age/sex/why you're a virgin (or FA)
feel free to vent or just chat
whether you're full robot or just a regular cunt who's too far-gone to be loved by another human
pls no hate; just rel8
not a virgin but only had mediocre Craiglist sex once
it hasn't convinced me that I'm any more capable of having somebody love me.
nobody wants a reclusive skeleton with no car and a mediocre income
I've had a lot of time to think about it. It was pretty clear anyway why I'm a kissless virgin.
I can't approach girls or initiate/make a move. It's really as simple as that. The guy is always expected to make the first move unless the occasion is rare or he is a total babe magnet or famous or something of that sort. I've been in TONS of situations where girls have given me hints and were pretty much asking for it, I knew this, and it felt nice but I always am too nervous to go for it. I can't even count the number of times I probably could have gotten laid or a GF its over a dozen for sure. I'm not bad looking but I have no game. I'm not sure how it happened honestly, I was just super shy when I was younger and it never got better.
Eventually I'm just going to pay for a prostitute most likely but that still doesn't solve the issue and I will still never have a GF.
20/m virgin reporting. Kissed girls and gotten head before but haven't gone any farther. Not to upset about it though. I'm sure I'll develop game at some point in my life. Let's just hope it's soon anons.
I used to have horrible social anxiety/phobia and it takes a lot of focused efforts to get over every individual stressor. All you can do is tackle everything one at a time by forcing yourself into uncomfortable situations. I'm still depressed with little self-confidence, but there was a short while where that changed, and I can fake it well in social situations.
If you're decent looking, I recommend Craigslist over paying for sex, unless you just have lots of disposable income. Just mention you're trying to lose your virginity and you might find somebody willing. Likely it won't change much for you, though, since without emotion or attachment, it really doesn't help.
Not really much of a reason, but throughout grade school and highschool girls were fuckin' ruthless to me, would lie to my face about liking me just for kicks. University I spent 4 years trying to just look women in the eyes. I'm afraid to put myself in a position that could get me hurt like that again, some of my best friends are females, sometimes doubt my trust in them too.
TL;DR trust issues.
This is me. I'm also chubby, and have skin cancer, but people tell me im not that fat all the time, but I am trying to get skinny. Also my doc says im really handsome (she's a chick) and don't worry about my reddish skin, and that lots of girls would look past it. But, whatever. I think I'm going to be alone forever. I've had a few ugly girls hit me up on POF/Tinder/OKC, but I've either always been too nervous to go through with it, or they live really far and are demanding me come meet up with them at like 1am, fuck that it sounds sketchy.
24. Muslim man, Connecticut.
Severe anomie leads me down depressed lines of thinking.
I have no real problem waiting for marriage, the problem is I was born in America. And no matter how much they cover up with hijab and put on a good-girl act, they're pretty much just as slutty as white girls.
Which means I'm waiting for nothing, and I try to accept that, I want to comfortable not having virgin wife. Still, it makes me sad and worried I won't be able to meet her expectations. And it makes me feel like I'm being short-changed, what's the point in waiting if she won't? But that in itself is ridiculous, my job is to follow the law, not do what everyone else is doing, and it makes me feel dishonest about my faith for even thinking that.
My dream would be to find a very young 18-19yo girl and marry her, usually they don't become sexually active until they leave their parents and go to college so there's still a better chance an 18yo Muslim girl is a virgin compare to a white girl who starts at like 15. But of course no recent high school graduate is eager to get married, and I understand that I certainly wasn't ready at that age.
So whatever. I'm moving in a few months and will actively start looking for a wife by 2017 when I feel comfortable that I'm in a stable position in the job I'm taking. I want to start going to nightclubs and shit and have a few one night stands with trashy sluts to at least get my dick wet somehow... but I really shouldn't want that. And if all that anxiety was for nothing and I do marry the very rare virgin, fuck will I hate myself for not waiting.
>24. Muslim man
that says a lot. You don't have to be ashamed. My friend is Muslim and he's 22 and hasn't had sex. He says he's not allowed to move out until he gets married, but he lives in a mansion and drives a brand new mustang and owns 3 smoke shops. He's pretty cool. He's kinda nerdy and he definitely doesn't smoke, but he has all kinds of girls saying he's sexy. Muslim guys are kind of the new black guy for 2016, you're kind of dark and mysterious and might be a dangerous badboy... Girls like that.
>Muslim guys are kind of the new black guy for 2016, you're kind of dark and mysterious and might be a dangerous badboy... Girls like that.
>meeting up at 1am
Yeah, I wouldn't do anything like that. Normal coffee-type dates in public places aren't just a good idea for women. And no actual woman is going to be demanding shit like that.
There's nothing wrong with your situation, but honestly, it just makes me wonder if your religion is really doing much for you. Maybe this is an unpopular opinion for a virgin thread, but I don't think virginity means anything outside of the loneliness and feelings of inadequacy when you're stuck in this situation.
I guess my point is that while I'm not religious at all, I think religion can be a good thing if it adds value or happiness to your life in some way. But if it's just contributing to misery based on some arbitrary concept of purity, is it really worth sticking with it?
Well, it is. I really enjoy being a part of the community and I have lots of close friends at the mosque, I do my 5x day prayers and everything, I can't make it to jumaa because work but I go to the mosque on the weekends. I fast, I look forward to eid. I used to drink a lot but I've been sober for about six months now, never had pork in my life, etc, I'm no salafi but I would say religion is important in my life and choices, and it does bring me happiness. If I wasn't practicing at all then it would make sense to "drop the act" but that's not the case.
But then I do listen to western music and I'm here on a board full of naked people. I'm not superman and I don't deserve a princess. I just need to get over it, accept that she'll be flawed too. It's about getting my head right.
Not forever alone (yet), although I've found it increasingly hard to make friends so I'll probably end up FA. Average looking, average height, in decent physical condition, although I've been told I have nice eyes (they're blue, if that means anything). Honestly just thinking about hiring a hooker, then joining the military or something. Thing is, I doubt that would even do much to help me.
I know what you mean bro. I like being a man, I just hate that I'm expected to be the outgoing, extroverted, gregarious, assertive one. I hate that I'm expected to be an unemotional lump of meat. I don't really like drinking or socialising for very long, I find it too draining so that immediately ruins my chances. I'm a quiet guy at the best of times and find it very hard to loosen up around people, especially ones I don't know for fear of looking stupid, so I can't do the whole alpha routine, I'd want to claw my own face off. I've been told I'm well spoken and polite but that hasn't exactly helped. I don't do the whole "nice guy" thing at least. Just have no idea if a girl is interested is me, and how I'd do anything about it, and I'd probably embarrass myself and her in every situation.
I've long since given up the idea of meeting another virgin. I'd feel like a freak. Good luck anyway, I think Muslim women are quite cute.
Kinda sad reading this thread. Wouldn't wish it on anyone else really.
Can't get the soldier to stand at attention due to psychological problems. I'm in my head too much, tends to affect me nowadays even when wanking, making it a 50/50 chance that I can cum without needing to simulate a cockring to keep my boner up...
Oh well, finally ordered some cockrings to try around with, will try to get laid later this month. Wish me luck that I get it up at all, just long enough to cockring that fucker.
On the pro side: I've gotten rather good at giving head over the years. My current fling is still awestruck how I managed to give her completely different types of orgasms the first four times we got intimate.
I honestly don't even know what the fuck I'm doing right, but apparently I do it.
18/f kissless virgin.
Virgin for obvious reasons (waiting for the right guy etc.) and kissless because I've never been in a relationship or even dated anyone.
I don't think I'm ugly, I'm not fat and I guess there might have been guys interested in me in the past but I wasn't interested in having a relationship so basically ignored everyone. Now I'm feeling kind of lonely and all I need is someone to cuddle with even though I hate to admit it.
Definitely don't recommend potentially throwing away your life out of boredom. Especially if you're in the US; remember that tons of soldiers come back way more fucked in the head than they were previously
I've been getting headache lately when I exercise hard, get angry, or try to wank with any kind of intensity. It sticks around for like a day and a half and it's utter shit. Gotta go pay more money for the doc soon, to hopefully tell me more than just "wait to see if it'll go away" this time.
Cuddling is amazing. There was a thread for platonic cuddles posted a few times, but not a single girl posted there. Maybe they lurked. Who knows.
>Why? Ill guess...
Im white and apparently or value has gone down hill we aren't good in bed and are boring. I blame most of it on being white, im in shape and well kept. White women crave something new and exotic, not plain and boring. Probably will end up a wizard and alone, thats life.
Heres a pic of my body.
I'm not in the US. It's not boredom really so much as loathing of my situation. I dread the future, knowing I'll probably never have a relationship or do anything sexual unless I pay for it.
have had several of opportunities. was physically fit and at least moderately attractive throughout high school and early into college. passed up every opportunity not necessarily stupid shit like "the right one" but I just never had an interest in any of the girls that offered or none of the girls I like reciprocated or they had a boyfriend and when they didn't I was elsewhere and so on. later became ill with a disease so I became a shut in and my social life is zero. have some kind of hormone issue too so i have no testosterone now, I really only have an occasional feigning interest in sex anymore.
I'm probably autistic and I have no ability to relate to other people
Just turned 34 last week.
Like a few others here have said, just social anxiety and some depression when I was younger and then, before you know it, years went by and I never had the chance to do it. Now I'm pretty much a shut-in. At this point I don't really care about the sex, I'd much rather have a girl to be able to go out with, cuddle with, or hell, just hold hands with. Never had that kind of intimacy and really wish I could've.
I think watching lots of anime and making no attempt to meet people of the other gender might have something to do with it.
19/m/ honestly i think it's because i have small nipples
I have a person who has a crush on me? I'm flattered, anon. What Cantonese cartoons have you been watching? I'm finally watching Eureka 7, since I like mechs, and I like Bones, and I'm really not sure how I haven't done this yet.
I have small nips and I've slept with 14 women, it isn't that senpai. You look like you're in good shape, just fix your hair and learn how to socialize. Download Tinder or something and play around, you'll be fine.
20/m almost 21
Stopped giving a fuck, got my first kiss not too long ago but I've tried pretty damn hard to get laid over the past year but nobody has taken interest beyond kissing, which thankfully I got to. I'm hoping that if I stop trying people will be more relaxed around me at parties and things but idk if that's a good strategy. I'm super average imo but I may be overestimating my worth.
Kiss wasn't easy either bro. And yeah I look like that but Idk I think its almost more a thing of me blending in too much, I look generic AF with the exception of me being 6'5" which isn't nearly as helpful as people think it is. If you look unique you will definitely get a kiss soon, may not be from a looker but it will happen. Sex on the other hand seems like a milestone I'm unlikely to reach so I have no advice there.
You sound exactly like me man. I look like this. Too average or below. Also 6'5".
I'm not unique in any way imo.
I forgot to add, you're not average looking. Above. I meant myself. It looked like I said both of us lol
Lol I get ya, the tall meme needs to die because it's not true in any way shape or form. I just have issues finding pants and I don't fit into normal beds but I'm sure you have that struggle too.
And eh, I suppose it just depends on where you are. My Uni is full of people who look either a ton like me or much better than I do, the only ones who don't "look normal" are the Asians who hang out in packs and smoke cigs with their other Asian friends. You would also be average at my university to be honest but there really isn't anything bad about it other than the inability to get laid if you aren't super aggressive with girls.
Nah I'm an American, my family is directly from Iceland though if that matters, probably why I'm tall lol. Idk why but they are the only people who smoke cigarettes any more and they always have a group of ten guys with one awkward looking girl being fawned over when I see them. Kind of hilarious sometimes
You shouldn't hate the fact that you have desire and normal human impulse. I'd love to get to know a girl, cuddle, be diabetes inducing cute with each other when no one else is around and if something develops past there in that entirely natural way that two people who connect on a really deep level, terrific.
It's about filling in the gaps in each others life and getting comfortable with each other (and maybe a bit uncomfortable without each other, too). Utterly loyal and honest, not afraid to offend them or make them uncomfortable for the sake of not getting stagnant and too used to a routine.
That's a lot of projection though, just would like to find someone to be wonderful together with.
I'm a bit young for it, but I just stopped giving a damn. No one has ever paid any attention to me, and I don't think it's worth the effort to try and win them over.
Or maybe I'm just fooling myself, and nobody likes me for some reason I am unaware of.
Yeah, I'm the one who said you're sweet a few times in the past and saved your picture like a complete creep pff.
I haven't had a chance to watch much in the past year since most of my time is taken up on a project I'm working on, but I did watch Jojo's Bizarre Adventure a while ago, which was a lot of fun. There's a new Berserk anime (or movies) coming out sometime soon, so I'll definitely make time for that even with the janky looking 2D/3D mix of animation.
Eureka 7 always sounded like a very interesting series both in the story and the style it has going on. I still haven't watched it yet despite how old the series is...Time goes by way too fast for me. It's on my little list of anime I'd like to get to at some point though! Are you the kind to plow through an anime in a couple sittings or do you take your time? I see there are 50 episodes of Eureka 7 you'll need to get through.
Oh I missed that thread..maybe I should lurk more.
It's just that I've been focused on other things and I don't want distractions but I've been feeling lonely and depressed lately and I have to admit that I want someone to listen to me.
Also I've never cared that much about having a boyfriend. I used to think that it will happen when it's right, that I had plenty of time ahead of me but soon I'll be 19 and almost everyone I know is in a relationship or has been in at least one or two in the past.
Thanks for the advice. I agree with everything you wrote. I'd love to get to know someone, do cute things together, and reach a level of intimacy I don't have with others.
I have to accept that it's normal to want love. The problem is I'm afraid it'll be one sided or he won't love me as much as I'll love him.
Then I think I'm just stupid to think about love and I feel like a 12 year-old anime character dreaming about her future husband.
Fuck my life I have to stop thinking too much.
Added a girl from OKC on Facebook. Was pretty into her and we clicked well. Planned on asking her out when she got back from visiting family in Europe. But eventually she told me she decided to get with her best friend a bit ago and just wouldn't announce it until getting back.
Now I'm getting a bunch of pictures of them cuddling and having fun and shit on my feed.
Had about a week of bad sex some 6 years ago.
Currently hanging around a dating site trying to get a grill, but no luck yet.
I think im atleast average looking and my missfortune is due to avoidant behaviour and general lack of motivation for life. I also have pretty severe performance anxiety when it comes to sex, which is keeping me from trying tinder.. Learned through fapping and my week of shitty sex that i cum to fast. Doing some excersices for it which is helping a a little bit, but also somewhat kills my boner.
The irony is that i dont even care that much for sex, i mostly just want some qt to snyggle with.
Just hit 20/m, kissless
Man boobs on an otherwise alright frame, capped with shit facial aesthetics. I'm yet to be rolling in pussy from being >6' but I guess it doesn't work when you look like a Glasgow rapist.
Shit stings worse cos I'm working the season in a ski resort town and apparently it's super easy to pick up. All I do is brawl, cry and work. Even at home it's the same, I tried getting an escort but everything in my budget is Asian (just can't get it up to the slots which explains why I'm not picking up gooks here) and anything white charges like they're a high class mistress and/or is a bot.
Dunno what to do from here to be quite honest.
Always been a shut in got addicted to WoW back in vanilla and tbc, 15 i.got into a ldr with a guy i played with had chances to bump butts with guys but i didnt want to cheat was in it for 2 years, until we both lost interest 17 to now im still a shut in, people here annoy me, and getting addicted to porn young age so no interest in normies either.
What even is a normie supposed to be? I mean lots of dudes with weird sex drives, it sucks though when you're in LDR you're loyal the whole time person wants to see other people
Happened to me and had a couple girls who were like constantly hitting on me lol
>I'm afraid it'll be one sided or he won't love me as much as I'll love him
That's the risk though, you have to take it.
Think of it like a pro/con chart. If you do nothing, if yourself just be a shut in or have only a surface level social life with only a few friends that you get a little close to, there are few cons and few risks. But there are no real benefits, you just go through life without feeling or triggering desires beyond just sex and companionship but for accomplishing things in life and pushing the boundaries of what you thought you were capable of.
As the old saying goes, inaction is sometimes worse than the wrong action. Because with the wrong one, you know you can feel and go through with at least attempting making that connection with someone.
The benefits outweigh shortcomings by a large factor, it won't always feel like it, but life is a journey, so it goes.
nigga you're insane, thinking i was gonna fap to a face pic. now you expect me to invent conversation when i just want to see what she looks like
just sounds kinda similar to me, so it hit me in the feels. sorry i didn't mean to offend you
So does that mean in your head you only want to have sex with a tall, cut big dick dude? Or that you have fetishes?
I think the ldr thing has more to do with it than you might think, since you can't act on any impulse and you can't feed off each others hormones your body and mind get confused and you start to lose confidence in what your sexuality is even all about.
Eh not looking to get laid, just wanted to share
Not offended dw haha
Just fetishes i guess, i also want someone who is okay with just staying in on weekends and playing brolands or some games together, but also someone who isnt a beta like myself who can sorta get me out of my comfort zone i guess
25, I'm avoidant, extremely shy, afraid of forming bonds, not dominant at all, have a needy/clingy personality, too cynical, negative and depressive. More importantly I'm an ugly fat balding piece of shit, I'm an all round horrible person.
21/m kissless, hold-handless, dateless virgin
All the same reasons as >>23100184 exept I'm not good looking, and therefore don't have a chance in hell. Never had anyone hit on me since middle school when I wasn't ready.
Its not so much the sex that I care about. I can reach orgasm with my left hand easily enough. It's just that I've had no true friends in my life. You know, people who I can really be myself with. Hell, I can't even be myself with my own family since my father has this romanticized vision of me, and he doesn't care at all for how I really feel about anything, just how he expects me to feel. So, in the end, I just wish I had a girlfriend, because I can't imagine a relationship like that where either person can not accept parts of who the other is while it still being a healthy relationship. I don't care about the sex, that's just a nice little cherry on the cake. The big thing is that I don't want to feel lonely anymore.
What kind of fetishes? To be direct, I ask because I like doing personalized voice stuff for people, totally non-judgmental and professional (as in I'm a professional actor and this is fun for me).
It's easy to find a guy who has fetishes even within normies, also your point is contradictory looking for not normie but not a beta.
Also you're likely to find the second part easily here, but not so much for them being not beta lol
Nah pretty norm whiny internet crap depression n stuff, im pretty neutral, or dead if thats a better way to put it, everything is generally just "meh" but im seeking help so its cool
Right on, peace be the journey. I'll keep the thread open if you change you mind. It's hard for me to give testimonials with any legitimacy, but I've done it for 5 women now, all immediately told me how amazing it was and how quickly it made them cum.
Literally don't know how to make a move. I'm 6'4, look like Oli Sykes with a bit of Kylo Ren according to people, am mostly over the social anxiety I had until I was almost 18, but I have literally no idea how to make a move on a girl. Help me lads
hey sweet momma, i got something a lot more fun for you sugar dumpling
I'm just here to observe mainly lol since I'm bored right now, it always fun to see these guys throw themselves head over heels towards a brick wall.
The higher your standards are the less likely you will be to do it
I honestly lift more at the gym when I'm angrier if anything, girls at the gym also don't want to be hit on jfyi for any wondering autists who think "man I should pick up some girls at the gym"
i usually do best on bench when the gym is completely empty except for me. i know if i can't get that last rep up, i might die. so i always squeeze in a few extra reps in the hopes that it might happen
21F kissless virgin. I'm too socially retarded to make friends much less get a bf, casual sex doesn't interest me. Not pretty enough to get approached and too shy to do it myself. Big trust issues too.
its only appropriate when she whispers "jesus christ thats deep" when you squat, then you know she wants you to go just as deep in her. but with your dick
thats kinda dark man,
may as well just give up then famalam
It seems fairly obvious, wanting to impress desired sexual partners make one try harder.
Not terribly scientific, but there it is.
>thats kinda dark man,
nah i'm comfy with the idea of death
and my bench has gone up from 185 to 295 since october, maybe soon i'll be good enough to lift a weight that would actually kill me
i'm fucking unattractive, shit sucks but what i do doesn't have consequences at least
you already know the shit you need to do to improve your lot, being on here is only helping you put it off and moan about it faggot
thats near enough a 140kg bench press breh, thats pretty good in my book. unless of course you weigh like 140kg yourself
Is not that I'm proud of the fact so I'm not posting my face, but I have only been approached like twice? in my whole life. I know men have it way worse, but for a girl I'm pretty much fucked. And that's ok, it's not like I'm entitled to attraction from the opposite sex but this loneliness is depressing.
I'm not fat, have good hygiene and look presentable everyday, I just can't do much about my face. I'm trying to be more social but you can't just change it in a day. I'm not putting off any improvement just venting a bit.
Can learn a lot from lonliness though, not that you can learn everything.
Being really attractive, especially for a girl, doesn't come without drawbacks. Even if you're smart enough to know that everyone is just playing you and most don't care, that doesn't make it any easier to find genuine people for friendships and romantic relationships.
I'm not entirely sure why, I just never met someone. I want to have sex, definitely but I don't want it to be casual sex. And I don't typically fall in love with people on, what have you, the subway.
Friends live further away so it's kind of hard to hit the bars together. I'm social, but I'm not that fond of the nightlife. So I mean, that narrows your options down.
I had a boyfriend when I was 16 but that only lasted two weeks.
I've kind of given up on it, and I'm at peace with it. I just don't really think it's going to happen anymore.
I have the feeling you have some interests that are uncommon. That's often the cause of having trouble relating to most. I'm not a virgin, but I've found that, while I have no problems meeting people, so few are the ones I'd like to date because of my uncommon interests. What are yours?
probably because of height, face and autism, it used to bother me a lot but at some point i stopped caring
I'll never understand virgins. There are literally millions of people in every city that are looking to have sex, all the fucking time.
If you're a girl and you're a virgin (by choice) you're doing it wrong.
If you're a guy and you're a virgin (by choice) you're doing it wrong.
This is how you get laid in easy to follow programming language:
say hello to (person);
if (person) is not receptive
make small talk to (person);
if (person) is not receptive
casually touch (person)
if (person) is not receptive
get contact details for (person)
if (person) is not receptive
go on date with (person)
if (person) is not receptive
if (person) is not receptive
That's really all there is to it.
Hmmm not that uncommon pe se I think? I get along with people because I'm a naturally assertive person.
But that (being weird) was definitely the case when I was younger, highschool age. Looking back at pictures from up until I was 19/20 years old I kind of cringe. To be fair, I think that's what fucked me over.
I cosplay, and thus sew costumes, and I game a bit but it's not a huge part of my life. I talk about it, sure, but keep it mostly on the downlow haha.
Which other country could I BE in when it's that small hahaha. (Okay other than Luxemburg or Belgium).
But yes, Netherlands.
Close! But as anon above said, Netherlands.
>on the downlow
Fly the flag, you'll find like minded people who you might want to start getting romantic with. That's what you're doing now and look at the positive response?
Ahh, don't worry about distance.
I'm not sure whether you are referring to me (I think so? Please forgive me if not).
Also please forgive me for continuously posting new replies, I keep seeing ones while I've already posted something.
I have /never/ been hit on. I /swear/ I have not. It happens rarely. When it comes to hitting on someone, I'm the person doing all the flirting. I'm not quite sure what it is because I'm definitely not shy, and I don't think I'm ugly.
If a guy would hit on me, I'd definitely make an effort but so far it hasn't really happened.
(According to a few of my guy friends it's because I A) look intimidating and B) they think I'm taken, possibly due to A. )
You're very pretty. In my case its always been hard to start into an actual relationship with another person. I'm terrible at the initial meet, flirt, then start hanging with that person as more than a friend or acquaintance. Do you get hit on a lot? Why not go for one of the guys who make an effort to get to know you a little more?
Liechtenstein, Switzerland (which is actually slightly smaller by land area), Macedonia, Belarus, Latvia, Lithuania, Ireland...ehm...someone mentioned Iceland. Point is that it's weird to me that nations aren't huge and take weeks to drive across.
Hahaha aw thank you. I do talk about it though! I'm proud of creating dresses, and I definitely love talking about it. I'm not the type of person to hide it.
But of course, you don't want someone to perceive as "just" that. I want to be known for other things too!
The beauty of Randstad m8.
Ohhh well I used linguistics as kind of a broad term.
I did English - which included Linguistics, Language Acquisition, Philology, and Literature. But each time I mention "English" people tend to think I did a Literature course (which I really didn't). Afterwards I took a MA degree in Media and Publishing. That's the field I'm working in now as well.
Haha well sewing is a /lot/ of frustration let me tell you. Thankfully I'm better at managing my time now, instead of rushing through a costume three days before it needs to be finished, but as soon as something goes wrong..... Rage. It's such finicky work sometimes but I do love the end result.
I posted my reply here, thank you for asking!
Aw, I'm sure you'll find someone anon! And Iceland is gorgeous, would visit 10/10. (I'm envious).
To be fair, most of those countries a fair amount bigger than the Netherlands.
Especially if you live in Europe, you're extremely aware of that. (every country seems small to people from Asia, Africa or the Americas).
I don't mind my small country though but it is tiny as shit.
You don't really have a vibrant face, if that makes any sense.
You have a job and a somewhat unusual hobby.
People probably think that you are already 'voorzien'.
You should be able to meet lots of guys in the Randstad.
I guess if you lived in a larger country you wouldn't notice all too much. I just know 5 hours drives for me don't even involve leaving the state I live in. A lot of the cramped nature of the low countries comes from the lack of land that can really be heavily developed, right? A quarter of ye olde Frisia is water, isn't it?
Ah, but the beauty of putting your most idiosynchratic features forward is that people who care to know you more intimately will get to know those other traits you have. It's up to you whether or not you let one or two things define you, which it sounds like you absolutely don't. So no worries.
Do you work from designs or go totally from scratch on your costumes?
Hmmm maybe it's because I dyed my hair blonde? It depends though. I'm a rather smiley person (just not in public transport haha), so I might seem super gloomy there.
Forgive the other picture, maybe it seems more "vibrant" there? (Or not, that is also possible.)
But I've heard that more often, that people think I'm already taken. But I stick to my word, I rarely (if ever) get hit on.
It's literally the most populated area in this country man, what is wrong with you guys for living in the countryside haha.
Whoops! Sorry new at posting so I forgot to add the post id haha <br>
Hm, I see you're problem. I know in my experience its really hard for some guys to grow a pair and just come out and state his interest. I'd like to think that if I got to know you in person I'd definitely make an effort to let you know I was interested. You're not ugly and I think pretty girls are generally intimidating to shy guys who fear rejection. There's really not much you can do about that, but I think you're doing fine and have a healthy mind set to all this.<br>
Btw, I'm super interested in you just in case you haven't already noticed haha too bad I don't know you in person.
Ah, I understand now. Truth be told, most of what I know about linguistics came from an Old Norse class I took in graduate school, where most all of my classmates were studying linguistics.
Do you find the philology background to be very helpful with the media studies? I would think it to inform it significantly, but I'm no expert, of course. Language acquisition seems interesting as well. Did you focus more on its acquisition as a native or non-native language?
Yeah, it sucks living in such a relatively isolated place but I kinda have a whole thing going on here so I can't exactly just up and move.
Maybe in a couple of years when I have my shit together I'll reconsider it.
You aren't at all unattractive, but I probably wouldn't hit on you. You don't look very talkative (people could say the same thing about me).
We probably live in the same city though, which is unusual. I might even run into you one day :)
By appearance you have the look of an incredibly unique and unusual woman who I instinctively gravitate toward. The kind of intelligent but unconventional person that I can feel like we're the only people in the world while sitting on an ocean beach watching the sunset. I don't know if I would even hit on you, but just have to get to know you.
idk friend, kinda feels like you're thirsty for my dick the way you're replying to me all the time, not that I'm complaining sweetness ;)
you remind me of lou bloom from nightcrawler
5 hours.... s-so long.... Going to a friend's place this weekend is nearly too much travel time, and that's about an hour and a half. (train + bus).
Well..... If you've heard of "flevoland", drying the land is kind of what we specialize in. We pulled that entire province from the water just so we could move more people there.
(nobody /really/ wants to live in Flevoland though)
Considering I cosplay, I mostly make my designs off other things (I did the Cinderella dress of the 2015 film recently) and am planning on Yennefer of the Witcher series soon. Fabric was stupidly hard to find but I've got it.
Don't worry about it mate.
Aw thank you so much. That's really nice of you to say!
Because of course there are times where I'm like "shit - everyone manages to get some, when the fuck is it my turn?" but - well.
It happens, haha.
Interesting question. Philology mostly focused on Old-English and Middle-English, which was interesting but not something that helped me in my MA at all. It was easier for us Dutch people to study the languages because especially O.E is a lot closer to Dutch than it is to present-day English.
I'd say more as a native-language. We weren't taught vocabulary (except for a few tests in the first year), we had the same guides and books that those from Cambridge and Oxford dealt with. There was barely any focus on "learn the English language" because they already expected you to be at a high level. What they /did/ focus on, was pronunciation. And you could pick whether you wanted to go for British-English or American-English. They'd grade you, keeping that in mind.
To be fair, I still live in a small town because I just can't get myself to move to bigger cities. I wouldn't ever want to live in Amsterdam and the Hague.... Egh. Maybe Leidene but them I'm "far" away from family and I'd probably feel lonely. (even though I'm closer to friends). I prefer the quiet of a small town, when I have access to a "big" town nearby.
You could always go for it anon, but I definitely understand that it's kind of a big step to move away from your surroundings. (even if this country is small).
No worries dude, I've /definitely/ heard that before haha. I don't take offense to it. Thanks for being honest.
It's funny though because I am talkative (judge me on this thread alone), but my face might give off "resting bitch face" (especially in public). Also, hitting on someone in the train is just awkward.
I wouldn't call myself unique at all. I'm pretty regular, but thank you for the compliment. You're really overstating me haha.
Like I said, maybe in a couple of years I'll reconsider it.
It's like you said: if I moved that far away, I'd be too far away from my family and I'd probably feel even more isolated than where I am now.
But hey, if you're ever in my neck of the woods I'd love to hang out.
I don't know. If I notice that a girl takes the same train every day at the same time I think it's perfectly fine to try and have a conversation with her.
Not that I'm good at it, but it doesn't hurt to try.
Are you a 'polder'-girl?
I could see someone not wanting to live somewhere that was originally left uninhabited but a massive flood less than 100 years ago. I live in an active volcano zone and it doesn't seem to bother most folks, though maybe it should.
My bias is being 'Mercan so it's cars everywhere for me. Open road, open country for a hundred miles and in the comfort of your own car.
A lot of Yennefer's outfit is leather though, isn't it? Striped with a heavy fabric, if I'm seeing it right.
So they graded you based on pronunciation of english words, but did they determine which one you preferred based on assessing each student or did they effective 'assign' a type of English to each kid or class? Which do you lean toward and is that something that influenced your current work?
You'll get there man, I'm positive. And it's also completely fine to keep living there. It's got quite interesting cities as well AND houses are cheaper (never underestimate how expensive shit is in the Randstad).
....... Sometimes I have massive headphones on, this might also be it.
Although the train I take is super long so I never end up sitting at the same spot, of course.
........ I'm Dutch and I have no idea what a polder girl is.
Well I mean a girl that was raised in a typical polder village, like you would find in the Bible-belt in our country.
They are often raised Protestant and usually wait for marriage to have sex, and are more traditional in general.
I was joking, haha. People do live there but a lot of us who /do/ not live there joke about what sorts of people do live in that place. It's quite populated.
Haha...... There are no open roads here, just traffic jams and lanes that are too narrow. Driving is not a breeze.
Yennefer's jacket is actually jacquard/brocade fabric in black. Which is just cotton/normal fabric with a fancy print on top of it. See, you can easily find brocade in white (think curtains) but you cannot find it in any other colour. So after three fabric stores, one recommended a store in Amsterdam that was small but had "unusual" stuff and I actually /found/ it there.
Then there's leather stripes on top of the jacket (and the back of it).
The trousers aren't leather - I'd peg them more at suede. I went for a more common fabric though, not as soft. Her trousers are really really black (you'll notice this when you hold the fabric of the jacket against it), so I went for something that would be easy to cut and sew and that was of a darker black than the jacket.
And no - not at all. It comes down to your own hard work and you can "pick" which one you like best. After that, it's just on you. Professors will provide tips should you require them, but as I said - they teach you in-depth English, not learning how to pronounce words or expand your vocab. See, when you get linguistics for instance, you will need to transcribe sentences into phonetic signs. Phonetics are different when it comes to English-English and American-English, so you did need to mention which of the two you were going to use in your transcription. As for presentations, they kind of figure which pronunciation you're trying to emulate.
As for me, I went for British-English. I got away with a lot of "Oh I'm sorry, I'm not Dutch" excuses these past few years. (Such as salesmen trying to sell you something on the street. Ugh.)
I suppose I was looking at philology as a historian, wondering about reception and purpose of texts like hagiography or exempla. My mind naturally made the connection between that and media, since I was thinking of the texts as semi-public media.
Old English is interesting, and I was able to read it a lot more easily after studying Old Norse. Middle English I particularly like, as it feels more natural and Germanic than modern English, but it still has the strong French influence that characterizes the modern language. It feels less "artifical" than modern English.
Now that I think about it, I don't think anyone in my Old Norse classes was doing Germanic linguistics; I think everyone was doing Indo-European, likely with comparative morphology emphases.
I'm right there with you. I think we just need to stay open to new people beyond just casual conversation. Maybe even be a little more assertive? Listen, you're a gorgeous girl. Walk up to that guy you like and just tell him he's cute. The guy is going to freak out sure, but once he knows you are interested I'm sure things would go smoother towards getting laid haha
This is me btw >>23104825
Not sure if my id changed since I stepped out for a bit.
You cosplay!? I'd love to see some of the ones you've done.
Not at all. My parents (and family) are both atheist, I grew up in Randstad and remained there, and I'm quite liberal about sex.
I just prefer to at least share my first time with someone I actually would like to spend more than an evening with. I reckon that if I'd already had sex, I'd be easier about it.
But I'd prefer to be in a relationship. Not just for the sex, though a big bonus, but just to share things with someone, to travel together, to share laughs. It's also kinda lonely living on your own. Not to mention more expensive. (I'm practical).
>Not just for the sex, though a big bonus, but just to share things with someone, to travel together, to share laughs. It's also kinda lonely living on your own. Not to mention more expensive. (I'm practical).
I can't agree more really. I'm 24 as well, and it's mostly being unable to share my life with someone I care about that makes me feel I miss out.
It remains a bit of a mystery to mr as to why you've never found someone.
Over 400,000 people if Wikipedia is to be believed. The metro I live in has over 2.5 million and over a million of that live in the path of what will be the biggest mudslide in centuries but I think the biggest distraction from our inevitable immersion in collapsed mountain run off is the terrible traffic, so perhaps we're not so different, Mr. Bond.
That sounds like it would be quite rough to wear and difficult to work with. Probably necessitating an undershirt of some kind? And we're talking about her standard costume in Witcher 3, right? I mean, which Witcher we watching here? I would hate to switch Witcher with Witcher which would warrant worrisome waylaying witching, word?
Ah, ok so this was part of the development of English is uni/college, I read it to mean something you developed in mandatory schooling and carried into further studies afterward. I am no fantastically conscious of my spelling acumen and word choice as a native speaker.
I have developed some passable accents and I got a real kick thinking about someone convincing someone on the street they don't speak fluently their native tongue.
Is the publishing work you do primarily translation or editing?
Yeah fuck, I'm aware but I just hate the ambience of the train. I did see a gorgeous af girl in the train and I wanted to tell her but it was so quiet, I just dropped it.
To be fair, I don't think I could be more assertive. I'm really honest, though I always make an effort to be tactful. But I might be oblivious af to people being into me.
Because, what you advised, I have done that before. I've actually always done that with men because I'm confident and if they don't like me - I don't care. I did it once in uni and the guy stared at me like I was crazy.It was awkward but it didn't bother me to be fair. It's his loss, haha.
Ahhh yeah I cosplay, it's nothing too interesting I assure you. I wouldn't ever put my page on here.
I think it's A) I'm picky. I typically don't fall in love easily, I don't "crush" on people at all and because I do want to fuck someone I'm over the moon with - that makes it difficult.
B) I don't go out much. Most people meet in bars or whatever and I literally never go. Either because friends live far away or you KNOW how shit public transport is when you don't live in the town itself.
And I feel you, that's the thing I miss. Not the sex - just the sharing. I don't really hold out high hopes that it might happen but who knows. So far I'm having plenty of fun travelling with friends and the like.
It's a good thing you have enough friends to spend time with and do fun activities with. Because I don't have any.
I think that you are right though with waiting for someone that is special to you.
Do you meet people at work or through friends? Do you actively look for guys or are you one of those people that doesn't try to 'force' a relationship?
Talking with you is pretty exciting because I had no idea that there were girls in our country that really want to wait. No offense.
I'm sorry that my wording is a bit weird, I have to use my phone for the time being.
Oh shit, that...... is rough. I feel you haha.
She only appears in the Witcher 3, sorry I forgot to mention that! And yes, the standard outfit. She is, as far as I can tell, wearing an undershirt (a simple white blouse). The boots worry me, though I might just go for some thigh-highs and leave it at that. Because fuck all those belts and weird overlaps of fabric.
We do have English as a mandatory subject in secondary school but it's not that much of a big deal. Either you're good at English, or you're not. If A, yes go for English, if B then don't go to uni because nearly every course you'll take be in English anyway. (yes other sciences etc. are usually given in English, at least partially).
Right now I work in publishing, though I've only started working there about 2/3 months. I'm horribly thankful because w/o experience it's difficult to get into. My ex-professor had a brother who needed someone for a short project, and now I'm given another project.
Ideally I'd like to actually work with content though, right now I'm doing archival work but it's definitely good for my resume so I'm holding onto it.
It's hard to respond without just parroting everything. Don't want to have to go through all the messy drama and don't want relationships without depth. So why just rehash everything?
Where kind of places you like to travel to? Tourist traps? Big cities? Country areas? Furthest you've ever gone?
It kind of depends on the show. I pretty much plowed through Shimoneta recently, and I read 10+ chapters of JoJo's every night before going to bed, but other shows I take my time with, especially if they are super dense. I've slowly been rewatching GiTS:SAC, but since every episode is so dense, I've just been doing a few at a time whenever I feel like it. Did you watch through Stardust Crusaders? The manga is totally worth the read, especially part VII if you haven't. Nah, I'm actually super flattered that you'd save any pictures of me, it feels nice to have someone who is attracted to me, since throughout middle school and high school I was pimply and obese, and just recently pulled myself together. If you ever wanted to talk about Chinese cartoons, feel free to Skype message me at 'anunfortunatelybadskypename'
She's a main character in Witcher 3, but she appears in Witcher 2, not in Witcher. Which is frustrating because we still don't know which Witcher witches witchiest Witching!
Belts seem to be a weirdly common design/fetish among game makers. Unless you had or knew someone who had a tannery I don't see how making those costumes could be feasible. They look ridiculous out of the game and would have to weigh a hundred pounds. Point is I don't think you need to worry about the boots either.
Sounds like you basically have a paid internship, which is actually pretty nice considering you get the experience and can live on it as you build dat resume.
I feel like I've been dancing around the subject, but do you prefer Witcher or Dragon Age? Both game for game (Origins vs W1, 2 vs 2, Inquisition vs 3) and franchise to franchise? Or are you more of an Elder Scrolls girl? Maybe even Dark Souls?
Aw, that sucks dude I'm sorry.
Well, as I said, I might be easier about it if I'd at least had it once with someone who meant a lot to me. But that hasn't happened so eh.
Usually through friends. I've worked at a huge company right before this but, this is going to sound super shallow so bear with me, the guys that worked there were incredibly unattractive and awkward. I liked one dude for a bit but whenever I tried talking to him he was just - just fucking awkward. Dropped the ball on that one real quick. (huge IT department, I'm sorry for generalizing).
I don't force it, but then again there's nothing TO force because I don't go out much haha. I mean I /really/ wanted it at one point, made me quite upset too, but I've let it go now. There's no use being upset over not being able to share in a relationship with someone. I could go out more, but I don't feel like doing it by my lonely self.
Ohhh yeah no worries, thanks! Although I have zero issues with girls who do not want to wait, and who like casual sex. All the more power to them. As I've said, I'm liberal about sex. I just prefer to have my /first/ time at least with someone I actually really like, that's all. No offence taken.
That's always going to be something you have to decide on your own. Whether you want one or not. But, cliché, always try to look at things with a positive outlook.
Hmmm. California, Canada, and Japan. I actually fucking love tourist traps, Tokyo remains one of my favourite cities. And I'm a sucker for visiting every single shrine in Kyoto, the Osaka castle, the Miyajima Shrine.... Although I'd love to visit large wooden areas in North America. Gorgeous.
Well she is talked about and appears in a flashback but that's all there is to it really. I'm further with the books, I've only played through maybe a tenth of 2 and I need to upgrade my videocard for 3. Sad times.
Well I'm something of an assistant-editor now (and paid full salary) and I have applied and gotten an interview for editor (which went well!), so fingers crossed. It's just that they give out the checking of content to freelancers outside of the company. Editors here are usually in contact with authors, set up deadlines, fill out plans etc. etc. It's not super interesting but hey, I don't mind. Stocking up on that experience.
Hmmmm. Well I've only finished the Witcher 1, whereas I've played all three DA games. I only started playing games recently, so I will need to check out Elder Scrolls/Dark Souls at one point. The reason why I play PC is because it's easier to store everything on there, and I don't own a console haha.
It's a hard choice to make. I've made Fenris and Morrigan and I'm working on Zevran so I guess you can tell that I love DA dearly. I love the many quests you get to do in DA, I like the lore (I own all three artbooks just for the lore), but the story kind of fell through in Inquisition. I loved the characters, as always, but eh it wasn't as amazing as it could've been. (I hear better things about Mass Effect but I'm not into sci-fi at all.)
Origins is better than W1 by far. But comparing Witcher 2 and Dragon Age 2, it's clear that superiority lies with the Witcher 2. Both in graphics and story. But, again, DA has always had great characters. I loved DA2 just for them. I'll have to see the witcher 3 but I'm going to guess it's better than DAI.
I love doing quests so DAI was perfect for me, but it lacked a tiny bit. Dunno, that was just my gut feel.
>I could go out more, but I don't feel like doing it by my lonely self.
I know that feeling all too well... I don't mind going out alone really since that's normal for me, but eating alone at restaurants is what really gets to me.
It's the sort of pitiful look in the waitress' eyes that very painful.
Sounds like you wouldn't be interested in me. You seem to crave a guy that could sweep you off your feet. An assertive man.
Mind if I ask why you are still awake at this hour? Don't you need to get to get up early for work tomorrow?
what happened to you m8?
just learn how to feign empathy :^)
you got dis, famicom
Nah, building attraction with somebody is supposed to feel natural, not like you're playing charades for some uninterested ho.
If you do try Tinder, I would suggest just giving the girl head or whatever first so she gets something out of it regardless.
I feel ya, man. That's how I've been most of my life, too.
prostitutes aren't worth it, homie. if you're gonna deal with bots and almost certainly shitty sex, just post on CL every other day. the bots are pretty easy to identify if you aren't used to it.
I envy you if you're really in a position to believe that's the problem for most people here.
I had work. Trying to respond to people, but the thread got away from me.
I know these feels. Pic related.
>fellow left-hand bro
always nice to know people you don't have to feel weird about after you shake their hand.
I'm lonely as shit, too, man. Life is unfulfilling, but I've dealt with that reasonably well in the past. Loneliness is a whole different beast.
There's a site called Introverted Alpha and various related ones that are pretty good for this
I can't top the priest response lel
again, I envy the people who have the capacity for responses like this in a virgin thread. clearly you've never had to deal with any of the same issues.
you take moderately good care of yourself and nothing about your outward appearance shows anything abnormal in the slightest, so you're good on that note, m8
yeah, you're pretty cute and I would probably not approach you on the assumption that you'd never have interest in me
this is pretty tame compared to the flagrant begging and contactfagging that goes on in most /soc/ threads
@all your replies
pls no bully
tfw you hit 2k char
I'm a hand-holdless virgin. I'm average looking and I'm not afraid of women. I'm not even afraid of awkwardness, however I am afraid that I will hit on a girl and she will be non-receptive and then I will have to see her every day. The only places I see girls was at school and now at work. I don't know where to find girls in rural Oregon.
Fuck them, honestly. Whose business is that? But yes, it isn't easy. I even felt awkward eating at McDonald's of all places and that was just because I wanted to grab a quick something before heading home. I can't imagine "actual" eateries and restaurants.
To be really fair, I'm known as being picky. Not for looks (although they play a part, I'd be lying if I said they didn't), but just because I typically look at everyone like "eh". Or "yeah you're beautiful but I don't feel anything". But, you're right. I am into assertive guys, mostly because I'm also an assertive girl haha.
I have one close friend who lives in Canada, so I tend to stay up until 1am usually. I'm good on 6 hours of sleep. But yeah, I /should/ sleep.
Thanks mate, I appreciate that. Although I do love it when people approach me.
Can't help but be in the same boat again. Relationships are best formed with all aspects taken into account. If I ignore that I'm not attracted to someone I enjoy being around or pretend to be interested in someone attractive, then I'm doing a disservice to me and them. Without emotional, social and physical attraction, then it's not something worth forcing. Not shallow at all, it's shallow to want to start relationships on only one dimension, be it physical attraction or one common interest or one common experience. One-dimensional relationships are usually based on attraction, but you don't do that, so you have nothing to worry about.
My bias is always food. I've done food vacations to New York, Ireland and Califonia. I NEED to eat across a Chinese province or two, just to get the wild variety and amazing traditional flavors.
I live in the Pacific Northwest and you are right to want to come here. I can see snow-capped mountains from my living room and I don't think forest walks can get more beautiful than they do around here. Especially when they open to long sandy beaches with no one else around for miles.
Yeah - daaamn. Same here, sleep well!
Ugh that sounds incredibly beautiful ; - ; I would like to visit one day. And food - food is always important.
Sorry for the short answer dude, I really have to go to sleep. Nice talking to you.
It was nice talking to everyone in the thread actually.
I don't see why not. Otherwise, as a former sufferer of extreme social anxiety, I can offer some advice or whatever. If you want to know how to have the self-esteem to make talking to women worthwhile, though, I can't help ya.
Climbing the ladder after only a few months? Speaks volumes about your abilities and dedication, so that's nothing to downplay.
DA:O is easily the best of the 6 games (all three DA and Wi). The lore is so much better laid out and feels natural to the world, nothing forced or for the sake of convenience. That's the most thorough and well thought out detailing of Dwarven society I've ever seen and it's spot on to how they would live.
If you like really good world building, Dark Souls will spark you (if you can handle the frustration), the visuals and mythos are absolutely perfect. You can 'feel' the world and the conflicts in it. Elder Scrolls is a good overall series, but the only really truly great one is Morrowind, which you should be able to get cheap and run on any middle of the road computer really easily. Oblivion is good and you get to play in the world a lot, but it's much more constrictive in world and hackneyed in plot, Skyrim is even worse. I played Dark Souls then went to Skyrim and couldn't even finish it, it's ten steps down from how amazing Dark Souls was and still is.
>DA:0 >>>> Wi
>Wi 2 > DA2
>Wi 3 >>>> DAI
For fear of being pretentious, ehm, that is correct. You are correct about all those games.
Mass Effect is definitely a sci-fi junkies fare. First one is good, second is fantastic, great characters and universe, third is notoriously a turd. Not completely bad, but very meta and has a terrible ending.
into drawing too much, trying to make a living out of it without drawing smu, though I've always felt it'd be pretty hot to date a girl that's into drawing porn. Last I heard there's plenty of them out there, but I haven't really met any.
I don't have extreme social anxiety, I know how bad it can get with some people and I'm pretty sure I don't have that. It's weird. I don't mind crowds or just wandering around the streets, I can talk about a certain task if needed, I just find connecting to people, relaxing around them and opening up to them very hard.
Yeah, great chatting.
Let's exchange contacts if you're still around. I want to see your costumes and find out how much better you are with English than I am.
Either way, g'night!
Don't usually do this but have a throwaway email, the both of you.
If I don't reply, please do not think it's you. I'm usually just working at a dozen things at a time and am super forgetful about that email address in the first place.
With that said, g'night!
I've been fat and ugly my whole life, people constantly made fun of me about my looks and I'm generally regarded as the butt of every joke. So the utter lack of self esteem with the distrust of anyone that even looks at me has caused me to shy away from people. And I hate it.
I have standards, and I'm pretty much convinced that there just isn't a girl out there for me.
I don't know what my problem is besides being socially retarded, having body issues and an intense fear of rejection / humiliation
I don't think I will ever have a partner and should kill myself but can't because I'm afraid of death.
i had sex once three years ago
I feel like I'm ugly because I have a big nose and I'm middle eastern looking in Tennessee, either I'm going to be getting liberal SJWs or conservatives who are SJWs
I just can't win I think, plus I'm not the best looking guy either
do you have /r9k/-tier "she has to be a virgin, too" standards? lol
if you wanna make an effort to change. shit seriously helps; it's basically the same logic that helped me get over my social anxiety.
>de sjw boogeyman
I know there are idiotic online extremists, but if you are actually, seriously concerned about this, the problem might lie with you.
18 m. sex isnt really that enticing to me, but im at a point now where I want to lose my virginity just to fit in with people my age. I know a few girls who are super into me, but they're all kind of good girls and idk how easily they would give it to me. I'm just gonna find a nice slutty girl to have a one night stand with and then after that I don't really care about ever having sex again
19 and Male. I had a girlfriend once before who I really did love, I've always been a complete shut-in so she was pretty much the only person I talked to. She'd always tease and want to do sexual stuff but we never went all the way because she wanted to maintain her pure girl image which I thought was really admirable and cute. The entire experience was awful to me though because eventually she got bored of the idea of a relationship and just cut me out of her life completely and it really hurt because we'd tell each other "I love you" dozens of times each day, but she was just a weeaboo who wanted to parade around with her cute Asian bf.
Since then, its just been hard for me to talk with and connect with other people, especially since I still miss the things we used to do together like watch movies and play games together on skype.
>25 year old kissless virgin
>Out of sheer luck and uncharacteristic bravery, acquire qt gf
>Stick it in her
>One month later, she cuts off all contact with me because I'm an asshole
This was in the summer
I still feel like a kissless virgin
22 years old kisless virgin. Why? Probably because Im just ugly and Im unable to make female friends :(
my english isnt really great, so ignore the mistakes, plox
Kinda handsome, I would say
15yo first kiss through pure social pression. The girl had a crush on me, but i didnt like her that much. That was it. Not much to think about.
16-18 years were good, I was constantly staying with one old friend, who i really thought i liked. We didnt go in a single date whatsoever, we would only stay together at parties. I have not yet come into terms with myself if I really liked/like her or not (in a passionate way), but anyway it didnt work (Im still her friend, but now we`re weird with eachother =/. We`re still both jealous of each other tho).
I manage to hook up with some girls in my school who i found really attractive, but none of the cases went further. I did what i though would lead me to sex, but I couldnt feel horny. Had my first sex opportunity with a girl i didnt like at all, and I failed to went further, which led me to believe it was because i had a bad image of her as an individual.
Well, case closed. When i was eighteen i entered university. These were dusk times. I had no one to share affection with, so I just didnt even think about it. Im not a party guy, so there werent many opportunities too. I focused mostly on playing online games with my Highschool friends (we are 4 dudes that know each other for years).
About two years later, around july/15 I had a talk with one of my friends (my closest friend at the time, the one who i played with the most) about how we were throwing our lives aways sitting in front of a computer all day. We should get out of our confort zone, who was drowning us, then we could really live. He asked me if i didnt see all the gaming this way, if I really wasnt bothered by it. ANd it was obvious. I was really fucking unhappy about the path my life was taking.
continues in next post :v
And he was the first person who I opened myself to. I told him everything: how miserable i felt, and that i had no expectations or dreams. How insecure i was about my graduating course, and how i really had no idea which area i would follow. I told him that my love life was inexistant, but it wasnt because i was just overly ugly or akward, it was because I couldnt get to terms with my sexual identity.
That day i started thinking/caring about myself. I started questioning why the fuck I wouldnt like no one, started asking if I could be gay and I just wouldnt let myself acknowledge it. You see, i`ve always looked upon some guys, but as I never even think of it as an possibility, i really had locked that door. Well, i came to a conclusion that it was probably it. Yeah, i was gay. That being said, i thought the first step i had to take was to tell my homies, who would help me through the fog i was in. I did it, and it all went really fine.
The thing is, I was still complety confused (still am). I never kissed a dude, and had no idea how i could make it happen. I never had a gay friend, and there werent many gays in my specialization course. So the second semester of 2015 consisted of me and my friend (the one who snaped me out of it) hanging out togheter, trying to do different programs, who would lead us to acquire diverse life experience and live memorable moments.It was fucking great. Even if we didnt find any events, we would just hang out togheter and chill/[;ay some music and chat. We were both getting trough hard times (he had, earlier in that year, had been dumped by a girl who meant the world to him), and the fact that we had each other was truly reconforting.
Then the feelings started to appear. Suddenly i started noticing how beautiful he was, and what a perfect couple that we could be. But well, he was straight. He is straight. But i couldnt run from it. We had a strike on our university, so we spent 3 months side by side, everyday.
Anyway, the feelings started growing inside of me. I would really try to deny them, but he was the only individual who i shared a connection that strong before, and i just thought of him as a complete perfect human being. Well, it didnt take long for me to start checking him up - sexually. I was finally horny, but for this straight guy, my straight BEST FRIEND. It was really fucking hard to control myself. I have always been too much of a discreet person, so i really dont know if he ever noticed it. I think not. Anyway,fuck, things were really screwed up.
I was madly in love with his person, his kindness and wilingness to aid others. Madly in love with his smile, and the way that he would talk to you just one palm away from your face. The urge to kiss him during these talks is fucking terrifying, It leads to an agonizing pain filled with guilt, every single time.
I switched on a glimpse from a cold hearted guy to an extremely sentimental one. I was fucking shocked. I AM fucking shocked. ANd I am deadly afraid of destroying our friendship. Im trying to get some distance so I can get this fantasized image of him out of my head, but its really difficult. Not only due to the fact that I really like to be with him just to hear the sound of his voice, but that we are REALLY close, and he studies right beside me. I see him more than three times a week for sure, and its hard to just ignore him. He had suffered way more then me in his last relationship, plus some problems with studies, and he isnt the guy with a lot of friends to turn to. Im important to him, and I dont want to let him down. But still, i was getting really depressed. Started having trouble sleeping and anxiety problems, i couldnt stop thinking of him.
And it hasnt changed much since. I stopped playing games with him, and im avoiding having dinner together, but thats about it.
last one i promise
ok, now i realize how this went out of control and how my posts have no correlation whatsoever with the thread. Sry for that. Well, guess i`ll just finish it now.
Luckly one of my University friends came out to me a month ago - and then vice-versa - and helped me a lot since i finally had someone to talk to about how i would feel, someone who could understand that. And i had a session with a sexual teraphist who helped me clear my mind, and Im eager for a second appointment.
And yeah, I talked with him about his feeling for girls/guys, seeing if there were any possibilities. He says that he doesnt get attracted by genres, but that he simply doesnt like cocks. But he is thrilled by the idea of liking a man, still. Not that he does/ is capable of.
I don't even hold those beliefs, I'm going to vote for Trump and all, but I do think the major reason i'm not getting laid is A. I'm conservative, but very ethnic looking, and conservative girls really don't date minorities from what I've seen or B. I'm ugly
I'm 23/M and I got invited to cuck a girl, her current bf is totally down for it.
Shes pretty cute and we've actually known each other for a few years & exchanged pics before.
I dunno would it be weird for that to be my first actual sexual experience?
If you are seriously considering their offer I would say that you are already down the line far enough that you shouldn't care about it being weird for your first time.
What a world we live in...
I honestly think youre pretty good looking. Youre the type of guy id imagine many girls think of as cute and i dont mean cute in the bad way, rather in the "i wanna be his gf kind of way".
21/m kissless virgin
Highschool crippled me in terms of being intimate with another person. I can never see myself being with someone because I've always got this perception that people don't want to be with me in a romantic sort. I'm also eccentric anyway so it's hard to find someone that'll accept me for who I am. I've made heaps of friends over the years through work and old school buddies. Just intimacy and relationships are my two biggest fears.
Hopefully something good will happen this year. I've gotten close to a girl I know from work so hopefully good things can happen.
All my fellow KVs.. brahs.
Still, had a decent week. Made an effort to talk to more people. Think I'll stay clean shaven (might post a pic for you shitlords to rate). Started learning German and picked up quite a bit already. Actually wanted to talk to a girl I quite like but I didn't see her once.
if u live anywhere near nottingham ill give you a dicking :^)
The thread is for sharing stories, bro. Good luck with the rest of your self-discovery.
It's bait, friend.
It takes conscious effort. Breaking out of your shell in safer places, imagining and exploring situations in your head/with a friend; things of that nature. I can help out if you want. I've been in your situation before.
most people's first times are awkward, anyway. that sounds like a cooler story than most
It's very hard to stop this kind of thinking. I'm the same way, but I just go along with it even if I don't understand why any girl would pay attention to me.
go for it m8
pls don't kill the thread
20 year old fit attractive female.
I want to focus on my education and bettering myself as well as hobbies rather slutting it up with every penis person in my area.
I've never been in love or felt strong emotions for a man, but I believe the first one I have sex with would be different, that emotional bond that comes from releasing endorphins. I would like that t be my long term life partner rather than just a random fuck in my teens.
Although those are released during sexual contact of any kind, the bonding/love molecule is oxytocin. The brain specifically releases during sex to 'bond' parents of a potential offspring.
There's not a lot of evidence to back this up, but it makes some sense to me that the more partners you have the less your brain releases with each one. Though I imagine that to be in general and dependent on the person. Maybe a really passionate and flowery person bonds with all 200 partners they've had and a serial monogamist gets next to nothing from their 10th.
>I would like that t be my long term life partner rather than just a random fuck in my teens.
That's usually the best thing to do, and since you are attractive you should have no problem finding someone once you feel the time is right to find a partner you like.
You'd be surprised, it's really hard to find someone who fits my standards and I know that's entirely my fault but eh, I'll keep looking.
That is true, I got the happiness hormones mixed up there from sleep deprivation, sorry! This graph ties in with my little reasoning for why I'm staying a virgin.
Thank you, I hope I get lucky too and find someone great, it'd be a bummer if I end up wasting my prime youth only to settle for less than what I was waiting for later in my 30s
>I end up wasting my prime youth only to settle for less than what I was waiting for later in my 30s
I'm glad you're conscious of this on at least some level. That chart has merit, certainly, but this goes back to the point about the flower child and the serial monogamist, you can't constrain everything in life based on statistical regression and fear of failure. To me it sounds like you're choosing nothing instead of anything for fear of it being wrong and ultimately doing more harm than any poor decision could do.
I'm not saying go get gang banged at a frat or just find the best looking virgin at your local anime or book club and force the issue, but don't shut people and possibilities out and don't deny yourself one of the most basic human instincts to make sure you land on the right data point on some graph.
I realize this all seems very generalized, but I had that same mentality in my late teens and early 20's and looking back I realize all I did was push people out, giving myself little invisible points in the game where I pretend the end prize is a qt virgin gf who likes science fiction as much as I do. I can think of a dozen women I could have at least gotten to know better but shut it all out to satisfy some meaningless standard. Would I still be where I am today? Maybe, but I'd at least know I gave love and sex a chance for myself.
I have muscular dystrophy and it's pretty obvious by the way I walk and shit that I have something wrong with me. I've hooked up and gotten head, but no sex. Fucking every time I'm about to get close with a chick I actually like something random happens and fucks it up (moving, transfer, etc.)
I'm not too worried, I'm not an awkward fuck or anything, I just have shit game cuz I know my handicap is obvious and no one wants to fuck a handicap
Kissless, handholdless, involuntary permavirgin.
Why are half of the people here just normalfags/women?
I had a gf when I was 15 or 16 and we tried to do the sex once but literally could not get it in (we didn't really know what we were doing I guess). So mostly just dry humping and fingering. A few months before we broke up we were at her parent's house by ourselves, she tells me she bought condoms and if I want we can try again. I said no. I thought if it didn't work last time how could it work now.
10 years after and it still haunts me. No gf since.
21/m/gay and in the closet
Never knew anybody growing up who was also gay/bi and NOT a gigantic douche, and shit circumstances have lead to me not leaving the house much in the past 5-6 years. Recently got grindr, and started leaving the house to go for walks, but so far still no luck. Guys keep flaking out and either deleting our conversation or ceasing to respond.
Most recently, yesterday, I was talking to a guy who wanted to give me a blowjob, and he asked for my address. Didn't wanna give out my exact whereabouts, so I told him the rough location of a short side-street/alley nearby. He didn't respond, and after about an hour the conversation got deleted. A little later, he messaged me again, and seemed to have no idea what happened. He stopped replying pretty quickly, anyways.
Somewhat simultaneously, I was talking to a guy on kik who wanted me to fuck him. Eventually, I got around to sending him a dick pic, and asked if he had any; he said he'd send them, and that's the last message I got from him. I sent a couple more messages, but none of them have been read, though his name changed, so I'm guessing he either blocked the conversation or changed the name and abandoned the account.
tl;dr i have shit luck with guys flaking on me
Why am I virgin?
I haven't really found anyone really. I mean, it's not that Im bad looking, I'm not too bad. I guess. I'm just short. Standing at 5 foot 4 inches. Which really is a turn off. yeah.
The one relationship I was in. I was physically beaten, and I was cheated on so I don't open up anymore.
was bullied throughout school, and never fixed the damage it did. Recently started therapy, but the damage is done, even if I could become functional socially, women would be scared off by a 32+ year old virgin
21/m. I'm a kv because I'm 330 lbs. All of my other confidence/emotional issues stem from that, I think. I've tried to fix if by signing up for a gym at the end of November, but I slipped on a patch of ice and broke my ankle since then. Guess I just have to keep trying.
KV because I was always the tall, heavier guy that was awkward as fuck since high school (got bullies off my case though). Playing rugby didn't help much with confidence then, and my job keeps me from taking it up now because I work on game days. Not many friends to head out with, and the women in my city are shallow as fuck.
Just thinking about giving up my V-card to an escort or something. Bad idea?
it won't change much. see first post in thread.
def not worth the money based on every similar story I've heard
Because I basically haven't had friends since middle school. As the years of middle school and high school went on, as I stayed friendless (basically was always just like a class clown, had acquaintances but no real friends) I got more miserable and angry and bitter
Then I entered college and the years of not socializing in high school fucked me over.
Then after college I have moved back home and I had no friends, so I don't have any now.
Being friendless is the single worst thing that can happen to you, even worse than being ugly. If you have no friends, you don't go out anywhere so you can't meet people. And when you don't have friends, you become miserable because you never have any fun in your life, and your misery is shown to other people. Even for someone like me who is ugly (get rated 4-5/10 in /soc/ rate threads which are notoriously too nice and have been insulted for my looks in my life), if I had friends I would have been able to get a relationship or at least sex.