People get mad when I post here but I am lonely. Not attractive either I guess.
>not interested in sex
>not interested in porn
>not interested in financial success
>not interested in social success
what the fuck
I look like this
I can't get laid ever on account of having a vagina
Really lonely, lost all my friends in the last few years. Trying to put myself out there and facing a lot of rejection due to my weight. I managed to lose over 100 pounds in the last 2 years my reward for this is an unfortunate amount of skin sag..
I'm trying to find some kind of relationship even just physical.
I genuinely enjoy seeing you here, and you're fairly attractive in a fatherly kind of way, go find a girl/guy with daddy issues and you're set. :*
You've got nice eyes, just lose weight and shave the bum fluff.
>I'm pretty lonely, but it's because I struggle talking to people in RL.
>live in boring shithole called Illinois
>every IL thread is sausage fest
>seems all women are already taken
>even hambeasts have bf
>everyone is a normie and have pleb tastes
>dark, sun is late to rise and early to set in winter
>cold, freezing to death would be preferable
>god help us all if there were one, Illinois is proof that there isn't
26, never had a girl interested in me just shoot me in the face desu
>move to a new city
>still have no friends at all
I'm kinda alright looking but my personality is a mess. Too depressed, negative and cynical it puts people off.
>tfw trying hard but can't change
Never really bothered to make a list but i think i would be a switch? As long as it doesn't get too crazy with pain or pegging and stuff i will probably be into it. I like stocking too, a lot. Tall girls too, taller than me (about 5'7-5'8). But honestly my tastes have always been pretty eclectic and i have had all kinds of weird fantasies i don't really think much about them, they just come and go since they play out only in my mind and don't leave a lasting experience as i imagine they would if another person was involved.
people often compliment them online but i think it's because there isn't anything else to compliment and people in general tend to overrate brightly colored eyes for some reason
It's weird, I have great friends, so I don't feel terribly lonely. But they're all guys. I've never connected with a girl on that same level. Other than a couple flings, there's never been a girl I could honestly say I loved. And now I feel like I'm missing something essential out of life. Don't even know if I'm capable of it, now that I'm 23.
also read this
it's satire but it's still a fairly good representation of what goes on in the meme lover's brain
I think my issue is just autism I guess, I've never really been told I'm 100% hideous or unfuckable but I'm not attractive either. Little chubby, but I've been working on that the past couple years with little change in interest of guys as the pounds came off. Just very plain Jane average I guess. I don't really stand out and I'm too afraid to approach guys myself.
Guys just don't talk to me irl, even when I put myself in social situations.
And in your early 20's, seems like nobody actually dates anymore, just casual hookups which I just can't do. Because while I'm somewhat decent clothed, I got hit with just about every negative trait you can get nude. Big dinner plate nipples, stretch marks, weird unflattering ass, and roast beef vag.
I feel like it would be a real bait and switch to guys just wanting a hook up even if I wanted to, only thing worse would be having a dick.
yes. donald trump has already made meme magic real and he isn't even president yet.
Before I could blame social anxiety and stuff for lack of women. Struggled to get fully past one issue only to find I had many more, I guess.
Wouldn't Tumblr be a better place than /soc/ to find people that would be into that? Not trying to be a shitter. Just an honest question.
>nice eyes/good look with glasses
who you tryin to kid?
average attractiveness but utterly lonely aside from family so it doesn't make much of a difference. No friends any more, never been in a relationship. Social cripple. I'm fucked.
What's the flag in the left corner?
I mean, for guys who would fuck anything with a vagina I'm sure its no big deal but, idk I don't feel like I'll ever be actually desirable to someone. Like, theres no dude thats like "wowee i sure love these giant nips that cover most of the surface of your tits, and I sure love how they're innies and never pop out ever, and your gross dangly roast beefy vagina is great, this is ideal to me"
Or at least there are like, 40 dudes in the whole world who are into that and chances are unlikey I'd ever even meet them let alone find them desirable as well.
There's always someone out there for you, just don't give up hope. Sometimes things don't always go as planned but you shouldn't feel discouraged, as long as you stay firm that you will find someone. Well. You will.
20 years old KV
i can't even remember what it's like to have friends
Just your usual loser man, nothing different. Got made fun of, told that I'm disgusting and deserve nothing, treated like dirt. I tried to improve myself for years but I'm just fucked in the brain, I'm done with everything. You born with things you need for success or just play catch up for years to get to the same level as them.
Why shadow people? You do what makes you happy. And yes the world is unforgiving at times but you always have time to make good of yourself. Besides people around here are probably worse off than you so don't think you're the only one.
28 khv never had a gf never been on a date, the ride never ends
Well nothing makes me happy particularly. I just want to find someone to share my life with and do stuff together but it's proving to be impossible after 25 years.
>Besides people around here are probably worse off than you
heh, majority of these website's users are from first world not from a 3rd world shithole where there are suicide bombings almost every month like me.
People find love at ages man. You just need to wait. Also how don't you know, there are users here they weren't here yesterday because of some shit that happened. You should be fortunate you're able to post and be depressed at the same time.
I'm a 5 at best. Maybe a 6 on a really good day.
I have friends, but I'm a gay dude and all my friends are female. I love them, but its not the same. And fixing it is probably just a matter of me going to the gay bar or something else alone and that's super intimidating for me.
Not really that lonely, but my self-esteem's worth shit. I can't for the life of me see what some people see in me. Can't even stand staring at the mirror.
I'm the guy.
Honestly, a lot of gay bars are very dance oriented, and I'm sure if you invited some of your female friends, they'd happily join you. And plus, being with women, other single men there will probably assume you're single, and you've got a built-in group of wingwomen!
okay, lonely as fuck and only attractive to some. here's the thing that causes that: im in western canada amd from eastern canada where most of my friends still are and every girl i fall in love with for almost ten years now has been an american citizen. to this day none of them have been able to come up here and i get stopped at the border on my way to visit them as a " potential illegal immigrant " so its frustrating as fuck.
to the point where any american girl wants me they almost have to slaya dragon to get to me, atwhich point all i can do is give tips on how to them.
also i'm trans and lesbian but the fact ididnt bring that up until now only emphasizes how much the problem isthe other stuff and not about being trans pr lesbian. though it is depressing that three quarters of people who hit on me are guys
How long ago did you move? Give it time. And dont forger to smile
>I managed to lose over 100 pounds in the last 2 years my reward for this is an unfortunate amount of skin sag..
You're not alone, anon. I've lost a ton of weight myself and still need to lose 80 lbs more AT LEAST. Everything looks like absolute ass on me between the loose skin and the being completely covered in stretch marks thing. I'm not sure I'll be able to have a normal relationship because I'm so embarrassed about my body already and it's only going to get worse. Working hard to change your habits while knowing you're never going to have a normal body like everyone else anyway is pretty depressing sometimes. I'm at least happy that I don't feel so terrified going into public though.
I also have a form of rosacea, so my face looks like I'm drunk or I've been out in the cold for too long. It's difficult to take a proper shot that shows it well, but you can kind of see how the skin is pale around the eyes and forehead while my cheeks and nose have more of a reddish look. My face feels like it's directly in front of a blazing fire sometimes and it's pretty uncomfy.
As for me I thought everything would get better if I stopped posting on here and put myself out there. Yet my social life is just as dead as before. I ruin eery relationship I have and push my friends away. My sister is the closest friend I have and she's away at college. Its pretty lonely but it's ok
I imagine all of you guys just not wanting to talk to people because you're either shallow or don't give people a chance. I apologize if I'm wrong.
I don't even know what I am
I had a 10/10 gf once but people say I'm ugly af.
I'm lonely and have been since hs (5 yrs ago)
I don't even have any friends.
Maybe you should. I think most people are just as afraid to approach people as anyone else. You just have to keep trying. I mean, if people approach me I usually try and give them a chance unless I'm in a bad mood or am busy. If that's the case, it's not personal. You should try making some online friends, too.
You aren't unattractive, so stop thinking that. You're making yourself a victim -- in the end that doesn't matter.
All i see is extremely social people my age everywhere, definitely not as anxious and afraid to approach as me, i've had plenty of negative previous experiences that are hard to overcome. I don't even know how to keep trying when everyone prefers me to be a statist in the background.
Online friends just don't work for me. Also i am just being honest, i really don't see how i am victimising myself in any way. This guy knows how it's like >>23150018
Also my looks are at best subpar, another person in another thread summed me up nicely just now
>super long face, no cheekbones, shit jaw and chin, you could literally land a place on your philtrum
this is objectively correct and it puts me in a lower position than the average male who already has it tough depending on where he lives
you're not unattractive bro, we can clearly see the potential of your face behind the little chub, just lift some weight, drop some %bf and you could be fucking handsome.
For me.. well, i think i'm pretty fucking average/less average, so most people ignore me, i just can't have this "sexy" vibe that some guys have, i'm just friendly with most of people, strong character and value, no socially awkward, i'm not autist, pretty funny and still, girls don't find me attractive or see me as bf material, don't know really why, i thought it was because of my personality since that's the regular answer here in 4chan but...why i have so many people that like me and yet nobody want to be my partner ?
I thought i was nice and caring, maybe that's not enough ?
So that's why now, i think it's only because of my appearance, it's pretty frustrating.
But i refuse to let myself go, i still have hope and i'm 50% certain that someone i find attractive will love me one day :)
>i thought it was because of my personality since that's the regular answer here in 4chan but
It's a meme because they like to think they care about personality to not to seem shallow. Your face and height as a man is all that is matters, anyone that says "personality" matter is memeing. No women gives a shit about personality it's all about face, height, dick size and status.
Do you think you're exclusive or something? Most women I know have really negative experiences and have been put down by a lot of people. I assume that most males have the same experiences, but are just more discrete about it. What people say on 4chan isn't true. You shouldn't take it to heart. I think that "dick rate" threads are really amusing, as well as what you listed as what people think are attractive. You can't speak for everyone. I might not be attractive to a lot of people on here, but other people may find that I'm their cup of tea.
You are capable of changing. If you want to be more social, you can do that. You can't expect a full on personality change in a given period, though. You have to be realistic. For starters, I suggest you stay off of 4chan. Social media is really toxic.
Pah-lease. I see through your intentions -- do you just want compliments? If you have low-self esteem, you aren't going to get anywhere by talking shit about yourself.
i wouldnt be this hard with 4chan, bro.
Let's say that appearance is the first thing that people see, so if you're really good looking, people TEND to be more open and forgiving about your personality flaws, i guess.
But still, you can be brad pitt tier handsome, with a shitty personality, the only thing you'll get in life is some sex, maybe.
It's the same for us, as a male, i find some girls obviously hot, but if she's a complete bitch, i tend to rate her lower in my mind (like a 8 >6) and her personality don't make me want to approach her...
The opposite is true too, but it's more difficult for ugly people to make people appreciate them for who they are because people judge too often because of the appearance...
I'm sorry, are you a dog? I don't know why I'm indulging this pity party. If you want to feel better about yourself, you need to do yourself a favor and be proactive about who you are instead of posting on 4chan about your appearance.
I never implied other people don't have issues or anything, maybe i can't deal properly with mine, i don't know really. I do say the truth on 4chan so why wouldn't other people do as well? I don't take anything about myself here to heart, just some of it resonates with my own thoughts and some of it doesn't. I am not saying that there isn't some woman with obscure taste that might find me attractive but if we are talking objectively i believe the other guy i quoted is not wrong.
Sure i could probably be more social but for some time now i have no friends and i have been stuck with the same people in my bachelors program which was quite miserable since we are radically different and i didn't really want to be friends with them after they didn't bother acknowledging me in the first place. I will have to start a job soon so maybe stuff will change then. However 4chan is probably one of the few sites i bother visiting and staying off it will leave me with nothing and i don't really see a point in doing that.
It's sort of an untold truth that most people are dicks on 4chan and want to get a rise out of you.
It just sounds like to me you don't want to take the risk. Which is fine. But I can tell you this much, with the way you're going, you will be suffering in comfort.
What will you be thinking about when you're about to be put 10 feet under? You aren't going to be thinking about how hard you worked, what Sally said to you the other day, or frivolous bullshit. You're going to be thinking about who is important to you and what is important to you.
You're placing so much value on appearance and it's something that is faulty. It sounds like to me you'd benefit from cognitive therapy and start practice mindfulness. You have to have some hobbies besides 4chan. If you don't want to stay off of it, then fine. I don't think this is healthy, though. You should really take care of yourself.
Nope, a handsome guy can treat people like dirt and they'll still love him. I saw this loads of times in real life, specially at work.
You don't have to, just ignore me. I'm posting the truth.
>inb4 le man up meme
PS. This is sort of an unrelated thought, but it wasn't until really recently that everyone was super connected all of the time. I use to live in the country side of Ireland, and there is literally nobody there except for a few hundred people in the town I lived in. Everyone was up each other's arse and it's not as romantic as everyone thinks it is.
Reading is a good way to connect to people, as well as film. I don't think it's very realistic for everyone to feel connected to everyone all the time. It makes people go insane. You WILL find people that will be good friends to you. You just have to cut through all the gunk first, like anything in life. It makes it worth it.
Well I really wish I'd seen this earlier. Youre such a strong person thank you for reaching out to me. I genuinely feel little bit better after reading what you said if only to know that someone else is experiencing what I'm experiencing.
For what it's worth it always found people who aren't like others to be beautiful so maybe there's people like me out there who can see past how I feel
Sure there are dicks but there is honesty too. I am not sure what exactly you mean by risk, risk of approaching people i have observed and already know i have next to nothing in common due to past experience and upbringing? Taking a risk would be worth it if there is a decent chance to win something, right?
I have always lived mostly for hedonism, and i imagine on my dying bed i will know i didn't have enough of it. It's not like i didn't try though, i know i did what i could.
True aesthetics have always been very important to me, not only in humans but in general. In humans i believe aesthetics is probably the most important factor in relationships, for me everything else is a combination of settling and rationalizing according to the individual case.
I did visit a couple of therapists but here in the balkans those people are mostly hacks and they did more damage than good for me. I do agree about the hobbies, though most of what people do seems quite dull to me.
>Nope, a handsome guy can treat people like dirt and they'll still love him. I saw this loads of times in real life, specially at work.
Yeah, the halo effect. I have seen it in action so many times it's not even funny.
I have lived for most of my lifetime in two small cities, it's pretty nasty in my opinion, i don't like small communities at all. I would much rather spend my time in the biggest city possible, where even if i fuck up with someone i could try and look for completely different people that don't care.
I do enjoy reading and films though it's almost impossible to find new movies that i enjoy. I don't read often though, it's hard for me to keep my attention unless the book is really interesting for me.
Forget it I'm just drunk rambling.
Who knows, whatever they just get treated better while ugly people gets treated like shit
>Yeah, the halo effect.
yep finally someone gets it
maybe because the person himself is so handsome/gorgeous that people are intimidated by him/her ?
I don't know, but as i said, when you're really handsome i'm sure that people tend to be more forgiving and open, but still, i don't think they'll let themselve be treated like shit...
anyway, you sound more angry than sad bro :/
If you have low enough self esteem and you really like someone for whatever reason, being treated like shit could at some point be preferable than not being treated at all. It doesn't last usually i guess but it's definitely possible.
Well I can't conclusively say you are or aren't good looking. But you're not bad looking! Plus you seem to know how to dress, so unless you live in the middle of nowhere, you should be able to get the ladies. But what's the real problem? If you're like me it's probably confidence. So figure out what makes you feel good about yourself, and avoid things that make you feel bad about yourself. Martial arts worked for me!
Yeah, i know some people that prefer that, but even if loneliness is pretty harsh, i prefer this situation than being treated like shit, i'd probably be more miserable.
You have to stand up for yourself sometimes, ok you may not be the most handsome guy in earth, but you're still a human with feelings, morals and values, so if someone treat you like dirt, you should kick them out of your life asap.
i don't know what say to you bro, maybe you should start focus on your own happiness, do things that you enjoy a lot, keep your mind busy, travel, maybe one day, when you'll be happy alone, people will want you because a person happy is always attractive, especially if this person "spread" his happiness around him like a warm sunshine :)
Don't let the asshole get the better of you, or the girls, if you don't give a shit about them, they'll respect you at least, and respect is the foundation of love.
Sorry if i speak like a neandertal, i'm not english
I don't have any money to travel or focus on hobbies, I already hardly have enough money to survive. even if I want to travel I need to hop through so many loops for a visa that it's fucking ridiculous. 3rd world countries not even once
i forgot how it felt to be happy, last time I kind of felt happy it was almost a decade ago I think. my life is just suffering and struggling not to starve fuck everything
Why you just dont make a radical change then ?
Why don't you change your job for something that pay more ? Maybe go back to study while working to have a more usefull degree ?
If you're alone in your appartment, maybe share it with someone ?
I know that can be difficult, but they're always some solution to a problem, you "just" have to find the strenght to endure the hard times.
Hmm i don't know about that, after some time when you grow up as a person, you start being less "patient" with people who always ask you things and never give you anything...
At least for me
Thank you anon, but why do they have to have daddy issues
You're cool senpai
I'm not too annoying?
Kidding noone, either not good looking or super average/boring.
I feel you bro.
I'm really fucking shy and too scared of making the first move.
le potential meme
You're pretty attractive though, I reckon. You look like you'd be a good mate too.
Insomnia has recently pretty much destroyed much of my social life. Those lonely feels are a flowin'.
>tfw too ugly and hideous to post my own pic
>tfw no gf or friends ever
>tfw don't have it in me to just kill myself
When will the ride be over? I just want the suffering to be over.
Thank you bro, but don't put yourself down this much, i remember that you're pretty tall, why not lifting ? Being a giant buff guy can be attractive to many women, maybe you're "not attractive" because you look like a bit soft and not confident enough.
Just try it, at least for a year, and if nothing change, if you still don't like yourself and don't have any attention from other people, well, you could say that you tried, no ?
There, there...gingy, we're all there for you <3
radical changes are for rich people, it took me months to find this job and I was close to getting homeless. i'm working 12 hours a day back breaking labor job and sleep as soon as I get to home i have no time for pleasantries. i live with my family and help them with money
courage doesn't mean shit in this country you deal with hand that was dealt to you at birth
go get some labor job gingi, i couldn't sleep for days before too now i pass out when i get home
not soon enough brother ;_;
unattractive and awkward. Also got raped and given genital warts.. There was someone who sort of wanted me and I'm still talking to him but he's not going to want me now. No one ever will :(
Sad sad sad and lonely. Also sick. Also my eating problems are resurfacing. Shit sucks
Dude, if you want some money and if you are already a hard worker enough, just emigrate in Australia for a year with a working holiday visa, i'm sure you'll find a job who pay nicely enough to help your family too.
Europe is pretty shitty to find a job, at least a good one
240 pounds of ugly coming through
My company has a dresscode that i kinda half-ass
i was studying to be an english teacher but had to put it on hold because of money. teachers get paid pretty good in here so it was kinda my only hope but now i'm almost 26 and still have one year of college even if i graduate no one would take a guy graduated at 27 i want to get out of this place so fucking bad you can't even imagine
how do i do that holiday visa thing do you have any info?
ooookey so, the shoes and the shirt is a fashion faux-pas...
Well, for a working holiday visa, you just have to be less than 30 and have a certain amount of money on your bank account to not get broke the first weeks you come in Australia.
And you have to have a plane ticket back, ofc.
That's pretty much it, but without any information about your country i can't say if your government made the WHV deal with Australia..
Not with a permanent std they won't
Not always the wart kind which is something people really don't want..
tfw I was a virgin and everything. I feel like I need this guy in my life but I'm scared of his reaction.
I'm 22 and a virgin, never had a gf. I feel very lonely and am not sure if I'm worthy of attraction. Most people here say I'm attractive but you know, /soc/ meme rates. I'm getting an ok number of matches on tinder but I don't recall a single time I when thought "wow! this girl is very pretty and my type! I wish she'd match with me" and she did, and I've swiped plenty, plenty of such girls right. It feels like shit, as if I'm not good enough for girls that are actually hot, and there's a lot of them on tinder. Do they only swipe right male models?
oookey Turkey is eligible for the visa.
In France, they ask us to have a minimum of 3500€ in our bank account.
Add to that 440 AUS for the visa + your plane ticket.
Good luck with that :/
You'll need to get used to make a lot of money ^^
It's not rare there to make 5000$ a month or more if you get the right job.
The ones that pay well for backpackers are jobs in mines...
>• Letter of approval / support from the Ministry of Foreign Affairs agreeing to your stay in Australia under the Work and Holiday visa agreement – the selection process will be administrated by your university in conjunction with Higher Education Council (YOK)
and there goes my hopes again, i need to go back to school for this one and beat the competition off also
I don't think there is a special "competition", everyone is elligible, i think they say stuff like this to make sure that not EVERY turkish people emigrate in australia :p
Just do it, you don't have anything to lose anyway
>The Australian Government does not have any role in the nomination process for Turkish nationals. For specific requirements - including current student status, academic qualifications, and military service obligations – all enquiries on the nomination process should be directed to YOK
>Visa applications will not be accepted without the approved nomination from the Turkish Government.
and I don't I can cover the expenses at all. I already struggle to make ends meet. Ah man this and I'm sobering up a bit and seeing the stuff I wrote fuck this is embarassing
It's already over before it's started m8
nah it's okey bro, i don't really know the situation in Turkey about the employment, but don't stay inactive, you're working now and that's great, if you want to make more money, start searching some solutions, your situation is not doomed but you have to believe ...
hey, if you find me a nice paying job, that something i could do :D
Elliot was right. He was always right.
We have almost three million Syrian refugees taking entry level/labor jobs so young people can't get experience, since employers don't even have to pay them minimum wage+insurance. Normal jobs require you to know someone or millions of unrealistic qualifications, Turkish lira is losing value against € and $ ( 1 € = 3.2 liras, 1 $ = 3.1 liras) so it's becoming hard to buy stuff, like you can easily build a decent computer with min wage in Europe/USA I have to sell my fucking organs to get a decent gaming computer here not to mention you are a potential immigrant every time you want to take a vacation. I saved some money and wanted to visit my friend in Belgium last year and got rejected because they thought I was shady, didn't had enough money. My situation is actually doomed for sure, shit is hitting the fan with Kurds lately and ISIS is bombing shit left and right(there was a suicide bombing two days ago). I'll be getting conscripted in a year and get shipped to god knows where, If I get shipped to East I'm %90 sure gonna die.
Hey hun, I don't visit soc much but I wanted to know your post made me stop. You aren't alone in what you are going through. As of today I've lost around 110lbs, and still have about 80 more to lose to reach my goal weight. The skin gets better in time, and depending on your healthcare provider you should go get a physical. Your doctor will tell you how much weight to lose and if you lose it within a year I know blue cross and blue shield WILL PAY for removing the skin if you make the case you were even heavier before and you are developing sores from it all. That should work for most insurance companies, but you have to have a physical on record and recorded weight loss from your doctor / nutritionist.
Keep going. You're doing this for your health. looking good is just a consequence of being healthy. Good luck
Also not linking every photo but I just wanted to say I don't see a single "ugly" person in these threads. If I saw you all on the street I wouldn't think you were suffering from the social problems that you all claim. Its all in your head because you all look fine.
M8 you're not ugly, you need to at least cheer up. I know how hard it is having >no gf
But you need to find some sort of other hobby to keep your mind at ease. Do you have any interests?
i love you<3
you're cute but if you're that guy from r9k then you're probably only a kv bc you're a dick
you're definitely attractive
lol f off, you're "lonely" by choice and you know you're attractive. plenty of girls like you but your standards are way too high
i'm a khv with no friends and i've never had a guy like me irl bc i have really bad social anxiety and im ugly and my nose is disgustingly huge.
plus, ive been called insane by like 5 different people. idk.
>le quirky girl that tells all ugly guys she'd sex them xDDD
>look at me i name all my pics "eew" "disgusting" "dont hit on me silly guys"
kill yourself you whore, bet you've been real slutty and now you have mental baggage.
I took this picture maybe two days ago after I got home from work, but I'm lonely as hell. It seems no one is ever interested in me, and it's hard especially because one of my friends is apparently insanely attractive to women, has a hot wife and she lets him hook up with attractive women. Meanwhile, I'm home. Alone. It really hits me right in the self esteem.
Been seriously considering offing myself the past month or so. I'm so sick of never being happy. I can't find anything that satisfies me with life. I wouldn't even normally post on /soc/ I'm so desperate for any kind of meaningful human interaction.
It's okay anons, you could be me!
My girlfriend of three years left me two months ago because I'm degenerate hikkikomori scum, I'm pretty awkward, chubby, and unstable, as well as socially inept. But hey, I'll survive ^_^
>pushed all my friends away because of crushing depression, self-loathing, and misanthropy
>don't even get me started on women
>just sleeping and going to work, collecting paychecks and building up savings to give to my mom when I inevitably kill myself sometime before my 30th birthday
Lonely in the sense of I have like two friends. Romantically speaking, I don't really think about that because I work a bunch. Rarely think about dating. Guess I'm too busy to be lonely in that aspect?
yeah you aren't bad looking dude, sorry you're depressed, but have you tried seeking out a mental health professional for it? Some times it takes us a very long time to reach our true calling in life, but it IS there, and it WILL satisfy you, more so than anything else or anyone else ever could. So don't give up, alrighty?
until you've traveled every corner of the earth, tried every single hobby available, eaten every type of food from every country, and done everything out there in the world, you can't say that you've tried everything and given up on hope. there is something out there that will make you happy.
if you have the guts to think about offing yourself, you honestly have nothing else to lose by breaking out of your shell and doing things that you always wanted to do. if you're going to kill yourself anyways, reach out for other people. find a cuddle cafe, or something.
i honestly have no pity for people like you, who give up and throw the word suicide around because they're too unmotivated to get out of their comfort zones and find their own happiness.
you make your own happiness, it's not going to come to you.
Still a kissless/virgin, have friends but terrible at reading girls emotion, just stopped trying, ive been rejected 8 times, i hate being so ugly
I consider myself about as attractive as you and I'm also a depressed fuck
The depression/solitude bit is the sole thing that might stop you from finding the human interaction you want
I try to be as honest as I can, and you really are definitely above average
I dig the hair, too
There's always brighter days to come. I know that sounds incredibly cliche. I promise that your problems will never be solved with suicide.
Confidence is key. It's best to just befriend women first. People in general are hard to read; even the open books have a few pages stuck together.
Almost 21 now. Never been with a girl. Virgin.
Yes, I'm lonely. Wanna die.
I've thought about it, I don't have the money to actually pursue any of that stuff. Thanks man, I appreciate it. Just gotta keep searching I guess.
I'm not like "lol gonna kill myself" I haven't talked to people about it. I don't have available people to talk to about it. I would love to try everything in the world, everything in the world is not easily attainable. I don't want to live for another 25 years just to find out that I saved up to travel the world and didn't like it. That's only an example, but do you know what I mean? I'm not asking for sympathy. I just don't know what to do. I'm so lost, and already so tired.
Your pic is titled 'Grossest pic I've ever taken' You're a solid 8 at least, just from that picture, and you hang out on here, so at the very least you're most likely interesting. Big noses are common and yours isn't as big as most, and your piercings would detract from it enough even if it was. I would almost say the same thing you said to the last guy in your post back to you.
I want to commit suicide but I'm too much of a damn pussy to do it. I find myself extremly unattractive and I feel like I really have nothing to give in a relationship, other than I would shower her in love and attention. I had a girlfiend once and she broke up with me, without ever even giving a reason why. I think I was too clingy...
So I'm lonely, I guess.
>tfw the smile is fake
Thanks man. I've had human interaction but it just hasn't meant too much, I guess. I broke up with a long time girlfriend a few months ago and I rebounded so hard I latched onto this new girl after a week and I'm pretty sure I scared her off. It's not the end of the world but definitely something I didn't need at this point. I know everything gets better with time but this time it feels different.
I know what you mean, and I've been in better days, they just always seem fleeting. Thank you.
I really know what you mean. It's hard to just kind of give up on trying to look for love when the rest of your life doesn't really give you the time to. Giving up is just so defeating.
Women (assuming that's what you're interested in) are some of the most people things I've tried to understand. I'm not saying I miss being a virgin but I will say that I didnt experience 80% of my problems until after I started having serious relationships with women. It's not everything.
Not killing yourself doesn't mean you're a pussy. It means you still have hope. Try to hold onto it.
It sounds like you're more upset over a girl than anything. They can get you feeling like that, but desu I think you look pretty normal except for the fact that your eyes are a pretty nice color, if I were you'd I'd think about losing the glasses and getting contacts. Besides that, confidence is key. If you sit around sulking and telling yourself you're a pussy because you're too intelligent to end your existence, you're going to end up with a negative outlook. As for girls, they usually don't want very much attention, they want it when they ask for it and sometimes the want something spontaneous every now and then, but generally they just want to know that you'll be there when they need you.
I dont think contacts will work for me. My glasses already made my eyes really small, and I think it would be gross/painful to use contacts anyways.
I sorta get that girls dont want that much attention, but I really wanna make sure they feel loved, I guess. I think thats just because I sorta have a thing for girls with depression; they make me feel like I have a purpose in life (making them happy).
One of the most difficult things I've found out about being with women is to tone your feelings back. It's very easy to come on too strong. You have to love yourself before you can love truly love someone else. It's very, very difficult to "fix" other people.
Just keep in mind, you wanna give people the gift of missing you. Don't spoil the book, just give a synopsis and have her read it at her own pace. Let her discover all the pieces of you one at a time.
>tfw am good at giving other people advice but shit at applying it myself
makes me feel worse
Aw, ty <3
Ty, you're very sweet <3
I liked you. But I obviously wasn't good enough for you considering what you did to me. You really have no reason to complain
You like EVERYONE. Eat a bag of dicks.
She's a batshit insane annoying cunt who needs to leave me the fuck alone.
Even though it's a bummer for all of us, it really is comforting to know others are going through the same thing.
Thank you both for the kind words and encouragement as well as the mention of BCBS.
I'm not sure I'll be able to do much yet since I actually have a lot more obstacles other than just this, but I will definitely keep it in mind in the future when things are a little better. I've already saved some pages to look into for now at least!
Everyone who has posted a picture on this thread is attractive enough to find someone. Some fashion and hygiene would benefit a few of you, but overall everyone here should be capable of dating based on appearance. You all either have catastrophically low self esteem, fantasy standards for the opposite sex, or mental illness that turns others away. Confidence matters more than anything else, so sack up and get involved in some social activities. Take it from someone who was foreveralone and turned it around to successful dating, and I'm just as fat as I ever was.
Tbh, we met in highschool, I was a junior, she was a freshman, she played WoW and had issues with her dad, I comforted her and was one of the first friends she made in our state since she had just moved there. The first time we hung out outside of class was on Halloween. Her, a few friends of mine, and I all went trickortreating (even though I was like 18 lol) I didn't have a car or a job or anything but I really liked her so I lifted some candy from a store and walked to her house a few days later. Idk why she fell for me, I don't know why she stuck with me for yours, and I wish I could do something about her leaving, but all I can really do is hope and wait. She is my reason to live.
I should note, I only started becoming a shut in after I met her, I started avoiding friends to spend more time with her, stopped talking to my dad and started sneaking out to be with her, etc. until whoops all my friends are like "Who dis?" The moral of the story is, Bros before hoes.
I really really dont like how i look, my self esteems kinda fucked, i have social anxiety and im not close with any of my friends anymore
ive been trying to do shit on my own and be happy but i just get bored and lonely
Shave the stache, pluck the brow, grow your hair out for a better haircut. Problem you're making yourself look like a pubescent child. A lot of chicks dig the attention but being too needy can be a problem. Just dial it back a little, play it cool. Wait for some of the attention sometimes.
Play a scary movie in the dark, you won't feel alone again. :D
>Moved to a college to get away from people in my old school(bad times, negative people,constant fights, feminism), no one here talks to anyone new. I've still got no friends after about 5 months, not bad but it kinda sucks.
Tried talking to people but everyone here is the typical teen; they're content to just fill there lives with gossip about who's dating who rather than talk about anything of any substance.
TL;DR I'm alone because I don't understand people and there enjoyment of petty drama.
>le personality is why you don't get girls
How is it my personality if women don't even talk to me? They wouldn't even know.
a bit more than a year ago my best friend died. I was kind of in love with him. Suddenly he was gone. Three weeks later my dog died, she was 16 years old so it felt like another part of the past was ripped away. Another month later or so I almost lost one of my closest friends in my arms, had to keep speaking to him for like 40 minutes until the medicine drive thing arrived. Alcohol overdose mixed with shrooms, doctors said if I didn't stay with him/talk to him/hold up his head he would've died in 20 minutes tops.
Now I'm kind of trying to get out there again to meet cute people and maybe have some sort of a love life again but it's fucking hard. I've also gotten really chubby and I hate it.
hopefully 2016 goes well without any deaths (except for bowie and rickman of course)
hope you all are well, would hug each and every one of you
thanks, although anyone should do that for people they call friends. or people in general.
anon do you really think everyone in your new school is the "typical teen"? I'm sure there's a few others, there always are.
I'm sure there are people here which are..I don't know what the right word is...normal? But so far I haven't found any and because of it I'm getting grumpier due to the isolation...
Honestly, I haven't found a single person in my classes that I actually click with.
>anyone should do that for people they call friends. or people in general.
I wish there were more people that think as you do.
Fuck no. I actively avoid photographs, have done for the past 10 years. I only own one small mirror that I use sparingly. That's how much I hate how I look. Thanks anyway, but it's too much of a big deal for me to just post.
You know you'll never get better at it if you don't start at some point anon. Might just be posting pictures of your face on the net. I hope just posting helps you, even if it's just words. Be well!!
Try talking to the people who sit alone, I always identify with those the most even though I'm an overly extroverted person (at times). Or those with headphones on, it's a sign of isolation too. I'm sure you'll find someone anon, there might just be someone in the exact same shoes as you are in.
That does not solve loneliness. You need a deep emotional connection to feel fufilled, at least most women do. Looks don't mean much to a lot of people when someone carries themselves well.
ie you need an emotional tampon on the side so you can fuck Chad happily.
Either way you aren't lonely. You don't know how it feels to be entirely undesired. At least people want to fuck you.
It's like going to McDonald's and complaining to a bunch of starving kids that they gave you the wrong kind of burger.
Seems like it, yeah.
Don't listen to that anon, being a girl comes with loads of disadvantages, one of them being that people think just because you look nice that you're a human being with the permanent potential for well-being.
That's kind of a good reality check.
>Hey dude, set yourself tiny goals to help deal with your depression. Like getting up on time, or having breakfast, or doing one random act of kindness.
>As for the overweight just start exercising and eating less.
>You can shave/wax but some girls dig hairy dudes.
You're kinda cute, try and find a hobby to do on your one. One thing I've been doing recently is learning German and trying to draw.
...You alright der, anon?
I'd just recommend that you meditate on this and actively practice what you preach, rather than passively go through the motions and expecting the same results...I don't know if what I just put is clear or not, I'm pretty damn tired.
"No one likes me"
Well...I see your problem.
>I'm an asshole, but at least I try to be a kind asshole.
Most people do just want love and attention.
Don't commit suicide.
Here's a song that helped me when I was going through some shit, just keep your head up...and shave.
Sex isn't as great as we make it out to be, just be a sperm donor then go out and do what makes you happy.
Tinder's a thing...I think...that was what you were implying you wanted...
Do what you enjoy, and let that kill you.
At least you can go out with a smile.
In all seriousness, this life and the lives of others I've seen on here are fairly are much the same. Just try to find something that makes you smile.
I'm going to be a hypocrite and suggest you go see someone. It sounds like you might have/or are developing depression.
I usually get the emo fag , or scene fag , and when its not that I'm automatically gay. People think I'm ugly , and berate me constantly , I have a perf girl once , and she cheated on me and left me for someone better . I've recently moved and none of my friends cared enough to even try to stay in contact with me ...
The Whiteknight is immunized against all dangers: one may call him a cuckold, beta, subhuman, weak, it all runs off him like water off a raincoat. But call him a whiteknight and you will be astonished at how he recoils, how injured he is, how he suddenly shrinks back: “I’ve been found out.
If you're confident of your coloured/wishy washy hair why don't you try to find new people? What music do you like? If you're into screamo and the lot go look for local places where small bands play those genres, there's always new people around those spaces that would appreciate you being there. I'm sure of it, scenefag-anon <3
Deary, we're all pretty mad here.
Your nose is fine, it looks adorable (To me)
Most people on here, including me, have stated that they find you attractive thereby you aren't ugly.
You look oddly familiar, have you ever been a security guard?
>Go see someone, or talk it out with someone you trust. I have no idea what it's like to have an eating disorder so I can't really offer you much advice, sorry. :/
No anon, EDM sucks. (sorry lol)
Seriously though, people don't suck. They take drugs, it's not a big deal. It does hinder them from meeting people who don't share that hobby though. How long have you been a DJ? With what do you mix?
alright. good luck with it!
I like that you're actively helping people on here anon. See, that part of your personality can apply to others too, like the people in your new school who might be lost too. You da man.
It's the way you carry yourself, people can tell you're an asshat before you even open your mouth. Try dropping the stupid robot act and try being nice to people or you'll end up being the next Elliot Rogers but wother less charm.
>People can tell bro, just by looking at you despite the fact that you do absolutely nothing that would insinuate that you think the thoughts you do!
> t. Chad
I enjoy seeing you here, you're pretty funny and you actually contribute.
I like your eyes, just shave.
If you can afford it there's surgery to get rid of loose skin, but as long as it's not excessive i don't think people will mind.
You're above average in looks, just have some confidence. Girl's (and guys) love it.
I can offer no advice, other than what the other dude said
"Try to find people sitting on there own and talk to them"
Meditate and use 4chan (or any other anonymous site) to vent your negative emotions or learn to let them go.
Your body language, to an extend, informs people of your personality.
If I eyeballed everyone, body slammed people in my way, and was a douche to everyone I met. Even if I didn't utter a single world people would still think I was an ass.
I'm not unattractive but I'm just fucking tired of being friendzone material.
Just sick of being told by girls stuff like.
>You never had a gf? How so? You're cute.
>You'll find one eventually(by that she means not her and so does the others)
>last time a guy paid me a compliment irl I was 15 and at a school dance
>it was also so rare i stuttered and went spaghetti
>dudes rarely talk to me
>i'm not even very ugly, just very introverted and old-fashioned and a lot of stuff that keeps me from being 'out there'
>never been asked out/kissed/held hands
>my hs crush talked to me twice, i got excited, he then dated my best friend
>most of my friends complain about not being able to walk around town without being catcalled
>never been catcalled
>i've started to accept it so well, i'd be paranoid if a guy even showed interest in me
this is kind of like me a couple years ago, though I've had more success with the opposite sex, these days it just lends itself to me feeling like people tolerate me rather than enjoy my company,even when they clearly state how much they like me.
its ok femanon it gets better
You're asking the wrong guy, haha.
Just try to be confident. Oh one thing I found turned me off when guy's flirted with me was when they asked for permission or were really unsure of themselves.
Be confident and make her believe that you have a godly cock in your trousers, try not to second guess your self.
>...I would take my advice with a pinch of salt.
Any reason you're insulting me, matey?
My advice would be to join a club or ask your best friend if they know any "good" guys for you to date. I say good because I hate seeing people getting heart broken because they dated some cunt with a superiority complex.
Lonely because really rough childhood not many people can relate to. Also rarest personality type.
All I want is a gf who knows the feels, sadly she doesn't exist.
>sadly she doesn't exist
do you really think you're that special having the rarest personality type combined with a rough childhood? Get real man, there's 7.4 billion people on this planet, there's surely more than a handful out there for you. You just need some good times methinks. What happened in your childhood?
We worked together, got on really well despite my total lack of confidence. One day, she was just... frosty. No explanation or reason. A few days later, she was fine again, so I didn't force the issue. About a month after that, she just stopped talking to me. Around that time, she started speaking a lot more to the other girls on her department, so maybe that has something to do with it. One of them wasn't particularly fond of me.
>One of them wasn't particularly fond of me.
Could be it, there's a girl at my college who's tried turning people against me...still not entirely sure why but hey-ho.
She might of had some personal stuff going on during the "frosty" period.
Speaking from experience, if she had some heavy shit going on being around people that don't "get it" isn't the best. (Not intended to be mean, it's just true. You need to talk to people that know what it's like)
If you still work there, just ask her, POLITELY.
...How did I not cotton on to the fact you're a troll,god I'm slow.
I've posted in other threads, i'm not very ugly nor very pretty
tried joining a student club, but they told me i didn't make the cut. I felt hurt, but I knew they wanted more...assertive social types and i'm very quiet
Thank you, I don't actually actively want a relationship, just sometimes I think it would be nice to be shown attention from the opposite sex you know
>Thank you, I don't actually actively want a relationship, just sometimes I think it would be nice to be shown attention from the opposite sex you know
you need to get a friend that tells you whenever someone is checking you out in the street anon. I used to hardly ever notice people of the opposite sex paying attention to me for me, then a friend i met fairly recently started pointing out all of these things, and suddenly you realise half of the problem is in your head
I don't work there anymore, thanks to an incident with another colleague. He was dismissed, but I left because it made my position very, very difficult. That was 4 months ago and I'm still unemployed as it stands. I lost all my friends as a result, partially through people agreeing on his position, partially through my own choice.
It's pretty hard going from having plenty of people to talk to, to having nobody to talk to. Hence seeking help for my depression. I guess I just have to start somewhere.
Oh where are you from?
We have a ton of odd expressions, you ever heard tart being used as an insult?
You have now, you tart.
Kinda in the same situation.
Go speak to a professional, don't do what I saw an anon doing a while ago which was seeking out therapy from strangers.
Again, I'm just going to repeat what the other dude said, go talk to people sitting on there own.
>divorced after found out wife cheated on me while I was overseas
>that was two years ago
>been slowly drinking myself to death for two years
>every time I get close to someone, they leave me
>best friend committed suicide
>daughter was aborted after an argument
>wake up every day hungover wondering why I'm still alive after drinking enough to kill the average person
>fuck ugly too
Why am I still alive
I don't go out. I don't see anyone sitting on their own.
I've got an appointment with a professional. I've got other mental health issues though, which don't help matters, but hey, at least I'm getting help on the NHS.
Guys, don't think you have no chance because you're unattractive. Try to be a better person instead. i.e. That face never got me any girls in the history of ever.
okay but y'all gonna be rude
it wasn't a club, i just didn't know how to call it. Heard of AIESEC?
why are you projecting so hard
Considered utterly physically unnatractive by girls my age, and cursed with aspergers syndrome and anxiety. I do have some good guy friends though, but never had a meaningful with any girl in my life(also got rejected by around 30 girls up to this day).
I'm a social introvert, I'm told I'm charming, funny, smart, and silly, but I am super nervous when I meet new people. To top it off, I am in a new city, and I am about to shave my head from balding (since I was 18)
My roomies are both my best friends, but its tough seeing them so happy together everyday( dating) when I am so lonely.
you're cute! just missing a few colours is all. Honestly you're on the 7+ spectrum, you somehow remind me of Scott Pilgrim (the book/film, not the character lol)
Switzerland! Yeah I have, you tart.
Do you understand what that word means or are you just spouting meme words you've heard on this site?
If I had 10 7/10 girls interested in me, do you really think I would be here? Be honest.
No, your hair is black, your clothes are black, it just makes people seem rather bland. Not that you are, I wouldn't think that - but for people who just see you on the street you're hiding more with those colours than presenting yourself. You'd probably look really good in a light blue, maybe with some slight colour in your hair if you're into that. In the end that's just my opinion of course. Black is nice, it's just not very inviting
You're not the only one with a "rough" child hood, people will always have it worse.
Buckle up snowflake, life's a giant fuck fest. :3
(Always wanted to say that)
Oh if you're in England I heard you can use Yik yak to find people.
It hasn't worked for me, maybe you'll have better luck.
You look friendly.
Oh cool, Is it true what they say about Switzerland.
Is it really full of Aryans?
Ohh, that. I had my hair bright red for a while, now i'm thinking of blue. ^^
I am but I have a resting bitch-face and I can't make friends easily. All my friends were made through someone else, I never approached people myself. I try to gain friends at uni, but it just doesn't work so far.
captcha was pasta, i just ate pasta!
You look above average, though you remind me of a fuckboy named matt.
>Try to be friendly, confident, and above all else don't fuck them over.
>...Probably not the best advice, sorry. I just don't like Matt...and you remind me of him...and ugh.
Are you gobbling an arm?
Meeting new people tends to be quite frighting for most people, what I tend to do is to try to emotionally distance myself from them prior to instigating the conversation.
The captcha is wise.
One tip since you're at uni is not to stress TOO much over your social life.
Go to a few clubs, get blitzed, and then study.
You'll make friends if you talk to the people waiting in line and inside the club...
Don't try to befriend the one's on MD though, they're everyone friend once Molly's holding there hand but once she leaves so do you... as in you leave there social group.
Glad I could of be of some help.
Idk if you're bi, but as a guy, I think you look pretty bangable.
Granted, I'm a virgin, so w/e
Am actually a dude and so can't help you with lonely status, but hang in there. Eventually someone great will come along who's seen some shit and know they've got someone who's got their back, senpai. Probably lay off the drinking yourself to death part though. Liver disease ain't a great way to go.
No. Not "fuck up". Act up. Doing shit you know you shouldn't, destroying other people's lives, then not giving a shit and blaming them like it was their fault all along. Sociopathy = loneliness. Keep that in mind for the future. Maybe one day you'll change. Or die.
You are a very kind person to comment as well as trying to help so many in the thread.
I'm sure you've made a few here feel better not just with your words, but knowing someone read their woes and cared enough to say anything at all means a lot to many.
>Doing shit you know you shouldn't, destroying other people's lives, then not giving a shit and blaming them like it was their fault all along.
what the hell are you talking about?
Dealt with loneliness all of my life. All I wanted was a friend in school and I couldn't get that. After I graduate I try more for a gf, but I fail at that too. Now I feel less lonely and more physically unwell.
I'm very sorry after reading your post. Nothing will ever change what you have already been through, but you have the power to change who you can become. Find something you enjoy in life and put your energy into that, or maybe try some different types of therapy if that's something you could see yourself doing. I wish you the best and hope you find a way to be happy moving forward, despite everything that has happened in the past.
I was a fat kid and teen, and a crybaby for all I remember (after all, it was THEIR FAULT I'm so lonely!).
Became quite apathetic during that time, and I guess it permanently fucked me up a little. I don't really feel lonely anymore even though I'm pretty alone. I've just given up on myself, people and happiness.
Also kissless virgin. I think a few girls have been interested in me since I became fit - but I feel like I'd only want to be with them for sex, and resent myself for it. My complete inexperience at age 24 would fuck it up anyways and will probably earn me wizard status.
I'm entertaining myself with escapism, but I feel like pic related. Getting more bitter each year.
What do? I don't wanna become the grinch.
>I'm George McFly from the first movie, what do?
There are other swiss on soc? Wow, where from? Zürich here. Sorry about your friends and your dog man.
You probably think of sweden, not switzerland :)
i'm too fucking dumb evidently to remember to put a pic
Better than having a faggy haircut to go with it amirite?
I didn't ask God for that.
I used to have this horrible death anxiety by proxy in the 5th grade where I couldn't stop thinking of how everyone I loved would someday die.
This would consume me for hours and I'd pray to God to rid me of this knowledge.
I must've been fucken stupid or something because I literally must've not have understood the concept before that point.
Or I like to think that these thought processes could only come about situated in the extreme loneliness of only having books, TV, video games at your disposal and no social stimuli.
Surely your college must have clubs and stuff for special interests? Going to frat parties is awful when it comes to having conversations with substance, but in my experience (fourth-year at college now), various clubs' parties usually allow for better conversation, beyond just gossip (though there is that too). Clubs also help you meet new people and expand into a friend group. When you're really close to someone -- especially someone intelligent -- then you have the opportunity for deeper communication.
You're also pretty cute, btw.
nah your hair is fine
5th grade was when my first grandpa died. i got really depressed, got prescribed zoloft for it.i had a lot of those same anxieties too. i haven't been the same since
anyways i'm pretty sure i've just about exhausted all options. getting real close to the end.
>5th grade was when my first grandpa died. i got really depressed, got prescribed zoloft for it.
That probably damaged your brain. How many meds have you taken and are you still on some? I've taken like 10 antidepressants and I swear they all have made me worse. Never taking anymore.
i took 3. i haven't taken them in years, they don't work at all. i tried therapy too which also didn't work. my shit is completely fucked
soon enough. idk i really have nothing to live for so who knows if i'll get sad enough to just do it tonight
Not that I'm aware of, I believe you're thinking that when I say college it's similar to your version of high school.
Here all we do is study and go home, I heard about a boxing thing but it turns out it was just a way to request funding for international tournaments, it wasn't actually a club.
We don't have frats, here, and you need to be in the know to get into a good party. Last time I went to a club sober I had a panic attack. Good times. XD
I'm also poor af so I can't afford to join any clubs.
Thanks for calling me cute. :3
I think I'm just gonna do what the other anon said and try to stalk people who are sitting on there own and spark up a conversation with them.
>Thanks anyway, caring anon.
>tfw gf of 10 years is getting fatter and fatter
>she's still nice, but seems like she cares less and less about her appearance
>'jokes' about having kids a lot
>we're growing more and more apart and I feel lonely, even with her there
>dad is a violent schizophrenic paedophile from a rough city
>my mum was also violent
>parents moved from Manchester to Taunton in 1981 because racist
>had my sister in '89 and me in '92
>used to beat me, lock me in cupboards and wash mouth out with soap when I was as young as 3
>had to watch and sometimes get caught inbetween parents physical fighting
>mum and dad divorced in '95
>mum took me and sister to Manchester women and childrens home
>met a guy called Frank
>he used to beat me and my sister, swung us by our ears until they bled
>dad found us and took us to Exeter
>sexually abused me, physically abused me, mentally abused me and verbally abused me
>used to go crazy a lot, heavy drinker. extremely violent
>dropped sister off at cop station in June of '97
>I'm with this crazy bastard until late '98
>go into care
>I molested kids when I was a kid (even living with my dad)
>my foster dad cheated on my foster mum so there were a lot of fights there
>foster dad has punched me on occasion
>tried to fuck foster sister
>killed her hamsters and a dog
>thought about mass murder a lot
>I attempted burglary once
Stopped all the bad shit now though. I just go to work and come home... Boring, day in day out.
Where do I find an accepting girl in England?
That doesn't mean I can't complain
I know how you feel, exactly what I was gonna say.
Reading and playing vidya can be entertaining for a while but sometimes I feel like I'm in a prison, my bedroom I mean.
My problem is i am attractive, but lonely anyway, due to being always in the wrong place and wrong time. Many people wanted to have sex with me but there was always something wrong with them (they were already married, old and/or fugly, gay and so on.) The type of young skinny blonde rarely even dares to notice me.
Fuck man. I went. I was in the upper tier, but fuck me if that crowd wasn't fun as fuck to be in.
If you're near London, get tickets for Raw. Wrestling events are the only times I really feel confident. The crowd are genuinely great people.
I live in North West, I am considering going to a RAW if they come to Liverpool or Manchester again but I've not been to London on my own before so it was kind of intimidating. I do want to go to one eventually :(
>got into a relationship with my dream man
>he gets me to push away my friends and family because they're bad influences
>once I have no one who cares about me he starts to get abusive
>want to get help but I have no one to contact that could help me besides the police
>tried calling the police and they didn't brushed it off like I was exaggerating
Feels bad man... Why even live
This makes me feel better. I always think , well if I moved to a city with people my age or with similar interests in sure I'd have afemanons and lots of anon friends. Kek. Only in my dreams
Wtf, anon you are all making me feel better. I'm generally not bad looking and I've never had agf at 26. But surely with your looks you've gotten sucky sucky, handy job, and probably kissu and sex x100
I'm pretty average lookin' I s'pose. Just getting older and not having much luck. It's hard to play the same dating games over and over while keeping it sincere. Since some girl rated me a 2 the other day been thinkin' maybe this the place for me.
Also looking for advice. Would a rhinoplasty benefit me enough to be worth the time/money? I have some money sitting around so it wouldn't hit me too hard. I also have a protruding forehead but I'm not crazy enough to do anything about that.
My nose looks okish from the front but the side is pretty bad. Can post a picture from the front if someone wants to help give me an honest opinion?
Okay but here's a better picture of the bump? Still think the same thing?
Nose looks fine. Post one from the front.
I've heard other being going through similar shit.
Just try to get out to a women shelter or go to one of your old friends and explain to them what happened. They'll understand.
Try out and get a hobby, or go and explore the world.
Vidyas are a good waste of time but, as I've learned, you can use them to hide forever. Just go out and see the beauty of the real world.
Yeah bathrooms pretty gross. My parents have this pink/gold theme going on for some reason.
I guess the front is okay. I'm half persian half black so I have the nostril flare and bumpy nose going on at the same time.
It's the only procedure I can actually get so I was thinking it was a decent idea
if you aren't joking n messing with people, you really shouldn't do the procedure.
your self perception is probably distorted and you hone in on the only trivial flaw you have and exaggerate it.
I've been talking about doing it for a couple years now, my dad and I were going to go and get it done in the US.
It bothers me a lot, used to picked on for it in school as well. Here's another angle of it.
Thanks for the tips and everything. It's pretty conflicting but I'm glad I asked for opinions.
I've wanted to get it done very badly since 8th grade. I guess I'll push it off again until I'm 100% sure of whatever I'm doing.
you can't notice anything from the front
>used to picked on for it in school as well
who? i doubt it's been from men.
go ahead, but it feels like a waste of money for such a small difference. like noone you know is going to see you as a completely differnt person
you are cool too man, i think you are attractive
lol i don't think i am above average but thanks man, you look solid imo
you don't need any surgery you look great
Anon, I am very sorry to hear this. I am working in a field that helps people dealing with exactly these problems so maybe I can offer some help. If you are comfortable with it, it may be very helpful to contact your local DV/SA support agency hotline (there's also a national one too, but I can't remember the number). They can direct you to local services that can help, give you a safe place to talk about your problems, and support you through tough times and give you the courage to take back control of your life. Also, if you can, be sure to keep a small bag of your important personal documents in case you need to leave in a hurry. These are things like ID, SS card, birth certificate, etc.
I hope you can find help and begin to live your life the way you want to live it. Its often a long and difficult road, but you are a strong person.
That's sweet. Thank you
I'm awkward and kinda emotionally disconnected. It makes romance and general people stuff hard.
Your nose looks pretty cute. Sad you don't like it.
I don't like mine either
lonely as fuck pls help
What's the Switzerland population like?
Isn't there were Pewdiepie was from?
Fair enough, let out the feels...and oh my god zoophilia...um...noice...o_o
Thanks. Just have some confidence.
lol who gives a shit if suicide is legal, what are they gonna do? put your corpse in jail?
i wish euthanasia was legal though. i'm scared i'll fuck up doing it myself and be forced to live as a vegetable forever
Omg hey! That still hasn't been resolved?
Try to find a women's shelter for the time being. They can house you and help you with ways to get through these tough times. Best of luck anon, you're a cool girl and don't deserve this at all.
>tfw only friend is bf
>tfw 450 miles apart
>tfw ruining the relationship because of my extreme self esteem issues and BPD behaviors
>tfw i will prolly kill myself if he leaves me because i have nothing else in life worth living for
Not particularly unattractive, just lonely.
>tfw seeing a girl
>definitely into me
>haven't seen her since new year's because she is busy AND sick
>tfw miss her
>tfw trying not to be a clingy shitlord by asking her if she wants to do something every day
>tfw too impatient to wait for her to try and initiate seeing each other
Honestly I like her but I don't think I have the proper temperament to date a girl like this full time.
My life has been playing out like an early tom waits ballad lately
You literally posted a pic with your friends on New Years a couple weeks ago, normie
You look like the fat guy from the gerogerigegege.
Girl a few days ago gets my kik.
Changes her mind about our date today saying her ex came back. Fucking lazy if you ask me.
I wouldn't have to be dealing with any of this shit in my life if I was some white blonde dude with that golden do-nothing-and-watch-the-girls-come-to-you personality and face I'm constantly seeing around me.
I own my own company and still didn't hit 30 for crying out loud. People hook up for the stupidest of reasons in this shithole of a city. I'm just not dumb enough to accept this constant stupidity I keep experiencing.
i'm having a real sad time lately
i've been depressed again lately and my agoraphobia is coming back and i'm incredibly anxious about going back to school after break
i've gained like ten pounds which i know isn't a lot but i feel like shit about myself and i'm obsessing over it
the thing is i have a decent circle of friends
they care about me a lot
i'm literally hanging out with them tomorrow night and going to a show
i see my boyfriend on the reg
i was excited about my classes when i registered for them
i shouldn't feel this way
but my mental health is just fuckin WASHING DOWN THE DRAIN I GUESS???
i dunno. i just don't want to leave the house, i want to lay in my safe bed and drink to excess and play vidya and watch horror movies and forget about my real life
i don't like what i'm doing
i regret changing my major
i am in a constant state of terror and i want my friends to leave me alone and let me wallow and i've neglected everyone i love bc i just want to lay in bed and be sad and go to the store with my fuckin mom bc that feels safe
so i just hang out on /soc/ and quietly panic all day and desperately seek the social contact that i desire as an extrovert from the safety of my own home bc leaving my bedroom makes me feel like i'm gonna vomit
ayyyyy turn up
ruined my life
but idk, I don't want to bitch but I don't have most of the things you have and I'm basically a loser all around and the number of people who would care if I disappeared I could count on both hands.
potentially hot but you look like a trap
any /pol/ocks here tonight?
no i totally understand that i'm a lot better off than some people in certain regards and i shouldn't be such a fucking bummer all the time
i'm just frustrated i guess because i've been doing v well and then suddenly i'm not doing well, and it feels like i'm 17 again and i'm gonna have to start taking meds again and like
no thank you
i just hate the loss of control i'm experiencing. i have friends and loved ones and i do well in school and even with all of those things going for me half the time i still want to die or hide or fuckin panic and vom and it's infuriating.
everyone thinks i'm a fuckin trap
i don't get it
i'm a real gril, promise, no one believes me tho
aah i uninstalled kik the other day
i got overwhelmed
i'm not great at social obligation
i feel bad bc i liked the people i talked to on kik but i started to freak out that i wasn't responding quickly enough or at all and then i just let messages sit and fester for days
it takes me weeks to respond to facebook messages at this point
idk, my loneliness is self-imposed, but i know when i had a hard time making friends i just tried every avenue open to me, like i started going to a local card shop to play mtg even tho i was shit at it bc it gave me a social group, and in school i try to join clubs as a means of forcing myself to interact with new people
idk if that helps but i hope you feel better anon
Wherever I get lonely and hit rock bottom I tinder. It never makes me feel better, but it usually gets it out of my system. Don't do that anon, but do some mediation and buy yourself some nice tea~~
i tried tinder and got 0 matches
it only amplified my loneliness. knowing there are lonely girls out there that want nothing to do with you. even among the lowest of the low, you are the lowest
god it's hopeless