Invited to huge party in campus, I know one dude and there is going to be around 15-20 people I don't know for pre drinks should I go? I think I can survive if I get really drunk
Yeah, I'm shit at dancing too which is why I probably wouldn't go. I don't know any moves and can't 'let go' so I must look really awkward doing that shit.
I wrote a TL;DR paragraph here but was boring as fuck.
Short version: Girl asks me to dance. I am hesitant, she drinks a few with me and then just grabs my hand. I can see her mood change immediately after, a few minutes later she disappears. Was such a shame, I enjoyed talking to her.
Get in there fast and dirty with the introductions
choose a core group to leech off of, make your face known there, then branch out to other groups, making introductions the whole way.
Your face+name needs to be known to the core group before the party kicks off in earnest or you will drown in the sea of normie
if you can bring a girl with you, do that ("hey party at $address come thru")
you need to go even if you don't want to
i can already tell (without knowing you) that it's going to be a very, very important night for you, wether it's good or bad
don't miss a chance to grow as a person, and know that not taking rist is worse than failing risk.
don't fuck yourself up, be a man for once, it'll only get worse otherwise
Don't get really drunk you'll just make an asshole out of yourself and feel like shit tomorrow, just drink moderately throughout the entire night and after an hour or so you will feel comfortable but not belligerent.
What I usually do it go to the assigned non-dancing area of the party with quieter music and just chill there and talk to people. Don't hover around your friend too much or you will bug him probably, but its fine to stick with him for a while at the beginning just to meet some people.
only go if you dont mind being wojack in the corner the whole time
hey everyone where did anon go? he didnt even say bye to everyone, what a weirdo!
OP here, thanks for all the support guys, as expected from fellow bots who might have gone through similar situations, as you say this is an opportunity to grow as a person and make some connections and I might go and try, because if I don't I will regret it until I fall asleep again.
If you can offer some more advice on what to do when I get there? I usually go like:
>Hi I am anon
But I forget nice to meet you since I don't do this often, and what else should I say after that?
Also when it comes to girls, do I also shake their hands or do I hug them? What if they sit down and hugging is really awkward if this is the option?
Also I have a nice shirt I got on last blackfriday, should I keep it outside my pants or inside?
I usually go for the "Hi" "Who the heck are you?" opening. Sounds autistic but breaks the ice pretty well.
Don't hug them if you don't know them, don't think that you MUST shake their hand.
Depends on the shirt and your pants.
So go to the pre game with the dude you know and talk to people while you're there
Now you have a crew to go to the party with, plus around 1 when everyone is piss wasted but hasn't passed out nobody is going to care what anyone is saying cause everyone is having a good time
Seriously though, it's a good starting point have a few beers before to relax, meet up keep drinking talk with people start making connections and it will grow with time. Just relax don't except anything crazy and in reality no one's paying that much attention to everything you do. And most important of all, just be yourself buddy
Alcohol is the social retards best friend. Just make sure you don't throw up or black out and you'll be fine. I went from robot to normie over about a year by learning to socialise when drunk.
>A real funky move!
Fuck, this is social suicide for a robot