Guys, why do people socialise? I'm autist as fuck so this shit helps me immensely with responding to people:
>Ego stroke - (Me, me, what I've done, what I'm doing, respect me)
>Waste time - (social commentary, stupid, funny, shocking)
>Have fun - (mindless, games, tease, sport)
>Be understood - (listen, worldview, empathise, family, emotions)
>Plan actions - (plans, schemes, ideate, goals, discussion)
>Be inspired - (laugh or cry, better days coming or the best is now, story, anecdotes)
I think I've covered it all? What other aspect do people socialise for, and how to respond to it.
because you see other people as these superior beings that you think are judging you and their judgments matter, instead of treating people like cockaroaches and saying whatever you want to them because you don't have to make a distinction on whether or not you have something of enough value to say.
It can all be condensed into ego stroke.
From what I have observed, normies use people as filler for their meaningless lives.
They use people around them as entertainment,
to dote on them, placate them in their 'muh feelings' times.
They want to be inspired so they can see hope in the world, that everyone knows, deep down is not just.
I kind of skipped around, not necessarily in your order. But, I think they are all for the normies ego.
very very interesting...
I suppose "an exchange of goods and services" is a good backdrop to the purpose of socialising at all.
thats not good socialising
I'm thinking of turning Ego stroke into
>Affirm (assert themselves, want affirmation for themselves)
because they want to fit in and live inside the fantasy that they matter + they're relevant + cool. they want to be liked because being left out effects they're fickle egos and determines their view of themselves, being liked determines whether or not they perceive themselves as a loner/creep or a cool person, and so they so desperately fill their lives with meaningless and empty relationships/conversations so that they can maintain the fantasy and live in paradise.
dont worry anon, after high school, you can find a lot more people who are into the other 5 things on the list, not just ego stroke. You personally can socialise extremely well, by exemplifying the other 5 traits listed.
be strong brother. it'll be better soon. reread the notes.
i have ADHD, so i can't stand still for a long period of time and talk, i have to be doing an activity or my mind has to be busy on work or something.
i honestly don't know how people can do it. idle hands are the devil's playground and all that.
whenever i would be at parties, i would relentlessly walk around the party because i can't sit still and talk, i have to be doing something, woe is me i guess.