Hey /soc/ so I tried the advice bit and I didn't actually get any help/ the help I did get was too little and too obscure to be of any use.
Here's the story.
>Lose contact with best friend
>Meet up again after nearly a year
>Go to house party, I'm on md she got jealous tried killing the vibes
>Kinda odd but okay
>Two days after party see her on bus
>Start talking about this girl I met
>She murmurs "Yeah, well we can't date. It'd be too weird, like we've known each other for so long. You're like a brother to me"
>Two weeks later, we haven't talked met her on a bus.
>She's going to wales because of family problems and she's started cutting
>Come to now, she hasn't talked to me in like a month.
>Just met her on the bus, she seems sad.
>I've been thinking about her constantly for ages.
>I really don't know what to do, I want to stop thinking about her but I find myself unable to.
What should I do?
>Hey, I know things may seem kind of weird between us lately- and I'm assuming it's because you have some shit going on- But we've known each other a long time, and I still consider you a friend, even if we don't talk like we used to. If you need to vent or something, I'm usually available.
Ofc, this is assuming you actually care about her as a friend and don't want to just bang her.
Just be kind and understanding. Your post seemed a little vague on whether or not you have romantic feelings for her, but if you do just put them on the sidelines and be a friend.
Reaffirm that it's okay for her to be feeling shitty- it happens to everyone- and again, let her know that you wouldn't be bothered by her whining about whatever has her down- but do so in a way that doesn't feel like you're prodding her into just spewing out her emotions. Don't mention the cutting off-hand, especially not at first- That's a topic that will open up deeper conversation later on if she's willing to talk about it.
If you have similar depressive shit going on, comment lightly on it- open up the airwaves for commiseration.
Ofc, I'm not saying my advice is 100% solid but I deal with a lot of depressive/bpd/etc. people and it's usually what works for me. Offer to meet up for coffee, as friends, sometime if you can- Speak in kind tones but don't come off as patronizing.
Hug her with your words, yo.
>then show her your dick and ask if it makes her feel better