I really trust her. If not, after lots of breakups i had with exs, she wouldnt be my gf. The problem is that she thinks I would cheat on her if a "hotter" girl appears, I don't seem to convince her in any way. I really qould never do it, someone there got advice for me?
She has a lot of orbiters/friends so its a constant thought in my mind. It usually goes away when Im with her because she gives me all the reasons to trust her. Its really just me beijg insecure, shes my first gf ever.
The idea that she might be cucking me over won't get off my head every time I'm far from her. Sometimes is just a bit of a worry. Sometimes I can't think of anything else than the possibility of me being a pathetic beta that she'll laugh at with some random Chad while they... well, have sex. Not that I'm not happy with her, no its awesome to have her by my side, but Its something I CANT afford to lose.
But then again, maybe its just me. I have always been a bit of an insecure guy, sometimes even a lot.
>>26377745 True, I shouldn't worry either. Its just that, sometimes its inevitable. The thoughts won't leave my head and when I try focusing on something else, they just stay there trying to get over my mind.
Its worse when I remember of all the Chads that might be around her.
I hate all my exes' guts (even though I've only had one relationship that lasted over 1 week and have never had penetrative sex) I never -really- worried about it with my long term relationship back when I had it, but now looking back I was incredibly naive and didn't realize that women truly are capable of anything; they can flip on a dime and fuck your life over and you wouldn't even know it. People will be laughing behind your back and years later you'll realize that you have no friends, nobody respects you and that it's completely your fault. Seriously. A 7 month relationship and all I got out of it was fingering her one time. Fuck.
If there is a God, may he strike me down so I can be put out of this misery.
>>26378383 I'd be pissed. No girl is that hot that you should put up with this bullshit. I say find another girl who is interested in you asap, THEN dump your current gf and get with the other chick. You'll provoke a very strong reaction from your current gf
Let me tell you something. All girls will cheat at the drop of a hat then try and rationalize it later. They work primarily upon emotions with a sprinkle of logic added. I cannot count the amount of times i have slept with a girl then moments later when we're getting dressed she'll drop the i have a boyfriend line.
>>26378661 I have nothing to be bitter about though lol? You know what i'm saying is true. If someone is capable of hitting your emotional side in quick succession you're putty in their hands and you'll be riding them before you even know whats happening.
I've honestly never worried, I don't know why I've just never been concerned about it. >>26378813 plus this, we live on the same floor and our dorm and she spends pretty much every night with me besides those rare nights when my frat roommate sleeps at home, so far not once this semester.
>>26377113 I haven't had a gf in almost 9 years now, but it depends on the girl I was going out with.
One girl, I actually was the guy that she cheated on with her then-boyfriend and she then broke up with him to be with me for a while. I had a small nagging feeling the back of my head that she might do the same to me but didn't had matter had sex for the first time.
Another girl was actually a complete nerd and virgin and told me that she loves me and I was the first guy that she had sex with, so no worries there.
Another girl was "one of the boys" and I just had to assume that she was sucking dick by default between classes and when waiting for the bus, etc. She friend-zoned me for a while when she was dating this other guy and would tell me about the times she cheated on him.
Most other girls besides those extremes I also had no worries about.
My gf does have a libido bigger than mine, but shes very caring and trusting. Not worried about cheating at all, she sleeps next to me 6 days in a week. Because she games she has some orbiters, but she jokes about them to me. One fat one refused to walk through a door i was holding open, kek.
>>26377113 Never. I make 95k and fit. She's in grad school so she's too stressed out to go looking for alternative dick. Plus she has low self-esteem so I'm pretty sure she'd kill herself if I left. Date someone who loves you more than you love them.
>date girl for 5 years >high school sweet hearts >one weekend she goes stay with her friend who is in a soriority >she doesnt text me that night >eventually she told me some chad in a frat fucked her i was so close to offing myself. i will never date a girl ever again.
>>26381165 >jokes about her orbiters Yeah, she has sent one or more of them nudes and uses you as her excuse for not being able to do "more" with them. She'll dump you as soon as a better guy rolls around. Not even saying this to piss you off because I know you won't care and will either laugh or just ignore this. But a year or two from now, even if you don't remember this, I'll be right. Odds of this increase several times if she is still in uni.
>>26382356 the thing that fucked me up is how can someone do that after 5 fucking years of dating? i get it if its like a couple months, but 5 years? fuck man. and yeah thanks man. I have been lifting and getting my degree. she has no job and doesnt even go to college anymore. so looks like i won in the end....
>>26382489 >girl is with a guy who has cheated on her multiple times >thinking she will stay faithful regardless of that >implying she would be the slut for fucking other men after the guy she's with, cheated on her multiple times already
all of the couples where one cheats on the other and they stay together is because the other one ends up cheating too.
>>26377113 >how often do you worry about her cheating on you? Not at all. For one, I always know where she is at any given moment and she sleeps in the same bed as me six days a week (the remaining night is spent at her grandparents).
Also, I'm fine with her having sex with other women. Men are off limits and I'd break up instantly if she ever did. In return, I have a blanco check to sleep with as many women as I want to.
>>26382532 Same reaction i had, this fucker must be delusional if he thinks he can get away with cheating on a girl and the girl won't get her payback.
she has been plowed by 10 chads for every time this fucker has cheated on her, also women are fucking bitches, if you cheat on your gf the girl you cheated with will let your GF know because it makes them feel superior and don't give a shit if they ruin your relationship.
>>26382514 sounds like you did buddy. i bet you $5 she'll message you very soon trying to talk about it all. when that happens i want you to shut her down hard for hurting you so bad. be happy without her, its the best way to get back at people who hurt you.
>>26382513 Cheating. Horrible as it sounds, low self-esteem is pretty much king of all red flags. She will cheat on you the second a guy she considers out of her league hits on her. She'll regret it afterwards, only after the other guy turns her down for anything more than a fuckbuddy type relationship, but she will do it.
>>26382522 I mean tbqh i expect her to do something stupid in college, but weve talked and she knows if she does id leave her in a flash. plus she's always chatting up about living together and getting married when im done college. i really hope you find a girl who respects you one day dude, these delusions youre giving off are really sad
>>26382603 >She's fucking Chads every night she stays with her grandparents you fucking moron, how clueless do you morons have to be. >You're both either on a 100% commited relationship or you can accept that she's getting plowed by chads everytime she feels like it.
Except I know for a fact that she doesn't and you can't convince me otherwise.
>her grandparents like me >they'd be personally offended if she were not to head there straight after work >I am free to check her phone whenever I feel like it
Trust me, I'd know.
>>26382627 >How she'll fondly remember her nights with Grandpa Chad See above.
>>26382628 You're the delusional one here kid, you're also a degenerate piece of shit for cheating multiple times.
I'm just letting you know that she will get her payback BIGTIME in college, you can't go around cheating on girls (who only have to make themselves available to get fucked) and then expect them to just stay there with their arms crossed.
Don't talk about respect for your couple when you've cheated on yours multiple times, have fun eating chads cum whenever you eat her out btw.
>>26382664 i cheated on her once, and i wont really be hurt if she cheats. I kinda expect her to do something stupid, ill just leave her if she does. but shes amazing, i trust her completely and i feel sorry you dont have someone like her in your life
>>26382661 I'm older than most of y'all, and even if nobody believes it, I'm what you'd call a Chad. I assure you that you SHOULD default to assuming these ho's ain't loyal. I dunno if it was different in the old days, but nowadays women ain't held accountable for a god damn thing. Basically they live their lives as children. I wouldn't trust a woman anymore than I'd trust a six year old.
>>26382649 >t. delusional moron who thinks he can have his cake and eat it too >i can fuck any women XD >MY GF ONLY FUX ME AND OTHER WOMEN >a degenerate girl who agrees to be in a relationship like this will surely keep her word
>>26382719 Like I said, I'm older than most of you guys. I went through my nice guy phase growing up. I don't think I need to spoil how that ended up. I know damn well had someone told young me what I know now, I'd laugh at them and call em bitter and all that shit, so I'm not here to convert anyone. I'm just letting y'all know, if you wanna save yourself some trouble, take to heart that women are about as loyal and honest as a school child.
It helps to be smarter than your gf, learn her tells, etc. I know where mine is at all times and have a few ways of confirming her whereabouts. Also your chances of her wanting to chuck you decrease considerably if you lift and do other masculine activities
>>26382893 >Why would she need to trust you if you say you can fuck other women? Because it was her idea, including the "I am only allowed to fuck other women" part.
>What can you do to betray her trust you fucking moron? Lie to her, mistreat her or her cats, etc...
>>26382933 I know that my relationship is polyamorous. The key is not slipping into polygamy.
Seeing as you morons need further explanations: Of course you have to establish a fixed set of rules for the whole thing. Ours roughly is this.
>one night stands only >friends are off limits (no need to make things weird) >women only (I'd theoretically be allowed to have sex with men as well, but I'm not teh gay or bi) >If possible, return home afterwards >kissing is off limits (feelings in general are, but this was important to both of us) >tell each other immediately afterwards
We agreed that any breach of these rules will lead to either of us breaking up with the other in an instant and without second thoughts.
I just got my first girlfriend 3 months ago. It makes me sad but I constantly think that she is going to cheat on me, I can't explain it. She tells me she loves me and I truly love her but for some reason I just think that she is gonna get bored of me and end up cheating. I kinda want to break up just because I think one way or another I'll have my heart broken but I would regret it immediately cause I really do love her, and she would probably be a wreck
>>26383543 Not even that guy, but almighty I hate you kids and you're "It's about life man" shit. A guy in his 40s and a kid in their teens can both have the same experiences, but both will experience them differently, because age. Age changes how you see things. I hate this fucking whiny kid mindset now of "Bruh, I went to Italy once with my family. I know the world"
I know, you're trying to make yourself look like the better man, but I'm not gonna play your game.
>>26383660 >Not even that guy, but almighty I hate you kids and you're "It's about life man" shit. A guy in his 40s and a kid in their teens can both have the same experiences, but both will experience them differently, because age. Age changes how you see things. I hate this fucking whiny kid mindset now of "Bruh, I went to Italy once with my family. I know the world" Never said that age doesn't change your perception. And you're right it does. But not always for the better. I've learned long ago that being older doesn't make you a better or wiser person on account of being older.
>>26383673 And you keep on yapping about how right you are. So I guess we're both retards.
>>26383687 >being older doesn't make you a better or wiser person on account of being older. It kinda does. There's a reason we historically looked to our elders for wisdom. Not well-traveled 20-somethings.
>>26383735 >It kinda does. There's a reason we historically looked to our elders for wisdom. Not well-traveled 20-somethings. We mainly looked to them because there was no other source of knowledge/wisdom until the beginning of the 20th century (yes, there were books, but most people were illiterate). That and the subconscious assumption that elders/parents are always right, because they raised us.
I'm not saying an older person can't be wiser, but age doesn't default to wisdom. Personal experience has told me otherwise.
>>26383687 > I've learned long ago that being older doesn't make you a better or wiser person on account of being older. >says a kid who's not even 21 by his posts
I'll sleep now but you're delusional kiddie, only relationships that can truly work are monogamous and that's a tiny tiny tiny minority, if you believe for a second your whore of a gf isn't sleeping around while being ok with a polyamory relationship then you need to order a helium tank ASAP.
>>26383800 >assumptions, assumptions, assumptions I agree, you sound older than me. Mainly, you sound like my gf's mother's partner. And that guy keeps defending racism on the account that he's older and therefore knows better.
If you could so easily tell when a woman cheated and how she really was, no man would get divorced or get cheated on ever again.
All of these people saying they "trust" her and think she is "caring and kind" are dimwitted as fuck. So too did every other idiot think so about their partner, that is always comes by surprise is because they hide their true intentions well. The truth is women get far more attention than men these days and you'd be an idiot to think it doesn't cross their mind, and even more that they'll be loyal every day. All kind of people get cheated on by every kind of girl. There's always that one who is "surprised" by finding out his gf was really a whore. And the rich 10/10 who still gets cheated on.
The only thing to do is cheat on her the week after she becomes your gf, so as to have an "insurance" incase she ever cheats on you, because she will.
It's almost like you already forgot Eggman and his final, most enlightening video
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