How do I get over my gf being a slut for her past bf's? especially since I know one of the guys its been bugging me. This woman is perfect and this is turning out to be a Deal Breaker.
So every time this guy looks at your girl he knows he's had her in ways you never will and those experiences will link them together and they will have a closeness her and you will never have
Unless she's cheating on you now, she wasn't being a slut for them, she was just in a relationship with them in the past. If you can't deal with the fact that she's been with other guys then you shouldn't be with her. She won't make you happy and you won't make her happy. The end.
Im pretty sure theres no way to get over it. My current fiance has had casual sex with a chad and a really annoying pretentious wanna-be chad. She didnt like either of them and just did it because it was easier than saying no. Sometimes I love her more than anything in the world. Other times I literally cant even look at her. I make her feel awful about it all the time but its still not enough. I dont think there is any way to get over this.
Sometimes, I do miss being in a relationship and having a partner around. It's very comforting and can balance a man out.
The other times I see threads like this and thank my lucky stars I'm not married/engaged.
Quite honestly, the next time I find myself in anything serious with a woman, I'll make it known upfront that I won't press about her past as long as she offers me the same courtesy. I don't ever want to know how roastie she got before that point.
I see you have accepted your literal
There is nothing anyone can do for you, you have to do it yourself.
It is up to you to treat your girl like the slut that she is. Try choking her, chicks fucking dig that. Lick her asshole or stick a finger in there, some like that too. Call her a fucking slut bitch.
Try some shit you aint done before. But I doubt you will do that because it sounds like you are a total beta if you wont even try to fuck your girl right. Enjoy losing her because you only want to fuck in the missionary position with Enya playing in the background.
You will never be fulfilled no matter what you do to/with her. The reason is because the problem is within you. You are looking for reasons to be sad (a silly thing to say on /r9k/ because its obvious). Look for reasons to be happy. You aren't some kissless virgin anymore and you might not die alone now. Its all about perspective and the hedonistic treadmill. When you were a KV all you needed was a gf. Now you need a pure gf. If you got a pure gf you would still be unhappy. I know its a shitty situation and straight up ridiculous to forgive a girl for being a slut, but if you want to be happy you need to stop looking for reasons to be sad and start looking for reasons to be happy. Its also helpful to remember that in enough time you, her, every guy shes fucked and everyone else will turn into dirt. We're all speeding towards a red light. Nothing really matters, so if your goal is to make yourself happy while your alive, actually do it.
What terrible advice. You're telling OP to be happy, yet he obviously isn't happy knowing his girl got changed by a person he knows. It makes him feel inadequate. Sticking with her isn't going to help.
However you're right when your suggest the problem comes from within. Unfortunately in this case, I don't think it's an easy situation to change. OP clearly isn't suited to have that kind of relationship so why force him?
OP, you need to move on from her. And quite honestly, her telling you about what she did in the past with that level of detail is in bad taste.
I asked my girlfriend to tell me everything she has done in the past with extreme detail. It really is better to have an exact knowledge than to be guessing and unsure your whole life. Your paranoia can be far worse than reality (sometimes, in my case this was true).
And I think if this girl can make him happy then he should try his hardest to be happy with her. If OP really believes that he can find a girl that will make him more secure and happier then he should do that but stay with this girl if you can. Don't lie down in the face of your own insecurity. Try your hardest to conquer it and come out a stronger and happier man. It may seem hard but everyone has so much power they just arent aware of. Buddha was just an average dude like you and me and he was able to make himself infinitely happy by just sitting around. We all have the ability to change ourselves into happier people, we just need to realize this and push ourselves.
I would however try to never see this guy that you know again. It can be really really hard to get over your girlfriend fucking someone if you have to see them.
I broken up with my last gf after I found out she got gangbanged.
I was so fucking devastated because I thought I loved her and she really cared about me and made me a better person.
Truth is man, if it bothers you now, it will bother you forever.