Why does this keep happening?
>meet a girl
>get interested in her
>she shows signs of interest
>start to lose interest in her after a little bit
This has happened at least 4 times now
What the hell is it?
I can somehow relate
>she starts showing signs of interest and starts giving out little feelers like being touchy and giving me compliments
>ignore all signs because I have absolutely terrible self-esteem
>she loses interest eventually and moves on to some other guy
Why does this happen so many times?
You get to know her which disappoints you because before that you had high ideals of her.
It could also be a self esteem thing in which you convince yourself you don't deserve to be with someone.
I'm guessing the latter
>girl says she likes me and wants to talk to me
>we talk for a few days
>some other guy shows her attention
>she stops talking to me
your brain's hitting the override switch and shutting down the operation based on either actual rejection in the past, or the subconscious conviction that you'll be rejected
your brain is pretty smart, man
No it wasn't really self esteem. We didn't share any interests and she didn't really have that many goals.
I'm a gamer so when I find a girl that likes games a lot I go nuts. Problem is most of them are attention whores or have issues.
I was into one girl I met on an MMO and she was an 18 year old dating a 30 year old man. Just an example of the shit I deal with.
Nigga are you me
>girl says she loves me
>shit my fucking senpai, its the best feeling I've felt I'm my life
>go on a date
>she is so touchy and at the end she kisses me
>Jesus Christ finally my dream is coming true
>1week after she stops talking to me or don't respond
>I ask her on another date
>ohhhhh I can't because of reasons
>fucking bitch she changed me for another guy
In other words: he manages to attract girls in the first place, but fails at keeping the interest on.
Let's say you see a hot woman, and you know she wants to be a game designer or some shit like that that also turns you on. Maybe you'll say "hey, she seems interesting, I wanna know a little more about her", but after some time you find out that she only talks about video games. Maybe you're into it, but some people would get tired after some time.
The best hobbies I can think of are always related to sports/fitness. Not only they will add a topic to your list, but also will make you look better.
Find a sport you'd like to play or just go to the gym.