I have no real urge to go out and meet people. I get along well with friends of my friends and everyone I work with, but feel absolutely no urge to go and hang out with people most of the time. I'm happier hanging out at home or hiking alone and that stuff. I am also socially retarded around women.
I rarely get mad at someone, but when I get really mad I can get really agressive, I scratched my mom once and I left some marks on her arm, but I just can't control it, it never really happens to me, it has only happen 2 times
Replying to my own thread, I'm terrible at breaking the ice. I come across as formal, stiff, awkward. I can be damn charming once I'm in, it's getting there that's the problem.
I talk myself out of it. I hold back. I shy from opportunity. I retreat to solitude.
I could have potentially asked this girl out, if I had set things up better tonight. If I had been more social, more comfortable. But I lost the opportunity. Let it sail by. She was the cutest thing...
I've been pretty much fucked since the start, having terrible parents that basically fucked me before I was even born. I grew up in a terrible environment, became addicted to drugs at a very young age, and am now suffering from it. I am now sober, but I am poor as dirt, living alone, recently lost my job. I am thinking about becoming a stripper, basically rock bottom.
>>23279091 Just ask her over text. She probably sensed you were interested. Just say you were shy, but by no means put yourself down. Be honest, but not self-demeaning. Tell her you think she's cute. Or top that by saying she's the cutest girl ever etc (if you sense she's into you, and you come off as genuine, she'll be flattered.) >>23279161 agreed. Only the unfiltered nature of imageboards give us any sense of being outliers. In reality we just voice normie opinions we wouldn't say outloud.
Well I really am trying. I'm tired of being alone and miserable. Doing a lot more productive stuff and a lot less internet. Even coming here at least I'm talking to girls just as inexperienced and scared of me as I am of them, I guess it's practice.
Head high shoulders back, fake it till you make it.
>>23279232 I have no game and am not really a bar person. My last attempt with a female was asking out my 9 years older uni mate and telling her I like her, but she rejected me. Now I'm trying tinder. Guess I'm just a pussy though as I don't hurry with asking my matches on a date.
>>23279008 >2011 >alright, if i do well in my IGCSE's, ill get into a good A Level program with my friends
>2012 >alright, A levels, time to un fuck my IGCSES and go to a good uni
>2014 >welp, looks like every university i've ever applied to has rejected me
>2016 >finally out of navy boot camp, time to be a nuke and unfuck my life >come back to room today to see my 3rd fucking room inspection failure cause my fucking retarded, fat, white faggot ass roommate cant a) keep his shit clean and b) take out the trash. >have no friends, cause all of them are in university or have jobs now
add to that, im slightly overweight, socially awkward, and indian. no one likes indians, not even other indians.
>>23279294 from my experience tinder just seems to be a hook up place, idk if youre looking for that or not. But now that rejection has happen, can it really get worse? like you've experienced the worst part and you're still here
>>23279242 I don't see this different from most social media desu. I deleted all my social media, and turned to /soc/ since it's more 'real' and one-on-one. I think the oddballs just stand out and garner most attention, therefore skewing our idea of what the majority of posters are like. >>23279203 domo anon.
>small dick (5.5x5.0, all the girls I've talked to on the subject think it small and not good enough) >grey asymmetrical eyes >Shitty hair >bad skin >skinny fat frame >Everyone says I look like Elijah Wood but nobody outside of this shitty site, especially on other social dating shit, finds me attractive >Nothing special about me >Not intelligent, athletic, charismatic or talented I'm just a born loser, I got nothing
>>23279017 This. Couldn't have said it better I feel you anon. I'm so out of touch with my life. I wake up and already can't wait for the day to be over. Friends and family reach out and I usually make some excuse to avoid them. I feel like they have these high expectaions that Im nowhere near reaching. My anxiety cripples me even at my own famly events. Many times I've left social events and just broken down into tears. Whether its the thought of suicide or the thoughs of how much of a shitty person I am something usually prohibits me from enjoying the good life i have.
>>23279366 Are you the blondie on the 'match with someone equally attractive' thread? If so you're attractive. You just look young, and it'll pass as you get older. If not, youger girls will becoming legal each year, and you can try your luck with them. Pretty sure you said you're 18. Just relax.
24 years old, chronic major depression and obsessive compulsive disorder (both clinically diagnosed, before someone tries to call me out).
I've been sort of a shut in all of my life. I don't have a social life, just a few friends from work that I occasionally hang out with. Everyone sees me as the funny ironic girl that never goes to any of their parties and doesn't add them on Facebook and I don't do either because I don't want them to see how much of a meme shitlord loser I am.
My appearance kind of exudes a certain style that most people don't like (dumb tattoos/piercings) so I don't get much attention from guys in the sense of dating. I get hit up a ton about casual fucking but I'm not into that and never really have been. I don't know how to talk to the opposite sex at all because I'm not seen as relationship material and I don't want to fuck them immediately so what else would I have to say?
I am honestly lonely as fuck but I get by on the hopes that maybe one day some guy will want to get to know me and marathon Game of Thrones and smoke weed with me until we die.
Fuck I just rambled and said a lot of dumb shit, sorry
I think what's wrong with me is that I grew up in a small town. I live in southern Oregon and there's literally no way to have a social life here. Everyone I know has kids or a wife and kids. They all work minimum wage and have no aspirations of moving forward with their lives. It's just me, and I'm working hard towards a college degree so I can get out. That's probably my problem in a nutshell.
It depresses me terribly that I can't have more friends and interact with people, or meet women randomly. I can imagine having a healthy social life is cool and all, but I just don't have that and I don't see it happening until I get my degree and move out of this tiny town.
>>23279008 i have a painful inferiority complex, just as painful social skills, just got out of my first serious relationship so i'm heart broken, and I'm bored. Also looking for validation as i feel like the world looks on me much lower than i actually do, aesthetically, anyway.
>>23279161 i mean, if you think having fantasies about a rape, double homicide, followed by suicide is a normie thing, then i guess that makes me a normie. well, fuck, there's one more thing wrong with me. I'm a closet psycho
>>23280827 Oh and I'm a habitual liar and really manipulative. I can't go 5 seconds without trying to fuck someone over or "manage" a person through lies and backstabbing while I preach the virtues of truth and trust.
My gf broke up with me last month. I've been lonely even when we were together (she lives an hour away from me and she's super busy), but now that we're "friends" all I have is her and my best friend who lives 3000 miles away. I have so few friends and I can't make any at my shitty community college.
>>23280550 > if you think having fantasies about a rape Pretty normal fetish. > double homicide "I'm going to kill that/those asshole/s." - Everyone, at least once.
If you think about killing someone out of anger, that's pretty normal. If you think about it just to get pleasure out of torturing someone, that's different. Don't see much people writing about murder fantasies on /soc/ tho. The people that do, probs imagine torturing a kawaii anime loli instead of a real person. >followed by suicide suicide fantasies are pretty normal. Easy way out way of thinking
>Disabled >Molested by Dr at 12 >Severely bullied throughout childhood due to physical disability >Lots of friends joined the bullies in Middle school, spawning fear of socialization and a self harm habit >Arrested for a zero tolerance policy that didn't exist just for saying the wrong word >First boyfriend at 14 tried to kill himself after my ex went after him and his mom tried to strangle him, tried to kill himself again when he was told he couldn't speak to me >Second boyfriend at 17 was in a house fire shortly after we got involved and suffered 3rd degree burns, stuck by his side and 2yrs later he cast me out of his life out of nowhere >Mom incredibly loving in childhood, became n-parent, then verbally and physically abusive >Ran away just to escape from the abuse >Mom dies suddenly right before HS graduation >Lose home and everything in it, move around for 3 years, mostly bad homes >First crush and childhood friend turned out to be a sociopath and kept me abused, starved, and raped for 6 months >Dad only in my life briefly after her death before casting me out over a petty argument, died of cancer last year >No family, no future, too fucked up for a committed relationship
Honestly I come here during the real low points and hide 95% of the threads, make 2 posts, and leave.
>Don't like social things at all >Hate meeting new people >too focused on my career path to be in a working relationship right now >Have only made 3 friends so far in college >Enjoy having only a small circle of friends to deal with too much >apparently have an 8/10 face >haven't had a girlfriend for almost 2 years >still a virgin fuck who doesn't smoke or drink and refuses to thanks to my past family history >interested in things most people don't care about or things that are too hard to talk about like science and art >first person in my family to get a higher education who wants to actually do something with their life and doesn't want to fuck up wasting what little money I have on drugs or booze >basically have abstained from fun >come on here to fill the loneliness in my life so I can stay sane while I try to figure myself out.
serious abandonment issues, fine in social situations (can throw up a facade) but can't break the habit of pushing away others and avoiding building relationships. was rejected a lot as a kid so i mostly reject everyone now before they can do it to me. merciless resentment towards people who abandon loved ones and people who've hurt me in one form or another
been in love with the same person for the past 11 years. finally decided im getting too old for this shit and told them, over a year ago. but they're in a committed relationship. they alluded to cheating and abandoning their family to be together with me. was disgusted and ashamed. totally repulsed. pushed them away and rejected, shamed them so hard they'll probably never never speak to me again. but i still care about them. deeply. undoubtedly the most painful thing i've ever experienced in my life.
>>23279008 Not me. I have the perfect life. I'm dating the hottest guy ever. Having lots of sex. My parents have a lot of money so I don't need to worry about anything. I party a lot with my friends. Couldn't wish for a better life
18 Computer science high school, girls are literally 20% there. Most of them are ugly anyway. I'm also ugly, i have a weak as fuck jawline + i'm socially awkward. I have a few friends, but i despise most of the people, and myself most of all.
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