OK /soc/, I need help. I just started dating this girl, and it turns out that she's had sex with not one, not two, but FIVE men before me. I don't think either of us could truly love each other under these circumstances, and I was considering dumping her. Unfortunately, she knows my mother and I don't want her telling my mom that's why I got rid of her. How would I go about doing this?
That depends, how many girls have you been with? It would be hypocrite if you've also been with 5 girls before here.
If you don't think you can make it work this girl because of her sexual past, or anything else, you should talk to her about that.
You're still young, you have enough time to find someone else that's more catered to your needs.
Perhaps it's recommendable that you look for a girl that's 3 or 4 years younger than you if you really want a fellow virgin.
Why would that be? Women should be more careful about whom they choose to be in relationships with and whom they sleep with.
Relationships should be about quality and not quantity.
How old are you now? 18 or something? I don't think there's anything wrong about a 20 something girl that has not had a romantic relationship. If anything it makes you a more solid character than other women that have already had a number of partners at your age.
fucking kill yourself you pathetic piece of shit
you are worthless
you will die alone with your fucking hilarious hentai standards you garbage anime virgin
people like you make me glad to be alive, you're so hopelessly alone and useless
please kill yourself you sexless piece of shit
This has to be bait. Please dump her because she could certainly do better than you. If you are seriously concerned about how many sexual partners she has had before you then you need to ask yourself, why? The answer should be "it conflicts with my own personal opinion/ religious views" or "it shouldn't bother me". If A then talk to her and move on (that is if you decide following your views or morals or whatever is more important than this girl and a relationship). If B carry on with your new enlightened life
> implying that not only do women have to be careful about who they sleep with but that men don't.
Please explain to me why women have to be careful how many people they sleep with?
That's fair. I appreciate that you hold both men and women to that. I just hope that people with these traditions understand that there are also people who don't have them and respect that.
What the fuck, why would 5 guys matter? I mean okay if it was 500 by the age of 20 then I would raise my eyebrows.
Blows my mind that this is even a thing, if I had those kinds of requirements I would still have been a virgin now without a doubt.
At the same time being a virgin or not is really not a big deal, honestly who gives a shit? In the end it just means you are inexperienced and know absolutely nothing what to do in bed, which just is a negative thing.
I'd much rather have a partner that has experience and know what they like that's for sure.
lmao at all these roastie sluts literally getting personally offended
no one fucking wants you, you're worthless
im an average dude not a toasted roastie but i want you to step back and imagine how many dicks you would take if you're were a chick for a week, then you dial that back and realize maybe a 23 year old girl having 5 sex partners is actually really fucking low
Mfw I'm 22 and I've taken hundreds of cocks
>perfect innie so no one can tell/ cares
if i was a girl i would take 0 dicks because i'm not a roastie whore you stupid white knight faggot. now begone beta scum, your orbitress needs you
Because it's incredibly easy for girls to have sex since you are he gatekeepers, whereas men need to wine and dine and do all of the chasing. Anytime a guy has sex it's because he worked at it, a girl just decides to have sex without doing any work whatsoever. Not the same thing at all
I'm gay/bi/pan/whatever and I wouldn't care. I'm surprised people actually care about this, as if your standards aren't in orbit already because y'all fap to fake porn puppets all the time.
Seriously, if a person is nice (kind, humble, open-minded, calm) I'll go for it, regardless of gender. Condoms are a thing and free STD tests as well.
>inb4 I didn't use gay in that sense
Virtuous principle means more than any relationship. Fuck you.
Wow, holy crap. Do you know what year it is? If you see relationships only as sex and the guy doing all the work then you're doing it wrong. Don't bother responding. You win.
In your opinion, sure. So then just continue to live by it and ignore girls that don't fit your principle. No need to get berate ones that don't.
I guess that you're young since you mention your mommy. I would make a judgement about a woman based upon her character, brains,looks, sense of humor,+education. I don't understand why the number of men she's been with would impact your ability to love her or her ability to love you. But, obviously you're quite immature and are passing judgement on her based upon an irrelevant metric
>a person who has become a slave to the lure of pleasure and has had sex with ten thousand people is as viable a partner as somebody who has had the temperance to hold onto chastity until she meets a person who she believes she can spend her life with
Op i know how you feel. I am glad there are guys like yourself out there who value morals like myself. Sadly the older we get the harder it is to find someone with a low lay count
I wasn't talking about relationships I was talking about initiation. It's the guy who asks the girl out, it's the guy buying the drinks, it's us putting in the work and you deciding whether or not you wanna fuck. It's entirely your choice which makes it easy as fuck to have sex for women. For a girl to have sex with a lot of guys means she's easy, for a guy to have sex with a lot of girls means he has good social skills/looks/etc. that's why slut shaming isn't a bad thing
Jesus fuck, I knew a lot of guys on soc are socially retarded, but I didn't know it was this bad. Thankfully the chances of someone with the same views as op actually reproducing are pretty fucking slim
>it's the guy who asks the girl out, it's the guy buying the drinks, it's us putting in the work and you deciding whether or not you wanna fuck
That is a really archaic way of looking at relationships. Not really true in this day and age. Whenever I was dating I always paid my own way unless they absolutely insisted on covering the bill, and I have asked out guys about as much as they've asked me out. Whenever I had sex with a guy I was dating, I wasn't "giving him sex". It was a mutual decision to have sex because we like/love each other and want to express it.
>For a girl to have sex with a lot of guys means she's easy, for a guy to have sex with a lot of girls means he has good social skills/looks/etc
It doesn't matter the gender. People (guys or girls) who sleep around a lot are sluts. No excuses
>That is a really archaic way of looking at relationships. Not really true in this day and age.
99% of initiation takes place like this. No girls are walking up to dudes at bars and buying them drinks. I agree that nowadays, dinner bills are sometimes split that is when they are already in a relationship. First/second dates, it's expected for the guy to pay.
>It doesn't matter the gender. People (guys or girls) who sleep around a lot are sluts. No excuses
Back that up with an argument. Slut isn't a gender neutral term
I can't understand what you're mad about
you too, also history is everything
if you're a convicted felon you have a very hard time getting a job even though you're not currently committing crimes. If you're a sex offender, you can't be around children. If you're a slut, nobody will want to be with you.
It's a harsh fact, but permanent consequences do exist.
the only chicks expecting that kind of treatment are those annoying "princess" types who think they should be spoiled at all times because they are female. and by appeasing them you are putting women on a pedestal that either they don't deserve or can't live up to. I don't understand why people can't just treat anyone equally.
men who sleep around with many women are easy.
women who sleep around with many men are easy.
how can you not understand that
i would give this a 0/10, but youve gotten a fair amount of replies. so ill bump that up to a 2/10.
but please apply yourself in future b8 posting, i sense great potential going to waste
>If you're a slut, nobody will want to be with you.
>It's a harsh fact, but permanent consequences do exist.
That's not completely true, plenty of beta cucks will still want to be with you.
Roasties get toasties
In promiscuous men encourage promiscuity amongst women in the same way that drug dealers encourage degeneracy amongst potential drug users.
The fault need be placed on both: the instigator for attempting to subvert the better conscience of the other, and the instigated for being weak willed.
A stronger instigator can subdue a person of normally strong will. If promiscuous men ceased to instigate as often, women would become less promiscuous.
Of course it stand that women can more easily find partners than men can.
If men weren't as desperate to fuck everything, the urges of the promiscuous woman would not be satisfied.
well there you go
I still can't understand why everybody is getting mad. OP, and all men, has every right in the world to dump a girl for being sexually promiscuous. It's like if you dumped a girl for getting fat or for being too lazy or mean. Some people don't think you had the best reason for dumping her, but it's his fucking choice.
>men who sleep around with many women are easy.
There's nothing easy about that. It takes skill to do this. That's why the phrase "good with women" exists. You never hear "good with men" because you don't have to be
But that's what easy meant. Any man is easy because women aren't trying to have sex with him, and men generally always want sex from wherever they can get it.
But there's no "game" for women, so men can't really be easy.
people are getting upset that there are actually consequences of sucking every cock on planet earth
This thread has given me a new insight on women. When I say that I don't want a nonvirgin, they insult me and become greatly offended. It's simply a quality I don't like. You're allowed to ask for tall and attractive men, why am I not allowed to ask for a virgin woman? You fawn over traits the individual has no choice in. I'm making a decision based off of something entirely up to the individual which allows me to gauge their personality. I don't understand why I'm in the wrong.
>tell guys my partner count close to the beginning to weed out the weaklings like OP
it's been a fantastic system so far. virgins are fine, but nothing more annoying than the holier than thou type
it's highly unlikely at OPs age that he will find a virgin who isn't the hardcore religious type or have major social issues. he's likely going to have to go after a girl that is several years younger, and he's going to be competing with lots of other guys for that one girl while ignoring a lot of potentially great people. it seems a bit silly
It bothers idiots and psychos. Anyone who has a problem with it isn't worth your time, either in a relationship (massive emotional problems, selfish, controlling, immature) or sexually (shit in bed, hence the fear of a woman who's slept with enough people to notice).
To all of you insulting me for no reason, please refer to >>23180278 .
Why is it OK for others to have preferences based off of things that cannot be changed, but when I have a preference based on an individual's choices, I am berated and made out to be a bad person? Really? You all call me childish for making relationship choices based off of a persons actions and personality? I don't understand. What's wrong with all of you?
But were things going well until you learned she had 5 partners? How long have yall been together?
And yes you are allowed to have preferences, but people are allowed to voice their opinions
A few months, and yes, you're allowed to have opinions, but I'm merely pointing out the hypocrisy here. Why is it generally considered OK by society to dislike someone for being ugly for example, but it's seen as an abhorrent and hateful act to dislike someone for being promiscuous? I'm not even insulting her and calling her a whore or anything, I'm just saying I don't want to be with her anymore.
This isn't really the right place to be asking if you want emotional support. Ask on /soc/ if it is fine to want a virgin and you'll have a thousand turbosluts telling you that you are a horrible person. Ask on /pol/ and you'll get a thousand greasy neckbeards telling you she is a whore.
It is perfectly fine to want a virgin. The older women get the more likely they are to be in long term, committed relationships or out slutting it up. At 21/22, most of the virgins are married by now.
>but when I have a preference based on an individual's choices, I am berated and made out to be a bad person
because virginity is a made up meaningless concept and pretty dumb to be so concerned over
jesus fucking autism, please be a troll........Just because you've been a forever alone doesn't mean a girl has to be too. This whole "she's had sex with X number of guys" stuff is such bullshit. I'm a dude, if a girl wants to fuck me I appreciate the compliment and fuck her like a man should fuck her. If she's relationship material and I think we might work out I'll date her. You're making life way to hard by being so fucking judgemental.
not sure if stupid or trolling, but the concept of virginity and its significance is made up as a religious means of control. that's literally it. look it up if you don't believe me