>>23305027 No one's answering this, so I'll just keep posting it.
To anyone with BDSM experience, especially Dom/sub dynamic:
How do I get into dom "headspace"?
I'm a 24yo male who as of now is pretty much vanilla. My gf is a 26yo sub and I've recently been trying to be more dominant (in the BDSM sense of the word). But I can't seem to think of anything (fyi, it would just be sessions, she's not into 24/7).
We've already established boundaries, etc.. and I can see myself being a dom. I'm just missing the creativity/ambition I guess.
For the time being we've avoided any frustration by having her be a slave to a domme we know occasionally.
>inb4 kuk, etc...
>>23305056 Because being a guy is default status on here. Girls have to prove their gender to avoid trolls.
>>23305087 Honestly. ..that is something that can't be really taught. As my own experience as an oldfool in his mid40s, living a 24/7 with two slaves together (poly), you have to come to terms with yourself, allow your inner beast to roam in your sessions and throw away any inhibitions and boundaries away your upbringing and society has imposed upon you. But that is a voyage of self-discovery really, and is a very individual thing. You need to let go, and embrace your inner silverback gorilla. Know what I mean?
>>23305124 The way I understand it, confidence means you will agressively pursue yoir goals, facing dangers. Which means in turn you will slay the sabertooth that threatens your family's cave, and turn it into food and clothing. At the end of the day, biology is all about feeding & breeding, and survival of the fittest. Females are finely tuned to sense who is capable and who isn't - as a survivor/fighter. Doesn't matter if you are built like Gregor the Mountain out of GoT or not.
>>23306089 It's so hard to understand because you don't say that. If only you were more honest in the first place there wouldn't be this much misunderstanding. Just say you want a hot guy, I'll go look somewhere else.
>>23306081 because women tend to be attracted to people that are physically attractive, anon and being a 'nice guy' doesn't mean pandering to her every need (or what you believe is her every need), it means being confident, principled and temperate. i know the label doesn't fit the description, but this description is far more on point than 'the douchebag'
>>23306147 I'm not, but that's not the point. Then why don't you say that you're looking for a hot and nice guy, but only say nice? Are you afraid to be judged or is it just to convince yourself you're a good person because "you're just looking for a nice guy"?
>>23306161 Because anyone with a brain knows the hot bit is implied, it would be like walking into a restaurant and saying "yes I'll have the steak please" everyone knows you want it cooked and not a raw slab of meat, everything is cooked, you don't have to specify that you want it cooked unless the staff are as dumb as you How you want it cooked is like sexual preference, but the constant is that you want it cooked,
>>23306154 >>23306081 i suppose i should've also explained what quantifies a person as an asshole/douchebag there seems to be a misconception that any form of tease/denial is asshole-ish most people who pursue the ideal of 'the perpetual nice guy!!' end up sacrificing the entire bite of their personality, and end up becoming a limp shell of a personality
>>23306161 because it's a given that they're looking for somebody that they're physically attracted to, you fool tell me, anon: if you were describing what type of woman you would like, would you specifically state that she should have eyes, legs and arms (or even be human)? probably not, but i'm pretty sure you would find it hard to date a blind quadriplegic goat
>>23305027 I made the decision to not go through with having sex with my ex because of pain on her part. Even with lube and foreplay I could still see her face cringe whenever we tried it; so I stopped.
Now I've heard more women say sex is painful (the first few times). Is this a common complaint? Why the hell would you have sex in that case?
>>23306743 Maybe you just suck at sex or she's not that attracted to you... if she's wet and warmed up it shouldn't hurt.
>>23306755 I don't like talking when we're doing it. I like when he grabs me to start off with and touches my body and tells me I'm hot or beautiful. When we're actually having sex I don't want to talk - just concentrate on how it feels and enjoy it. Music or the TV being on is too distracting.
>>23306748 To anyone looking for a real relationship, personality goes over a nice body. A girl which you can have great conversation and that's sweet and affectionate is major plus. The only thing a male should really look out for in term of appearance is a nice/cute face, the rest is secondary.
The best gift for Valentines day, in my opinion, would be going to the spa. Since the whole activity rely on cuddle and just mutual appreciation. Also kinky sex and nice blowjob are obligatory.
>>23306748 >Guys of /soc/, what do you want from your gf/SO/crush on Valentine's day? Honestly? Awesome hot sex. Other than that, spending time together somewhere romantic - could be anything rather than some elaborate or expensive set-up.
>Also, what matters more: appearance or personality? Both matter. It's not possible to say which one takes priority.
>Would you ever pick a nice/compatible 6/10 over a mean or slutty 9/10? 100% yes, always for any kind of relationship. Unless you are literally talking one night stand hookup stuff here.
>>23306748 >If I had a girlfriend. For Valentines day I would say just staying home, cooking dinner, crazy/freaky sex where we both try something new, and whatever else the gf wanted to do. Nice/compatible 6/10 for sure. She would probably have more personality and imagination anyways. Would make her a 10 in my book over some uninteresting, shallow, self obsessed chick. Better relationships leads to better sex anyways.
Women How do you prefer your partner to look? Do you prefer a more masculine appearance? Maybe a beard, shorter conservative styled hair, dresses well but in looser fits, and an overall larger body frame. Or do you prefer a more feminine look? Always clean shaven, baby smooth face, longer hair, tighter fitting clothing, and a more slender frame. What's your cup of tea?
>>23307102 He honestly has the perfect dick, I needed to be able to play with it when he wasn't around, best thing ever, and other guys I get with (open Relationship) have no idea it's his cock they're fucking me with!
>>23307042 Fit and in shape... otter mode to athletic body, clean shaven, short and low-maintenance hair style. For some reason it turns me off when a man looks like he's overly concerned with his appearance. Designer clothes and styled hair on a man just turn me off.
>>23306661 >Does breast size actually bother you? Yes. There is a thing called too big. I love small to average boobs, I don't hate bigger ones, if they fit your frame, but generally I'm more into smaller ones. But it's not that important, if they have a nice shape and firmness that's all I need. And please no implants :(
>>23306743 Could be psychological too, but with enough foreplay and wetness (additional lubrication might help) and if you take it slow, there should be no problems. Maybe you are just too big?
>>23306748 >Guys of /soc/, what do you want from your gf/SO/crush on Valentine's day? Crush: I just want to spend time with her, I don't need any gifts, just be together with me and cuddle/watch a movie/whatevs
>>23306949 Probably to grab and pull you to her, but not sure, just my random guess. Also, what matters more: appearance or personality? Looks are important to me and most of the time the first thing you notice about a person, but personality is more important in a long term relationship.
>Be honest. Would you ever pick a nice/compatible 6/10 over a mean or slutty 9/10? Yes, any day.
>>23305035 That's one reason I won't buy a dildo. I think it's the equivalent of a male death grip. >>23305056 Really goodlooking men have also been asked to timestamp. >>23305124 They're not. It has to be a combo of things. >>23306661 He has to know how to use it, so after it's average it doesn't really matter. Haven't come across a micropenis yet, thanfully.
>>23305056 Because losers want to flirt with girls online and make sure that they are girls first.
>>23305124 >why are attractive people more attractive
>>23306081 It's like asking why men don't want a nice landwhale but would want a nice girl.
>>23306661 >Does breast size actually bother you? I'd rather have them small but noticeable.
>>23306748 >what do you want from your gf on Valentine's day? Hopefully nothing, receiving gifts always gives me the pressure to give something back ... and as much as I like gifting, I do it on my own terms and not because there is some shitty day when I have to.
>Do you prefer compliments, name calling or simply put music and just enjoy the sex? Music. Compliments are annoying. Name calling depends on partner, my girl isn't into that.
Femanons: are you put off the idea of a long term relationship with a guy if he has slept with a lot of women? We are not talking about a cheater here, just someone who's got a lot of girls into bed over the years. How many are we talking before you start to feel put off?
>>23308693 I only have sex when I'm in a relationship. So I've just been lucky that by the point we have sex for the first time, there hasn't been any disappointments. But I think it's ridiculous if even promiscuous girls would get to the point they're about to have sex with someone and when he pulls down his pants they're just like "Oh wow lol nope" >>23308743 female or male? Online or irl? >>23308755 Had to google this. Many probably do in a fantasy sense. Most probably don't want to be fucked by multiple men at a time irl though.
>>23306111 I tend to put more value in face to be honest. As long as you aren't fat, I don't care much about the body. >>23306650 Lol I'll take the b8, is this an actual study? Lets see some sauce. I'm not interested in becoming a mother anyway lol. Pretty sure my history of cynicism, depression, and overall lack of interest in ruining my body to spit out a dream crushing money suck that literally gives me nothing I don't already have in return disqualifies me from motherhood enough. >>23306661 >Dick size I'm sure I'm in the majority on this, but as long as it isn't freakishly abnormal on one end or the other idgaf. Where I may be minority, idk, I prefer em on the smaller side personally. Large dicks in like pornos and shit actually turn me off. Shit just looks painful and I want nothing to do with them. >>23306738 >big areolas female asking male here, is this a minorty thing or would you say most guys like this? Have I been insecure over these freakishy large nips all these years for nothing? I assumed guys would be weirded out by that. >>23306743 https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vaginismus probably not, but it could be the case. I just found out about it recently, makes your vag just clamp up for no good reason. For severe cases, some can't have penetrational sex at all. >why the hell would you have sex? lots of reasons. You feel abnormal if you cant, after all your who existence is wired around reproducing. Only way to keep a man/wanting to make your man happy. Most guys aren't going to date a chick who will never fuck them, or you just love them and know they want to, so you suffer through for their sake.
>>23306755 hmm, I like to be teased I guess. Not sure what it is I like about it, because I def wouldn't say I have a humiliation kink, but I'm pretty shy in bed. I'm embarrassed about showing my body and especially about making noise/moaning. But for some reason nothin gets me wetter than a guy pointing it out. Past few guys I've been with did this thing, when I was getting close and I couldn't hold back the moans, I'd try to pull them in and kiss them to muffle it. But they both pulled away so I couldnt lol. They'd grin and whisper shit like "I wanna hear how much you like it", only made me cum faster. Shit like that is what I like personally. >>23306949 I've never heard of that personally. Frankly I'm the opposite. Belts are a pain in the ass. Last boyfriend I had, once it took so stupidly long for me to get the damn belt off I just told him "Look, if you want me to blow you lose the belt before hand this is ridiculous" Never saw him in a belt again. >>23307042 pic related But, dream man aside, I prefer slender non muscular guys personally. If they are muscular they should have a swimmers body. Face (despite my qt azn husbando) I typically prefer more chiseled face on white guys I guess. Chubby baby faces are a turn off. Hair I like kept short, I'm not huge on beards though if you can pull it off then go for it. Dude in formal wear or a uniform? You could drown a toddler in my panties. >>23307307 If you find one let me know. I've tried tinder, OKC, and a couple other really small more unheard of sites. All are shit. Frankly I meet all my online friends on 4chins these days. So you're probably in the right spot. But 4chan is also shit.
Females: How do I ask my GF to do some 'weird' shit in bed? I want to buy her a bunch of outfits (anything from nurse, maid to tight dresses) and then fuck her in them. Also, how do I ask her to cum on her face? Srs, I can't imagine requesting any of these. She's never even sucked my dick. It seems totally fine online, every girl seems to be a bisexual, sexually progressive liberal. Be honest, would you think I'm weird for requesting this?
>>23309251 She supports me in the choices that make my life better, and let's me learn my lesson in the choices that don't. She makes me want to be a better person for her, people who care about me, and myself. We are best friends as well as lovers. We are a team and we believe nothing can stop us. Also she has an ass and can make a mean plate of enchiladas.
Women of /soc/ . How do you feel about the height of a hookup? I got a booty call from a girl on tinder the other night and ended up not going over because I was shorter than her by 2 inches and thought that would be weird. Is it? She never asked about height, but I felt like it would be an already semi awkward situation even more awkward.
>>23309251 It is different for every guy, but I feel like the majority would say attractive to them, caring, and shares at least one major interest of the guy. Hope that helps.
>>23306661 >does breast size actually bother you Sort of. I like skinnier girls and associate large breasts with being overweight. Its not that I hate any sort of boob size, its that I prefer smaller.
>>23308105 Mmm I'd probably be a little intimidated, just because I'm not all that experienced at all, but not really judgy if thats what you mean. My only concern would be were you retarded and didn't use protection? Are you riddled with AIDS and possibly have 4 kids you don't know about (yet)? If you're clean and pretty positive you're not the father, then I don't care. I'd probably only be weirded out if you were banging a new chick every day since you were 14 or something. >>23308743 >>23308909 One thing that I think is universal and the most effective flirt is the casual touch. Just casually touch their arm or hand or something, gradually get closer, casually touch their leg, then maybe face when the timings right, until you're finally touching their junk later. Shit like that. Basically, its a game of invading personal space. Obviously if she backs away then she's not interested and you should cut your losses. But if she lets you get in close, she's probably game. But you gotta work up to it, slowly, if that wasn't already obvious. >>23309199 I have to say I notice it but I don't have a preference one way or another. But I haven't had many dicks to begin with.
>>23309036 I googled the term and it described it as similar to bukake. Have you ever tasted cum? It's not the best tasting thing in the world. I can imagine it tasting even more disgusting stale.
Taste-wise it's it's like asking a girl why she doesn't want to eat a cake drowned in stale sour mushroom soup. >>23308909 Do you want to flirt just to have sex? Or would you like a relationship but sex is a quick fix?
If you only want sex online flirting on hookup sites would be best. If you want to try getting in a girls pants irl don't let her know it's the only thing your interested. Act like you care about what she has to say.
>>23309326 Yeah, but how do I actually word it? "Hey Bbyy, I think you're really pretty, do you mind getting on your knees while I jack off and unload on your face while hurling derogatory slurs at you?"
>>23309251 Nice personality, everything else follows. To be more specific good-natured, humble and compassionate person. She doesn't have to be adventurous, funny or bold. They're desirable but if a woman genuinely displays the aforementioned attributes I think I could honestly compromise on everything else. >>23309179 Depends on boobs, big areolas on big boobs are totally fine.
>>23309295 Like I already know this is a stupid thing to say, but Since all I have to go off of in the category of "Majority agreed upon attractive traits for women" is porn stars, I don't usually see lots of big nip porn ladies in the stereotypical run of the mill porno. So I just assumed it was a negative trait sans a couple of fetishists or something. >>23309300 I think you just gotta bite the bullet and ask. I mean, at least for me, the dress up stuff is pretty low maintenance on her end. Its not like she's really gotta do anything she isn't already except wear these clothes. And there's no real harm to her unless she's just really morally against it or something. IDK what I'm saying is as far as kinks go, I think that's the least likely one to blow over badly lol. As for cum on her face, has she mentioned anything before her opinion on it? You could casually ask that one sometime like, "just out of curiosity how do you feel about that? Some women think its degrading or whatever" If she says it doesn't bother her then you can ask if she'd let you do it to her. If it does bother her or she responds negatively, "m-me too!" and then you don't have to ask to do it to her personally, you already know the answer. >>23309321 Ehhhh, I usually dont go for guys who are shorter than me. Same height or above is preferred. That being said, if I got that far I wouldn't not hook up with you just based on that. Though I might not give you another call unless you were really good lol idk. >>23309337 Ugh the gag and slurpy sounds are the worst part of bjs to me personally. Its why I skip bj scenes in pornos. But yeah funny enough its not the gagging itself that bothers me, just the noise of it. >>23309349 hmm interesting. Still though, not sure I buy it. I mean, I think theres a lot more important factors than slutdom.
>>23309403 >Yeah, but how do I actually word it? You could have a mutual discussion about things that you find turn ons but you're embarrassed about. Don't directly say that you want to try it with her. Just bring it up and gauge her reaction.
>>23309251 Knowing how to compromise is a pretty big deal. Learning to live with someone 24/7 is way different than seeing each other every now and again.
If he does something that bothers you, pro tip: you more than likely do something that bothers him. There needs to be a happy medium between the both of you at all times. I know most girls may want to feel like a queen or a princess; but the hard reality is that you're not, and your "soon to be husband" isn't a slave either.
>>23309405 >has she mentioned anything before her opinion on it? Nope, I've never asked her nor has she ever brought it up. She seems really naive/innocent so I really doubt she'd be like "Oh yeah, fucking love that shit bruh!". I would genuinely believe her if she said she doesn't watch any porn whatsoever. Idk what she's doing with a degenerate like me. I feel like she'd be able to read me like a book, the temporary embarrassment isn't even the issue. I don't want her opinion of me to change. >>23309429 "Hey bby, can we talk?" "Yeah sure!" "What kinda nasty stuff you into?" "umm, idk, you?" "I wanna dress you up into some outfits and finish on your face" "..I start early tomorrow, I have to go. Bye." In all seriousness though, I think i'll try during foreplay. Best chance of success and least awkward it can get. Or so I hope.
>>23309482 It's not a turn off per se. It's just an " Oh god, are you okay?" I guess what I'm trying to ask is, do girls really know their sexual limits? She gets extremely lustful when sucking my cock, and I can't tell if she remembers things like BREATHING.
>>23309489 Are you an at least average looking guy? If not, then what the hell is your problem? If you want to get your dick wet, all that matters is the pussy, right?
To girls, how do I come across as genuinely not just interested in a girl to get in her pants? I've initiated a lot of conversations with women where I've even honestly told them that I'm not just trying to get in their pants but due to the stigma of "guys just want sex all the time" they don't believe me.
>>23309471 Well it's easy then. If you're a 4-5/10 male, find 2-4/10 females to hook up with online or irl. If you're a 6, find 3-5s. If you're a 7/10 find 4-7/10s. Even a 9/10 guy would have trouble banging a 9/10 girl unless he had a 10/10 smooth talking personality.
Getting a girl you don't feel super lucky to be banging anyways will save you from heart break in the long run, if you're not planning on a relationship anyways. >>23309681 Maybe your look is more appealing to gay men than to women. >>23309672 Yes,by my partner, not by randos.
>>23309179 >female asking male here, is this a minorty thing or would you say most guys like this? Have I been insecure over these freakishy large nips all these years for nothing? I assumed guys would be weirded out by that. I'm definitely not alone but I don't kmow how typical I am. Unless it covers 95% of the boob or something I doubt many people will be put off by them. Also a girl who gets her tits out with pride and confidence is fucking sexy.
>>23309561 My boyfriend is kind of the same. He knows i like him choking me but he gets nervous doing it and same with suck his dick. I hold my breath and gasp for air and stuff
Let me put your worries aside. Even IF i somehow forgot to breathe my body wouldnt allow it. Its just natural if something is blocking your airway and you have the ability to move it then wether you want to or not your natural reflex will be to move it. Like if my boyfriends choking me too long or hard or is holding my head down (rarely happens) all i do is tap him and he lets go. Honestly id keep going till my vision starts fading but my body just dont let me.
So dont stress about it. She will come up for air when she needs it
>>23306081 we do want a nice guy. i think guys who ask questions like this and label other guys douchebags dont realize that those guys you can douchebags can be nice guys, too.
for the most part if a guy likes a girl he will be rly nice to her. you may think of him as a douchbag but remember that hes not trying to attract you, hes trying to attract girls that like that kind of guy and hes probably really sweet to her.
also it doesnt help if hes also hot af as you put it.
>>23306755 compliments are wonderful. :) maybe im an exception but i dont like that dirty talk.
im not anyones dirty little slut - im someones loving partner im not a bad girl - im an adult and dont get off on being treated like im 8 my partner is NOT my daddy - i love my dad and have a great relationship with him. my partner is my lover not a weird surrogate father figure. (eww i dont know why that one is just such a gross buzzkill to me, i just dont get it at all.)
maybe i seem like kind of a dud, but im actually not really, i think i just prefer sensual sex rather than name calling sex.
>>23307042 i like a somewhat bigger guy. that hairy full figured masculine look. me could be buff or he could be thick but strong.
>>23307283 i dont think dad bod is something that someone strives for. i think the point is that is is okay fort a guy in a long term relationship or marriage who has kids and works to supply for his family and would rather spend his spare time at home with his family than at the gym isnt a bad thing.
theres so much body positivity for females who have had kids and whose bodies have changed right now, that i think the dad bod is kind of just meant to point out that a males body can change as well and it isnt something we have to hate.
then again like i said im kinda into chubby guys so dad bod on a guy who isnt even a dad isnt a deal breaker for me.
>>23309337 i can relate. i have a crazy stupid gag reflex. but i havent found a guy yet who doesnt love bjs so i do it anyways. i usually just work my magic on the head and do the shaft with my mouth, that keeps the penis from getting to my throat and making me gag.
>>23309531 just be a friend. if you rly are not interested, dont act like it. dont make sex jokes, dont drop hints, just be natural. treat her like you would a guy buddy of yours. i have had guy friends like that and it is great. some girls like being just one of the guys.
Match w/ girl on Tinder. Plan to meet up. Girl keeps rescheduling but she keeps suggesting to meet up another time and give specific days. Seems like legit reasons, e.g. auditions, she's an actor, I'm an actor and I know auditions come up last minute. I assume she isn't interested... But she keeps suggesting to meet up again. Happened three times now... From a female perspective wtf is going on?
I want a girl to restore my faith in the opposite sex. In the span of 3 years I have gotten close with or fucked about 34+ women, and the only one who acts sane is the NEET I got off here who gets massive depressed and is half my fucking age. I also have 3 cheaters under my belt and some other skeletons, I'm working my way to my 30's in a few years and I am prepared to blow my own fucking brains out. I feel I had wasted my youth on some one whom had left for greener pastures. Who decided to introduce me to said pastures as " friends ", like a used car brought to a dealership while they sought out a newer model. I was not born edgy, I was made this way and I hate it.
for the sake of reviving the thread, Dumb question out of curiosity to my fellow femanons who are on the pill, Does anyone actually take the fake pills lol? I just skip them and move onto the next pack personally, but I wonder if anyone actually takes those things, what's the point?
If both parties in a relationship cheat on each other but both know that no one else even comes close to how how they care and feel about each other, should the two parties just call it quits and go their separate ways?
I'd like female and male opinions please thank you in advance.
Women: what do you use as "signs" or "hints" to a guy to indicate being interested in him potentially romantically? What kind of signs/hints with a first or second encounter, and what if you've already established an acquaintanceship?
How does a guy avoid being "that guy" who keeps on trying to make a move on women unsolicited simply because he thought woman's smile, look, laughing at jokes, touching hair (hers or the guy's) or make physical contact against an arm or something when it apparently wasn't, yet doesn't end up never making a move simply to avoid being a creep and bother women probably not interested based on past experiences with such arbitrary signs? How does one avoid "harassing" women yet not completely avoid making any move? Is it even remotely doable to wait for a woman to practically tell you she's interested or make a move instead, or is this something you women never do?
It may sound as an attack, but I'm genuinely curious as to how the best way of approaching would be when not bothering others is a higher priority than potential personal gains, yet would definitely love to try romance with women.
>>23315954 nah they deserve each other so should stay together
>>23315963 Smiling a lot, teasing, complimenting, giving him 'the look', being in close proximity >Is it even remotely doable to wait for a woman to practically tell you she's interested or make a move instead, or is this something you women never do? Depends on the person ay
>>23315954 im not sure I understand, the 2 people in the relationship love and care for eachother emotioanlly, but both fuck around behind the others back? I mean, have you considered an open relationship? Do all the emotional romantic shit together but mutually agree to fuck other people. If either party is actually upset the other is cheating when they're doing it themselves then I guess yeah, that's dumb and yall should split. But If you're both cool with the other fucking other people then just keep doing what you're doing. >>23315844 Eh, depends on my mood. There are some months where I'm horny all the time, others where I can go months without even remembering sex is a thing.
>>23315963 >what do you use as "signs" Casual touch, listening to you intently, just overall giving you our whole attention, shit exactly like what you listed, except the hair thing. IDK where guys are getting that, it's not a very accurate sign. I touch my hair all the goddamn time idly, for no real reason. Could mean I'm bored, could mean I just want to move it out of my face, could mean I'm fixing it to look nice for you. Who knows? it means literally anything. >How does a guy avoid being "that guy" If she's exhibiting all these classic signs of digging you, but then turns around and acts like you're the creep for misunderstanding, she's a cunt and you don't want anything to do with her anyways. And you shouldn't care what cunts think of you either. Women who do this shit are just attention seeking whores or feminists, which are kind of the same thing. Srsly, rational minded women aren't going to take you so much as looking their direction as rape, you're over thinking it or just picking the worst kind of women. And no matter what you do you can't please them. You just existing is a personal threat to them, ignore them. >How does one avoid "harassing" women yet not completely avoid making any move? when talking to her, if she leans away from you or steps back, or just acts overall uninterested in what you're saying, or is looking away from you trying to find a way out of this conversation, back off and leave. Short, curt responses are usually a good sign she wants you to fuck off. Key to hitting on chicks is to pace yourself. Dont come across overzealous, don't drag on the night and miss your chance either though. Gradually get closer as the conversation progresses. She'll either allow it or back away. That's your sign.
>>23306748 >Also, what matters more: appearance or personality? As someone else said, looks is what you'll see first and thus will often give you a first impression, making it somewhat important however you look at it for either gender.
That said, it's one's personality that dictates or predicts what actions one will do/use. This is also what determines if one is the kind of person you'd like to have around or near you.
For a fling/ONS/hookup the looks will likely get you further with most people, as it's a sexual attraction you will want to entice as quickly as possible. A personality can make someone very sexually attractive as well, mind you; I have a FWB who's not the most physically attractive woman but man does she bloody rock my world, simply by having that personality and attractive traits. I wouldn't pick a hot looking crappy person over her at all.
As I see it, looks are more of a template upon which to build or form an idea of how someone is, while personality is the actual "colouring" and details that can make or break that image of the person. I've had 8/10 women drop to well below relationship threshold for me simply by showing their repulsive personality, while some 4/10s raised to above that threshold simply by being good people. Sadly one time it wasn't reciprocated, the other 2 times they were already taken but in their case it was more that I could see why they had a bf so to speak.
>Would you ever pick a nice/compatible 6/10 over a mean or slutty 9/10? 6/10 any day all day.
>>23314441 Honestly you'd be surprised. Most women find black men less desirable than white men. Doesn't even matter what race the woman is, even black women tend to prefer white men. Black men are more of a niche, have something that's not as common (black skin is still a minority) which may attract women at times, but the main thing is that the white women actually going for black men go for them because said specific black men show a certain dominance they like. Believe me, as a halfblack mulatto I have next to zero luck when compared to any white friend or acquaintance, even ones who are supposedly less attractive than I am, simply because I'm not extremely dominant.
Of course, women genuinely going for black men based on personality and such do exist, but solely sexual/physical attraction speaking it seems like it requires the excessive dominance or a certain kind of woman (one who's trying to experiment or hopes to find the mythical BBC to try that) to get anything fling-related as a black dude.
Don't buy into the bullshit race baiting threads all across the 4chan boards, be glad that you're white and don't worry too much about it.
>>23315756 Not all pills are sugar pills for the fiest week after the period. Quite a number of them contain estrogen to regulate a woman's body biochemistry and even more so additional iron to compensate the loss of it when having heavy period flows
>>23316012 >>23316038 Well damn, except the touching and teasing (touching has only happened when people had alcohol, teasing never that I'm aware of) I thought all those things were simply standard things one would do when acquainting. I smile, genuinely/intently listen for the sake of getting to know someone, and keep my attention to that conversation at hand when I get to know someone, man or woman. I thought this was standard... I had several occasions where I decided to just try casual touching of shoulder and stuff with women I had an interest in without it being awkward, often parting ways with a hug and stuff. Yet other than them simply allowing the touching and space invasion (standing/sitting with arms or something touching) to happen, they didn't reciprocate or anything.
To me that's a sign that although she doesn't mind me doing that, she has no further interest in any but friendship/acquaintanceship sense. I have no idea what so ever what "the look" would be, either... >don't drag on the night and miss your chance either though That's me alright, I kind of expect clearer reciprocation before I can progress, not just passiveness. Especially knowing women do exist who feel scared of backlash when they do move away or reject; it's rare, but something I keep in mind. >If she's exhibiting all these classic signs of digging you...And you shouldn't care what cunts think of you either. Fair point, generally an approach I make to such things as well. >you're over thinking it Overthinking is pretty much second nature to me, yeah.
It sounds like I still have tonnes to learn. I did make a lot of acquaintances and some friends this way though, so there's that at least.
Thank you both, this gave me some thinking and introspection material.
>>23314628 >oldfool here with plenty of experience in both departments, good shit and bad shit. Women are as bad as men. They just sneakier and more calculating about it, which makes them worse in my eyes. You should watch GONE GIRL how bad it actually can be. Quite insightful.
>>23316310 >What is the little thing that a guy can make out and in bed to get you horny ? im not exactly sure what you are asking. i get turned on by the guy i am with. i think being sweet, giving compliments, helping me out, these are all things that turn me on.
>Also what would convince you to suck a dick i think i can answer this. read the response below. i was not always the most eager gal to pop a d into my mouth. after all these years of doing it i still hate the taste of cum. but i do it and i do it much more willingly now. why? because i do it for dominant guys who want me to do it. i will say this however, i much more happily do it when a) i am really turned on and things are heating up b) the guy i am with reciprocates, give it to get it buddy, and c) when he is clean. a dick covered in a day worth of sweat and stuff is gross. and i wouldnt ask a guy to visit me downstairs if i wasnt clean either. maybe it is just me, but those three things went a long way in making bj's much more enjoyable for me.
>And last question what can a guy do to look more dominant ? if you dont look naturally dominant, be more confident. self-confidence goes a long way. you ever see some lame looking dude who is dating a really cute girl? i guarantee you he had self confidence. be proud of who you are, act a little more dominant than maybe you are in real life, but dont come across as fake or too pushy. maybe think of the phrase "fake it till you make it."
>>23316642 Depends, all girls like different things.
To me, the most attractive traits are intelligence and self awareness. Having hobbies, friends, nice stories to tell is great too. I like being with someone genuinely nice, not a doormat that s nice just to fuck me, but yeah, nice. Someone confident, that makes me feel safe around him. Funny. Ambitious. Physically, very tall, slim body, pale skin, dark hair, green eyes, glasses. But the again, depends. I like different things. I never dated a guy who was my "ideal" physically.
>>23316682 Because tall guys make you feel safe, small and feminine around them. Some girls want just really tall guys, someone just want someone taller than them, some others don't care about it at all.
>>23316199 Asking if I was single, no But if you like, just walked up to me and said "Hey wanna date me?" I'd probably turn you down. I'd phrase it more, would you like to keep in touch or chat? or something like that imo. The context from the are you single question should be enough to imply you're interested in a romantic/sexual way. >>23316249 Its true, some of those things carry over in passive interaction, though I personally at least always keep a good couple feet distance when talking to someone I'm not interested in intimately. >women do exist who feel scared of backlash when they do move away or reject Maybe I'm just a cold bitch but I feel these women need to grow the hell up and learn to use their words. You can't expect people to read your mind, if you're uncomfortable fucking say something. Don't coddle them, don't assault them either. But these women will be the hardest to interact with because you do have to look more intently for those other cues of disinterest. All in all anon, confidence would do you wonders. If you're constantly worried about coming across as a creep, its a self fulfilling prophecy. If you go into it thinking what you're doing is right and harmless, you'll have an aura about you that chicks should feel cool with. IDK how to help you get that confidence, but I'd say just practice makes perfect and fake it till you make it. Also, though intimidating, try aiming for the more confident chicks in the room. A, they're more likely to tell you to fuck off it they aren't interested so you don't have to wonder, and B, they're the least likely to freak out if you do go hit on them. Because they tend to be more rational minded.
>>23317435 Skinny and weak. Muscles don't do shit for me, especially large arms and shoulder. If anything I'd like a swimmers body, but even still, I'm just not into muscle. >>23316682 Dunno, probably what the other anon said about feeling safe and feminine. I also personally just like the feeling of hugging/embracing tall guys, hanging off them with my arms around their neck, having to get on my tip toes to do it. That being said, I just wouldn't date a guy who was shorter than me unless he had a really awesome personality to compensate. So my limit is 5'4 and above. Too tall is a problem too though, since you kinda just don't fit together and makes it awkward to get intimate. But I've only met one person so tall I couldn't really hug him lol, and he was like, 7 foot and really noodly lol. I came up to his belly button. >>23316642 I like a man whos confident, dominant, knows what he wants. I like a guy who isn't a try hard and is kinda cheeky, darker sense of humor but still understands time and place. Basically not autistic. >>23317991 Not sure what you mean, look tame like they want something? could you rephrase it. >hair touch like I said in an earlier post, hair touch could mean a lot of things. I just touch my hair all the time when I'm bored.
>>23309300 you simply ask her, communication is key, just pick a good moment and bring up that topic. she might be a prude, but you should be able to ask her about that without problems, otherwise you two arent a good match
>>23309321 you get a booty call and then chicken out bc you are insecure about your height? whats wrong with you? if she doesnt ask it, then it doesnt matter to her, stop getting brainwashed by the internet
>>23309471 your looks are important for online hookups, but you can still score with women, just be smart and have some good introduction lines and and be nice to them, also if you dont try it you wont know
>>23309531 this is so wrong, if they have to go on a dating site themselves they have a reason for that. if you make it sound like that, then the same applies to irl too.
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