they come, and thus has relatively narrow hips and a small arse. The poncho is fine, it's the skirt I can't imagine squeezing into, but then maybe that's equally because she doesn't wear stretchy tubeskirts. That, and perhaps because the one muscle in my body that unfailingly reacts to growth stimuli seems to be my glutes.
I know what you mean, I was a little slow getting back into it post-break, but I got stuck in to some deadlifts and was pleasantly surprised to find the weight that I was lifting before Christmas a little easier. Just do some lifting and you'll wonder why it took you so long to get round to it.
Actually, my gf is white too, Irish, just with a great ass. She's tall enough though, about 5'11".
My posterior chain is no joke but she can fill a skirt better than I can anyday, and it's not on account of being fat if you know what I mean.
Ha! No girl has stayed with me long enough for me to even have to explain what /tg/ things are. I'm pretty sure once I do get a girl that likes me I wont need to explain it.
Because the kind of girls that I like either run in the same circles and will likely like /tg/ things on her own or will change my life to the point where I dont have the time or energy to participate in /tg/ things anymore.
The kind of girls that dont know what MTG or DnD are are preppy extroverted girls that wont be interested in me.
I met my now ex wife through my college gaming group
We're testing the waters on being social with one another again, after almost a year of limited contact as we sorted belongings and legal matters. Tonight she is going to try rejoining a campaign she stepped out of when all of this really started. I've no desire to get back together, though we agreed we wanted to remain friends. No desire to get back together with her, for reasons and circumstances, but I am damn anxious about tonight for those same reasons and circumstances.
Somebody hold me and order a pizza. Maybe I should just date outside of hobbyist circles?
>You roll dice and pretend to be elves.
>Like that episode of community.
How the fuck would you get a girlfriend who doesn't know what D&D is in 2016? She would have at least heard about it unless she is completely ignorant of the pop-culture of the last 40 years.
Don't be so sure. My gf and her friends weren't gamers before I moved in with her. They were nerdy, they had heard of rpgs and were interested, but none of them knew how to play and they'd never gotten a group together. I offered to DM, and we've all been playing weekly ever since. Two of them have taken turns DMing, and my gf makes loads of game-related art. It's great!
There are a surprising number of nerdy people who are prime game material, they've just never had someone teach them how to play. Spread the word!
I don't know what tabletop games are beyond you and some others pretend to be characters, one guy controls the game, and you roll dice to determine if your actions are a success or not.
Why am I here?
You want to try them out? You like setting lore? You think it might be fun to paint miniatures or build war game landscapes? Some of our fetish bait hooked you? I don't fucking know, man, you tell me!
Yes - I'm a little afraid I'd have a hard time really "getting into it", you know? Like roleplaying in front of people, pretending to be someone else
Eh. I like the heal bully threads. Most everything else is about a tiny boy being fucked by an amazon, or transformation, and I care for neither.
>on second thought I'd rather smash my vulnerable bits inside your smelly flesh tube until I collapse yet again rather than see some friends for once and engage in a collaborative story telling experience that may stay with me for a lifetime
I've made a point of dating women with hobbies different than mine.
I only have one rule for the girls I date.
Does she read books sometimes at least?
The girl I'm with now is kind of a hippie.
Pottery, painting and shes vegan.
Waifish, qt German. Rhineland area to be specific.
This girl is super into the The Chronicles of Narnia. I didn't even know it had a fandom till I met her.
Its a long distance thing but we visit each other a few times a year and we're looking for ways for me to move there get work and get married.
Shes fine with Tabletop, Shes will ask me how a session went with genuine interest.
Shes even expressed some interest in joining a campaign sometime.
But because of our distance circumstance creates a scenrio it doesn't really work out.
>Is it worth the effort?
Is "a girlfriend" worth "some" effort?
Is a girlfriend you are likely to get worth the effort you are likely to put in to get and keep her?
Generally speaking, not likely.
Is "The Girl" worth any and all reasonable efforts?
A girlfriend is like any other aspect of your life.
No girlfriend is better than a bad girlfriend.
You'll have to put in effort to get anything worthwhile and sometimes you'll end up putting energy into something that will feel like a waste of time.
But each experience can be learned from.
My best advice is to remember that you are neither perfect nor worthless and relationships can help teach you how to better live and interact with others and become a better person.
And that is worth it.
Plus, sex is better than Mr Handy.
Not being honest with your girlfriend about how you spend your time away from her is a bad idea, but no worse than staying in a relationship with someone you can't tell these things to.
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I waited until I knew she was chill enough, then one day I just left out a few Space Marines and she asked about it.
>Hey, what are they?
>Oh, just models I make and play with. It's fun.
I got lucky. She's nice, so she understands when I need to have nerd time with my friends and even pretends to be interested sometimes.
>tfw you got lucky
>The Chronicles of Narnia. I didn't even know it had a fandom till I met her.
It looks like you are the plebe, anon.