>>26396997 Same, had a badly disabled gf for awhile, very poor in the looks department. The thing is I never told her and tried to make her feel better about herself, but she knew and always tore herself down, her self esteem was abysmal.
>>26396884 >bf tells me he loves my body, im gorgeous etc every day >consider myself a 4/10, would be 8/10 if not fat from meds and disease >starving myself and working out 5 days a week to keep from gaining more >bf complains i dont spend enough time with him
do I just "let myself go" completely to spend more time with him while feeling like an ugly fat shit, or do I keep on going with the regimen to lose weight/feel better about myself while he feels like its not necessary. I dont know, its either my self esteem or his needs and it feels like a lose-lose.
this is extremely common. both of you have self esteems in the gutter, it is easy to tell. your man wants you stay fat so another man doesn't steal you. you're a loser because you're with a guy that is that pathetic. you're perfect for each other.
secondly, because you haven't figured out body weight fitness yet just means you're lazy or dumb
>>26397401 >have a femdom fetish >have an ugly gf >am incredibly attractive myself >mentally take the perspective that she owns me and is doming me and I'm submissive to her because she's so much uglier than me that it must be a power struggle.
>>26397067 So dumb. Dated a girl from this post who was the same way. She'd always get annoyed when I called her beautiful or complimented her appearance. I tried not to but it always slipped out in moments of intimacy. Just because you find it hard to believe, doesn't mean he's lying. He probably really does find you beautiful. As you love someone, they become more attractive to you. It's not magi, but it's also not bullshit.
>>26397402 just put down the fork, people didn't gain weight in concentration camps. Use a calorie counter and don't cheat if it means that much to you. Working out can only do so much for weight loss, if you run 6 miles you'll barely burn 900 cal.
Read again, medical problems + I am already on the fitness/diet regimen. Im not obese either, but because of the meds I retain water like crazy and my face is literally bloated so I dont even look like myself every other day. I weigh 80 kg, Im chubby/fat, not a landwhale. Either way, hes not an unattractive guy, I think he really just prefers bigger girls and is afraid to tell me that or afraid that I'll somehow become "too thin" which I am in no danger of.
>gf thinks she's ugly >I don't, she's practically my ideal besides a few fixable (without surgery) rough features >she doesn't believe me >feel like the right thing to do is to just keep telling her how I feel no matter how long it takes for her to accept it >the idea of just settling for lying and saying, "okay yeah sure you're unattractive" to appease her- even in the least offensive way possible- makes my stomach turn >don't think that would turn out well at all
>>26398387 Approach and talk to one you don't know irl and after a short conversation say "I have to go now but it was nice talking to you, can I get your number? and then a few days later ask if she wants to hang out
>>26397871 I was assuming you were obese when you said you should just let yourself go and were sounding really hopeless. If you're that close to being a healthy weight definitely don't give up because you'll never be able to get back with out extreme effort. I went to highschool with this guy that was in a similar position. His parents are both obese, but he was keeping himself between 170 and 200, keep in mind he was only 5'6. After he went to college he started to let himself go just a bit maybe up to 230, so still manageable. He had this decent gf who liked him alot so he figured his weight wasn't that big of a deal and proceeded to just let it all go. 2 years later he's well over 300 and has no gf. Maybe your guy likes alittle extra on his girls, but what if he gets sick of it or leaves for a completely unrelated reason, then you'd be up shits creek without a paddle or insulin that your body can use.
>>26398229 That's just how it is sometimes when you have really low self esteem. They just want to hear something bad to validate how they feel about themselves. It's really weird hating yourself and then someone else says "you're the best!". I currently have a gf who says this and it takes alot to not say anything even though I think it's a bunch of shit cuz I hate myself. If I were you I would just ignore it, and tell her she's great for you. eventually she'll understand, or she'll just think there's something wrong with you, which will validate her thoughts. either way win win.
>meet guy from 4chan >we exchange contact >sends me a picture of him >he's a 4/10 at best >oh shit what do, remember robots saying how girls would reply "oh" to their pictures >I don't want to be that meanie bitch >"you're cute" >send him picture of me >"wow"
That's it, that's all he said. And now I wonder why I didn't tell him he was an ugly fuck while I still could but if that happened again I know I'd do the same thing again.
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