i kno normies get out reeeee is the party line and a meme at that, but my advice to you is to get the fuck off of r9k and go hang out with your grilfriend and live life more instead of wallowing in pity here online with a bunch of man children
Were in the same boat f@m. Got a gf, but Im still depressed as fuck, I cant enjoy the "closeness". Too dead to really get it going to have sex even if she has clearly said many times that she would like to do it.
I knew that relationships didnt equal happiness, but something in me hoped that it would make things better atleast. Instead its making me hate myself even more. Theres absolutely nothing wrong with the girl, but I just get nothing out of it. I started to doubt if Im even human anymore.
Maybe we are just so utterly dead inside that theres no going back.
>>26430080 Havin a gf doesn't fix everything dude, it's just nice to be with someone and mutually care for each other, but that doesn't make everything else go away. It can't, and it never will. Wish you guys the best.
>>26430825 Damn, that sounds so sad. There's plenty of younger girls who'd be interested in you solely for the fact you got a job/money and plenty of friends, can't you find one who'd be also interesting to talk to?
>>26430080 >>26430509 >>26430574 >>26431762 I actually cannot believe how identical this is to my circumstances. Anon you are not alone. >Will probably break up with perfect gf despite knowing I'll never achieve anything close to her ever again >When she asks why I wont have a single valid reason >Will be resented by both of our families and friends
>Still sounds appealing (for no reason also)
I don't know what this mental illness is but I want it cured
Simply put depanding on another human being for love is painful. it's literal hell.
sorry but this is the truth. standing on your own is the way to go. and that does not mean you can't have a qt gf. but relying on her to fill your emptiness is going to lead you into constant fights because she will never be able to satisfy you. this is your issue. not hers.
>>26430080 Obviously because you placed all your hope and happiness in something as stupid as an external factor/activity. Who ever believes that you can achieve happiness by acquiring a qt is deluded.
let me explain my point because you think i'm trying to hurt you. i'm not.
you love her because she is doing what you expects from her. she is giving you what you want and that way you don't have to face your issues. i get it. it's pleasing. that's it. nothing scary. now will you love her when she does something that crushes the trust you invested in her?
>>26433669 oh you are a mind reader? i think not because what you said is false.
>>26433759 >you love her because she is doing what you expects from her
>she is giving you what you want and that way you don't have to face your issues
no. i face my issues all the time, hence the self-hatred
you're trying so desperately to bend the narrative to fit this strange forgone conclusion you have attached yourself too, and i just don't get it. your relationship experience=/=everyone else's relationship experience. i am sorry it ended badly for you but I am telling you you are literally doing damage to robots posting this bullshit here
>>26433846 the things i hate about myself cannot be altered. you can live in this twisted fantasy world if you want, just don't post about it. keep your bullshit to yourself, most robots aren't switched on enough not to swallow this crap
>>26433759 it's obviously a thought that roams around your head quite constantly which is why in reaction to someone getting a gf you think "what happens when she cheats on him with chad?" when in reality you are the one getting a gf and thinking that very thought. but you don't have a gf or even if you do it will not last because that hypothetical event that rings in your head as truth prevents you from forming any sort of a genuine connection with any girl.
>>26433981 don't be so naive we all depend on each other for love. you can choose to go down the road where you choose to not feel love and anything at all because you fear possible pain but in that process you will metaphorically kill your spirit and no matter what you have externally you will always feel empty.
>>26434320 he's saying that we sculpt our self-image via the opinions of others. and he is right. there is no way to not do this. you are doing it as you read this. as such, you will always rely on others for love. you can't cheat the system, anon
>>26434419 it's more like 'solving your problems will get you a gf', but a lot of robots get it backwards. unless you get a shit girl, which it seems a bunch of people in this thread managed to do. whoops
delusional people think thay have it right. just like you.
>you may be beyond saving
i am. because what you are suggesting is that we need other to save us from our own lack of love. and i say, maybe this is the wrong way to go. because it's fucking flimsy and painful. fact. if hell is all you know of course you will think that's there's no other way to live.
>>26434510 re-read the entire thread and stop being a moron. you have the reading comprehension of a highschooler. I tried to help you but it's like running into a brickwall, you are hellbent on maintaining this delusion to the point that you will literally block the meaning of sentences from entering your mind. It's actually rather remarkable, usually people's psychology engages in this behavior when a belief is BENEFICIAL, but yours is nothing but harmful. You are trying to write a new rulebook for a game that's 3 billion years in the making. Anyway, I am leaving the thread now. Good luck, anon.
>>26434691 His point was that your 'point' is not possible due to millions of years of evolution hard-wiring us to base our self-image on how others perceive us. He also tried to inform you that, despite thinking otherwise, you still engage in this form of self-image development. There are bundles of evidence of that in this very thread.
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