As soon as I started taking the prescribed medicine, I felt so much better. I have realized this is how normies feel all the time, and it's fantastic.
I don't love love love myself, but I am okay with myself. I have started losing weight because I'm slightly chubby, but I'm still okay with myself. I am a NEET KV who is now happy to be alone. I belly laugh all the time at stupid thoughts I have, things I post on 4chan, and things I send to my one friend in the whole world. I constantly talk to myself at home and in the car, and I make myself laugh a lot.
>>26494050 I don't know what specifically hate about myself. But I certainly don't love myself. I can't even work up the effort to work hard for myself and make my life better and I certainly can't genuinely love anyone else
>>26494151 I'm in the same situation. You need to reject the values which society tries to impose upon you. There's no material basis for them and you will feel much happier if you try and live your life in the way that you want and not how you think other people want you to live.
>>26494130 I hate medication so much though. It doesn't feel genuine and the side effects it has on personality and creativity are not worth it. Also my biggest fear is being alone. I want to share my life with someone and be able to start a family but I can't while I hate myself.
>>26494294 I don't think strict adherence to social norms is a prerequisite for starting a family. Contrary to what you might hear on r9k not all women are complete sheep who only go for Chads. As long as you have a job which will enable you to provide security etc. you will be able to start a family.
>>26494320 this exactly. how can accept myslef when Im so selfish, lazy, cowardly, etc. I mean I can accept flaws like how I have dyspraxia or I'm never gonna be the best at anything but I can't accept being a "robot".
>>26494425 You're right. I dont want to be a normie or change my personality to be chad but I do want to atleast be able to accept myself enough to be able to work hard for myself and then eventually work hard for those I care about
>>26494550 I really want to but I just hate myself too much to do it.
And I'm not even trying to be like a self-help fuck nozzle. The only reason that I go on each day is the thought that I can do better than I did yesterday. You just have to find something that you want to do, and it took me 27 years to find it. But now that I have, I have a purpose again.
>>26494907 I don't even know what. I have tried starting courses in all sorts of things and have had multiple jobs. I always end up finding them all equally stressful and get really anxious. Then once I get too stressed I just give up.
>>26495059 I already do all of those things. If I listened to Jew media I would be perfectly comfortable with being degenerate and seek to destroy myself more and wouldn't be trying make myself a better person now
By finding a purpose. This isn't going to come to you easy.
I had to get cajoled into helping out a friend of my parents at the local animal shelter. I've been there for 7 years now.
I got lucky, I'm not denying that. Before that, I was happy to drink myself to death, and I still do, at a slower pace. But, I've found something that makes me feel better about myself, and I work with people who appreciate who I am and what I do. I was an antisocial fuck when I started, but no matter how badly I reacted with the people, the animals knew that I was a good person. It was seeing them every day, caring for them until they got adopted, that helped me find my place.
>>26495414 >Think of all the best moments of your life The only times I can think of are when my mum or my ex praised me. I can't live off other people's praise while hating myself at the same time REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
>>26493742 I realized recently that the happiest times in my life were when I had a reason to achieve something. The summer after my freshman year of HS, I dropped about 50 lbs. because I wanted to impress a girl. My first semester of college, I got a 4.0 because I wanted to impress my parents.
Most of my life has been spent trying to seek the approval of others and using it as a means of improving myself and my situation. People say that in order to love someone, you have to learn to love yourself first, but all my experience is to the contrary. It was because I loved someone else that I eventually came to love myself, whether physically or academically.
Even so, that sort of love is temporary and eventually fades. I guess that's why I've gained weight and had a C average only a couple of years after my first semester.
OP, my answer to your question is that I don't know, but I hope you find a reason to improve and live and love that isn't so transient.
>>26495343 It's not. I'm 26 & haven't made much of an attempt to improve my character and abilities until recently. Things begin to not seem as hopeless when you're constantly striving towards something, as this means a valid reason to have optimism. By doing this you're constantly becoming better and will eventually seeing the greater things you're capable of. It's a life without some commitment that's not worth faring through, since humans are not motivated & do not find meaning in life through pure objectivity. Instead, they find it through passion, desire, and moral commitment.
>>26495451 >>26495510 You asked how to stop "hating yourself". That's how, you only see the best part of yourself and your life.
You have to choose to be happy because true happiness comes from within. No one is going to force you to be happy with your life. You have to make the choice, and if something bothers either change, tolerate, or ignore it.
>>26493742 you don't love yourself you idiot. you're so full of flaws, how could anyone love that? the trick isn't to "love yourself", that's some stupid normy tier meme they created to feed their small egos without exerting much effort to change.what you really want is self-respect, or something you can feel good about.
>>26493742 You don't. We're all pretty fucking terrible and we deserve to hate ourselves. But that doesn't mean you should stop being a functional person. Just because you hate yourself doesn't mean you don't still have to work, be just and kind towards others, and shower regularly.
I've always found myself in conflict. Later I realized I am the one putting myself in conflict by choice.
I hate formalities, or getting compliments. I always feel uncomfortable when people are being nice to me. When people are being shit to me, I enjoy it and usually manage to end that conflict in my favor.
I can be nice, I can socialize and I think I can land a gf if I tried hard and lied about how I feel.
I hate myself but like myself when I'm hated by someone else.
>>26496188 >If I give up on that, I have nothing. If you give up on making yourself happy by means of betterment, you'll have nothing. We live solely for ourselves because we're selfish by default & we cannot really help it. The desire for altruism is a facade for the desire for you to think higher of yourself through means of benefiting others. It doesn't mean you shouldn't want & strive to make others happy, but it should give you some insight on who's most important to attempt to make happy now. >>26496417 By giving up you'll never achieve a sense fulfillment. The desire for achieving fulfillment is the reason we persist. Give up, & you would only be deeply burdened by regret.
>>26494108 If you want to stop despising yourself then you need to literally stop caring about anything, we're here on this earth for a short amount of time meaning that anything we will ever do or not do is meaningless anyway.
Just do whatever makes you fucking happy and stop caring about what other clueless peoples opinions are of you, then you might learn to stop hating yourself.
I don't know how to love myself. There's nothing to love. I have no talents or skills or interests or anything to offer. And when people talk about how easy self-acceptance is for them, it makes me feel even more incompetent and frustrated that I can't just do it. I wanna be a better person but I don't feel able. My fuckin pilot light is burned out or something. I've been running on fumes for years.
What makes you guys get up in the morning? I don't have anything. Most days I don't even get out of bed.
the only thing I am is good academically I have no other redeeming qualities, there's nothing else I kick ASS in university, no matter the subject, I can learn it
and ironically, I don't give a fucking shit about academics, my deepest wish is for people to love me, but at that, I'm fucking terrible.
i sometimes feel my life is god telling a big fucking joke to the rest of the angels, I know it's edgy to think that but everything I want to achieve I fail at it, and the rest of the things, those that I don't care about, those I am talented at
I wish I had never been born so my parents and my brother aren't hurt at me killing myself
How to love thyself 1. Get off the internet. Seriously. Come back when you're not depressed. 2. Start searching for a hobby. If you don't have any interests, start looking around for one. 3. Go to the library, get a book on whatever hobby you previously selected. 4. Start going for walks, doing pushups when you're not busy, and working on the aforementioned hobby. 5. If you fa, either try again, or try something new. Try to have fun with it. Eventually, you will start to acknowledge a self worth. 6. Get a job. If you have one, but it's shit, get a new job. This might take a while, but it will happen if you genuinely try. 7. Acknowledge what experience you have and what you succeed in. You don't have to be perfect, but in a sense, you will be. 8. Stay away from this place. You know how everyone talks about "they don't want to see you succeed"? 4chan is full of "them". People here want to tear you down and make you feel like shit because it makes them feel better.
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