It's very odd to look at this place from the outside. A while back - a couple of years ago - I used to come here fairly often seeking companionship and validation. Sometimes it worked and sometimes not.
Anyway, this is the first time I've come here and just observed, rather than seeking to get terribly involved myself. I see a bunch of people searching not just for socialization, but acceptance. Wanting to feel valued; to be reassured that they have worth in the eyes of others.
And a bunch of horny bastards, of course, because it's not only the internet but 4chan.
I thought this might provide an interesting topic for conversation. Either that, or I'll just get several short, sarcastic, derisive replies before the thread sinks to page 10 (or whatever the last one is now). Either way, worth a try.
I am exactly like what you describe, I come here for validation and approval. I ALWAYS leave feeling worse off and depressed. Rate threads kill me and make me feel like absolute shit
Everyone wants to feel attractive. But honestly, it isn't the most important thing in the world, despite what you see here a lot of the time.
You need to look within, not without. Find what puts you at peace and do it.
I'm one of those whose sole purpose here is to find maybe the occasional likeminded individual just for purely socialising. It sucks being a shut in, with completely hopeless social skills. I just need maybe one or two internet friends to have chats with now and again, instead there's an oversaturation of sexualisation in pretty much everything, to the point where people sometimes just assume that it is also your interest. I understand those who seek it, but please be considerate. It's not much to ask, and would generally improve this board a lot.
This this this this this, I want s female friend as it's something I've not really has before. I don't want sex or nudes and don't want them repealed to the idea of s friendship because they think I'm after their body
this is 100% easy to relate with
I've only been on /soc/ while I've been NEET, since September
I wanted something social, I guess maybe to keep me from going crazy, but what I got was the dick trading board
I used to post a lot in like 2011, chasing that efame when it still felt like this board had some kind of allure and the circle jerk genuinely seemed cool
I don't know what to make of this place anymore. I don't know how to connect with people
Were this another board I'd comment about your trips and double-dubs. Anyway, take it from someone who's been there; contentment far overshadows the quick-fading rush you get from validation and attention.
We're all of us guilty of that to some extent - not the socialization, but the seeking of socialization. If I didn't want even a little of it, I'd just be sitting here reading a book right now instead of typing this. Yours is a good goal, I think.
if you get enough validation you get content tb'h
if there's any cute girls or anyone trying to start an internet boy band my my kik is fuqted
That's a pretty toxic way of thinking about you and the others, might be a contributing factor to continued seek of approval and subsequent failures.
You'll need to start loving yourself, show some compassion and understanding not only for yourself but others too.
How can they like someone bette than you... gee, I don't know, maybe because they have different tastes from you and there's no way you can objectively make a statement like that without seeming conceited.
I've met a few people from there
lot of wannabe dealers that are up for partying
almost met a few girls when this board was more popular but I think I was too shy to actually ask them