Anyone else mentally a child here?
I'm 24 and I haven't progressed beyond skimming imageboards, playing video games and fapping all day. This kind of lifestyle was great back in high school and early college but definitely not as much now.
What can a socially isolated robot do to at least try and get some personal growth?
>What can a socially isolated robot do to at least try and get some personal growth?
Find something that you're bad at (drawing, writing, coding) and improve it.
Also, do your bed everyday. Even though the world might be spinning around a proverbial toilet making your bed is something that you'll always have control over and will be a symbol of your willpower and motivation.
Literally go outside. Go outside and go for a walk somewhere, go to a coffee bar and do people watching, look at the stars at night, do something outside of your house.
Seems like meme advice but I get outside just for the sake of it and it's helped me tons. I physically feel better.
So you weren't able to do or make something to be pretentious about, and you have to be pretentious about what you sit in a chair not being deaf to?
I feel like I'm mentally 12 or so, but I don't really want to "grow up" because I don't find adult things (drinking, watching sports, having sex, having a career) particularly interesting. Luckily I live with my mom and she's a NEET enabler, so life is pretty good right now. I wish I knew other people that had my same mindset though. It's sad watching your old friends get boring.
Well most changes need to be made in the inside :p
So gee anon I don't know :p a relationship may work :)
Why don't you find another introvert anon :) these kinds of things are easier done in pairs anyways:)
Doesn't care that I'm a NEET, refuses when I offer to pay rent, says I can live at home as long as I like. It's bretty nice. I feel bad for all the robots with resentful families.
What even is personal growth? Everyone always says the same thing
>learn a language dude
>get a new hobby
But what is all that crap gonna even do for you? How is that gonna change you? If you're a miserable, lonely shell, none of this shit is gonna change anything. You're not gonna learn about yourself or realize anything by learning French or finally reading that book you've been putting off. It's not gonna make you any happier. I don't get it.
Admiring ones mistakes
Embracing ones imperfections and learning to let go
Accepting people for who they are
Accepting the world for what it is
Being respectful of others and their life choices
Realising one is not the center of the world
Do people here ever do any of these things?
All of this stuff literally boils down to having a different internal monologue. That's it. I know, it's not that easy, but when people talk about things like "personal growth," they make it out to seem like this ambiguously grand thing, like some climax ripped out of an art film.
It's all about opening yourself to people and learning through interaction with them and empathy.
It doesn't matter what language ylu earn because it makes you closer with a wholeot of people anyways
It doesn't matter which hobby you take because all of them make you more approachable
And so on
It is, it means becoming of age, maturing.
You complain you are a child, this is exactly what you are missing and what separates you from the rest of the world.
It's not about changing your inner monologe but the way you think all together. Once you start you will find yourself feeling things you never felt and thinking things you never tgoufgt
Sounds like you're still in college. Keep going at it. Look for part time work. Pick up some new hobbies (reading is a good one, but take your pick). Video games are ok in moderation, try to actually limit yourself. Fap once a day or something.
Also if you feel isolated, try group hobbies in real life, like a sport, or martial arts groups or whatever.
the point of reading is so you have role models, you learn about human interactions and difficulty. you become acutely aware of to what degree you're garbage.
you're only going to grow as a person through work and cultivation of skill. communication is a skill, so for this reason reading isn't a wasted effort.
But why do I need to make an effort to do so? Growth and change occurs naturally throughout your life. I soon to soon tee the point in making an effort to go soul searching. You're not going to find anything because there isn't anything there on begin with.
you have the mindset of someone who is not willing to learn.
that will make you depressed and hold you back.
as cliche as it sounds, once you learn not to care you set yourself free in so many ways
Opening yourself to people doesn't work like that. You can't say ok, now I'm open. It's not a thing you can mimch nor master nor fake.
Did you learn to write just by dessire alone? Did you learn math because you saw math once? No. This is also part of your education.
Right now you are being immature but that's OK, you are defensive when you should realize there is no reason to be,nobody is fighting you and everyone means you well. And I'm not talking just about our conversation but as life in general. People want to help you anon, even people who barely know you. Cheering for other people is a natural human desire
It doesn't, it doesn't even happen in animals at all. To grow you must learn first, to learn you must expose yourself to others you always end up taking more than you give when you do, its funny that way
I already don't care. I have no beliefs, I have no ideology. I just love day to day and try to do things that I'll enjoy. I can't comprehend living any other way. I don't see a point to anything, but not in the bad way. Nothing matters, so why bother wracking my brain trying to figure out the answer when I don't care enough to figure out the question?
I was never complaining, I'm not op, I'm just pointing out that the stuff you anons are saying is just parrotted bullshit, but go ahead and throw in a few more ad hominems if you feel like it
But I already do all the stuff you're saying. I sent need to have some spiritual awakening and 'find myself' to do that. I connect with people, talk to them, have experiences with them, etc. You're all making this to be a whole he'll of a lot more difficult than it really is.
K. Imagine completely different person than I was a year or two ago and I've done fuck all this whole time. Go ahead and project more of your emptiness on me, I don't mind.
Because you are being defensive and refusing to let go anon, the world is a wonderful and inviting place, you can pretty much be whoever you want to be and act however you clwant to act as long as you are a mature person and people will accept you for it and as long as you are mature they will side with you and defend you Nd I'm telling you this as a right wing neet.
Practice two things treating others like you want to be treated and not believing things that you can't proove beyond simple feelings
I'm in the same boat and tbqh I just don't think there's a way to make up for missing out an entire decade of social development. Not only have I missed out on all the life experiences that practically everyone else has had (doing thing with friends, romance, etc.) but people's social lives are pretty much built entirely on their past relationships at this point. The last opportunity to have a genuine fresh slate was at the beginning of the college.
It's not so bad, I might be doing the same shit that I did when I was 13 but I still genuinely enjoy it. I look forward to playing more video games and watching more anime.
No anon you don't, not if you mean internet interactions at least. I'm not talking about spirituality either I'm talking about experience and growth. You told me you feel 12,/ do you feel 7 too? That's because you went to school and interacted with other kids and learned together. There are things that you can't learn alone
there's a pattern for human behavior, it takes 10,000 hours, at least, to master a skill.
judging by the thread, you're obviously a master of snarky comebacks and deflections justifying your lazy behavior. i assume you're very good at playing videogames and tugging your dick too.
I'm sorry I can't help you more anon, I can't help a person who doesn't understand I'm trying to help him.
You are defensive and turning this into a meaningless fight just like the other 20 you have everyday and you don't need to and you shouldn't. And it's a thing I refuse to participate in. Believe it or not I haven't picked a fight here with another anon in years
>calls me sparky
>delivers some snark, yourself
Also can you not make a point without regurgitating some tired quote that's been used more than a rape victim? I never claimed to be the master of anything, I just said I don't need your pseudo-spritual bullshit to change as an individual. I don't get why you're getting so upset that someone lives their life differently than you.
For my it was finding new hobbies. I know it can be really hard with no motivation, just got to find something that clicks. I had no idea I'd ever like felting and decoden, but I accidentally stumbled upon a video of it one day and I've been in love with it since. Having something to look forward to doing that isn't just anime and vidya is pretty fulfilling.
Or you could just b urself.
To be honest, I have no clue what I've even been talking about this whole time, I just keep replying because other anons keep replying to me. Still, though, life's pretty simple or something. I dunno.
Also working out and lifting weights is awesome. If anything, it mentally makes you feel stronger, and watching/feeling your body progress feels good. Other hobbies are good as well, I've picked up drawing and it feels cathartic knowing every hour I spend doing it I get better.
That's how I feel.
I realized it's because I had a fucked up childhood and I dropped out of school when I was young, so I kind of stopped growing mentally talking to no one for eleven years.
What I've been doing is trying to talk to people on skype and it's helping me a bit. I'm thrust into situations I haven't encountered before or have new feelings, so it's making me grow.