Adoption Thread

>>26216316
I remember you...
Ogc

>>26216316
I was adopted from Cechnya.

Do you wish you could go back sometimes?

>>26216316
Do you love your parents? I want to adopt

>>26216417
>wishing to go back to fucking Romania
Lol.

>>26216316
holy shit dude I was literally thinking of making an adoption thread tonight

Anyone else ever feel like their parents tried to do all the right things, hugged you, told you they loved you and all, but it always felt like the genuineness that other parents had with their children was missing?

Did your new parents circumcise you?

>>26216316
>they feed me coffee cause waters too dirty
did they use the same dirty water to make the coffee

>>26216316
My parents were both Romanian. I'm proud of my Romanian heritage.

>>26216454
>but it always felt like the genuineness that other parents had with their children was missing
what do you mean by this

>>26216454
Like they didn't actually love me but they just said they did "because that's what parents do." Like they were playing a part.

That feeling of unconditional love moms have for their children is the result of oxytocin released during the birthing process. That feeling always seemed to me to be missing and I just wondered if it was the same for other adopted robots.

>>26216370
hey anon, nice to see you. i'm sorry for attention whoring i promise i won't do it again
>>26216417
i've thought about it, i think it'd be cool to be able to go back there and maybe find my parents but I honestly can't seeing it going that well. I mean what am I supposed to do? I wouldn't be opposed to going back there and checking out the area and seeing what could have been, but i don't care as much as i used to. Still might do it though someday if I could afford it. I actually always had this really dumb idea for a documentary/movie where I go to Romania to find my birth parents and I bring two friends along and we get into all sorts of crazy misadventures and meet tons of interesting people and I meet a girl and we fall in love and then at the end I find out she's my sister
>>26216431
I do mostly, I think as long as you don't try to hide the fact that they are adopted than it won't ever be an issue. I hardly even think about it honestly, i just was thinking about it tonight. my parents and I don't have the best relationship but I'm still glad I have them, and any hard feelings I have for them are unrelated to being adopted. If you tell them from a young age then it should be fine. Also try to adopt them when they're younger so they don't have weird emotional damage from not having a mother for too long or whatever
>>26216456
they did not, I would've been kinda bummed out by that
>>26216482
you just blew my mind
>>26216494
i didnt mean to talk shit on Romania, just from what I've heard, the conditions I was born in were pretty poor/shitty. Also I could be wrong but I thought I remember reading that the country wasn't doing to well in the 90's. I'm actually curious about it, I've never really talked to another Romanian. Have you ever been there? What's it like?
>>26216595
holy shit... i totally get this feel. I always felt like an obligation they had to fulfill more than their kid

>>26216671
Yeah dude. In my teenage years I really hated them for it, but I've come to realize it isn't their fault and they really tried the best they could.

I read a study a while back that adopted parents spend more money on their children than average but spend less time with them. It made perfect sense to me.

It kind of sucks when I think about my childhood, and I feel like I missed out on having that warm fuzzy family experience.

>>26216671
Romanian's got fucked by the communists. I hear it's bretty nice there now. Lot's of attractive women. I've never been but I want to.

>>26216671
>I find out she's my sister

That was sounding good up to that bit.

My father was fostered when he was very small and found his real father over 40 years latter.

>>26216789
>attractive women

Have seen some of these who came to my country and some are, very.

>>26216763
damn that's honestly crazy, I never really thought about the reason for their mediocre parents being related to being adopted. Did they also used to guilt trip you about being adopted? I was always made to feel like I owed them for being adopted. I hate admitting it but even though i have a lot of really good memories with my family sometimes I secretly think they kinda regret adopting me sometimes
>>26216789
I'd definitely be down to go check it out someday. I've also heard its gotten a lot better
>>26216804
i was imagining it like a stupid Adam Sandler type movie. Did your dad and his real father get along after they met? Do they still talk or was it like a one time meet up thing?
>>26216884
that's good to know

>>26216595
>That feeling always seemed to me to be missing
>>26216671
>I always felt like an obligation
Your parents should have hit you then, when you deserved it.

>>26216950
t...they did

I was adopted from foster care in the US by an Indian family. Family life was strange but things turned out for the best.

>>26216984
wtf, what more could they have done to show you that they loved you. This is my fear. I would give anything and everything for my children. Biological or not. But to have them turn around and feel unloved. That would just kill me.

>>26216411
>Chechen

Did you inherit the warrior gene?

>>26216927
Guilt trip? Absolutely. On my 18th birthday I told them I wanted to initiate a search for my birthparents and they started yelling at me because "they were my parents". It made me feel like I was an awful person for being curious.

Do you at least look somewhat like your parents? I always had the advantage of people not knowing about it unless I told them. I can't imagine how awful it would be if you went out in public and everybody just knew.

>>26216950
My parents used to brag to their friends that they never ever grounded me or my brother. Not to say that we didn't deserve it. They just did not parent us at all.

>>26216927
>get along after they met?

They got along but there were some questions that went unanswered and were only asked once. I'm pretty sure his father felt bad about the passed. He ended up anheroing in the end but we must have known him for at least ten years.

>>26217053
>what more could they have done to show you that they loved you
treat me like they enjoyed being around me
>>26217096
holy shit i got the same thing. It never turned into yelling at each other but they'd always be like "what we aren't good enough!?" and they'd get all passive aggressive about it
>Do you at least look somewhat like your parents
when I was younger I did, now I probably just look like my mom had an affair and my dad raised a cuckbaby. Its honestly not so bad though, the most common comments I get on my ethnicity is that usually people aren't quite sure where I'm from, or they think I'm jewish cause I have a big nose. I can't believe you went through so much similar shit, it sucks im sorry anon
>>26217133
aw im sorry anon, neglectful parents suck
>>26217199
that's sad and that's still better than some of the other stories ive heard about people in similar situations. maybe we aren't supposed to meet a biological parents, they gave us up so i doubt they want us to come back looking for them

>>26217243
I went to Catholic school and there was a handful of adopted kids there because of Catholic charities and all that. We seemed to all go through the same basic shit with our families and have bpd tendencies and addictive behavior. It really helps to know other people had the same experiences.

>>26217243
>i doubt they want us to come back looking for them

Well I don't know.... We did have some fun times together and we never asked much of him in fact Dad never even asked for valuable stuff from his estate but gave it to the relatives instead. I think that was his way of proving he wasn't a gold digger son.

It wasn't that his original parents didn't want him but rather they couldn't make ends meet and gave them up to the state as a matter of their survival.

>>26217367
that's true
>>26217437
>they couldn't make ends meet and gave them up to the state as a matter of their survival
that's probably more likely the case with a lot of these you're right. also your dad sounds like a good guy

>>26217009
What race are you?

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